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Is this becoming a cheaters site??

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So many profiles ' im married but looking for extra fun' or 'hubby dont know i play so cant just drop n meet' etc etc think its disgusting personally but each to their own!! What ever happened to faithful partners??

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

life happened I suppose we don't know their circumstances..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anything goes on a sex site, come on. Foisting morality onto a site like this is rather naive imho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one is perfect, therefore, I do not like to be the one to throw the first stones, as it will be hypocritical to do so.

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"So many profiles ' im married but looking for extra fun' or 'hubby dont know i play so cant just drop n meet' etc etc think its disgusting personally but each to their own!! What ever happened to faithful partners??"
groan.....obviously you dont think each to their own otherwise you wouldnt have started the thread on how disgusting it is

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

*Waits for the storm*

I'll admit I don't agree with cheating either, but to be honest, we just won't meet them.

Let them get on with it and look for other's who you'll be interested in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This type of site will always attract some who are cheating.

Given that a proportion of the population would judge swingers harshly, I think people should decide what they are happy with, and stick to that, without slating those doing it differently. As long as people are honest with you, their other relationships are their own business.

I learned the hard way that the situation with regard to cheating isn't always as black and white as it appears.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm, this is a sex site is it not?? If people want to stray, that is their choice! At least they are being upfront about it and gving other people the choice of whether they want to meet up with a married guy/gal!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This type of site will always attract some who are cheating.

I learned the hard way that the situation with regard to cheating isn't always as black and white as it appears. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Erm, this is a sex site is it not?? If people want to stray, that is their choice! At least they are being upfront about it and gving other people the choice of whether they want to meet up with a married guy/gal!"

well said that man x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you choose not to meet those that are married than that's your choice. It doesn't mean they, or the people that meet them deserve your judgements.

Just focus on what you enjoy and others will do the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you choose not to meet those that are married than that's your choice. It doesn't mean they, or the people that meet them deserve your judgements.

Just focus on what you enjoy and others will do the same."

Personally, a person will cheat regardless of whether there is a forum like this site. I do not care of a woman I meet is married and playing away, it is just not an issue for me. This a site for adults of a liberated nature. That does not mean condoning people ruining families, but it also does not mean judging people who have stresses/strains/ stuff going on in life that you/I may not. I have been in a bad relationship and cheated. I can't judge others who may do same x

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Anything goes on a sex site, come on. Foisting morality onto a site like this is rather naive imho."

Why is that? Should morals go out of the window as soon as you log on to a site like this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yep you are right babes we think its all wrong but like you said each to there own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love it someone using the word Faithful on a swingers site! The pope will be doing doughnuts in his popemobile if he reads that.

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

I do wish they would go to married and cheating sites x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love it someone using the word Faithful on a swingers site! The pope will be doing doughnuts in his popemobile if he reads that.

yeah, but just cos they are swingers does not mean they won't be control freak moralists hun x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

really depends on how much u wanna know about who u are fucking doesnt it?-If someone started questioning ur actual relationship(lets see marriage certs,wedding pics etc),I'm sure theyd be told to gettaefuck.

Now if ur looking for a less than sexually based relationship from (i.e a couple), and u want repeated meets, hang outs,holidays etc...well yes its important to have that trust I suppose.

if u like one offs, gangbangs,orgies etc...would u be wasting ur time asking every cock n pussy, if they have a partner and judge them before they even start fucking?

my personal stance: I'm fucking people..having limited friendships based around sex..I have no business interfering in other peoples lives, just as they wont to mine.

when I had/have a 'proper' partner, I've never cheated..I find it pointless and would rather go single.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I love it someone using the word Faithful on a swingers site! The pope will be doing doughnuts in his popemobile if he reads that.

yeah, but just cos they are swingers does not mean they won't be control freak moralists hun x"

Are you not as bad... putting them down for expressing their beliefs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anything goes on a sex site, come on. Foisting morality onto a site like this is rather naive imho.

Why is that? Should morals go out of the window as soon as you log on to a site like this?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm probably WAY out here and will get accused of not knowing what i'm talking about, BUT!!

I was brought up thinking 'being faithful' meant only having sex with your partner! So, when someone on a SEX SITE moans about others not 'being faithful' that sounds a wee bit holier than thou to me! Especially when said person is part of a couple on the site!

As i said tho, i'l prob get shot down for dy comment but it's just my opinion!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I do wish they would go to married and cheating sites x"

It would make sense wouldn't it.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The last time I looked this was fabswingers... a sex related site it may well be, but a specific type of sex site rather than just a generic sex site.

The ethos of swinging is about couples being honest and open with eachother, allowing with full permission others into their sexual relationship as guests. Cheating is not swinging by any stretch of the imagination.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do wish they would go to married and cheating sites x

It would make sense wouldn't it."

Are there such sites? I've never heard of one. Then again, I've never been married and cheating, and have never been in the position of looking for someone to cheat with.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I do wish they would go to married and cheating sites x

It would make sense wouldn't it.

Are there such sites? I've never heard of one. Then again, I've never been married and cheating, and have never been in the position of looking for someone to cheat with.

Yep, plenty of them.

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By *ayb1970Man over a year ago

Somerset

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i'm sure there are many different reasons people come on here

guess its good they up front about it but not for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

faithful does imply sex with just that one person, which is fundamentally boring if you ask me x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this site is for married and single people...........er...I'm sure a few wouldnt mind some polygamy/monogamy of sorts....they are often the ones described as 'unrealistic'...possibly 'stalkers'...maybe 'unbalanced' and even 'deeplyinloveafterafewmeets'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The last time I looked this was fabswingers... a sex related site it may well be, but a specific type of sex site rather than just a generic sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"faithful does imply sex with just that one person, which is fundamentally boring if you ask me x"

Faithful is personal to each couple. For me it would be anything without my knowledge. However in our relationship it is a case of master is free to do as he wishes and I ask permission but that's just our dynamics.

To some watching porn is being unfaithful, to others that's normal.

Faithful does not always mean sex with one person.

As to the op, it maybe not your thing but to me it's none of my concern. I for quick meets prefer married guys. Even had one I went to there house and we had loads of fun on the bed and sorry but it actually made it more dirty for me.

I've been cheated on and wasn't actually end of the world. And I've cheated but not been caught but did come clean once or twice. It was fun. It was naughty and it was a thrill.

Did I worry about implications ? Not really. It's not my business. If my man cheats I'd look at my faults and see if it's something I need to change or just accept it.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think its a good thing to be cheating on your partner, but i know what its like to be sex starved and bored out of my mind.

I dont think much of people who brag about cheating on their partners and make light of it though.

Then again though, they may have good reason to, you dont know what they have to put up with.

its easy to judge but nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, you dont know a person until you live with them.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

come back and say that when you been married to the same man 39 years sexless for 20..

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

This old chestnut again,still the same old people trying to justify cheating on the person they're supposed to love.Easy to say its ok until the shoes on the other foot ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This old chestnut again,still the same old people trying to justify cheating on the person they're supposed to love.Easy to say its ok until the shoes on the other foot ..."

I'm neither justifying it or condoning it..I just feel it's none of my business what others choose to do as I don't know their reasons for doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you choose not to meet those that are married than that's your choice. It doesn't mean they, or the people that meet them deserve your judgements.

Just focus on what you enjoy and others will do the same.

Couldn't have said it better myself

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

And for the record I was totally and absolutely faithful for 30 of those years. He was also my first sex partner .Just because im here still doesnt mean I am cheating either.

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By *--Cinders---Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

doesnt bother me if a person is cheating, not my problem..I do think its great that the person is honest enough to admit it, lots lie on here about age, etc..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This old chestnut again,still the same old people trying to justify cheating on the person they're supposed to love.Easy to say its ok until the shoes on the other foot ..."

And still the same old people with the 'holier than thou' attidude!! Why do people think its ok to dig into other peoples lifes and then start slating them?

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"I'm probably WAY out here and will get accused of not knowing what i'm talking about, BUT!!

As i said tho, i'l prob get shot down for dy comment but it's just my opinion!

Oh yes as was I .. get married and live with and cleave only unto him .. something along those lines.. Not get married or partner and have sex with all and sundry for the rest of that relationship albeit with someones knowledge. But of course swinging is a choice you take also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I arrange a meet with someone while he is still attached, for the meet to take place in the future when he is single, does that make me a bad person for encouraging him to cheat?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I arrange a meet with someone while he is still attached, for the meet to take place in the future when he is single, does that make me a bad person for encouraging him to cheat?!

makes you very, very bad and you need a good hard sh*g as punishment!!

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"If I arrange a meet with someone while he is still attached, for the meet to take place in the future when he is single, does that make me a bad person for encouraging him to cheat?!

No . it is also not clear that you encouraged him. If his relationship was over when you first met then as time progressed he divorced you arent cheating

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By *iggusJimusMan over a year ago

Accrington

Just to skew the discussion ever so slightly... what is people's opinion on someone meeting separately from their partner, but with their parner's permission? Hypothetically of course LOL

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

"doesnt bother me if a person is cheating, not my problem..I do think its great that the person is honest enough to admit it, lots lie on here about age, etc.."

Lying about age is massively different to lying about being married!

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

"Just to skew the discussion ever so slightly... what is people's opinion on someone meeting separately from their partner, but with their parner's permission? Hypothetically of course LOL"

Then its not cheating as the partner is aware of it and fine with it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to skew the discussion ever so slightly... what is people's opinion on someone meeting separately from their partner, but with their parner's permission? Hypothetically of course LOL"

we had a guy the other day that said that he and his wife had open relationship and she was more than happy for him to play. So, asked him if his wife would like to phone to confirm this...got deleted and blocked! Lmao

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By *iggusJimusMan over a year ago

Accrington

You were obviously way to pushy then lol

I would be fine with someone speaking to my wife... Just saying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You were obviously way to pushy then lol

I would be fine with someone speaking to my wife... Just saying

Me pushy!! Hahaaa. He was the one pushing us to meet..i'd already said we were not comfortable meeting married men no matter how open their marriage was..but he continued so thought I'd just see how open his relationship really was. Lol

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By *iggusJimusMan over a year ago

Accrington

And therein lies the difference. If you don't meet married people that's your choice. Like anything... if someone can't take no for an answer... block the fecker LOL

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I do wish they would go to married and cheating sites x

It would make sense wouldn't it.

Are there such sites? I've never heard of one. Then again, I've never been married and cheating, and have never been in the position of looking for someone to cheat with.

yes there are.... loads... problem is they normally charge people for the privilege so hence why they come here.....

a lot of people can justify it because they try not to think of the other person..... when that person becomes a voice on the phone, or heaven forbid face to face.... you tell them its just a sex site.......

I have been cheated on and the last thing she was thinking of as she was bouncing up and down on him was me......

but heck... strange sort of honesty when you can be truthful to a stranger to get your leg over... but not to the person you profess to love more than any other in the whole world!!!

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

And how do you know for a fact they aren't being honest with their partner? and maybe if people paid attention to their own relationships rather than moaning about other peoples, they might have realised all was not well at home!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All theses idiots on the site who cheat on their partners will get a taste of their own medicine one day.

If your unhappily married get a divorce or if you have a girlfriend ect leave them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"All theses idiots on the site who cheat on their partners will get a taste of their own medicine one day.

If your unhappily married get a divorce or if you have a girlfriend ect leave them. "

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By *win PeaksCouple over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"The last time I looked this was fabswingers... a sex related site it may well be, but a specific type of sex site rather than just a generic sex site.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

just a question... is that what you would say in the face of the 3rd person? because i can guess exactly what reaction you would get....

for me... If someone is married and whats to play with me... I talk to both partners before doing anything, I know its a radical idea, works for me....

If I can't then I dont.... for me swinging is honesty....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think it is BECOMING a cheaters site, I dare say there has always been an element of it and there always will be.

And couples cheat too - it is not purely down to the single members.

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

Because their partner cannot confirm that they are meeting with consent and ok with it.

If all is not well at home then the smart ones will do something about it wether it be get out stay or maybe even be honest with their partner and have a discussion about what needs to happen and then get on with it.

Those that dont have the vocabulary or abilty to sort it come on swinging sites and cheat. Sorry but if your going behind your partners back (am speaking generally) either sort it, change it accept it or get out but dont winge and blame it on the persin your not being honest with.

It amazes me how people just are unable to communicate and have respect for the one they are supposed to be honest with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

just a question... is that what you would say in the face of the 3rd person? because i can guess exactly what reaction you would get....

for me... If someone is married and whats to play with me... I talk to both partners before doing anything, I know its a radical idea, works for me....

If I can't then I dont.... for me swinging is honesty...."

The original op said "too many profiles stating married/got partner"! This is a sex site with the option of choosing who you would like to meet and then mailing them for that meet or not!

Heres a radical thought!!

Don't mail/meet them if they aren't up to your standards!! Either block them or ignore them!

All the holier than thou brigade coming onto the forums and dictating to other people they shouldn't be here gets a bit boring after the umpteenth post!!

IF i was married/had a partner, and someone on here asked me if they could speak to her for whatever reason, they would be told to get to fuck!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

just a question... is that what you would say in the face of the 3rd person? because i can guess exactly what reaction you would get....

for me... If someone is married and whats to play with me... I talk to both partners before doing anything, I know its a radical idea, works for me....

If I can't then I dont.... for me swinging is honesty....

The original op said "too many profiles stating married/got partner"! This is a sex site with the option of choosing who you would like to meet and then mailing them for that meet or not!

Heres a radical thought!!

Don't mail/meet them if they aren't up to your standards!! Either block them or ignore them!

All the holier than thou brigade coming onto the forums and dictating to other people they shouldn't be here gets a bit boring after the umpteenth post!!

IF i was married/had a partner, and someone on here asked me if they could speak to her for whatever reason, they would be told to get to fuck!!

All of us holier than brigade have morals sweetheart and ever heard of freedom of speech.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not quite sure why hes getting worked up when hes a single guy! Lol

Or is he?? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

just a question... is that what you would say in the face of the 3rd person? because i can guess exactly what reaction you would get....

for me... If someone is married and whats to play with me... I talk to both partners before doing anything, I know its a radical idea, works for me....

If I can't then I dont.... for me swinging is honesty....

The original op said "too many profiles stating married/got partner"! This is a sex site with the option of choosing who you would like to meet and then mailing them for that meet or not!

Heres a radical thought!!

Don't mail/meet them if they aren't up to your standards!! Either block them or ignore them!

All the holier than thou brigade coming onto the forums and dictating to other people they shouldn't be here gets a bit boring after the umpteenth post!!

IF i was married/had a partner, and someone on here asked me if they could speak to her for whatever reason, they would be told to get to fuck!!

All of us holier than brigade have morals sweetheart and ever heard of freedom of speech."

Lol, exactly! Hence my post! Or am i not allowed access to that freedom of speech then? Sweetheart!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not quite sure why hes getting worked up when hes a single guy! Lol

Or is he?? lol"

Just keeping the discussion going!! Thats what the forums are for aren't they?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So who is likely to be the most hurt if they find out that their partner is cheating ?

The person who is happily married and blissfully unaware of the 'carrying on' behind their back ? OR

The person who is happily married, has what they believe is an open and tolerant sexual relationship with their partner, who ,because they have the 'openness and honesty', believes that their partner will never stray sexually wihout their knowledge / consent ?

It happens and not just with singles.

I think I am now up to 5 people who have contacted me off couples profiles for a bit of 'extra' and all because the partner they are open and honest with doesn't know they are bi-sexual.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

IF i was married/had a partner, and someone on here asked me if they could speak to her for whatever reason, they would be told to get to fuck!!

and if you play with a married person knowing they are playing away without consent and anything the happens you are as complicit in that as they are... then that person deserves no more sympathy in whatever consequence arise than anyone else....

you may look at it as a simple sex site... I look at it as a swinging site.. there may not be a difference for you but there is for me!...

yes its is the sex that originally brings people here, but for me it is a sense of community that keeps me here... and part of that community is based on honesty, trust, and not intentionally hurting people (who are here or not) in the activities that I may partake in...

you may call my view "hollier than thou".... I may call that of your view as well.... but the two things I will get out of my swinging is fun, and the fact that my conscience will be clear in the fun than I have.....

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Edin I have been using these sites happily for over 5 years now and have posted in the forums alot on a variety of subjects. Everyone has their own life choices and as long as it works for them then they will stick with it I guess.

If a man wouldnt allow me to check he was playing with consent I would draw my own conclusions. That is the good thing with being able to choose who to meet.

I always love the holier (prob cant spell it) comnents. I dont think anyone is saying they are better than others but its everyones choice. You choose to lie cheat or be honest. The single people who do start quoting that phrase do make me wonder tho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not quite sure why hes getting worked up when hes a single guy! Lol

Or is he?? lol

Just keeping the discussion going!! Thats what the forums are for aren't they?

Yup lol..im backing out now tho cus when i air my views i get put on the naughty step

lips are zipped

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my wife's wondering why I'm getting so uptight about this facebook game..BRB...gotta go cuddle her

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By *rokengirlWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

Really makes me chuckle how one of the most outspoken makes against married people on this thread is somebody who I know has played with married girl playing without consent... Very funny!!

Also lot of cpls and single girls saying cheating is disgusting look at how many 'single guys' you have met that can't accommodate! I guarantee a good percentage of them have a partner who is not aware of fab but the person is trying to pass then self off as singe.

Sorry but nobody can judge anyone unless you know what happens behind closed doors... If you don't like attached people simple answer is don't meet them and move along why get so wound up.., plenty of people on this site to meet everyone's wants and tastes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

IF i was married/had a partner, and someone on here asked me if they could speak to her for whatever reason, they would be told to get to fuck!!

you may look at it as a simple sex site... I look at it as a swinging site.. there may not be a difference for you but there is for me!...

So, you mean everyone has the choice whether to meet a married person or not??

If you actually quoted my whole post, (and not just the last paragraph that suitf your comment) you will find that is exactly what i said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my wife's wondering why I'm getting so uptight about this facebook game..BRB...gotta go cuddle her

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By *woBiTwoCouple over a year ago

north manchester

Oh, ffs, give it a rest. This isn't a religious community, it's a website where strangers meet for NSA sex. Who gives a flying fuck what the back story is? Do you fancy fucking them? Nuff said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have now been on both sides of the fence. Can see most people's points of view, but it's not nice when you're the injured party.

It has made me think about how I treat swinging. There's no easy answer and it's not black and white.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh, ffs, give it a rest. This isn't a religious community, it's a website where strangers meet for NSA sex. Who gives a flying fuck what the back story is? Do you fancy fucking them? Nuff said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All theses idiots on the site who cheat on their partners will get a taste of their own medicine one day.

If your unhappily married get a divorce or if you have a girlfriend ect leave them. "

Wise up! NOTHING in life is black and white. If it was, there'd be no couples profiles on this site!

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By *EXY50ishWoman over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

Anything goes on a sex site, come on. Foisting morality onto a site like this is rather naive imho."

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By *EXY50ishWoman over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

Great quote run. A sexless marriage is no fun. But sex isn't everything so if you can get that elsewhere why not. ???. Think those that are so judgmental should Google the word ADULTERY !!!!

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By *EXY50ishWoman over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Edin I quoted the last forum post of yours I read. I havent sat and read every single post...it takes ages on my phone to do it.

Sorry if you didnt like any certain bit of my post or any bit I did or didnt quote. Lifes too short for me to worry about it fraid. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Normally stay of out the "married cheating" posts !!

But it's simple if you dont agree with cheating people on here then don't chat to them!! No one is forcing you to meet them!

It's their life so let them get on with it!!

We don't agree with cheaters but then who are we to judge!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Edin I quoted the last forum post of yours I read. I havent sat and read every single post...it takes ages on my phone to do it.

Sorry if you didnt like any certain bit of my post or any bit I did or didnt quote. Lifes too short for me to worry about it fraid. x"

My post wasn't aimed at you _ruit!!

It was for someone else that used the last paragraph of my post to suit their own comment!

Sorry if there was any mis-understanding!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Some people don’t give a shit about the impact their bit of fun has on other people…. some people do.

Some people are selfish in terms of ‘as long as I get what I want, I’m alright Jack’…. other people aren’t or at least try not to be.

Some people don’t mind if the person they want to shag needs to lie to someone they are meant to care about in order to meet them…. other people would sooner avoid being part of that situation.

Some people think you chuck your moral code down the drain when you join a site like this… some don't.... and it is very apparent some barely had a moral code in the first place.

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Some people do care about the back story. Others dont give a monkeys. I know which I will avoid.

To some is just a fuck and who cares about the background. Maybe those just looking for a fuck shouldnt bother asking to see face pics etc....after all its just a fuck. As long ad they have the correct genetalia required what difference does how they look make if it is just a fuck. Others do care what the person looks like and the chemistry and why they swing. The honest discussion and then also about the fuck in the end.

Each to their own choice x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

..You could just move on to the next profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people don’t give a shit about the impact their bit of fun has on other people…. some people do.

Some people are selfish in terms of ‘as long as I get what I want, I’m alright Jack’…. other people aren’t or at least try not to be.

Some people don’t mind if the person they want to shag needs to lie to someone they are meant to care about in order to meet them…. other people would sooner avoid being part of that situation.

Some people think you chuck your moral code down the drain when you join a site like this… some don't.... and it is very apparent some barely had a moral code in the first place.

Moral code!! Lol.

So its not ok for joe bloggs (who's married, but his wife maybe has a degenaritive condition which means they can't have sex, but they love each other and he doesn't want her to find out he has a fwb) to have a bit of fun!!

BUT, it's ok for some guy to sit in a corner and direct some strange guy who is taking his missus up the ass!!!

Some moral code your taking about!!

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By *lexaWoman over a year ago

southampton

As others have said already - who are we to judge on a site like this - get real.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Some people don’t give a shit about the impact their bit of fun has on other people…. some people do.

Some people are selfish in terms of ‘as long as I get what I want, I’m alright Jack’…. other people aren’t or at least try not to be.

Some people don’t mind if the person they want to shag needs to lie to someone they are meant to care about in order to meet them…. other people would sooner avoid being part of that situation.

Some people think you chuck your moral code down the drain when you join a site like this… some don't.... and it is very apparent some barely had a moral code in the first place.

Moral code!! Lol.

BUT, it's ok for some guy to sit in a corner and direct some strange guy who is taking his missus up the ass!!!

Some moral code your taking about!!

When you understand the words we can talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is no law stopping people cheating on their partner, being married does not turn anyone into property, plus it’s a free country.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Y put disgusting, then back peddle to each to their own? I'm on here as a single bi fem , cos that's wot I am , are the people ur talking about displaying the wrong profile? Maybe u should walk a mile in their shoes! No offence meant btw

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"There is no law stopping people cheating on their partner, being married does not turn anyone into property, plus it’s a free country.

I just hope that's not the best someone can come up with when you are asking them "please tell me why you did it?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people don’t give a shit about the impact their bit of fun has on other people…. some people do.

Some people are selfish in terms of ‘as long as I get what I want, I’m alright Jack’…. other people aren’t or at least try not to be.

Some people don’t mind if the person they want to shag needs to lie to someone they are meant to care about in order to meet them…. other people would sooner avoid being part of that situation.

Some people think you chuck your moral code down the drain when you join a site like this… some don't.... and it is very apparent some barely had a moral code in the first place.

Moral code!! Lol.

BUT, it's ok for some guy to sit in a corner and direct some strange guy who is taking his missus up the ass!!!

Some moral code your taking about!!

When you understand the words we can talk about it."

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are not always up front about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

Oh I got it.... I got that you don't seem able to present a structured logical view point without dismissing other people's perspective with a tossed in comment whether it is actually appropriate to the post you are replying to or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

Ye, ye!! So what post have i made that hasn't been appropriate to this thread??

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

The joe bloggs with his wife who is unable to have sex.....that scenario.....I see your point. What she doesnt know about doesnt hurt her?!

My dads health condition meant after being married to my mum for 45 years or so he finally couldnt manage to have sex anymore. They tried all options but nothing worked. After many conversations mum and dad have gone without sex since then. Mum decided that if dad wasnt able to she would go without too. They had a very healthy sex life til his health issues.

My point is mum deserved a bit of fun but she would rather miss out and not have "a bit of fun" til the day they die. That was her choice. In your scenario your Joe Bloggs decided not to go without. Mum and dad discussed when his health began to decline what they would both do and they both decided together.

If your other scenarios man is directing another man to fuck his wife and she is happy and consenting then fine. If not then it isnt fine.

Its amazing what communucation can do x

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Some people don’t give a shit about the impact their bit of fun has on other people…. some people do.

Some people are selfish in terms of ‘as long as I get what I want, I’m alright Jack’…. other people aren’t or at least try not to be.

Some people don’t mind if the person they want to shag needs to lie to someone they are meant to care about in order to meet them…. other people would sooner avoid being part of that situation.

Some people think you chuck your moral code down the drain when you join a site like this… some don't.... and it is very apparent some barely had a moral code in the first place.

better said than I could say it.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thing with this is there are always going to be cheats and people that will be the other person.

If you think it's wrong then that is your right. Same as I know that many people outside this world would find what we do on here as cheating.

I don't see why those on either side of this discussion have to play the morale game as morales are different from person to person.

Cali

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

Ye, ye!! So what post have i made that hasn't been appropriate to this thread??"

Oh you make me laugh

Try reading it again.... and look at the words this time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The joe bloggs with his wife who is unable to have sex.....that scenario.....I see your point. What she doesnt know about doesnt hurt her?!

If your other scenarios man is directing another man to fuck his wife and she is happy and consenting then fine. If not then it isnt fine.

Its amazing what communucation can do x"

Erm, i was trying (probably badly) to describe two differing scenarios where someones idea of 'moral codes' may differ from someone elses!

I was replying to a post, so it was actually 'appropriate' to a post wasn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

..that is not for us to judge. Everyone is on here for their own reasons. Who are we to question the reasoning for them being here or wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

Ye, ye!! So what post have i made that hasn't been appropriate to this thread??

Oh you make me laugh

Try reading it again.... and look at the words this time."

So, in other words, you have read back on all the posts and been unable to find one in which i have just 'tossed in a comment'??

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Thing with this is there are always going to be cheats and people that will be the other person.

If you think it's wrong then that is your right. Same as I know that many people outside this world would find what we do on here as cheating.

I don't see why those on either side of this discussion have to play the morale game as morales are different from person to person.

Cali"

Which is why "this is a sex site" isn't really a great arguement.... especially when tied with a comment implying morals have no place on here.

After all, it is an individual's moral code which hopefully stops them kicking the shit out of a meet when they have finished fucking them..... but I am guessing not too many would be as please if that one was thrown out of the window.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

Ye, ye!! So what post have i made that hasn't been appropriate to this thread??

Oh you make me laugh

Try reading it again.... and look at the words this time.

So, in other words, you have read back on all the posts and been unable to find one in which i have just 'tossed in a comment'??

You prove my point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, i understand the words ok!!

I just find it difficult to find that when certain people find that not everyone on the forums don't agree with them they resort to the old "moral code" fallback!!

As opposed to falling back on the 'holier than tho' do you mean?

Exactly!! Now you've got it!

Ye, ye!! So what post have i made that hasn't been appropriate to this thread??

Oh you make me laugh

Try reading it again.... and look at the words this time.

So, in other words, you have read back on all the posts and been unable to find one in which i have just 'tossed in a comment'??

You prove my point."

Glad to be of assistance!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bananananas!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree that saying it's a sex site isn't an argument. My moral code may not match others but for me I have things I won't do, things that are very wrong to me. Yet to someone else they may think why can I do one thing but find something else appalling.

But we all have our own guides to that. What is right for one won't be right for all.

Cali

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"..You could just move on to the next profile."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Bloody hell didnt mean to start world war 3 just making a personal point dont think we will bother in future so much bickering i didnt think this was a sex site but a swingers site and in my mind there IS a difference, i have been cheated on after a very long relationship so i know the pain it sends EDINGUY this isnt the first time youve been assy with us if your entitled to your opinon why arent others allowed theirs!

I for one am gonna give the forums a miss now or at least go to another section where people dont get so down right up themselves

Nuff said

Ta ta

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bloody hell didnt mean to start world war 3 just making a personal point dont think we will bother in future so much bickering i didnt think this was a sex site but a swingers site and in my mind there IS a difference, i have been cheated on after a very long relationship so i know the pain it sends EDINGUY this isnt the first time youve been assy with us if your entitled to your opinon why arent others allowed theirs!

I for one am gonna give the forums a miss now or at least go to another section where people dont get so down right up themselves

Nuff said

Ta ta"

Erm, why pick my name out of the LONG list of people that disagreed with you??

Tsk tsk! Some people just have no morals whatsoever!!

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By *a petite madameWoman over a year ago

London / Essex

"All theses idiots on the site who cheat on their partners will get a taste of their own medicine one day.

If your unhappily married get a divorce or if you have a girlfriend ect leave them. "

life isn't so clear cut

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Cause weve read alot and i mean alot o your posts and you seem to shoot an awful lot of people down for their views like YOURS IS THE ONLY ONE THAT COUNTS not!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cause weve read alot and i mean alot o your posts and you seem to shoot an awful lot of people down for their views like YOURS IS THE ONLY ONE THAT COUNTS not!!"

Erm, maybe thats because i don't agree with what you posted, and they do! Hence, i have differing views from them!! Doesn't take a lot to work that out does it??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Read every post on here & thought I'd add my situation.

Married to a lovely lady whom I met whilst married. Was naked on her bed & I backed out. I then discovered my wife had an affair with my best mate, I was devestated. After 2 months of trying to fix a broken marriage we divorced.

Have now been married to that lovely lady I met for almost 11 years. We visited sex clubs & had socials together a cpl of years back. She decided that it's not fit her.

She is however, happy for me to play on my own. As long as she knows where I'm going, but does not want any details.

We have a very good sex life & marriage. She's happy to confirm I can play. However, to some, it's still cheating & won't meet married men.

Each to their own, it works for us.

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By *he Original TTMan over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

OK, so how many that have posted on here have been the one being 'cheated on'? Probably very few - I have, and trust me, it's a bitter pill to swallow at first.

However....

I then started to realise that it was an appealing thought. We discussed it and set up a couples profile. We had a number of meets, but that soon dwindled. She continued to meet as a single, and that became the be all and end all to her, to the detriment of our marriage.

You will notice that I am writing this on here. I decided to come back as a single as I enjoy it here. She's still here too. We are both getting what we want, just not together. We would probably have split up anyway, but now we both have full and rich sex lives thanks to Fabs and it's members.

So please stop moralising peeps - it is irrelevant and unless you HAVE been there, your comments are at best speculative...

Peace!

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By *helmercpleCouple over a year ago

Chelmsford

Going back to the original point this site is called FABSWINGERS not FABCHEATERS. There is a big difference between a swinger and a cheater. This is not a "sex site" it is a site for swingers to amongst other things arrange to have sex. If you think it amounts to the same thing then you are missing out what swinging is all about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have always been faithful and would never cheat on my partner i guess my morals count for nothing these days i have a dislike for cheaters on account that i have been cheated on noone especially me was trying to take the'moral highground' i guess i was raised slightly different to some people who are happy to cheat and have no disregard for whoever they hurt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Going back to the original point this site is called FABSWINGERS not FABCHEATERS. There is a big difference between a swinger and a cheater. This is not a "sex site" it is a site for swingers to amongst other things arrange to have sex. If you think it amounts to the same thing then you are missing out what swinging is all about. "

Thank you my point exactly how it was meant

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Fabio I agree with you....the profiles say that they are married but at least be honest about it......find that hilarious. Strange they can be honest to strangers but not to the person married too.

If alls not well at home then why not spend time at home trying to fix,rather than time on a swingers site looking for sex ? Btw nothing to do with being holy we're honest and truthful something that you need to be in a relationship to nake it work...

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By *pl- capdagdeCouple over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

If we went by what swingings about there would be no singles anyway,because like i said in a previous thread sometime ago swinging is a term that was given for couples exchanging partners.. But we won't start that one off again..

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"I have always been faithful and would never cheat on my partner i guess my morals count for nothing these days i have a dislike for cheaters on account that i have been cheated on noone especially me was trying to take the'moral highground' i guess i was raised slightly different to some people who are happy to cheat and have no disregard for whoever they hurt"

You arent the only one here with morals you know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This old chestnut again,still the same old people trying to justify cheating on the person they're supposed to love.Easy to say its ok until the shoes on the other foot ..."

I've been cheated on. In fact my last ex left me for another woman. So I know how it feels to have the shoe on the other foot. The only thing that I got annoyed and upset about was that he dealt with the kids badly.

However I strongly think that if someone cheats there is a reason and that in most cases both parties have some blame. In my case it's normally been I'm to sexually orientated.

Is cheating right? Well not sure I ever said it was right just that it doesn't bother me. I have to say I do sometimes get a thrill from doing something that is a little naughty. Do I think about the other woman? Not really sorry but I'm there for pleasure. Is it morally misguided? Maybe but it is something that I lose no sleep over.

If master cheated on me yes I'd be devastated and it would break my heart but I'd know there was a reason. I honestly think that if you meet the right one you won't stray. As a once serial cheater I now could not cheat.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You arent the only one here with morals you know.

Didnt suggest for one minute hunny that i was i know there are loads with the same opinion and morals

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Life may not always be black and white, but nevertheless we do have choices to make.

When people find themselves on a road where they are not happy with their sex life, whether this is because it has fizzled away or still have an active sex life but fancy a bit extra, they have a choice.

No person is forced to cheat… it is a choice.

There are some people on here who chose the turning signposted ‘Honesty’. They talked to their partner about their needs and desires and over time work out a solution. Seeking permission and attaining it is not cheating as there is no deception. I respect these people and feel their determination to take the right route rather than the easy route deserves admiration.

There are some who chose the turning signposted ‘Dishonesty’. They haven’t sought and attained permission from their partner, they just think they’ll never get caught… they are cheating. Cheats will have a 101 reasons why they have chosen to cheat. But the simple fact is, they didn’t choose the route signposted ‘Honesty’ …. and we know that turning does exist as others have taken it. Some may even say they didn’t want to seek permission because of the stress and upset it would cause their partner… but could this stress and upset really be greater than the upset when they are caught cheating? Oops I forget… they don’t think they will be caught. How can I possibly assume this is what they think? Well I doubt many people would cheat if they believed they would be caught… if they did and still cheated what sort of selfish twat does that make them? It may be just my opinion but the ‘Dishonesty’ route is taken by cowards, liars and selfish cuntfucks.

Then there are the ‘extremely rare’ exceptions. There are people who through accident or illness it is not possible to seek and attain permission from their partner. Where there is a degenerative disorder and the primary role of partner turns into the role of carer as they watch the person they love slowly disappear. There is a point at which it is certainly questionable if the original relationship still exists. I do have empathy for those who find themselves in this limbo. I do not have empathy for those who choose to cheat prior to this point and certainly in the early stages, if anything I wonder how heartless someone would need to be whilst coming to terms with the inevitable future of their loved one and still be working out how to get a blow job on the side.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Completey agree we all have choices

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Polo what a lovely post.

To others saying at least they are upront with it.......ok sorry I forgot that makes it all ok lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest a woman playing away turns me on

Ready

Aim

Fire

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By *ruitWoman over a year ago

near kings lynn

Another for the block list x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh, ffs, give it a rest. This isn't a religious community, it's a website where strangers meet for NSA sex. Who gives a flying fuck what the back story is? Do you fancy fucking them? Nuff said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another for the block list x"

Each to there own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Another for the block list x"

There is a post going on in another forum somewhere called 'women who block people for not agreeing with them and probably had no hope of meeting said people anyway'!!

Why not nick over to that one and see if you can add to that ever growing list?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People in glass houses......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont ban married men.

if it wasnt for them, i wouldnt be getting as much sex.

you have to look after number one in this life, and i dont care what anyone says, that is what most people do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I block when I have no intention of knowing the person/people, and not just because he/she/they do not agree with me on whatever topic of discussion.

I am not so shallow in believe I am always right and everything else is wrong, unlike some people on here who believe their words are gospel/law which must be obeyed!

Yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont ban married men.

if it wasnt for them, i wouldnt be getting as much sex.

you have to look after number one in this life, and i dont care what anyone says, that is what most people do."

It may sound cold but as long as they meet what I am looking for.. there background doesnt bother me.. Only time married and playing away gets given a wide birth is when looking for a regular as we prefer them ready at most times..

not having to sneak out.

However I think that my club nights would be _ruitless without married guys as most guys attending seem to be attached.

In fact I sometimes count the wedding rings in my photos.. many of my gangbangs everyone has a single male profile and everyone of them has a wedding ring on.

Cali

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By *its The Spot AlotMan over a year ago

Plymouth

"This type of site will always attract some who are cheating.

I learned the hard way that the situation with regard to cheating isn't always as black and white as it appears. "

Well said, I totally agree!

Maybe another way would be not to disclosed weather married,single, playing with permission, in a relationship, etc.

it gets a bit complicated when its simple its a swinging site !!!!

couples playing singles playing ALL having fun ive had some say there cheating but there not its just there roll play fantasy fun fun fun !!

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Polo what a lovely post.

To others saying at least they are upront with it.......ok sorry I forgot that makes it all ok lol

the issue is there are people who say they dont care that someone is playing away without the knowledge of their partner who will say it on here for bluster/bravado... but if that person was in front of the face.... they would deny all knowledge, slink away and say they didn't know...

there is a difference between someone being ballsy behind a computer, and for example, someone being ballsy in front on a very angry person......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Polo what a lovely post.

To others saying at least they are upront with it.......ok sorry I forgot that makes it all ok lol

there is a difference between someone being ballsy behind a computer, and for example, someone being ballsy in front on a very angry person......"

Well, just as long as i'm ballsy deep i couldn't give a toss i'm afraid!!

If i choose to meet a married lass for some extra curricular activities, that is MY choice!

And if she wants said activities, that is HER choice!

And whats the magic word here?? Thats right, its CHOICE!!!

Its up to each individual to choose what they want to do! Not to be dictated by others what they feel we should be doing!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not really any of your business if people are cheating on their partners tbf.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

have to admit I found myself agreeing with Polo on various points.

This is a Swingers Site and not a Sex Site and it just seems that a lot of people are now forgetting there is a difference.

If someone is 'playing away' that is a matter for them as long as they are honest with me about it as it gives me the choice of taking things further or not. And that IS my choice.

I have no wish to have an irate husband on my doorstep and be named in a divorce case having thought I was playing with a single lady. Its basically dishonest and I thought one of the precepts of Swinging was honesty?

When I was married I was totally faithful. She wasn't and it hurt like nothing else when I found out and I would hate to be part of doing that to another man so one of the pleasures of swinging as a single bloke with couples is knowing I am not hurting another man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Polo what a lovely post.

To others saying at least they are upront with it.......ok sorry I forgot that makes it all ok lol

there is a difference between someone being ballsy behind a computer, and for example, someone being ballsy in front on a very angry person......"

Always spot on ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm… how's about receiving a very angry/traumatic phonecall from a wife… has happened to me & it was awful!! Hadn't even met him! Told me he was single… I make it clear on my profile who i'll meet/not meet now - funny how my mail has slowed right down!! Ha so I guess the majority of men in this area ARE cheats…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well said that man x

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hmmm… how's about receiving a very angry/traumatic phonecall from a wife… has happened to me & it was awful!! Hadn't even met him! Told me he was single… I make it clear on my profile who i'll meet/not meet now - funny how my mail has slowed right down!! Ha so I guess the majority of men in this area ARE cheats… "

that was my nanna on the phone when u called...honest...I'm single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Problems only begin when the other half finds out and they'd like 'a chat'.

Sure pal, with you and 6 of your mates?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Problems only begin when the other half finds out and they'd like 'a chat'.

Sure pal, with you and 6 of your mates?

could be a bi-sexual gangbang..ur in luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that was my nanna on the phone when u called...honest...I'm single"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmm so you see yourself as faithful !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suppose its just an opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally agree with you!! BUT, the original post is about profiles that state they are married and playing away from home!

Hence, they are giving the reader of their profile the choice to meet or not! They aren't hiding the fact that they are married!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmm so you see yourself as faithful !

faithful would mean being faithful in the manner that as a couple they dont play behind peoples back...its not to be confused with fucking other people without consent....I dunno why many cannot grasp this concept.

I'm neither here nor there in my judgments but I know what cheating is, no matter how u dress it up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmm so you see yourself as faithful !

I'd say that I'm faithful to master . Having sex with others with consent doesn't make me unfaithful. However whether it be sex behind your partners back or with consent it is still technically classed as adultery and the law sees no difference between swinging and cheating.

I don't think though that being faithful has anything to do with sex with others though. As what constitutes being faithful differs from couple to couple.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Polo what a lovely post.

To others saying at least they are upront with it.......ok sorry I forgot that makes it all ok lol

there is a difference between someone being ballsy behind a computer, and for example, someone being ballsy in front on a very angry person......

Well, just as long as i'm ballsy deep i couldn't give a toss i'm afraid!!

If i choose to meet a married lass for some extra curricular activities, that is MY choice!

And if she wants said activities, that is HER choice!

And whats the magic word here?? Thats right, its CHOICE!!!

Its up to each individual to choose what they want to do! Not to be dictated by others what they feel we should be doing!!"

At last someone talking sense , its a CHOICE

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmm so you see yourself as faithful !

I don't think though that being faithful has anything to do with sex with others though. As what constitutes being faithful differs from couple to couple.

Cali"

So how can it disgust you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just black and move on if you don't want to play with them

life is too short to spend time worrying about such people

do you ask single men in clubs for their divorce papers of single person id card before chatting

if you like them play if you don't move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

should read block

bloody predictive text

sorry

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

not really any of your business if people are cheating on their partners tbf."

When you're deciding whether to meet someone for sex then I disagree and would say it suddenly becomes your business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mmmmm so you see yourself as faithful !

Yes very

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

oooh silly meeee!!! I shall go sit on the naughty step!! Hows the view up there on your high horse!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

just black and move on if you don't want to play with them

life is too short to spend time worrying about such people

do you ask single men in clubs for their divorce papers of single person id card before chatting

if you like them play if you don't move on

I said that earlier...what do u do to ensure someone is genuinely single..or genuinely a cpl??- theres a lot of posters above who have clubs/gangbangs as there interest...and I imagine its the last thing on their mind when they start to play.

If its singles looking for a relationship..or cpls looking for long term meetups with the same people..I can see the point...but not when their basic profiles are about having NSA levels of meetups.

Just what do u do to ensure ur meeting someone 100% not cheating?---most would see that as an invasion of privacy as it could entail knowing things like, where they work, house,family life.

*and theres people not within the swing world who have had fulltime relationships with people leading double lives, so if ur duped on a swinging site by a non single...dont be so surprised that it happens... just be glad u never involved ur family or were made out to be a total fool.

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

Mmmmm so you see yourself as faithful !

I'm neither here nor there in my judgments but I know what cheating is, no matter how u dress it up."

well said !! i totally agree if theres deciet envolved its not swinging and certainly not being faithfull .

as for this site being full of cheaters .... lol so is every site and every work place and every pub ,club and resturents ect ect ! people have cheated well before the world wide web was invented and when the next communications advancement happens some people will use that too to cheat .

id actually rather ppl were upfrount about their status. rather then me wedding it out in conversation and then them trying to preach to me that its no issue and i dont know what im missing .ohhh and the peach was being told by an unfaithfull husband that as a guys married hes going to be clean ..... after i lifted my jaw from he floor i pointed out that if a guys on any site meeting other people then he runs the risks ! plus no garentee the wife isnt already out doing exactly what hubby is lol !

i couldnt careless what others do .i dont wish to meet cheaters numerous reasons ..so guess what i just dont respond to those who are . people go on about live and let live well by ...yes please !!!!by this token id like to be left alone by the cheats and not hounded to meet them or them persauding me thers reasons why they are doing it . i dont care!!lol move on to next profile and to the meny ppl who dont have issue metting cheats .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of folk on here bend and expand the boundaries of what a relationship should be to meet there own needs. Nothing wrong with that as the man said its a CHOICE , we'd probably all be stoned to death if we lived in an Islamic country , thankfully we don't , have fun each to his/her own

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

not really any of your business if people are cheating on their partners tbf.

When you're deciding whether to meet someone for sex then I disagree and would say it suddenly becomes your business. "

exactly !!! if person wants to play russian roulette with their relationship then thats up to them !but totally unfair to bring innocent parties in to a potientally volatile situation .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how can it disgust you?"

How can what disgust me? Cheating as if so I think you need to look at my posts as I mostly play with married men and really don't let the why's bother me. If they are cheating its not my business.

And as to people saying what would you do when and if you had a partner confront you. I'd do what I have done and tell them what I know to be true. Same as when some silly woman came to my door to tell me my ex was cheating on me. I told her I knew. And told her that we had a good sex life and could she not come to my door again.

I think those that play at clubs can rarely be sure they don't play with cheaters. So it doesn't bother me.

However if a man tells me he is single I will text when I want and call when I want. Had a few that have then had to confess. That is to be fair the only thing that makes me stop play.

Oh and I won't lie for a cheater either.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are not comfortable to meet people that are deceitful, be it re marriage or anything else.

In regard to the OP, people can do what they like, but we want no involvement with it.

We know of a couple who were plagued by the wife after her husband had cheated and pretended to be single and she found their number and home address.

They trusted said man that he was single and the wife made their life hell.

We most certainly don't want that in our life, or to involve the police for something we only want fun out of.

People have mentioned choice a lot on this thread, while it is our choice who we meet, what consenting grown ups do, where is the choice for the betrayed husband/wife who is unaware of what is going on.

They made a choice, to marry or spend the rest of their life with a partner.

They did not choose to be betrayed, and because they have no choice, no decision in the matter we don't want to be a party to the misery it will cause.

Of course I also believe there are a lot of singles on here, that would not admit to being attached, and we have to take our chance, and that is an issue of trust, and we would like to believe we meet people who are like minded.

So in essence not deceitful people who clearly pay no regard to honesty.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

not really any of your business if people are cheating on their partners tbf.

When you're deciding whether to meet someone for sex then I disagree and would say it suddenly becomes your business.

exactly !!! if person wants to play russian roulette with their relationship then thats up to them !but totally unfair to bring innocent parties in to a potientally volatile situation . "

and thats the crux...

people in effect think they are bulletproof...

"oh but it won't happen to me because....."

"oh but I am different from that other person because....."

erm....yes it could..... and no you aren't....

I ask before I play because of A)trust and b) honesty.... that way I can make a decision based on what I then believe...

I may have in my time played with people playing away without consent, but I can HONESTLY say that I haven't played KNOWINGLY with someone playing away without consent... thats the difference!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you my point exactly how it was meant

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

I choose not to meet married men. Why would I when there are so many single men to choose from who aren't worried about my perfume or scented soap.

I don't berate them...unless they have the fucking nerve to contact me saying as I accommodate and this is NSA what difference does it make if they're married!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"I choose not to meet married men. Why would I when there are so many single men to choose from who aren't worried about my perfume or scented soap.

I don't berate them...unless they have the fucking nerve to contact me saying as I accommodate and this is NSA what difference does it make if they're married!

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