What do other guys think about...
When everything is perfect, the person, the smell, the visuals, the feel, your horniness, everything, and you know right away it will not last more than a couple of minutes..
Being filled with worry at performance related stress but really wanting to let go and enjoy those few minutes (or seconds)
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Not afraid to admit it, but I have suffered with performance in the past due to stress.
As much as ya want it to happen, it won't. It is embaressing, but I took mine as a warning bell to de-stress and go elsewhere. |
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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago
Northwich |
You have been on here a good while with no varies, you have a less than great profile so assume you haven't actually met anyone on here yet?
It doesn't take much to convince yourself that you will have performance issues and that's what will hold you back.
Take time to please the lady before penetrative sex so that if you cum quickly then she will either take as a compliment or show herself as a Karen,
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By *intyGWoman
over a year ago
Bedford |
I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah |
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Forgive me I probably did not explain myself properly.
I do not mean to say that I have a problem per say but rather there are occasions when my senses are so excited that I can come very quickly.
But instead of enjoying the moment I am usually filled with dread of my partners reaction and that I will look like a 'loser' type thing.
Performance pressure can be a reality as can being responisble for someone else's orgasm.
Anyway I'm sure plenty of other guys feel the same. ...high five. |
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As I young guy I didn’t last long but in 10 minutes I was hard and ready again. When you get older recovery time is much much longer so I have learned how to last to ensure the lady is fully satisfied before I come. This requires you to learn how to edge over a considerable time and this takes time and effort to learn. I have developed a self training routine that works for me. |
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I just realised it's constantly hearing that 'I' must satisfy my partner that brought about this fear and embarressment.
Same as I must have a big fat cock. Be a stallion. Recover and go again within minutes. Etc etc...
Why is my partner's sex enjoyment 'my resinsibility'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "
What a women!! Hats off to you lady!!  |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
plymouth/chesterfield |
"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "
Definitely the type of woman I'd love to meet, kind, caring and understanding, just a shame there's nit more like you, I am honest in my profile as I'm sadly starting with ED, still works just needs that female touch of encouragement, most women near me want you +8" cum bucket loads and last forever |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "
This exactly…communication and relax and enjoy the moment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a similar issue myself but only with meets of fab? Very strange to be fair as I've never been a nervous guy but for some reason I blow my load quick when it's a fab meet? When it's not it's perfectly normal.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve recently been with a gentleman who has this same anxiety, and I was flattered that he shared his anxieties with me on chat before we met. I reassured him it wasn’t a problem and I will say that knowing beforehand allowed me to tease and hold back at the right times so that when I could feel he was about to come, we changed tactics. Play lasted the best part of an hour and he gave good feedback on having the space to relax and enjoy himself. In the end I was the one who took bloody ages and never came! Gah "
Such a gem, you deserve a medal!  |
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