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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?
Rude or not rude?
Thoughts?
It means you didn't read faqs and don't know that no reply means no interest
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By *C44Man
over a year ago
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Used to bother me until I saw a woman's inbox on here! She wasn't overly active at the time but was still getting 50+ messages a day. Hard to read everything let alone respond. I just take it as a shot taken but missed the target, move on time. |
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I read all of the deluges of messages I receive. If I haven't bothered to reply to you it is not being rude.
If someone have the taken the time to read my profile and not respected my boundaries. Then I am not going to reply to someone.
I will always respond to a polite message, although it can take a while as people do have lives outside of here.
But honestly take it as a polite no you are not what the person is looking for at that moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is anyone else outraged by woman who don't immediately respond or acknowledge your feelings. Who cares if they might have a job or family and how dare they not consider that you might be sat refreshing your feed between cock strokes to see their reply. It is almost like this website is not the most important part of their lives and most of them are not constantly demanding validation from useless men. The nerve. |
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Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?
Rude or not rude?
Thoughts?
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Man sends a message to a complete stranger on the internet. He expects some kind of reply to the message.
Rude or not rude ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been here as a couple before I sympathise with the women and couples who are inundated with messages....been there it stopped us logging on.
However that said we would at least delete the message if we weren't interested.
After all I thought we were all here for similar reasons ....just a bit of civility I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best thing to do is delete sent messages as soon as they've been sent so you can't see what the recipient has done with it. You'll either get a reply or you won't and you'll have no angst or stress then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?
Rude or not rude?
Thoughts?
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do you send a nice letter to the local takeaway place that puts a flyer through your door? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I generally like to get a idea if the person is genuine, but in my profile I’ve put a little tag to see if they have read it or are they a chancer because they are close by , but I do try to at least send a reply of some description if they have had the decency to read my profile |
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Do you reply to that pizza flyer and the flyer suggesting you get your will sorted?
If not why not?
Is it because you didn’t ask for that unsolicited post? Same thing, you sending a message to someone, that didn’t ask for it.
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not rude at all. Especially when you get messages from guys and you have said on your profile please don't message.
Makes us lol, when guys follow up a message asking if you've read the first one they sent as they never got a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not rude in any way whatsoever because site rules state that no reply means no thank you.!!
Now starting a tread and not replying to any posts on your thread that is very rude.
Chill out op it’s only fab and not real life.
Chin up and best of luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?
Rude or not rude?
Thoughts?
Me personally I just have to realise I'm too good looking. It holds me back on here as they read my message and look at my pics and they get too intimidated by my amazing body and stunning looks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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clearly it happens to guys consistently but think about ‘junk mail’ that comes through your letter box. you only open the ones that might be of interest to you. not worth getting hot under the collar about. |
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Not rude at all could be any reason why you never received a reply. Like everyone has said you took a shot and did not quote hit the target so move on and message others who interest you and maybe you will get a reply is my approach.
I never take it personally one message only and if its read and no reply I move on  |
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"Do you reply to that pizza flyer and the flyer suggesting you get your will sorted?
If not why not?
Is it because you didn’t ask for that unsolicited post? Same thing, you sending a message to someone, that didn’t ask for it.
K"
Good answer. Send a thousand out and get 8-15 who buy. There are similarities to Fab |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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I do know Fab site says no reply = not interested. I do wonder though. Females and couples complain they have hundreds or more mail in inbox. So why leave ? . Just yes read, perhaps if thinking about profile ?. Keep for a few days. Then delete. But not complain to many mails in inbox. ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a magic saying at end of our profile stating they need to start the message with it so we know they've read our profile,if they don't its a straight delete.although a humorous stand out message will always get a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it that time or the day again ?
Not rude.
One day I'm gonna set up a fake profile and see how many people reply to an 80yo fat geezer who wants to ram his Viagra enhanced todger up their arse while choking them with his urine soaked y fronts ....   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame  "
I bulk deleted over 800 messages not long ago.
It’s not ignorant. Ignorant is expecting me to spend my own time replying to men, who will then reply by return, asking why, trying to change my mind, or occasionally sending abuse.
My time on here is my own, and I spend it now I please, not how entitled others (not referring to anyone specific) wish. |
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By *mtasticCouple
over a year ago
Coventry |
If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious
“How are you”
“How are you finding fabs”
“Wow you’re stunning”
“How’s yous”
“What you’d up to”
“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?
Rude or not rude?
Thoughts?
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Maybe they're just not sure yet about you...& Keep your msg so they don't lose ya in the vast `crowd` of men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious
“How are you”
“How are you finding fabs”
“Wow you’re stunning”
“How’s yous”
“What you’d up to”
“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”"
^^^^^^^ This
Or
"Hi"
"Hey"
"Wanna FK"
"Are you available now"
"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)
"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"
"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"
"Where are you"
"What has you up"
"Why are you awake"
The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.
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"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious
“How are you”
“How are you finding fabs”
“Wow you’re stunning”
“How’s yous”
“What you’d up to”
“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”
^^^^^^^ This
Or
"Hi"
"Hey"
"Wanna FK"
"Are you available now"
"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)
"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"
"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"
"Where are you"
"What has you up"
"Why are you awake"
The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.
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So what do you want to hear?
The average guy is not going to compose a special message only to be deleted in a second.
it is not about the message more about are you what the woman/couple is looking for, if you are the right person, you could just send a hello and you will get a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely total ignorance, it takes literally 5 seconds for a simple no thanks, we name & shame
So you reply to everyone, even the single blokes that haven't read your profile... Or that have and thought they would "take a chance" anyway? "
I've discovered that sometimes any kinda reply is encouragement to some peeps... They'll keep mailing then even if I reply saying I'm not meeting for now. Asking why not etc...etc... So for me if I'm not interested it's best to just not reply to the Hi`s or similar 1-word or 1-liner mail. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not rude at all, but I have to be honest and say I’d rather they just deleted my message  "
_isspurplechester
Pls message me for some reason it won't let me private message you
Thanks
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Another day, another thread in which the OP outs themselves as not having read the site rules.
Look in the footer at the bottom of the page.
Click on "FAQ".
Read the bit that says:
"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"
It's best to assume that no reply means no interest.
Also, take comfort: At least they saw your message. Much, much worse is your message never getting read because it's been bulk deleted along with a thousand "FAF" one-liners.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious
“How are you”
“How are you finding fabs”
“Wow you’re stunning”
“How’s yous”
“What you’d up to”
“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”
^^^^^^^ This
Or
"Hi"
"Hey"
"Wanna FK"
"Are you available now"
"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)
"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"
"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"
"Where are you"
"What has you up"
"Why are you awake"
The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.
So what do you want to hear?
The average guy is not going to compose a special message only to be deleted in a second.
it is not about the message more about are you what the woman/couple is looking for, if you are the right person, you could just send a hello and you will get a reply."
I'm guessing ppl aren't looking for the average guy.
I'm also guessing ppl are looking for someone who can take a bit of rejecction on the chin.
I don't want to speak for the ladies, but I find the self pity in these threads a little sad as I worry how many people seem to lack reliance ... Which must mean they have a real hard time on fab... And possibly in other areas too  |
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By *aviniaCDTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've deleted half a dozen messages just this morning, some I read, some I didnt. Mostly asking about what's clearly stated on my profile or status. If they can't be arsed reading, neither can I. Sorted! |
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Don't get uptight if they have been read but not deleted. That generally means that you have managed to sufficiently arouse their interest, and you are on their back burner, or on their hotlist, and likely to be hearing from them, or getting a wink in the future, especially on the occasions that they are let down by time wasters and wannabes, and need someone to fill the gap at, excuse the pun, at short notice. Let it ride, don't push too hard, again excuse the puns, and you are likely to get the invite you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been here long enough to understand that ladies get way to many messages.
So I sign of with mine letting them know I understand the no reply is a polite no thanks which i understand |
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If it’s a couple your messaging it could be as one half of the couple hasn’t seen the message?
We are both active on here and if we get sent a message normally won’t reply until we both ha e seen it and discussed etc, unless its a dick pic which is delete and block and move on 
If we get a polite message but not what we are looking for we try and always reply.
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Been blocked by lots of women on here just for saying hello or sending some other polite message.
No reply. Just instant block.
I personally would not call instant block 'no reply'... it feel much more like f off.
But what ever. It goes with the site.
You are not alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t consider it rude if my message has been read but not replied to, I look upon it as I’m in consideration for conversation rather than just be deleted after a while I might message again but if no reply again then I’ll assume it’s a no interest and block. Only because it will make sure I don’t send another message by mistake. |
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"Been blocked by lots of women on here just for saying hello or sending some other polite message.
No reply. Just instant block.
I personally would not call instant block 'no reply'... it feel much more like f off.
But what ever. It goes with the site.
You are not alone."
The blocking will not be personal. It will just be to stop you messaging again.
Because a lot of people do that and it’s quicker to block straight away |
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"One only hope that you get treated in a similar way by others.
Me?
I’m sure I have been. Thanks for that pleasant thought though "
Let me rephrase this.
'What goes around comes around.'
It's ironic that you were happy for women to treat men that way but at the thought of it being done to you it is then considered 'unpleasent'.
I personally have never done anything of the sort to anyone on here and never would. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I'd just take no reply as no thanks.
Maybe they bulk delete, I sometimes do. If I've read a message and I might be interested, I mark it as unread to remind to relook when I have more time or feel like going through messages.
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Most of the people complaining about the lack of response to their messages on this site are single males. The reason for this is simply that they greatly outnumber the females/couples here and almost certainly don't have to contend with a daily barrage of mail from people who haven't even bothered to read their profiles before deciding to make contact.
Our status clearly states this:
"Please don't send us winks, friends requests or one line messages. Thanks."
Our profile title states this:
"Please read our profile before contacting us."
Our profile states:
"IF YOU HAVEN'T BOTHERED TO READ THIS, WE WILL NOT RESPOND TO YOU."
...and goes on to explain the sort of guy we're looking for with our preferences and limitations. I'd have thought they'd be of interest to the people who contact us but for some folks clearly they're not. A large number of guys here just send out generic one line messages, winks and cock shots to anyone they fancy. That wouldn't be so bad if they then didn't complain that they don't get a response and how rude that is...
We don't spend much time here but every day we do we get anything 10-20 winks, crass one liners or friends requests from guys who don't at all match what we're looking for. What are we supposed to do? Write politely back to each and every one of them despite the fact that they were the ones who couldn't be bothered to find out what we're actually looking for? If we did that we'd then get loads of abuse along the lines of:
You're up your own arses!
Time wasters!
Who do you think you are?
Sorry guys but that isn't going to happen. If you contact us before reading and digesting our profile we're going to delete your messges/winks/friends requests and block you without reservation or pity.
If on the other hand you make the effort we will respond likewise. Simples!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not rude at all, but I have to be honest and say I’d rather they just deleted my message "
This..
If I see a message I've sent has been deleted... Then no worries, not for them..
But it's when I send one and it's left opened by the receiver, but not deleted...
You wonder if they are interested but not at this moment and keeping the message for later.. it is a bit of a bugger this way... |
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"One only hope that you get treated in a similar way by others.
Me?
I’m sure I have been. Thanks for that pleasant thought though
Let me rephrase this.
'What goes around comes around.'
It's ironic that you were happy for women to treat men that way but at the thought of it being done to you it is then considered 'unpleasent'.
I personally have never done anything of the sort to anyone on here and never would."
I don’t understand what you’re talking about.
It happens.
To all profile types.
Wishing it personally on me came across as rather bitter |
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Standard. Unsolicited mail has no prior negotiated response.
They have their lives and you are zilch in their priorities and it's totally up to you to take responsibility for how you contact people and your response to their indifference.
Send and ignore, forget. Move on. No reply = no interest, ie worthy only of how to pick better matches and communicate well.
Most people are just not going to be matched with most other people. Accept that and see it as to be expected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your messages comprise of the following then do not expect a reply……tedious
“How are you”
“How are you finding fabs”
“Wow you’re stunning”
“How’s yous”
“What you’d up to”
“Came across your profile and wondered if we can chat and then meet up”
^^^^^^^ This
Or
"Hi"
"Hey"
"Wanna FK"
"Are you available now"
"Want this inside you" (with an unsolicited gross Dick-Pic)
"I'm in such a hotel, meet me now"
"It's my husband's birthday, are you around later"
"Where are you"
"What has you up"
"Why are you awake"
The list is endless....... I could go on but I won't.
So what do you want to hear?
The average guy is not going to compose a special message only to be deleted in a second.
it is not about the message more about are you what the woman/couple is looking for, if you are the right person, you could just send a hello and you will get a reply."
hows that working out for you then? no effort no reply, and read a profile first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been blocked by lots of women on here just for saying hello or sending some other polite message.
No reply. Just instant block.
I personally would not call instant block 'no reply'... it feel much more like f off.
But what ever. It goes with the site.
You are not alone."
we use block so they cant message us again, saves us and the message sender the waste of sending another one in a months time, and trust me, it happens alot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We try to reply to everyone but totally understand why people wouldn’t. The amount of people who don’t match our preferences that message us daily is ridiculous. Then when we reply they try and convince us to still meet. Sometimes it would be easier to not reply at all. |
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Just wanted to get opinions on having your sent message read but not deleted but no reply?
Rude or not rude?
Thoughts?
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Nothing rude at all.
Is it rude that you sent a message in the first place? No
People have a choice, don't choose to be offended by other people's choices. |
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