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Mum tums - turn off or turn on?

By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

There is a difference in my own opinion between BBW and curvier women with mum tums like myself. Might be my own lack of self confidence but after three kids I hate my mum tum and wondered wether it’s something that not just men but women find to be a turn off?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm like you and really self conscious of mine. Good camera angles tend to hide it quite well but it is there.

I don't think it bothers the majority of men though, it's us putting too much pressure on ourselves x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They’re just another part of an attractive woman in my eyes. I like bbw women, milfs and mature women. They’re all gorgeous with every part of them included in that! x

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By *azinga71Man over a year ago

Angus

Nothing wrong with a mum tum at all. Love something to hold onto!

If guys have been rude and nasty that’s because they are twats, I think most guys are like me and like all body shapes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hate mine but it's there even when I'm fairly slim so I'm learning to accept it. Hubby likes it so I guess that'll do for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love a bit of curves and bumps here and there . Ya have a lovely shape

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By *ardinal FangMan over a year ago

Sandy

Absolutely not an issue as far as I’m concerned. I much prefer a shapely, natural, woman than one that looks like she doesn’t have an ounce of fat on her.

Manners maketh man.

Curves maketh woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not confident about any of my body really. I do like my boobs but that's about it. My least favourite part of me is my belly. I wouldn't say it's a mum tum, it's just fat and horrible

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By *weetncurvyWoman over a year ago

Perth

I'm exactly the same, i have zero confidence if i need to show my tummy. I spend my life trying to hide it. The rest of my body i'm totally fine with same as you OP. I feel at my best in a nice basque so i can be sexy but keep it hidden x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Absolutely not an issue as far as I’m concerned. I much prefer a shapely, natural, woman than one that looks like she doesn’t have an ounce of fat on her.

Manners maketh man.

Curves maketh woman. "

Nope. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Some are naturally less curvy than others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know exactly how you feel!! I absolutely hate mine too. But what I have found since being on fab is that most men are not bothered about them as much as us women that have them. I have gained more confidence being on here but hate my mum tum just as much.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Op you look great in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate all of my body and I'm particularly self conscious of my mummy tummy.

Like you I've had some negative remarks over mine in the past but any man who feels like that isn't of any interest to me.

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By *rKinksMan over a year ago

Alton

"I know exactly how you feel!! I absolutely hate mine too. But what I have found since being on fab is that most men are not bothered about them as much as us women that have them. I have gained more confidence being on here but hate my mum tum just as much.

That's it a lot of women are horribly self critical about things guys don't even notice.

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By *erfectman122Man over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Aren’t all women beautiful in there own way

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"Love a bit of curves and bumps here and there . Ya have a lovely shape "
thanks sugar

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"Op you look great in my opinion

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thank you. As do you x

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By *heif6999Man over a year ago

malton

Turn on!! Also you can have the best figure in the world but of you don’t have that mental attraction there no hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on !!

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"Nothing wrong with a mum tum at all. Love something to hold onto!

If guys have been rude and nasty that’s because they are twats, I think most guys are like me and like all body shapes."

Oh don’t worry, I gave him a full lesson on how much of a prick he was and did t need to show off Infront of an audience

Was one of those that had to get that last word in kind of gobshites

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I loathe mine. Absolute and utterly. And the minute I can afford it it's going!

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By *ore4fundevonCouple over a year ago

West Devon

Mrs is self conscious of hers too. I personally find them quite sexy.

I tend to find real skinny minis or borderline anorexic a turn off.

We get the same, tell a guy we're not interested and he goes from telling us he's gagging to meet and get his hands on S to saying she's a dirty fat troll.

Tend to just block them and move on. Some can handle polite rejection. Others cannot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This post was made for me! Hahaha. I loathe my mum tum!! My muscles ripped when carrying my daughter amd has never quite recovered. Most thing I'm self conscious about xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a mum tum, certainly isn't a turn off.

Very big fan of the curvier women, 'Milfs' and 'mature' as such.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to find real skinny minis or borderline anorexic a turn off.

Some can handle polite rejection. Others cannot."

And some are able to say that they like something without being derogatory to others. Others cannot.

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By *iamb2020Man over a year ago

stratford upon avon

For me personally, I find a mum tum a massive turn on, curves and bumps are what every real woman has and that’s exactly what does it for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For me personally, I find a mum tum a massive turn on, curves and bumps are what every real woman has and that’s exactly what does it for me! "

Real women!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

I think your gorgeous xx

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

I think your gorgeous xx

"
thank you very much

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By *hekaiserMan over a year ago

Glasgow

I find the personality more attractive than physical appearance.

Guess some folks are more about appearance than personality..don't let them get to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Curvy women rule.

It’s that simple

S&S x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldnt say its a turn on, but it doesnt turn me off... it is what it is and its part if who the person is and is pretty much irrelevant

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Wouldnt say its a turn on, but it doesnt turn me off... it is what it is and its part if who the person is and is pretty much irrelevant

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By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

Not fussed either way, certainly not a turn off anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm indifferent to them.

Sexy comes from within, mum tum or not, if I find the lady sexy, then the lady is sexy.

Your own perspective of yourself determines whether you're sexy or not. Generally.

Be happy with yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They don’t turn me off

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

I dislike my own, but I love them on other ladies. They certainly don’t turn me off x

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan over a year ago

Barnsley

I've just looked at your pics. You're bloody gorgeous and I think you should be proud of the way you look sexy lady.

Did I mention I happen to love your thighs too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

Pah!

I just cover it with a good pair of knickers

or lovely lingerie!

It's a part of YOU - be proud of it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love them, adore the wifeys mum tum! Find them really sexy on the ladies.

Be proud ladies!!

Mr x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not a fan of my tummy at all. But it's grown 4 beautiful children, so I'd rather have it as it is now, than be without them...

I still like to hide it though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not something that I would look for in a partner but it wouldn't put me off

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By *ocksareoffMan over a year ago

Out n About

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, they were a house for a baby so it's perfectly fine by me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely a yummy mummy tummy lover here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not a fan of mine. I hate my little pouch. But when I see them on other women I genuinely think they're quite attractive so I don't know why I beat myself up but we are our own worst enemy sometimes.

I'd also like to say that if someone is cruel about you because you have a stomach that isn't smooth and flat then fuck them, and thank your lucky stars that you discovered who they really were before letting anything intimate happen. People who judge and make unkind comments like that are uglier than any part of your body ever will be.

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By *ocksareoffMan over a year ago

Out n About

"I'm not a fan of mine. I hate my little pouch. But when I see them on other women I genuinely think they're quite attractive so I don't know why I beat myself up but we are our own worst enemy sometimes.

absolutely

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By *ystic DWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I hate my mummy tummy with a vengeance. I always wear lingerie to cover it up. Nothing I can do but it is part of me, so guys either ignore it or embrace it

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"This post was made for me! Hahaha. I loathe my mum tum!! My muscles ripped when carrying my daughter amd has never quite recovered. Most thing I'm self conscious about xx"
girl your beautiful, don’t let anybody tell you any different

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By *otwife and MasterCouple over a year ago

Derby

When im standing naked in front of a man, I've never heard him complain about anything. Any man who does is a twat

Mrs x

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

"
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I think you're gorgeous. I've come to the conclusion that I'm sexy as f**k no matter how big my mum tum is. And if osmeoje doesn't agree then they don't deserve to have my naked body as a plaything.

Someone I've been seeing has said he can't wait to get me naked and thinks my confidence is a turn on xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate mine, but it's part of me, if a guy doesn't like it he's welcome to go and find someone with a perfect body instead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate mine

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan over a year ago

Barnsley

"I hate mine

xx"

I love yours Jessica x

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By *alking HeadMan over a year ago

Bolton

Love the feel of a mum tum against mine as we slowly grind together. Washboards are for washing, not having sex with!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hate mine

I love yours Jessica x

You've not seen it. I photograph carefully! Xx

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By *inknipzloverMan over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I love them all xxxx

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By *eardyBikerMan over a year ago

nr stonehaven

Not in the slightest, entirely natural, and what's not to like about it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hate mine. Worst bit of my body and I've learned to quite like the rest of my body. You're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

I think you're gorgeous. I've come to the conclusion that I'm sexy as f**k no matter how big my mum tum is. And if osmeoje doesn't agree then they don't deserve to have my naked body as a plaything.

Someone I've been seeing has said he can't wait to get me naked and thinks my confidence is a turn on xxx"

Your playmate is correct and I love the positive mentality. Curves to run my hands on and explore is a good thing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me I love ladies with mum tums it makes them real ladies.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"For me I love ladies with mum tums it makes them real ladies. "

Love to hear this

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

I think you're gorgeous. I've come to the conclusion that I'm sexy as f**k no matter how big my mum tum is. And if osmeoje doesn't agree then they don't deserve to have my naked body as a plaything.

Someone I've been seeing has said he can't wait to get me naked and thinks my confidence is a turn on xxx

Your playmate is correct and I love the positive mentality. Curves to run my hands on and explore is a good thing!"

Thank you.. Confidence is a new thing. I've survived some really really shitty things recently & I just thought "god I'm amazing"

I think that confidence shines out through my eyes

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I hate mine. Worst bit of my body and I've learned to quite like the rest of my body. You're not alone. "

You're beautiful and every bit of you is amazing xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I hate mine

xx"

I'm sure it's just another part of you to have fun with x& it's amazing to everyone else xxxx

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By *inkylipsWoman over a year ago

Debauchery

I hate my mum tum so I cover it with lingerie, really makes me feel un sexy and makes me not very confident. Cover it and I’m a completely different person. Rarely does anyone ever see me completely naked

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan over a year ago

Barnsley

"I hate mine

I love yours Jessica x

You've not seen it. I photograph carefully! Xx"

Like most women you're being too hard on yourself methinks.

I love mum tums and careful photography or not, yours is no exception sexy lady xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve always found mum tums a turn in myself; something about the whole mum look that really makes me horny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on. I love them and natural tums and bodies in general.

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"I hate mine

xx"
your know how you feel babe, we can hate on them together lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a mum tum and it stresses me out so much but guys on here seem to love it. I've had so much positive feedback from guys about my body that it actually makes me love it just a tiny bit

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By *dventurouscouple4343Couple over a year ago

KENT / SOUTH EAST

Mum Tum lovers here xx

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

"I hate my mum tum so I cover it with lingerie, really makes me feel un sexy and makes me not very confident. Cover it and I’m a completely different person. Rarely does anyone ever see me completely naked "

I’d do exactly that if I could find a style I like. I’m apparently really fussy with lingerie. Hate to see myself completely naked xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definite turn on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really wish women especially didn't use this term to describe themselves.

I think it almost sounds like an apology for having a perfectly normal body

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By *inkerbell67Woman over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Im a curvy lady with a tummy no kids caused it but a accident and major surgery, ive been cut from top to bottom and a little across ,ive no muscle i can tone up ,i hate my stomach the way it looks but thats life .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on

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By *oody40Man over a year ago

Port Talbot

Could agree more … a big turn on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d do exactly that if I could find a style I like. I’m apparently really fussy with lingerie. Hate to see myself completely naked xx"

I feel great in a bodystocking - have you tried them?

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By *3xDE OP Couple over a year ago

nottingham

I feel great in a bodystocking - have you tried them?"

I’m not a big fan of them. And I’d rip it just getting it on with my nails

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By *ronmant16Man over a year ago

Sheffield

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

Absolute turn on for me as are stretch marks and cellulite, there's just something so utterly sexy and attractive about lady's with a "little extra"

I guess it's horses for course's, some blokes like size 8/10 some like me like 16/18 and far bigger, I'm not perfect but I'm pretty happy in my own skin as should everyone be xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel great in a bodystocking - have you tried them?

I’m not a big fan of them. And I’d rip it just getting it on with my nails

Oh fair enough!

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I have more of a mum tum at the moment than ever before because I had a baby not so long ago. I’m so self conscious of it

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By *inkylipsWoman over a year ago

Debauchery

I’d do exactly that if I could find a style I like. I’m apparently really fussy with lingerie. Hate to see myself completely naked xx"

I always pick high waisted things to hide it. Yes I generally don’t look at myself naked I hate it xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a mum tum.

If a lady has a mum tum then be proud of it, being a mum and having your body show that you have had the gift of children is no less attractive than the body of a woman who hasn't.

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

"I've come to the conclusion that I'm sexy as f**k no matter how big my mum tum is. And if osmeoje doesn't agree then they don't deserve to have my naked body as a plaything.

Someone I've been seeing has said he can't wait to get me naked and thinks my confidence is a turn on xxx"

Confidence is the biggest turn on, and being comfortable in your own body is very much part of that... be it mummy-tummy, c-section scar and overhang, or scars from surgery (as mentioned) and stretch marks from pregnancy or weight loss... they are all part of a lady's story and her natural beauty... I don't find any of these things a turn off in any way... quite the opposite...

I met a lass a few times who had very deep stretch marks, she hated them, and would hide them, but while exploring each others bodies we discovered that the skin around was very sensitive and in an erotic way, but she'd been to ashamed to show let alone explore that area before...

none of us are perfect... (well accept Tmontana, but I bet he doesn't think so either)

So be your best self, accept the things you can't change and become confident about the rest...

And this is really hard, but we should try and see ourselves how the positive people around us do!

And screw the haters! they are not worthy of our sexy bodies!

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By *orkshirej69Man over a year ago

leeds

Turn on for me I love a woman with confidence

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By *evoncream2017Couple over a year ago

exeter

Hubby loves mine. I hate it.

He gets me to wobble it or squeezes it when he’s behind.

So I’m lucky !

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By *nto the LouWoman over a year ago

Preston

I feel your pain! I’ve always carried my weight on my tummy, but after three kids and weight loss it’s really not nice to look at, it’s definitely my least favourite part of my body and I’m really self-conscious if it

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By *evoncream2017Couple over a year ago

exeter

"Im a curvy lady with a tummy no kids caused it but a accident and major surgery, ive been cut from top to bottom and a little across ,ive no muscle i can tone up ,i hate my stomach the way it looks but thats life ."

You look amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% turn on I love a mum tum just kissing while holding onto it and rubbing it while getting closer and closer to her wetness as well as going up to her boobs I love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So many lovely comments on this thread!

Social media, air brushing / photo shop and unrealistic trash tv (to name a few) have so much to answer for in making us natural and normal women think these marks and wobbles are imperfections.

OP you have a beautiful figure

There are quite a few people who could learn from some of the people who have commented on this thread. X

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By *urvy pawgWoman over a year ago

north

I hate my mum tum have got a bit better than I was

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By * Little Taste of CrimsonCouple over a year ago

Here and there

I (Hubby) am a huge fan, always have been. It holds an erotic appeal to me. I’ve found it to be an incredibly sensitive area that deserves to be lightly stroked and kissed. In my eyes it is as sexy, if not more, as any other part of a woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like most men on this post, fan of a mum tum and happy for you beautiful ladies to show them off

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Like most men on this post, fan of a mum tum and happy for you beautiful ladies to show them off "

Most men here will just say whatever is less likely to limit the fuck pool. I tend to agree with the women on this thread, would prefer a nice firm flat stomach , but I like cake too much

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

I don’t like my mum tum much. Trying to more lately though. Always helps when you have someone who will kiss your tum, make you feel good about it. I don’t have someone

Anyone touches it I usually flinch, just normal reaction as I don’t like it

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

Quite cute actually .... adds character and would be nice to place a hand on during a post coital cuddle....??

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

Surely anything signifying motherhood should be a badge of honour?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big turn on for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like most men on this post, fan of a mum tum and happy for you beautiful ladies to show them off

Most men here will just say whatever is less likely to limit the fuck pool. I tend to agree with the women on this thread, would prefer a nice firm flat stomach , but I like cake too much

Yeah doesn't look odd much, after what the OP wrote

haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

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By *anky_PankyWoman over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Nearly everyone I know hates something about their bodies.

However I have learnt over time is that there will always be someone who loves the bits you hate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whatever people want to call them, I adore a ladies body in its natural state, it has to be appreciated, the curves, the lumps, the bumps, the tiger marks are all natural beauty, I for one would definitely be a long time kissing and taking my time to appreciate the female body.

Hope not offended anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big fan of mummy tummy here to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mum tum fan right here! I adore ladies with curves and a natural body, nothing more sexy in my opinion! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its just heartbreaking seeing so many ladies not liking there tums or curves. It really truly makes you a real lady. The porn business has made out most ladies have "perfect " bodies but its not true nor are they sexy. YOU ladies with the tums and curves are the sexy ones!!! X

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By *olex99Man over a year ago

Hull

An attractive sexy woman is just that, whether she's large or small or perfect or flawed. It doesn't bother us men. We don't see you as you do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mum's or Dad's bods.... We've all lived.

I'll take personality any day... A connection xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mums tums and curves, absolutely love them.

Which is great as my wife have has both

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm as much of a fan of mum tums and big bums as I am a curvy woman that hasnt had kids. I'm not exactly a fan of bbw, but in my eyes women should be shapely and have curves x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Completely agree with what all the women have said on here, I hate my mum Tum too and carrying extra weight. But we all brought our kids into the world that way which is incredible

This why we’ve hidden our profile we are having a break and both trying to lose weight but I think social media, celebs, porn all has us women doubting our bodies when we should be so proud of the bodies we have, (easier said than done) and the same goes for men too not all women want muscle, personally I prefer a dad bod/beer belly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definite turn on - curvy tum to kiss and caress mmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massive turn on for me. Adore them and the women who are usually confident in their own skin about it x

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By *rchitectMan over a year ago

Dorchester

Shape is not important at all it’s whats in your mind. Personality and sense of humour is really important.

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By *asycouple1971Couple over a year ago

midlands

Wife hate hers but had no complaints from our meets

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I also use cever angles... I’ve always had a tummy and have always hated it

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By *aoulDuke1Man over a year ago

Bristol

Sexy is attitude, not shape.

Honestly, the more you can embrace the fuckit, the less *everyone* cares. If you flaunt it, I'll make a fuss of it and enjoy it with you. If you make an effort to keep it hidden, then I'll see your self-consciousness and respect it by not drawing attention to it. But really? I don't care.

That attitude = sexy thing applies to men too. If he's a bit squeamish because you've had babies and it shows, his sexiness drops through the floor, and you're entirely justified in never seeing him again, or hoofing him out on the spot.

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By *imandHer9396Couple over a year ago

Bridgend

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

Sweetie, you grew a human being. 3 human beings in fact! That is amazing!!

Think of what your body has been through to do that! You have been a human life support, fed and watered and kept safe 3 perfect little people. Forgive yourself for not being societies standard of "perfect". Our bodies are amazing, and we should allow them to recover and change as we get older.

My C-section scar and apron (no other way of putting it) is now a part of me. I am beautiful, intelligent and grew a human being. No matter how small I will get, it's never going to disappear and that's ok. People who judge that don't deserve my time, and they don't deserve yours either.

You are beautiful. Your body is beautiful. Remind yourself why it's there, you are amazing. It's ok to have hangups, we all have them, and your feelings are valid, but I wish you could see yourself through other people's eyes.

As a bisexual woman, I find you attractive. I would with or without the mum tum. It's ok to have these thoughts, but don't let them rule your life. Own it girl, you are amazing!

Her x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no issue with mum tums a little bit saggy or stretched a little bit podgy haha natural and part of the act of giving birth and having kids bring fat or obese is different thou thats a lifestyle choice mostly yea i know for some its medical

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By *isspurplechesterWoman over a year ago

Chester

I’m not the biggest fan of my mum tum tbh, i know I should embrace it, but I think sometimes i get paranoid about it when Mr puts ladies in our hotlist who have clearly not had children! But it is what it is, I exercise and eat healthily but the scars will always be there

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By *ear_2020Man over a year ago

Essex

Nothing wrong with a mum tum or curves.

Personally for me I’m more attracted to a curvier figure.

I’m not exactly a stunner and have a typical dad bod but we are who we are

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By *roop69Man over a year ago

St Columb Major

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

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I don’t look at persons body it’s what’s on the inside .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on for us .

Natural . Don't like skinny flat tummy ones.

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By *dward_TeagueMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

I love them and much prefer a woman with curves including mom tums. It’s natural and should be admired and celebrated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Huge turn on. Some of the best sex was with a mature curvy girl with big breasts tum and bum. Her husband let her play as she couldn’t get enough from him. The way she would look at me as she made me cum still haunts me!

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By *ovetolearnMan over a year ago

middlesbrough

Sophie Ellis Bextor has an amazing mum tum

Not a turn off at all as its very feminine

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By *anmansanMan over a year ago

London

Love it, sign of a real woman for me - very sexy!

Op looks great, every lady has hold ups.

The turnoff is when the insecurities are making them suffer - that’s not attractive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trust me ladies, once your clothes are off, no man is critically judging you.

Also, mum tums+dad bods=everyone wins x

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By *urnhambiguyMan over a year ago

Swindon

I've always loved curvy women and a mum tum just shows that you're a real woman and have had children. It's nothing at all to be ashamed or embarrassed about!

OP, you've had 3 children and you look great btw

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By *rGenuineMan over a year ago

Purley

Neither. A man or woman shouldn’t be deemed sexy by their tum. Obviously I’m biased as I have a dad bod, but other than the cattle market crowd on fab I don’t see why something like this should make any difference.

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By *etmelickMan over a year ago

North East

Turn on!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really big turn on for me and love feeling a mum tum so sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Turn on for me. I'd much prefer hold someone and keep warm then cuddle a stick with bones haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op - your Shape and Size are not a measure for your personality - just be yourself and take no notice of what others think

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By *rs mischiefWoman over a year ago

Manchester

I much the same, I hate my mum tum. I have very little self confidence.

I try and hide it as much as possible. I am also trying very hard to loose it.

But then again. I carried babies in there, and that is also amazing! As you can tell I have mixed feelings!

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By *ickdasterdly51Man over a year ago

Lingfield

It's an absolute yes from me! Nothing to be self conscious about at all.

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By *hatshisfaceMan over a year ago

ipswich

Love a mum tum! In fact! A mum figure!!!

How amazing is it that they managed to carry a child!

Be proud of it! 100 percent!

much love mwah!

Il give a free massage to mums

for nothing in return

just for embracing their mum bodies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massive turn on… a woman’s body can do incredible things, and one of them is give birth… I find a mummy tummy a real turn on.

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By *uzboxCouple over a year ago

Northwich

I (he) find a mum tum neither a turn on or a turn off. A turn on would be a firm, toned athletic tum with tight youthful skin. I guess you feel the same about a "dadbod" given your recent pics?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a mum tum!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mums are elite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I try to show my tummy in

One of my pics as I don’t want no surprises too

ESP as my partner is quite slim

But he says he loves curves and slight bbws so I’m happy with that

All you ladies are gorjus by the way I’ve had a peek

love Louise xx

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By *d4funtimesMan over a year ago

Cambridge

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

Turn on, they are beautiful and mischievous

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By *esi_maverickMan over a year ago

Solihull

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

There’s nothing wrong with you your beautiful with a lovely shaped figure mum bods don’t bother me in the slightest if anything they’re more attractive…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wear your tummy with confidence and it will look sexy like hell. You (or anyone else) being self conscious about their less than perfect body is a big turn off( at least for myself).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mum tums are a turn on for me personally. A nice bonus if you will.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mum tums amazing

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By *oodyshere2011Man over a year ago

Midlands

"As the title suggests do you find them a turn off or do the not bother you?

I ask after having bad experiences with mainly men saying I’m beautiful and then realising my shape and being really rude about it

I’m confident about all other areas of my body just not there, is it just me or is that a thing?

I think you look great, I’m sure your not on your own thinking things about yourself as we all do that about certain parts of ourselves.

You do as other said look great so try and embrace yourself and your body xx

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By *etro1940sCouple over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

An erotically confident woman with the right glint in her eye can overcome any issue with curves, body shape or weight. She is in charge of her own erotic journey. x Anne

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By *etWetWet453Couple over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

I am probably, IN THEORY, every woman`s ideal man. - I actually have a `thing` for Mummy tummies, cellulite and stretch marks. I LOVE them. I mean I positively LOVE them. No REALLY. They are the scars of life and should be worn proudly. They are what marks out a woman from a girl. Not all men like the body beautiful. Just as quite a few ladies like the old Dad Bod as opposed to the six pack.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

Mum tums are lovely. There's nothing wrong with mum tums. Muffin tops are very sexy too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wear your tummy with confidence and it will look sexy like hell. You (or anyone else) being self conscious about their less than perfect body is a big turn off( at least for myself).

I agree wholeheartedly, confidence is super sext. Bizarrely, despite the fact that I loathe mine, I actually love being naked and have had several comments about my confidence. I don't think they're mutually exclusive. I loathe how it looks but accept that it's part of me. It doesn't hold me back but is something I would change if I could.

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By *nlyfun3Woman over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I've always had a mum tum. Even though it's not my fave part of me I accept me as me now xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love them. They make woman look amazing and a woman with curves is just so sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love them. They make woman look amazing and a woman with curves is just so sexy.

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By *aughty50sCouple over a year ago

Yorkshire - but we travel a lot

"An erotically confident woman with the right glint in her eye can overcome any issue with curves, body shape or weight. She is in charge of her own erotic journey. x Anne"

^ this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree on the previous points, confidence beats any body shape in my opinion. As I get older the idea of finding a certain 'type' attractive seems increasingly weird. I'm more into the attitude, thats whats attractive. Wear it with pride, lovely ladies x

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By *torm in a G cupWoman over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I am self-conscious of my tum. Can't blame mine all on kids, more chocolate of late lol.

I just keep it covered when I cam or use flattering angles. I doubt anyone else is as bothered by it as I am, but hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massive turn on for me but K is always self conscious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Massive turn on for me but K is always self conscious "

And very much gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love running my hands all over a mummy tum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am sorry that some horrible men are rude and body shame you. All curves on a lady are fantastic.. you look very sexy in your pictures.. you should be proud of your mum body x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had someone not too long ago make comment on mine and I was mega pissed.

My mum tum was recycled and I do have scars but surely everyone's body tells a story. Men's just don't have to go through the extremities of carrying and delivering a child with the immediate expectations to return to a size 10 withing 20 minutes of delivery.

To be so rude isn't helping them in their bid to be God's gift to the human race.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me to

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By *nthony_60Man over a year ago

ipswich

It’s not an issue really. Never even thought about it. In fact I quite love a little mum tum x

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By *100Man over a year ago

Essex

I love mums a big turn on for me their lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve never thought about it! More important things for me I guess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had someone not too long ago make comment on mine and I was mega pissed.

To be so rude isn't helping them in their bid to be God's gift to the human race.

You don’t have to justify yourself, you’re gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now this is meant in the kindest way and is for all the women saying they hate there mum tums not for anyone else who likes them,you can if it's something you want to do work on and get rid of a mum tum in most cases not all if that's something you want to do, the key is reduce your body fat content and the common mistake people think is do sit ups this will help but won't cure your better of with reverse curls, so if it is a genuine insecurity and something you want to change most decent Pts will be able to help.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Do I wish my tummy had no overhang ? Yes. Do I let it effect me ? No. I am what I am

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see them as the Scars of motherhood, most of us guys wouldn't be without our kids either so we can't have it both ways,

It doesn't bother me in the slightest,

With everything that has gone on in the last few years with lockdown, working from home and home schooling I think all you lovely mummies should gives yourselves a pat on the back for dealing with what you have already

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By *elkieWoman over a year ago

Durham

I’m actively working on loving my tummy along with the rest of me. I’m a fat and sexy lass with the tummy to match, so might as well relax about it. Life’s too short.

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