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Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences? |
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By *ack n FoxyCouple
over a year ago
Notts/Derby border |
"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
If you have a verification from someone who’s closed their account it automatically “unpublishes” verifications left by them |
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It maybe that they show the most recent ones and not the older ones as they deem them less relevant.
Maybe the hidden reviews are less flattering.
Could be any number of reasons. Ask the question and see what the answer is. |
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If someone leaves the site the verification disappears, but it stays in the summary. Sometimes the verification is inaccurate. Eg, we literally just spoke to a couple, but apparently we were "great kissers, and he's got a great cock" (true by the way  ). There's a few different reasons. |
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Some people prefer to just show more recent ones.
I have some of mine hidden not because they are bad but because people have used my real name within the veri and I don't want that shown on site.
I'm sure there are many innocent reasons for not publishing all of them.
At the end of the day a veri just tells you they are real people, not fakes and that they turn up to meets.
I wouldn't worry about what what you can't see if the visible ones are good. |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
I have repeat verifications, like from club events. You don't need to see each 1 of them. I got people who gave left and re verified me. You don't need that either. I had 1 man verify 3 times as didn't think it was going through. So not going to show that.
For me read what's there and make up your own mind |
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"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
If someone has met the same person a few times, they may only show the latest veri from that person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all my veris are hidden for a couple of reasons one its for nobody to know who ive played with two there are people on here who think nothing of playing games with others veris ive even had a guy once message all those ive met and tell them im not meeting anyone but him (creepy) so they are hidden for those reasons only |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep them hidden as I don't like the idea of people being nosey. I think if the meet was that bad you wouldn't leave a verification? Just block, delete and report if necessary? |
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There could be multiple reasons. One possibility is they have loads but only want to show specific ones rather than dilute them amongst verifications from people they met at socials. Maybe they only want to show recent ones because they are the most relevant. Maybe they want to show ones from people they are still in contact with. Maybe they don't think there's any benefit in showing a big list nobody will read.
Who knows? Just ask them. |
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We wouldn't post graphic veri's, or ones that include our names.
It's perfectly fine to not show veri's - it's more about YOUR connection with them, than anyone else's TripAdvisor style experience.
They show a person is real, the rest is down to you.
I don't know anyone that would even write a negative veri - as you say, it wouldn't be displayed and it could give a false reading in the stats that this person is OK when they're not.
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
I don’t post repeat verifications, sometimes leave off any that are more graphic as essentially a verification is to verify I am real, not to report back that I have an enormous penis (as that would be a lie) or have a tongue like a camel (again not true)
I always consider this when leaving them too as if someone I met when they were single were to subsequently develop a relationship with someone on here they may not want to read chapter and verse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
We only show 5 or 6 verification out of 100plus.We change the ones we show from time to time,depending on what we are looking for.
Don't think we ever had a bad verification,in all our time here,though some are better than others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have some unpublished veris one or two word ones from years ago. The others simply aren’t there as the users have left fab so there written part goes too. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
When a profile is deleted any verifications they have given are also deleted therefore can't be shown but will still show on the summary.
Some of our verifications are from when we first started and we have decided to keep our verifications up to date. We have subsequently blocked a couple of profiles so again their verifications disappear and finally we have one verification which is so over the top if we hadn't been at the meet we wouldn't recognise that it was about us. We would like to meet the couple described in that verification |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We hide some but just because I think when I see to many on a profile I can't be bothered to read them all.
So I chop and change now and again.
Not personally hiding any bad ones lol |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouh |
I have a couple I don’t show. One says “saw her on cam, pretty lady” - nice but hardly going to make anyone want to give me one 
The other again from being seen on cam and it’s one of those type you see all the time “pls treat her with respect guys and don’t mess her around”
I have no idea who he’d be saying this to and who on earth would pay the slightest bit of attention. |
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"I have a couple I don’t show. One says “saw her on cam, pretty lady” - nice but hardly going to make anyone want to give me one
The other again from being seen on cam and it’s one of those type you see all the time “pls treat her with respect guys and don’t mess her around”
I have no idea who he’d be saying this to and who on earth would pay the slightest bit of attention. "
I’ve got some like that, just generic waffle. A couple make no sense at all and some are just ridiculous |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
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"I have a couple I don’t show. One says “saw her on cam, pretty lady” - nice but hardly going to make anyone want to give me one
The other again from being seen on cam and it’s one of those type you see all the time “pls treat her with respect guys and don’t mess her around”
I have no idea who he’d be saying this to and who on earth would pay the slightest bit of attention.
I’ve got some like that, just generic waffle. A couple make no sense at all and some are just ridiculous "
The ‘no sense’ ones sound interesting
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Some people don’t show veris because their real name has been mentioned too! We met a lady once who said she didn’t have her last meet veri up as the guy claimed certain things had happened when they didn’t! I guess there’s loads of reasons why folk chose not to publish them, we dont worry too much about it  Miss pc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
If members gave them a verification, but left the site, they will no longer be able to show that verification as it disappears. But it will still count on their summery.
Hope that makes sence. |
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"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
It’s called fake fab |
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I had someone refuse to meet me once because a lady I had seen from my single profile had had over 100 verifications.
When I checked mine was her 2nd and it was a social if I had hidden that one the meet I was refused may have happened.
But I would still have been the same person with the same number of meets etc |
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Pretty much just echoing what most have already said... Some are repeat veris, short sentences or the user has left. I normally show a select few so users can get a feel for who I am but my summary should be enough for anyone who's interested.
The one thing that baffles me if those who won't meet people with lots of veris as they don't want to shag someone who's met loads of swingers... Like, wtf... Isn't that the point! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just want some privacy.. not all my meets display and some I don’t .. I don’t feel there anything fishy about it"
I won't meet anyone with more than 4 veris shown on their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just want some privacy.. not all my meets display and some I don’t .. I don’t feel there anything fishy about it
I won't meet anyone with more than 4 veris shown on their profile."
May we ask why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just want some privacy.. not all my meets display and some I don’t .. I don’t feel there anything fishy about it
I won't meet anyone with more than 4 veris shown on their profile.
May we ask why?"
I find it indiscreet.
I don't care if they have 10,000 hidden veris. |
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He told me that he wouldn't display my veri basically because he'd obviously told the women he'd slept with (behind my back) that he wasn't seeing anyone. He didn't want them to know we'd been seeing each other since Autumn of last year. Charming huh! |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
We have received the occasional verification from people we haven’t met so don’t display them, also the people who have left no longer show, we also had one that had a few spelling mistakes which they realised afterwards so they put it right and sent another lol, so there’s a few possibility’s |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I generally only publish veris of people I currently see or meet, both social or otherwise.
However I have three on my profile. One is a friend I've never played with, one is a current partner and the other from a woman I had a social with. I'd like to think it shows who I am as a lover, a friend and with other women. Anything unpublished would be a former lover. God knows why but I just prefer it that way.
The only other time I wouldn't publish one was if I was requested to keep it from view by the one who wrote it, as some people like their privacy.
I'd assume that those with lots of veris probably have a few from people they've met at socials and clubs and haven't necessarily played with them. |
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I hide some of mine because I’ve met them at a club but when people look at your verifications they automatically think you had sex with them. Or sometimes some aren’t on the site anymore so they disappear |
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"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
Think you should go with an open mind lot of people have moved past hanging out their laundry out to dry only show old ones as too lazy to hide them or would show 0. |
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"Hi everyone. I'm just stepping into the swinging scene and I am invited for my first meet up. However, the couple has quite some unpublished verifications and just a few of them published. Can someone explain what's the thing with verifications? I assume bad verifications can be hidden by the user? Right? Would you advise those who have quite few unpublished ones? What are your experiences?"
My advise would be (if you are lucky enough to meet a couple) is to find out for yourself, who these people really are!
Not judge anyone on other people's opinions ....
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"I hide some of mine because I’ve met them at a club but when people look at your verifications they automatically think you had sex with them. Or sometimes some aren’t on the site anymore so they disappear "
WOW.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t publish my summary or anywhere near all of my verifications because I like going on cam. I can only engage with one person or two if I’m on cam for awhile however I could end up with 20 or 30 verifications from people that have also messaged me or watched me. It’s quite embarrassing so I don’t bother |
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