You have only been on here for a week - be patient! You have a LOT of competition as a single male on here and if you don't stand out from the crowd, you won't get what you want. Sorry, but it's the truth!
I would also consider expanding the text of your profile a little - tell people what you want from them, but more importantly what you can offer them in return.
Don't send single line messgaes to people - they just get binned. Make the effort to talk about them, use their name if it's on their profile, and avoid the cliched lines...
Add a few more photos - variety can help, but avoid the cock pic!
Tell people why you can't accommodate if there is a genuine reason - otherwise people will think you are playing away from home - some don't like that!
Hope this helps a little, and good luck!
(Just remember to be patient!)
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"Should be called fabnonswinging"
Why?
We have plenty of fun on here
Some people join sites like this and think they are guarenteed a shag every night... Then come down to earth with a massive bang when it doesn't happen.
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"Should be called fabnonswinging
Why?
We have plenty of fun on here
Some people join sites like this and think they are guarenteed a shag every night... Then come down to earth with a massive bang when it doesn't happen.
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"You have only been on here for a week - be patient! You have a LOT of competition as a single male on here and if you don't stand out from the crowd, you won't get what you want. Sorry, but it's the truth!
I would also consider expanding the text of your profile a little - tell people what you want from them, but more importantly what you can offer them in return.
Don't send single line messgaes to people - they just get binned. Make the effort to talk about them, use their name if it's on their profile, and avoid the cliched lines...
Add a few more photos - variety can help, but avoid the cock pic!
Tell people why you can't accommodate if there is a genuine reason - otherwise people will think you are playing away from home - some don't like that!
Hope this helps a little, and good luck!
(Just remember to be patient!)
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Stick with it - like this guy says it's early days.
If you give up, the other blokes will go whoopie-woo and rub their hands together at having less competition. Just the same the Ladies will never get to find out what you are like
So hang about and keep your eye on the game and give em both something to chew on 
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"Awwww.... not getting laid??
Obviously the sites fault, and nothing at all to do with you!!!  "
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"Awwww.... not getting laid??
Obviously the sites fault, and nothing at all to do with you!!!
Shhhhh you and your cynicism. Of course it is the sites fault. It couldn't be down to the OP's crap 2 line profile could it?"
oye that's unfair.... he's got 3 |
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the guy is clearly new to fabswingers and has made an error in judgment due to his frustration, however all you people that have absolutely battered him are really doing him no favours in making him want to give the site a propper try.
Listen to the constructive post's my friend, as a single guy you have to be patient, attend parties or socials is the best way for a single guy in our opinion.
Dont listen to those just hammering you, they obviously have nothing better to do than chastize new members. |
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"the guy is clearly new to fabswingers and has made an error in judgment due to his frustration, however all you people that have absolutely battered him are really doing him no favours in making him want to give the site a propper try.
Listen to the constructive post's my friend, as a single guy you have to be patient, attend parties or socials is the best way for a single guy in our opinion.
Dont listen to those just hammering you, they obviously have nothing better to do than chastize new members."
(mind you, as a single male, I SHOULD be telling him to do the exact opposite, and hence eliminate competition! Lol! ) |
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By *njamesMan
over a year ago
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It's a bit strange on here, can go for a while where things are quiet, then BOOM, loads of offers and requests all come at once.
It's been a busy few weeks down here, don't think there is nothing wrong with the site  |
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ? 
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?"
Only if you play nicely....
Honestly as it's been said before it does come and go and it sounds like you have joined when people are on holiday or just coming off.
Hang in there xx |
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By *njamesMan
over a year ago
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Only if you play nicely....
Honestly as it's been said before it does come and go and it sounds like you have joined when people are on holiday or just coming off.
Hang in there xx"
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Dont listen to those just hammering you, they obviously have nothing better to do than chastize new members."
Have you ever wondered why some threads like this the OP gets destroyed? And some get useful responses? The OP's attitude has dictated the reaction |
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Yes! Come play with me!!
YAY - What shall we play?"
I know a good game!!
Hide the sausage, have you heard of it?? |
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Dont listen to those just hammering you, they obviously have nothing better to do than chastize new members.
Have you ever wondered why some threads like this the OP gets destroyed? And some get useful responses? The OP's attitude has dictated the reaction "
ok so if the op's attitude has dictaded the reaction, how come some people gave decent feedback and some people just had a go at him?
what you mean is the way individuals interpreted the op's post dictated their reaction to him. |
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By *njamesMan
over a year ago
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Yes! Come play with me!!
YAY - What shall we play?
I know a good game!!
Hide the sausage, have you heard of it?? "
Ummm no, you might have to refresh my memory of that one, or even show me |
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Only if you play nicely....
Honestly as it's been said before it does come and go and it sounds like you have joined when people are on holiday or just coming off.
Hang in there xx"
off topic and probably irrelevant...NICE ARSE  |
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"Should be called fabnonswinging"
You've been here a week..... It's a swinging site, not insta-shag.
You might also ask yourself what is going to make your profile stand out from the hundreds of others who are contacting people you're getting in touch with..... Whats going to make them reply to you ahead of all the other people who mail them...
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over a year ago
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"Should be called fabnonswinging
You've been here a week..... It's a swinging site, not insta-shag.
You might also ask yourself what is going to make your profile stand out from the hundreds of others who are contacting people you're getting in touch with..... Whats going to make them reply to you ahead of all the other people who mail them...
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"Should be called fabnonswinging
You've been here a week..... It's a swinging site, not insta-shag.
You might also ask yourself what is going to make your profile stand out from the hundreds of others who are contacting people you're getting in touch with..... Whats going to make them reply to you ahead of all the other people who mail them...
Very true indeed "
And at the moment, the answer is FUCK ALL!
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"Should be called fabnonswinging"
You're not a swinger though are you. You don't understand this kind of lifestyle or scene. You are a guy whose heard about this site and thought that you could register and lots of women, who will have sex with any guy who messages them, just because they are showing sexual pictures, and you have found this is not the case.
Well at least you've learnt something, swinging isn't full of dirty slags who will fuck anything. There's a little more to it than that. Who'd have thought eh, these swingers you've heard about have morals |
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I think he's being lambasted because his one sentence post seems to suggest 'entitlement', in other words he's a member of a swinging site and therefore is entitled to encounters with people he contacts.
It also appears critical of established members who all rub along quite nicely without any need to complain about the ups and downs of this lifestyle.
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It really depends on what you expect swinging to be.
If you expect joining the site to be a quick fix and an easy route to getting a shag..... well it can be, if you find other people who want to use the site in this way..... and that's a bit pot luck.
There is a fair bit of truth in the saying "you get out what you put in". If you want to put minimal thought, time and effor into your profile, how you contact people, your photos, getting to know people and getting a feel for the site as a whole.... then you will likely get minimal return in terms of success. |
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"Should be called fabnonswinging"
What were your expectations on joining?
Personally I read the profile before the message. Straight men seeking tvs, mobile numbers, no information results in the message being deleted unread.
Let people know about you, you have LOTS of competition.
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By *njamesMan
over a year ago
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Yes! Come play with me!!
YAY - What shall we play?
I know a good game!!
Hide the sausage, have you heard of it?? "
I'm still waiting to play....... |
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"Should be called fabnonswinging"
As a couple of others have already intimated, I'm not quite sure what your expectations were upon joining the site a couple of weeks ago.
However, if you're just interested in meaningless sex then the best return on investment is to go out to a club or bar in your local town and pick up someone on a Friday or Saturday night.
Or pay for the services of a prostitute.
Swinging is way more than just having a fumble in an alleyway after closing time... but the effort required is considerably more too. |
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"Thanks for the positve advice from some people joined 3 wks ago lets see what happens cheers its is a good site"
Tommy you should thank everyone for there advice positive and negative,it all helps,take notice of what everyone has said,it can only help you,good luck |
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"Thanks for the positve advice from some people joined 3 wks ago lets see what happens cheers its is a good site
Tommy you should thank everyone for there advice positive and negative,it all helps,take notice of what everyone has said,it can only help you,good luck"
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Probably because he looked at your profile and liked what he saw! Don't take it to heart FF... These moans by single guys make them instantly unappealing - we have them blocked but it must help you when sifting through who YOU'D like to meet! |
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"Thanx funkyfox not
Why single me out?
I don't really care, I'm just curious when people have said a lot worse then me. "
Don't even give it a secon thought Funky, he lashed out because the truth hurts sometimes!
Tommy - not a good plan to verbally attack established site members! And she's right anyway...!
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Only if you play nicely....
Honestly as it's been said before it does come and go and it sounds like you have joined when people are on holiday or just coming off.
Hang in there xx
off topic and probably irrelevant...NICE ARSE "
I take it your after joining in hide and seek too?
flattery will get you every where x |
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How true that is! So many single men think that just because you are on a swingers site that you have no morals and will shag anything that asks - that is not the case! We DO have morals and are extremely choosy who we shag. So if all you are after is a quick shag, look elsewhere. Most of us will spot you very quickly and you won't get what you are looking for! |
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Dont listen to those just hammering you, they obviously have nothing better to do than chastize new members.
Have you ever wondered why some threads like this the OP gets destroyed? And some get useful responses? The OP's attitude has dictated the reaction "
There seems to be 2 kinds of person. One thinks they just have to mail someone and they are guaranteed a shag. The other kind respects people, understands that life isn't like that at all, and takes constructive criticism well.
The OP is one of these types... Which was obvious from the post... And which is why he got a certain type of response. |
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By *njamesMan
over a year ago
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"I much prefer the slide!! Or even the monkey bars! Any takers ?
Race ya to the round about
Can I play?
Only if you play nicely....
Honestly as it's been said before it does come and go and it sounds like you have joined when people are on holiday or just coming off.
Hang in there xx
off topic and probably irrelevant...NICE ARSE
I take it your after joining in hide and seek too?
flattery will get you every where x"
Yes, and back to your nice arse.... |
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