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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see a lot of profiles saying that there needs to be a connection. What is this connection? Personally I’ve had some of the best sex with people I don’t fancy or even like for that matter. Surly when it comes to sex does it matter, not like it’s dating. Curious on people’s opinions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op - you do make a good point after all this is a sex dating/meeting site - it is my opinion that there should be some chemistry / connection, not love or affection, but I feel the personalities should click - if they don't you can just walk away
However we are all different and with that in mind.......what you doing later lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Got to be a sexual attraction otherwise it just makes you sound desperate for a fuck from anybody "
I don’t think that’s true, if in a gang bang / orgy / dark room situation there isn’t going to be a sexual attraction necessarily but doesn’t make anyone desperate just another form of fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chemistry for me for any situation. I have to fancy them.
For a regular fwb there absolutely needs to be a connection as in I need to like the person too. |
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"Got to be a sexual attraction otherwise it just makes you sound desperate for a fuck from anybody
I don’t think that’s true, if in a gang bang / orgy / dark room situation there isn’t going to be a sexual attraction necessarily but doesn’t make anyone desperate just another form of fun "
I agree. Nobody forms a connection before a gang bang but it doesn't mean the participants don't enjoy it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex is always better when you got to know someone a bit
Yes it is but who doesn’t like a one off too  "
Still got to be some form of attraction for a one-off. Personally, I'd rather knock one out (something I'm rather skilled at! ) than just shag someone I'm not attracted to for the sake of getting laid. I'm not sure that applies to everyone on Fab tho.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally for me it's more about feeling comfortable with whomever as I couldn't have sex with someone I don't feel comfortable with "
I agree you can’t do anything if your not comfortable |
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I don't just want random sex.
I actually enjoy the social aspects, and want to enjoy being with a person and have a laugh with them.
Personality to me is as important as looks, if I'm not attracted to your personality it doesn't matter how physically attractive you are, it's not happening. |
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"Personally for me it's more about feeling comfortable with whomever as I couldn't have sex with someone I don't feel comfortable with "
Same here. Also, when I'm in a club, I like to be spoken to before being touched. Just looking at me intently does not cut it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see a lot of profiles saying that there needs to be a connection. What is this connection? Personally I’ve had some of the best sex with people I don’t fancy or even like for that matter. Surly when it comes to sex does it matter, not like it’s dating. Curious on people’s opinions "
I agree. It’s more that animal instinct for me. That look you give a person / stranger and know you’re about to fuck.
I guess technically that is a ‘connection’ but not how some want it. |
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"Got to be a sexual attraction otherwise it just makes you sound desperate for a fuck from anybody
I don’t think that’s true, if in a gang bang / orgy / dark room situation there isn’t going to be a sexual attraction necessarily but doesn’t make anyone desperate just another form of fun "
But that is a good point.
I've not been to one, so can't really comment, but I'm guessing the excitement of the situation gets you through.
I'm doubting when people are asking for a connection, they are referring to during gang bangs though, probably more for the one-to-one, FWB situations.
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By *urvyTWoman
over a year ago
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I’m one of these people who has it in my profile..So I’ll try and give my opinion..
Personally, if I’m going to meet someone (or some people) privately, I’d definitely want to know we are all going to get along, or at least increase that chance. I like to get to know peoples needs / wants beforehand and will tell them mine and found it definitely makes the meet better and less awkward! I’m also a very ‘jokey’ person, so I wanna know they’re on the same level as me! Plus I’ve made some friends for life by taking more time getting to know them..
When it comes to club meets, I totally see your point, depending on how a person plays. Ie a darkroom or gangbang situation.
However, that’s not my style so I would still look for that ‘connection’ as I wanna get along with them, have a chat, have a dance, flirt, drink etc… but saying that I could quite happily go to a club and just have a social anyway, play isn’t imperative to me so if I have to wait to find someone I get along with, that’s fine. Even if I do play, 1 is generally enough for me
Each to their own though. If we all liked the same thing, the world would be a boring place xx |
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"I see a lot of profiles saying that there needs to be a connection. What is this connection? Personally I’ve had some of the best sex with people I don’t fancy or even like for that matter. Surly when it comes to sex does it matter, not like it’s dating. Curious on people’s opinions "
Well, it does… not to everyone. We wouldn’t have sex with anyone we didn’t find attractive. To us that’s not the point. But to each their own. They also need to be able to hold a conversation too. Again, for us. Not for everyone. |
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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago
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We avoid such profiles and those that want to "get too know us". We don't swing to make friends or create relationships. Nothing wrong with having a good time and letting personalities shine at playtime but that's as far as it goes for us. |
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That we get on well and have similar views on things
I couldn't meet someone I didn't fancy or couldn't chat easily to, never mind have sex with them
That's just me, if rather sort myself than meet for the sake of it, lol its why I don't meet often. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We avoid such profiles and those that want to "get too know us". We don't swing to make friends or create relationships. Nothing wrong with having a good time and letting personalities shine at playtime but that's as far as it goes for us."
I was seriously starting to think I was the only one, glad someone understands where I’m coming from |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sex is always better when you got to know someone a bit
Yes it is but who doesn’t like a one off too "
I really don’t like a one off OP. Connection for me means that even without the sex aspect I would still be good friends with them in RL on personal, mental and emotional level |
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"We avoid such profiles and those that want to "get too know us". We don't swing to make friends or create relationships. Nothing wrong with having a good time and letting personalities shine at playtime but that's as far as it goes for us.
I was seriously starting to think I was the only one, glad someone understands where I’m coming from "
Agree with the above. We are all here for a reason. The chat is limited to what we all choose to talk about keeping it short
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