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By *K Driver OP Man
over a year ago
Weston super Mare |
Question if one half of a relationship is the let's say naughty side with an imagination but the other half doesn't any kind of naughty imagination and expect you to come up with everything saucy and become bored of trying to everything to enlighten them to open minds?
Would being to put a strain on the relationship? |
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By *K Driver OP Man
over a year ago
Weston super Mare |
"Communication and compromise."
The communication is open but as the saying goes you can take a horse to water but can't force it to drink..
If shes not even willing to try what can you do?
Not vanilla |
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"Communication and compromise.
The communication is open but as the saying goes you can take a horse to water but can't force it to drink..
If shes not even willing to try what can you do?
Not vanilla "
Give up. If you've genuinely explored every avenue and you're still at an impasse then the two of you clearly aren't on the same page. I know that sounds harsh but if someone doesn't want the same things you want you can't make them |
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By *K Driver OP Man
over a year ago
Weston super Mare |
"Communication and compromise.
The communication is open but as the saying goes you can take a horse to water but can't force it to drink..
If shes not even willing to try what can you do?
Not vanilla
Give up. If you've genuinely explored every avenue and you're still at an impasse then the two of you clearly aren't on the same page. I know that sounds harsh but if someone doesn't want the same things you want you can't make them"
Even bought toys and a wand and she wont use them!!!  and she won't and doesn't even wank herself when Im not around.. |
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"Communication and compromise.
The communication is open but as the saying goes you can take a horse to water but can't force it to drink..
If shes not even willing to try what can you do?
Not vanilla
Give up. If you've genuinely explored every avenue and you're still at an impasse then the two of you clearly aren't on the same page. I know that sounds harsh but if someone doesn't want the same things you want you can't make them
Even bought toys and a wand and she wont use them!!! and she won't and doesn't even wank herself when Im not around.."
Is there a reason why you think she should? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you play with yourself when your horny and alone?
She did try that women dont masterbate
As a guy damn right I do!"
You're probably turning her off by being pushy about what you want her to do |
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"Do you play with yourself when your horny and alone?
She did try that women dont masterbate
As a guy damn right I do!"
This isn't about me.
I don't know you and I don't know her. From the little I do know it sounds as if she isn't sexual in the way you want her to be. If that is the case then you're not really going to change her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has she always been that way?
Because if so then it's not them that had changed, so expecting them to, is unfair.
If it's a more recent change, then there may be issues other than sexual that are causing them to be less up for it. |
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By *K Driver OP Man
over a year ago
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I dont want to change her it would be good to open her mind to even having a fantasy (which she has told me has none) dont get me wrong when she wants sex she says fucky fucky!!
I do say Im not a light switch! 
Try turning me on using your imagination..
This is a two way street |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a huge difference between saying to a woman
" I want you to be sexy in this way because that's what I like"
and
" How can we support each other to find out what really makes us tick?"
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This goes both ways and applies for relationships in general on any issue of contention. You try to workout and find a compromise. If consensus cannot be achieved for a totally non-negotiable matter for one of the parties, that's when it all goes downhill. |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
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I think it could depend.
If one part of a couple really got off on coming up with smutty ideas to surprise the other, and the other loved being surprised continuously, then I guess it could work really well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question if one half of a relationship is the let's say naughty side with an imagination but the other half doesn't any kind of naughty imagination and expect you to come up with everything saucy and become bored of trying to everything to enlighten them to open minds?
Would being to put a strain on the relationship?"
The fact that you're asking suggests that it's already a problem.
Maybe she's thinking "why does he want me to have fantasies and come up with ideas. Why can't he be more like me" |
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