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Not having a lot of luck on here
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By *osh7inch OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
Without coming across big headed I find myself to be a good looking guy on here I’m genuine clean and keep myself looking fresh but don’t seem to be having any luck I find that this website is for the older audience it a young guy like me is finding it hard to come across a genuine couple or lady any tips you guys have for me would be appreciated.. happy fabbing |
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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago
Cardiff |
Lol the site has gone down hill so much in the past few years.
There are so many fake profiles on here as well
If you're looking for single women I'd try the website were you swipe left or right your susess rate would go up 99% |
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By *osh7inch OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"Lol the site has gone down hill so much in the past few years.
There are so many fake profiles on here as well
If you're looking for single women I'd try the website were you swipe left or right your susess rate would go up 99%"
that tinder thing ain’t full of genuine people I’d rather just meet a relaxed lady or couple and have plenty of fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol the site has gone down hill so much in the past few years.
There are so many fake profiles on here as well
If you're looking for single women I'd try the website were you swipe left or right your susess rate would go up 99%"
Isn't it difficult to maintain discretion with that site? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it has to do anything with age as I experience the same issues and im 40 in good shape not what you call gym fit
It all depends on what couples are looking for? I have met the odd couple on here but I tend to meet more people going to swinging clubs. Maybe give that a try? I’m sure you will do well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your main problem is you've joined during a pandemic and its still on going.
Now things like clubs are opening up maybe try that orllook for some socials in your area and attend them.
Good luck matey you'll get there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single females in the swinging community are known as Unicorns for a reason!!
I'm afraid, as a single guy, you've got to really work at it on here.
Your age wouldn't put me off!!
Good luck and don't give up!
Mrs x |
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"Without coming across big headed I find myself to be a good looking guy on here I’m genuine clean and keep myself looking fresh but don’t seem to be having any luck... "
It is frustrating and I hear you.
Don't believe that just because you are not get any that everyone else is. That's not the case.
Don't take it personally. Something I am working on also. It's not you.
The reality is that there are more than ten men for every one women on here.
These women get tons of offers daily and all have other guys in the background too.
I fear most new chats for them are just sport because they are bored.
No matter how sincere you are it will not make any difference.
Just have to be patient and hope you catch the right lady at the right time.
But for now... join the club. |
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By *osh7inch OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"Without coming across big headed I find myself to be a good looking guy on here I’m genuine clean and keep myself looking fresh but don’t seem to be having any luck...
It is frustrating and I hear you.
Don't believe that just because you are not get any that everyone else is. That's not the case.
Don't take it personally. Something I am working on also. It's not you.
The reality is that there are more than ten men for every one women on here.
These women get tons of offers daily and all have other guys in the background too.
I fear most new chats for them are just sport because they are bored.
No matter how sincere you are it will not make any difference.
Just have to be patient and hope you catch the right lady at the right time.
But for now... join the club."
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Hi OP.
Firstly, ignore the negative post above. Negativity never attracted anyone.
As others have said, it's very difficult in here for single guys.
Clubs are well worth a try, as is the old fashioned system of meeting ladies in pubs and nightclubs.
Being active on the forum might help too.
I would also ensure your profile sells you well, as ladies do read them.
Is it well written, with punctuation and paragraphs?
Does it have personality?
Do you have a good selection of photos?
No guarantee it will change your luck, but it certainly won't do any harm. |
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"Find another site .This one is as bad as all the others .Fake profiles put up by the site .this is to con us blokes out of our cash ."
You don't have to pay and the fakes are not put in by the site.
Report them so they can be removed.
BTW this is the best swinging site about. |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
No matter what age for a male on here. Never been easy. As more used internet on phone, tablet. More members and then covid , added a lot more. Check posts from females and couples . Saying amount of mail they get each day. Some get over one hundred. Get known on forums and chat rooms. Better chance then . |
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By *osh7inch OP Man
over a year ago
birmingham |
"No matter what age for a male on here. Never been easy. As more used internet on phone, tablet. More members and then covid , added a lot more. Check posts from females and couples . Saying amount of mail they get each day. Some get over one hundred. Get known on forums and chat rooms. Better chance then . "
I have talked with couples ect but never been successful in finally meeting as I have no verification after a year so does look dodgy :/
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No matter what age for a male on here. Never been easy. As more used internet on phone, tablet. More members and then covid , added a lot more. Check posts from females and couples . Saying amount of mail they get each day. Some get over one hundred. Get known on forums and chat rooms. Better chance then . I have talked with couples ect but never been successful in finally meeting as I have no verification after a year so does look dodgy :/ "
If you can go on cam, can always get yourself verified that way, best bet is the clubs though, your get a feel of the vibe etc and there’s always nice people there to meet and chat with hope your luck changes soon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter what age for a male on here. Never been easy. As more used internet on phone, tablet. More members and then covid , added a lot more. Check posts from females and couples . Saying amount of mail they get each day. Some get over one hundred. Get known on forums and chat rooms. Better chance then . I have talked with couples ect but never been successful in finally meeting as I have no verification after a year so does look dodgy :/ "
Read your profile ...
You'd like to be with a couple, but only talk about the female side.... So if a couple looks at your profile, it only reads in female format - forgetting about the guy completely!
Unfortunately people like a bit of an insight, to what you are really like sexually or something about your personality.
I don't think asking someone to put a title on their message to prove they've read your profile has a high success rate - and definitely not if there's very little to go on!
I'm afraid it's you who has to be a little more 'genuine'... |
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"Find another site .This one is as bad as all the others .Fake profiles put up by the site .this is to con us blokes out of our cash ."
Sorry what?
It's a free site. Absoultely nothing says you have to pay a penny. What planet are you living on?
Just because you cant get a meet does not mean there is a conspiracy against you.
Do better, be better and go where the real swingers are. Clubs and socials. |
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Your profile seems OK, I think it's the timing, alot of fabbers are still reluctant to do meets at the moment so you are up against it.
Be patient and stay polite and be humorous, things will click eventually.
Good luck. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
"Lol the site has gone down hill so much in the past few years.
There are so many fake profiles on here as well
If you're looking for single women I'd try the website were you swipe left or right your susess rate would go up 99% that tinder thing ain’t full of genuine people I’d rather just meet a relaxed lady or couple and have plenty of fun "
I was gonna say, I've been on tinder for a bit and have never matched with anyone on there lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive seen so many "sexy" females and some couples on here in their 20s / early 30s who try to have the front they love "camming" but try to push you over to their intsgram / only fans to charge for cam shows. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
"Ive seen so many "sexy" females and some couples on here in their 20s / early 30s who try to have the front they love "camming" but try to push you over to their intsgram / only fans to charge for cam shows. "
I have an Instagram page that I used as a teasing/ body confidence thing for myself and I have a few friends that have onlyfans on there and majority of them are just normal people like everyone else. The trouble is, there are some that are fake (as most sites have anyway) and some that just wants your money but there are also some that are genuine and enjoy a good chat. Yes, it's a business at the end of the day but some are quite friendly too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive seen so many "sexy" females and some couples on here in their 20s / early 30s who try to have the front they love "camming" but try to push you over to their intsgram / only fans to charge for cam shows.
I have an Instagram page that I used as a teasing/ body confidence thing for myself and I have a few friends that have onlyfans on there and majority of them are just normal people like everyone else. The trouble is, there are some that are fake (as most sites have anyway) and some that just wants your money but there are also some that are genuine and enjoy a good chat. Yes, it's a business at the end of the day but some are quite friendly too. "
Ofcourse. But generally my point was it seems more common for the initial part this site is used to advertise and get people to pay, either for cam, only fans ect which isnt what the site was for. It doesnt bother me a si just pass these profiles and move on but my point is the site has become overloaded woth profiles who arent wanting "swinging" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP.
please take what I am about to say as constructive criticism, since that is genuinely how it’s meant.
Firstly, I read a few posts saying “it’s not you”, or “it’s timing”. To be 100% clear, it IS you. And here’s why: People on FAB are meeting. They are meeting new people as well as “known” friends. You are the common parameter in all the conversations you’ve had where they’ve come to nothing. It’s a harsh reality m, but a stand out fact snd it applies to most men here.
This being said, it’s your responsibility to do something different, to make yourself more appealing, to show yourself in a different light and to change your fortune. Whatever you’re doing right now clearly needs a review, as it isn’t working for you while it’s evidently working for others - and these are guesses, but likely problem areas - you need to be more engaging than everyone else; don’t assume everyone is up for it with a time they talk to, as most people are very selective; you need to be more open; more interesting; more approachable; more likeable; more clear on your desires; less crude than everyone else; funnier; generally more interesting than everyone else. That’s how you should approach this. The good news is, These are all things you and you alone control.
But most importantly: be nice and be you. That usually improves chances immeasurably (unless you’re Harold shipman).
The advice around joining in forums is well worth your investment of time. As is attending socials and swinging clubs.
I’d also offer this: be creative in your approach to anyone who you message. Be selective who you message. Let them know what caught your eye. Let them know about you. Be polite. Be inquisitive. Stay engaged.
Personally I’d also change your profile name. Many, but not all couples/women, seem to take an instant dislike to cock related junk, because guess what? Not every woman here is the cock-hungry monster you possibly hoped they might be (or at least not until you’ve got some of their attention! )
This truly is meant to be good advice and encouragement / it’s harsh, but I hope it helps !
Will |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
"Ive seen so many "sexy" females and some couples on here in their 20s / early 30s who try to have the front they love "camming" but try to push you over to their intsgram / only fans to charge for cam shows.
I have an Instagram page that I used as a teasing/ body confidence thing for myself and I have a few friends that have onlyfans on there and majority of them are just normal people like everyone else. The trouble is, there are some that are fake (as most sites have anyway) and some that just wants your money but there are also some that are genuine and enjoy a good chat. Yes, it's a business at the end of the day but some are quite friendly too.
Ofcourse. But generally my point was it seems more common for the initial part this site is used to advertise and get people to pay, either for cam, only fans ect which isnt what the site was for. It doesnt bother me a si just pass these profiles and move on but my point is the site has become overloaded woth profiles who arent wanting "swinging""
Yeah I get that. But to be honest, I have come across a few profiles like that and you soon learn to spot them and avoid if preferred. Usually those with Instagram or Snapchat attached may give a clue but I see your point. |
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"Read our meet maybe
Blimey you guys must be to most verified profile on here. Very impressive! Certainly fully embraced the swinging scene 
Kudos to you both xx"
I've met this hot couple, they are the real deal.  |
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"Find another site .This one is as bad as all the others .Fake profiles put up by the site .this is to con us blokes out of our cash ."
Yet you’re still here…..
Op, people do meet here. But it’s rare for a single guy to get anywhere with couples or single ladies. Your best hope is to go to a club and not be a creep! |
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"Without coming across big headed I find myself to be a good looking guy on here I’m genuine clean and keep myself looking fresh but don’t seem to be having any luck I find that this website is for the older audience it a young guy like me is finding it hard to come across a genuine couple or lady any tips you guys have for me would be appreciated.. happy fabbing"
There are thousands of fit as fuck men on site vying for the same limited single women/couples. Said couples are inundated with messages. Who do you think they'll contact? Man with selection of photos stating what he's looking for and bringing to the table, or man with one photo and a I can't be arsed, so ask what you want to know profile?
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Without coming across big headed I find myself to be a good looking guy on here I’m genuine clean and keep myself looking fresh but don’t seem to be having any luck I find that this website is for the older audience it a young guy like me is finding it hard to come across a genuine couple or lady any tips you guys have for me would be appreciated.. happy fabbing
There are thousands of fit as fuck men on site vying for the same limited single women/couples. Said couples are inundated with messages. Who do you think they'll contact? Man with selection of photos stating what he's looking for and bringing to the table, or man with one photo and a I can't be arsed, so ask what you want to know profile?
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Harsh but fair |
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If you’re relying on luck you will be sadly disappointed when the odds are stacked against you. However effort in = reward out, and trust me you have to put some serious time energy and graft in but eventually you will start making good connections. PS took me a year when I first joined to get my first meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without coming across big headed I find myself to be a good looking guy on here I’m genuine clean and keep myself looking fresh but don’t seem to be having any luck I find that this website is for the older audience it a young guy like me is finding it hard to come across a genuine couple or lady any tips you guys have for me would be appreciated.. happy fabbing"
Ive heard straight men like yourself say what helped them was visiting a few local clubs and socialising there, chatting to people etc ....seemed to help him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol the site has gone down hill so much in the past few years.
There are so many fake profiles on here as well
If you're looking for single women I'd try the website were you swipe left or right your susess rate would go up 99%
Isn't it difficult to maintain discretion with that site?"
100% not an ideal place for cheaters given its all about your face picture been sent out to women / men close to you.
A lady of a couple was caught on there by a friend of her fellas who told him. Somehow she managed to blag saying it wasn't her and someone stole her picture lol. The guy believe her so hey ho.
It's definitely not cheater friendly though just by its very design.
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"No matter what age for a male on here. Never been easy. As more used internet on phone, tablet. More members and then covid , added a lot more. Check posts from females and couples . Saying amount of mail they get each day. Some get over one hundred. Get known on forums and chat rooms. Better chance then . I have talked with couples ect but never been successful in finally meeting as I have no verification after a year so does look dodgy :/ "
But at least you are photo veried, that definitely counts for something! I would say that folk wouldn’t think too much about you not having a meet veri if you joined during last year, that’s completely understandable! Don’t give up, trust me i find it hard to get a meet too as I’m only looking for women! But I have no expectations and am enjoying the ride  |
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"Lol the site has gone down hill so much in the past few years.
There are so many fake profiles on here as well
If you're looking for single women I'd try the website were you swipe left or right your susess rate would go up 99%"
I think the problem is far too many people are joining, thinking and treating it like the site you've mentioned. |
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