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Am I straight or Bi?
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By *avenwings OP Man
over a year ago
Warkworth, Northumberland |
Hi all, I think of myself as Straight, I'm not looking for males or a male lover, i like to be with couples.
I do enjoy giving people pleasure, massage being one way, and I will treat men and women of the couple I'm with in the same way, both will get a full erotic massage finalised with an orgasm, i will give oral to both.
Now if I put straight on my profile many Bi couples don't want to know, but when I put Bi down then the straight couple worry that I might do something they don't want. I love and am comfortable with both Bi and straight couples, so how do I keep Bi and straight couple interested, I have just changed my profile to try to explain this, but have the feeling that I might just have made thing worse. any suggestion greatly recieved, and I'll do a poll on opinions and change to the majority opinion. should I be st8 or Bi?
I would like to be "open" or is that an opt out?
Regards, a confused John
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I'm in a similar kind of situation. I don't find men attractive and wouldn't go out with a man. However, I do enjoy sex with both guys and girls. Does this make me bi? I guess so, but I don't get hung up on it, it's just a label really, do whatever you enjoy!
I have myself set to bi on my profile, which I'm sure puts off a lot of people, but you will also get people contacting you that wouldn't if you were set to straight. Some people I've met on here so far are bi and they contacted me first, which I'm sure wouldn't have happened if I had myself set to straight.
If I were you, I'd leave yourself set to bi. It will put some off but in turn, you will attract people that might not otherwise pay attention.  |
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over a year ago
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From that i'd say you were bisexual. And as much as you probably want to appeal to bi couples AND straight couples you can't be everything to everybody.
So just be open about who you are and the couples that would like your hospitality treatment will know that you are exactly what it says on the tin so to speak. |
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By *avenwings OP Man
over a year ago
Warkworth, Northumberland |
Thanks to everyone, I guess just writing down the question helped me think about where I am.
Profile now states clearly Bisexual.
You are a great bunch on here, i love you all, men and women.
Thanks again... John |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you suck cock your bi
All you can do is be honest and people will either like you or they wont, you'll never please everyone so dont even bother trying, just be yourself and that way people who like you will reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you suck cock your bi
All you can do is be honest and people will either like you or they wont, you'll never please everyone so dont even bother trying, just be yourself and that way people who like you will reply "
bestto be honest  |
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This thread is essentially a branch of the root issue: where do you draw the line? I.e Man A has thought about being with another man but hasn't done anything yet, Man B has fucked and been fucked by another man, but hasn't dated or thought of dating another man. Man A considers himself Bi, Man B considers himself Straight. In their minds they've crossed (or not crossed) that line into bisexuality but others have different opinions of their sexulity but whos to say whos right? |
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"If you suck cock your bi
All you can do is be honest and people will either like you or they wont, you'll never please everyone so dont even bother trying, just be yourself and that way people who like you will reply "
That's the problem: people trying to be all things to all men instead of being honest about THEIR needs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmm not sure about this, I call myself bi curious, bi to me is full sex with both men and women, personally I don't enjoy penetration with guys, so I class myself as bi curious. Hope I'm not a freak.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in a very similar situation too but I do "label" myself as Bi, I'm not physically attracted to men in the same way as women in the way that if I see a nice woman walking down the street I admire her but don't give a man a second glance.. But I love Bi sex, love giving and receiving oral and love taking one up the bum. Stick to what you are comfortable with, far too many "labels" around, call yourself straight but can be flexible with Bi couples, From experience on this site a lot of men from straight couples contact me looking for Bi "fun" anyway. Hope it all works out for you. |
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By *ns2006Couple
over a year ago
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"Mmm not sure about this, I call myself bi curious, bi to me is full sex with both men and women, personally I don't enjoy penetration with guys, so I class myself as bi curious. Hope I'm not a freak. "
I tend to agree with this, that's why we need a 'bi-playful' option.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think its as clear cut as some make it out to be. Bisexuality (for males) may not be as clear cut as "you suck cock, you're Bi" because we all react differently based on the play situation.
Sucking a guy in a group scenario may be perfectly acceptable, but outside of that someone may have zero interest in pursuing a sexual encounter with a member of the same sex and may not find members of the same sex in any way sexually attractive.
To the OP - The best advice I can give is to define yourself how you feel best fits who you are and use the labels which you feel best suit you and not the labels which others believe may fit you better. Only you can know yourself.
For everything else, good communication is the key with prospective play partners - a few lines explaining where your preferences, limits and boundaries lie goes miles and speaks volumes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have the same problem, but slightly different I guess,
If in a group play it happens ... It happens and i don't mind and will do whatever feels right in that situation ... but again I will not meet a single guy or group of guys at all.
Because of this I will reply to ads looking for bi guys but put in the text of my reply the above .... But I noticed when I had myself listed as a bi-curious guy I got even less replies than as a straight guy from straight cpls and ladies
It's a vicious circle because people don't read profiles properly half the time
Maybe it's time to try again tho
Your thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mmm not sure about this, I call myself bi curious, bi to me is full sex with both men and women, personally I don't enjoy penetration with guys, so I class myself as bi curious. Hope I'm not a freak.
I tend to agree with this, that's why we need a 'bi-playful' option.
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What a great options, I'm going to put that on my profile now !!!!
Admin are you reading...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have the same problem, but slightly different I guess,
If in a group play it happens ... It happens and i don't mind and will do whatever feels right in that situation ... but again I will not meet a single guy or group of guys at all.
Because of this I will reply to ads looking for bi guys but put in the text of my reply the above .... But I noticed when I had myself listed as a bi-curious guy I got even less replies than as a straight guy from straight cpls and ladies
It's a vicious circle because people don't read profiles properly half the time
Maybe it's time to try again tho
Your thoughts?"
Totally agree, if some folk could see past your pics and read what you have written then maybe they would not be so quick to judge.. Being Bi adds to the spice me thinks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well the experiment starts now ! I've changed my profile if I get more replies or less will determine if my profile stays as is or returns to straight ....
Although I said I had more replies as a straight guy I still don't get many lol so here's hoping it gets significantly more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With respect for your lifestyle choices and completely non judgemental.
If you suck another guys cock you cannot be hetrosexual. I dont know what the pigeon hole is for what you describe- not gay not bi but its definately not straight either.
Perhaps another phrase needs coining. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mmm not sure about this, I call myself bi curious, bi to me is full sex with both men and women, personally I don't enjoy penetration with guys, so I class myself as bi curious. Hope I'm not a freak.
I tend to agree with this, that's why we need a 'bi-playful' option.
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I refer to myself as bi playful! Have been saying for years we need it as an option but all you hear is people saying why create grey areas!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think its as clear cut as some make it out to be. Bisexuality (for males) may not be as clear cut as "you suck cock, you're Bi" because we all react differently based on the play situation.
Sucking a guy in a group scenario may be perfectly acceptable, but outside of that someone may have zero interest in pursuing a sexual encounter with a member of the same sex and may not find members of the same sex in any way sexually attractive.
To the OP - The best advice I can give is to define yourself how you feel best fits who you are and use the labels which you feel best suit you and not the labels which others believe may fit you better. Only you can know yourself.
For everything else, good communication is the key with prospective play partners - a few lines explaining where your preferences, limits and boundaries lie goes miles and speaks volumes "
Excellent post! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think its as clear cut as some make it out to be. Bisexuality (for males) may not be as clear cut as "you suck cock, you're Bi" because we all react differently based on the play situation.
Sucking a guy in a group scenario may be perfectly acceptable, but outside of that someone may have zero interest in pursuing a sexual encounter with a member of the same sex and may not find members of the same sex in any way sexually attractive.
To the OP - The best advice I can give is to define yourself how you feel best fits who you are and use the labels which you feel best suit you and not the labels which others believe may fit you better. Only you can know yourself.
For everything else, good communication is the key with prospective play partners - a few lines explaining where your preferences, limits and boundaries lie goes miles and speaks volumes
Excellent post! "
I have to agree, quite good insight there, unfortunately some close the door at the mere mention of bi or won't consider someone who does list bi without even allowing communication! But you are right, communication is important!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think its as clear cut as some make it out to be. Bisexuality (for males) may not be as clear cut as "you suck cock, you're Bi" because we all react differently based on the play situation.
Sucking a guy in a group scenario may be perfectly acceptable, but outside of that someone may have zero interest in pursuing a sexual encounter with a member of the same sex and may not find members of the same sex in any way sexually attractive.
To the OP - The best advice I can give is to define yourself how you feel best fits who you are and use the labels which you feel best suit you and not the labels which others believe may fit you better. Only you can know yourself.
For everything else, good communication is the key with prospective play partners - a few lines explaining where your preferences, limits and boundaries lie goes miles and speaks volumes
Excellent post!
I have to agree, quite good insight there, unfortunately some close the door at the mere mention of bi or won't consider someone who does list bi without even allowing communication! But you are right, communication is important! "
Which I think is ridiculous, never would put us off.
I also think bi playful is a good expression. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think its as clear cut as some make it out to be. Bisexuality (for males) may not be as clear cut as "you suck cock, you're Bi" because we all react differently based on the play situation.
Sucking a guy in a group scenario may be perfectly acceptable, but outside of that someone may have zero interest in pursuing a sexual encounter with a member of the same sex and may not find members of the same sex in any way sexually attractive.
To the OP - The best advice I can give is to define yourself how you feel best fits who you are and use the labels which you feel best suit you and not the labels which others believe may fit you better. Only you can know yourself.
For everything else, good communication is the key with prospective play partners - a few lines explaining where your preferences, limits and boundaries lie goes miles and speaks volumes
Excellent post!
I have to agree, quite good insight there, unfortunately some close the door at the mere mention of bi or won't consider someone who does list bi without even allowing communication! But you are right, communication is important!
Which I think is ridiculous, never would put us off.
I also think bi playful is a good expression."
Sums me up!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So i am married to a women i like cock and cum but not men as i am not attracted to them
I have a fantasy about tv’s and cd’s but haven’t explored that yet
however my wife likes guys to suck my cock and for me to suck them aswell and i did it once and enjoyed idoing it as i knew she liked it but i didnt want to do anything more maybe as it was my first time
but i think the hairy chest and legs and ass just killed it for me
but i want to fuck a tv and be fucked back
so dont know what label i come Under so i just put bi sexual but if i dont like guys and tv’s are actually women then am i straight but if i say im straight tv’s wont know im interested |
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