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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Whats its like having a threesome with 2 men? Does it feel like you're having to pleasure 2 blokes? Are you the lady receiving more pleasure? Does it depend on the 2 gents as to the dynamic? I’m curious/interested to hear about others experiences. Not fantasy story hunting just the more practical aspects of it all… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats its like having a threesome with 2 men? Does it feel like you're having to pleasure 2 blokes? Are you the lady receiving more pleasure? Does it depend on the 2 gents as to the dynamic? I’m curious/interested to hear about others experiences. Not fantasy story hunting just the more practical aspects of it all… "
For me it has always worked best when the guys are friends or experienced at 3 sums together. I like to be sub sexually and if they can co-ordinate things well then the action can flow much better. I’d love to find 2 guys for regular fun again, but not tarts.  |
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By *ickyquimCouple
over a year ago
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"Whats its like having a threesome with 2 men? Does it feel like you're having to pleasure 2 blokes? Are you the lady receiving more pleasure? Does it depend on the 2 gents as to the dynamic? I’m curious/interested to hear about others experiences. Not fantasy story hunting just the more practical aspects of it all… "
You really need to plan ahead as it’s not easy sucking whilst being pounded from behind. It can turn into twister if you’re not careful. Yes there is some pressure of having to please 2 men. I think pleasing ff is harder for a man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It helps if one or both men enjoy voyeurism"
I agree whole heartedly, I am regularly part of a mfm play and its not just the generic spitroast that most people tend to think.
Yes that's good for part of the play but its so much better tagging each other in and out so to say. Its great to sit back and watch for a little bit before joining back in. I know this thread asked for the ladies point of view but the lady hit the nail on the head with voyeurism being a part of it.  |
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"Whats its like having a threesome with 2 men? Does it feel like you're having to pleasure 2 blokes? Are you the lady receiving more pleasure? Does it depend on the 2 gents as to the dynamic? I’m curious/interested to hear about others experiences. Not fantasy story hunting just the more practical aspects of it all…
For me it has always worked best when the guys are friends or experienced at 3 sums together. I like to be sub sexually and if they can co-ordinate things well then the action can flow much better. I’d love to find 2 guys for regular fun again, but not tarts. "
This
I've had a few, some good some horrendous lol. But the best ones were with guys who knew each other and had done it together previously.
They seemed to know what they were going to do without having to speak. It flowed so naturally and it was an amazing experience I'd love to do it again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a lady feels in an mmf that she has to concentrate on pleasing the guys. It's all being done wrong. From my point of view, a woman in that position is there to be pleased herself..tut tut tut |
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My wife isnt a huge fan of MMF threesomes. She is more about women (or our other kinks) when it comes to swinging but she will often find herself between myself and the other guy.
She totally enjoys it "in the moment" but it's always with couples we know well and are comfy with.
One of (but not the sole) reasons she's not into MMF as a 3sum meet is because she dosent want to feel like she's servicing 2 guys. She doesn't want the night to be ruined for all if she feels she cant continue or whatever and thats fine. She has some issues due to surgery that can cause some pain on occasions so she has to stop. When we meet couples though...she "hopes" the other lady can service us two fellas whilst she watches....which to be fair..she loves anyway. Me and other women or her and other women are her thing. It is what it is.
But.....
As a guy (and last night being a prime example) who's been in more than a few MMFs, I'm not there to be pleased. Well I am...but from my point of view, I'm there to make sure the lady is pleased. I'm more interested in the lady part of the equation having a good time and being happy than myself.
Like I said, last night is a good example. My wife and I spent the night with some very good friends and my wife had to tag out for a while.
When she left the room to take a break, it wasn't out us 2 fella's. It instantly became about us two making sure she had the best time ever. We where zone in on making her (his partner) have a great time. Lie back and enjoy the ride. Same thing had happened with my wife earlier.
So these situations are going to differ for everyone but with the right people and the right company who give a damn about you and your pleasure in that moment...it can go either way.
Photos on our profile if anyone is curious...
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By *BSECouple
over a year ago
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Myself and my Lady loves a couple of men or more to join us, I get to watch as she gets pounded to a quivering wreck, maybe sucking a cock or two along the way.
If the other males a Bi I'll suck them nice and hard before they slide in to her pussy.
When they are done I get to enjoy clean up duty.
She loves a couple of men taking her and I love watching.
Still want a male / female couple to take her while I watch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whats its like having a threesome with 2 men?
We (husband and i) enjoy MFM and have played in this scenario more than any other. We really enjoy it.
Does it feel like you're having to pleasure 2 blokes?
I've never felt like that. Although my husband is OK with a small amount of voyeurism, which helps. He likes to see me with another guy. But we also love a spitroast!! So he sits back for a short while and then joins in again and so on.
Are you the lady receiving more pleasure?
In our experience, absolutely, yes! I always have several orgasms when we play MFM.
Does it depend on the 2 gents as to the dynamic?
I think so, yes. For us, it's important to click and have a connection with the 3rd person. We've been very fortunate in that respect. All 3 being on the same wavelength, respecting one another and communicating together.
It's really easy to get worried and over think it. (God knows, I did at first) We've found, with the right dynamic, you can relax and just let events flow naturally.
We are also clear from the outset that we play together and no one should be left out.
Good luck if you decide to go for it xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experiences too much to concentrate on  found it difficult to enjoy been pleasured as was having to think about 2 men. I like to fully experience the guy & couldn't in a 3some...
So it's one on one for me... |
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My male lover and i are eager for a woman to join us for 3 way pleasures I have done it a few times with orally bi couples and loved every minute of the sharing with each other! All 3 left satisfied |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on expectations from all parties. The logistics of getting them both equally involved at the same time is hard. It can quickly turn into acrobatic exercises and not be as enjoyable as you have to keep tabs and concentrate in who's doing what and how much they are involved.
Having said so, if they're happy taking turns to an extent and having little involvement in between - it can be a great experience for all. |
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By *esSir99Woman
over a year ago
Norwich |
In my experience it’s fantastic when you’ve explored and enjoyed both men individually a few times before doing a fmm. They both have learned your kinks, boundaries and body language and you have theirs. I always know which fwb would be great in a threesome and the ones it wouldn’t work with. Personally though, nothing beats a serving my Sir and another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's probably best if you know one of the guys quite well already and you're the one who finds the other guy too.
It also helps if the only aim is for all 3 of you to enjoy the experience, rather than have a list of things/positions to tick off.
It's all of the things you enjoy when having sex with one guy, but heightened cos there's 4 hands and 2 mouths. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly, work out what you want from it.
Do you want to feel like the one that's pleasuring two guys or do you want to feel desired, the one being pleasured?.
We have a guy we meet on occasion, could say a regular, though the pandemic put a halt to it.
The two of us are very like minded, we both enjoy the woman, the giving and we're both attentive.
We also both enjoy the voyeuristic aspect.
So, Mrs feels completely desired in the moment.
She's not expected to keep both of us going throughout, several times during a threesome each of us guys will take a step back and observe.
We work well together, recognising when Mrs wants to concentrate on the One and when she wants both together.
Next up is to find the guys with the attitude to act out the dynamic you wish to achieve. |
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"Firstly, work out what you want from it.
Do you want to feel like the one that's pleasuring two guys or do you want to feel desired, the one being pleasured?.
We have a guy we meet on occasion, could say a regular, though the pandemic put a halt to it.
The two of us are very like minded, we both enjoy the woman, the giving and we're both attentive.
We also both enjoy the voyeuristic aspect.
So, Mrs feels completely desired in the moment.
She's not expected to keep both of us going throughout, several times during a threesome each of us guys will take a step back and observe.
We work well together, recognising when Mrs wants to concentrate on the One and when she wants both together.
Next up is to find the guys with the attitude to act out the dynamic you wish to achieve."
yes ..sounds like you really have this sussed out  |
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I love MFM. I enjoy being the centre of attention but I also get a lot of pleasure out of giving to two men. I love giving BJs so for me it’s great having two cocks to take turns with. It’s about the way it makes me feel.
I agree it’s about finding the right men though. We want it to be relaxed and fun so make sure we get to know people a bit first.
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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago
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"It's probably best if you know one of the guys quite well already and you're the one who finds the other guy too.
It also helps if the only aim is for all 3 of you to enjoy the experience, rather than have a list of things/positions to tick off.
It's all of the things you enjoy when having sex with one guy, but heightened cos there's 4 hands and 2 mouths."
This is true for me too, I enjoy the attentions from 2 men, sometimes both together, sometimes one of them while the other takes a break and watches.
Any other way would probably be way too exhausting for me.
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Mole(male) speaking here.
Lots of interesting points have been put forward. I especially thought about the dynamics aspect.
1) If you are wanting to be desired, then the chemistry between the two blokes should be considered. They will have to have good teamwork and not be selfish lovers. Having two attentitive people reading you and recognising what you want. Eg. You need a moment to breathe after a particular intense orgasm, so they both stop and you can all have a giggle, chat, before starting again.
2) If you are looking to be the centre of attention and enjoy the servicing of others, then again, maybe two more dominate males may help. Those looking to be pleased, or are more willing to show you what they can do, rather than, the softer approach.
In the aspects of spitroasts or not being able to concentrate. I personally enjoy this. Not only is it a little bit funny, it is also very erotic (at both ends for the male), seeing the lady being caught up in the moment so much that all she can do is just hold the other cock for dear life with her hand, or it just rests in her moaning mouth as she concentrates on her orgasm.
Some men may not be the right fit for what you want. You may luck out and find two that just gel and can work together well. Eitherway, communication is always important. Chemistry. Desire.
Fingers, toes, arms, eyes, legs all crossed if you venture forward with one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to find the right two guys!
Myself and a friend are on the same wavelength ie. Derive pleasure from pleasing others, so it's rare /practically never we're expecting a lady to "please us" we enjoy putting the attention on the lady.
Practical wise, all depends on what the lady is wanting to experience. DP is popular but requires patience, communication and lube for a pleasant experience |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
If you do it with two guys that just want sex, it might be a bit of a disaster.
If you do it unrushed, with two guys that you know well, all enjoy each others company and they want to give you pleasure, it should be amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience it’s fantastic when you’ve explored and enjoyed both men individually a few times before doing a fmm. They both have learned your kinks, boundaries and body language and you have theirs. I always know which fwb would be great in a threesome and the ones it wouldn’t work with. Personally though, nothing beats a serving my Sir and another. "
This sounds the way I'd like to do it. When I do it! |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Whats its like having a threesome with 2 men? Does it feel like you're having to pleasure 2 blokes? Are you the lady receiving more pleasure? Does it depend on the 2 gents as to the dynamic? I’m curious/interested to hear about others experiences. Not fantasy story hunting just the more practical aspects of it all… "
If you go to a meet thinking about all those things you won't enjoy your meet.
Sex should be spontaneous and one thing should flow into another rather than be a mechanical I have to make sure I am pleasing A or B needs this now.
Go to a meet without preconceived ideas and enjoy the experience, if you have certain limits such as condoms for penetrative sex, no cum in hair or no anal, etc. make them clear preferably before the meet but certainly before any fun begins.
The same goes for your male partners, if they are frightened that cocks touching during DVP makes them gay then they are probably not mature enough to try that but those things should be worked out before the meet.
We are all adults and if you go thinking I am going to enjoy the new experience you will |
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I love being made the centre of attention and overwhelmed with pleasure in this scenario.
I agree about having at least one guy you know well, and all three of you having got to know each other first.
Have some idea about what you want from the experience, then just let go and enjoy whatever happens.
We've enjoyed MMFs where the guys haven't cum at all - they just wanted to focus on me.
(you can even up the score another time  )
There's room for any kinds of play combinations. As long as you are all working together with the same agenda, a good time is forecast.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love being made the centre of attention and overwhelmed with pleasure in this scenario.
I agree about having at least one guy you know well, and all three of you having got to know each other first.
Have some idea about what you want from the experience, then just let go and enjoy whatever happens.
We've enjoyed MMFs where the guys haven't cum at all - they just wanted to focus on me.
(you can even up the score another time )
There's room for any kinds of play combinations. As long as you are all working together with the same agenda, a good time is forecast.
C"
I hate being the centre of attention. Starting to wonder if it's for me! |
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"I love being made the centre of attention and overwhelmed with pleasure in this scenario.
I agree about having at least one guy you know well, and all three of you having got to know each other first.
Have some idea about what you want from the experience, then just let go and enjoy whatever happens.
We've enjoyed MMFs where the guys haven't cum at all - they just wanted to focus on me.
(you can even up the score another time )
There's room for any kinds of play combinations. As long as you are all working together with the same agenda, a good time is forecast.
C
I hate being the centre of attention. Starting to wonder if it's for me! "
Playing with two bi/orally bi guys will even out the focus of attention.
I guess you need to understand where your curiosity lies
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love being made the centre of attention and overwhelmed with pleasure in this scenario.
I agree about having at least one guy you know well, and all three of you having got to know each other first.
Have some idea about what you want from the experience, then just let go and enjoy whatever happens.
We've enjoyed MMFs where the guys haven't cum at all - they just wanted to focus on me.
(you can even up the score another time )
There's room for any kinds of play combinations. As long as you are all working together with the same agenda, a good time is forecast.
C
I hate being the centre of attention. Starting to wonder if it's for me!
Playing with two bi/orally bi guys will even out the focus of attention.
I guess you need to understand where your curiosity lies
C"
I have some idea, this thread is helping with that. I've always enjoyed the idea of watching men together. |
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"If a lady feels in an mmf that she has to concentrate on pleasing the guys. It's all being done wrong. From my point of view, a woman in that position is there to be pleased herself..tut tut tut"
Well said Andy. The whole point is that the two guys should be prioritizing the pleasure that the woman receives and that in itself should be a turn on for them. |
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"If a lady feels in an mmf that she has to concentrate on pleasing the guys. It's all being done wrong. From my point of view, a woman in that position is there to be pleased herself..tut tut tut
Well said Andy. The whole point is that the two guys should be prioritizing the pleasure that the woman receives and that in itself should be a turn on for them."
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We enjoy a good threesome. And as others have said the guys are there to pleasure the woman. If done right the guys' pleasure will be the woman being well satisfied.
We've been lucky and mostly met guys who have worked well in this scenario. I enjoy the voyeuristic part as well as the physical part which does work well.
We did try a mmmmf once and she found that too much. An mmmf where I jump in and out works quite well.
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"If a lady feels in an mmf that she has to concentrate on pleasing the guys. It's all being done wrong. From my point of view, a woman in that position is there to be pleased herself..tut tut tut"
This!
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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago
Nottingham |
Having done this very successfully I can say with confidence that it’s largely about attitude. For the ideal straight MFM I reckon you need the following:
- Two fellas whose main focus is the lady’s pleasure, not their own;
- An acceptance that the sex can sometimes get a bit awkward until all develop the kind of familiarity that comes through repeat sessions;
- For the two fellas to complement each other in skill set (one’s good at this, the other at that), through cock size (bigger, smaller or similar as long as they’re OK with the differences), in preferred positions, in their role (one could be dominant, both equal, etc.).
The lady should not show a preference unless that is part of the scenario.
And you all need to just relax and enjoy it. Don’t get stressed. Have fun.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had one threesome with 2 men, it just flowed naturally and I would say all involved got attention equally. I wouldn't say that one person felt left out or like they had to keep two others entertained. |
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I’ve only had one mfm , I did find it exhausting mentally and physically. Constantly worrying about neither of them feeling left out.
Would I do it again ? Possibly though I’ll need to acquire some sort of “selfish-ish” kinda hat |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I've never felt like it was my responsibility to pleasure both men but I did.
Mostly though I was centre of attention, or one was pleasuring me as I gave the other oral.
I had an oral only bi mmf where we all got stuck in x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have had a few mmf definitely so much better when both men are bi, no pressure feeling like have to continually please both men. When I need a break can just sit back and watch the two men please each other, plus when all play with each other it adds another erotic dimension to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be hard work actually
I try to choose someone with a smaller cock than my husbands so I'm not faced with two big cocks at once which makes things a little easier haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of my favourite scenarios.
The best ones for me have been with hubby and another guy rather than 2 other guys.
It works for us as hubby is more of a voyeur so he'll spend a fair bit of time taking pics
But there are times when all the attention is on me from both of them and I love it, also has the advantage that when one is worn out the other can take over x |
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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago
Nottingham |
"I’ve only had one mfm , I did find it exhausting mentally and physically. Constantly worrying about neither of them feeling left out.
Would I do it again ? Possibly though I’ll need to acquire some sort of “selfish-ish” kinda hat "
What you need is the right attitude from the fellas. My philosophy is that straight MFMs are all about pleasing the lady. Find two fellas with that attitude and you can relax back and simply enjoy. |
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We regularly have MFM sessions with a friend of ours. In fact far more than
MF/MF sessions.
G enjoys dealing with two cocks at a time as she feels the session is more for her benefit.
We have had a few MMFM sessions as well
All have been Bi sessions so everyone was catered for but we are just as happy with hetero situations.
High on the list of "to do's" is a FMF Bi session, but must be with a mature lady.
G&A
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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago
blackpool/preston/normandy france |
Most of our meets were mmf with a bi guy so there was cock sucking both ways. For me I love the attention of 2 guys playing with me at the same time. For us that is what it is about and he loves seeing me with someone else and I love being taken by 2 guys and have never had any problems. |
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I felt very full, it's the best way to describe it. It takes practice to find a good rhythm and or position. I was very swollen the following day and sort, but with further practice it gets better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s awesome. I knew then both, so I was relaxed and comfortable.
Both guys were bi, so they played with eachnother, but the main emphasis was on me, and it was brilliant.
It was better than i thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no way should a MFM feel pressurised.
We did it for years, currently looking for another buddy. It should be all about the woman, not the men!!!!
Both men should pleasure the woman, one after the other if that is her thing.
It is all about the woman, not about the men!!!! |
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By *g1979Man
over a year ago
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From a man's perspective. I had one session many years ago where I was the plus 1 in a mmf play. A woman I knew wanted me to join her and her bf in a 3sum.
Her partner was quite up for it but unfortunately he was a bit to turned on. He came within a few minutes and after about 5 minutes watching me fuck his gf he became quite angry and wanted to fight me.
I still chuckle about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From a man's perspective. I had one session many years ago where I was the plus 1 in a mmf play. A woman I knew wanted me to join her and her bf in a 3sum.
Her partner was quite up for it but unfortunately he was a bit to turned on. He came within a few minutes and after about 5 minutes watching me fuck his gf he became quite angry and wanted to fight me.
I still chuckle about it.
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Oh no thats awful but hilarious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whenever I have joined a cple either in a club or private environment it is never done as the woman pleasuring 2 guys, she is the centre of attention and its about her pleasure and it also depends on the dynamics does the male half enjoy watching or joining in, you can normally gauge from responses if she's uncomfortable in a spit roast and if so I'll step back at the end of the day to me it's all about the womans pleasure and be guided by what turns her on |
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