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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do any of your family members know you're on here or know you're a swinger? If so how did you tell them? What was their reaction?
My son knows about my lifestyle and had zero problems with it, I hope its the same for all of you too. |
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I don't have any immediate family left, so don't have to worry about that.
I don't think Jack's dad would understand though, so we keep it to ourselves. He did tell a couple of close fiends, that was before we met.
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I think it is different if you are single or a couple.
For couples I think there is still the issue of if you are swinging then your relationship is damaged.
For singles with the advent of tinder and other hook up sites, there is less of a stigma attached.
That being said there is no way we would discuss sex with our parents anyway. |
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I told my mum when I started going to club as a single so she knew where I was as my adult daughter was at home but my phone would be off.
I remember telling my mum about a session I’d had with this gorgeous guy but no details, for that guy to now be my hubby of 3 years. I didn’t tell dad until a year ago as he’s very Victorian in his views.
Mum was never bothered but they think we’ve left the scene and we haven’t |
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"I think it is different if you are single or a couple.
For couples I think there is still the issue of if you are swinging then your relationship is damaged.
For singles with the advent of tinder and other hook up sites, there is less of a stigma attached.
That being said there is no way we would discuss sex with our parents anyway. "
Second this. Family haven't clue just a couple of close friends |
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I can't remember what our (grown up) kids found that let the fact we are swingers out of the bag.
We'd always been open with them and all the sudden there was something going on we'd rather not talk about and this twitched their antennas.
"Why is mum dressed like that?" and that sort of thing.
All three have left home but have this annoying habit of bursting in unannounced and caught us off for a meet.
Eventually the truth got out and oldest was impressed we were still going strong, middle one was nonplussed and the youngest was concerned for his mother's safety, which she assured him on.
Then the youngest, for some reason best known to himself, told the mother in law.
She still can't really get over the fact her daughter is a naturist and this news sort of tripped a fuse and it's not spoken about, which is fine by us.
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Not family no, I told a close friend, she was shocked at first, but seems ok about it now.
She made it clear it's not her things and she doesn't really approve but accepts it's up to me how I live my life.
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Lol, sure. No one gives a fuck and if they do, they can go do one. We don’t go up to everyone and start off with “hey Mum I fuck other people”. Obviously not. But why do some people care? It’s 100% illegal for anyone to cause you issues with work for it and it’s 100% better if your family are too judgemental to deal with it to sack them off from your life anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No because I’m a grown man who doesn’t need anyones acceptance or permission
And my kids are old enough to do as they please, legally, without informing me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah pretty much anyone who knows me well knows I'm on here, I employ a radical honesty approach to life lol.... My mum thinks I'm nuts and can't understand why I don't want a traditional life with the ultimate goal being settling down and getting married like 'normal' people (not against it if I met the right person it's just not top of my list)... She's pretty sure I'm gonna end up murderd... Because you know we must all be psychopaths if we dare to be different lol |
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"NOOOO. My friends don’t even know. Nobody knows apart from Fab friends. "
This. I had a FWB who told everyone what she was up to and couldn't understand how I told no one. Each to their own I guess. |
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"My sister knows and the Mrs mum and brother know ,and also her auntie know but she is a swinger aswell "
So..your sister,mother in law, brother in law and aunty in law are all aware of your swinging? Really?? |
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"My sister knows and the Mrs mum and brother know ,and also her auntie know but she is a swinger aswell
So..your sister,mother in law, brother in law and aunty in law are all aware of your swinging? Really??"
Yes ,we are a very open couple, after all it's nothing to be ashamed of .we quite often chat to her aunty about it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My family are very very judgy. I should be married with kids and settled… they wouldn’t get this choice.
My mother things my sexual deviance will calm as I age |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
Nobody in my male life knows about Alex and her antics.
My ex knows and supports me dressing but I've never mentioned sex (as Alex) to her. I'm sure she knows though as she's not stupid. |
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Told some friends. Their reaction wasn’t great, quite shocked and disapproving. Not told family. Son is 11. Wouldn’t mind him knowing when he’s older but might be a bit embarrassing at first. I’m impressed with those couples that have told family. Good for you. |
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Ring, ring, ring, ring.
Hi Mum its Liz.
Yeah, fine thanks.
No, nothing wrong but just thought I'd let you know that Paul and I love shagging strangers and Paul especially likes watching me having sex with men we only meet in the woods.
What, why don't you want us round for Sunday lunch.
Oh dear, we were really looking forward to telling everyone over Christmas dinner, especially the vicar. |
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It's actually surprised me over the years how many couples, and single women have no secrets from their immediate family. The lady in Reading who actually introduced me to this site was a swinger from the early days when contact magazines were the way to connect. Her son who lived with her knew full well that his mum was a swinger, and for safety he knew as much detail as possible about the people his mum was meeting, and parties she was attending. There was a mother and daughter swinging in East Wales on here, but their golden rule was mum didn't play with anyone daughter had played with, and vice versa. A very close friend of mine, whose 18 year old grandson lives with her from time to time, has seen her changed ready for me coming round, and has no issues with it. His mum and her other daughter in Scunthorpe who also has a profile on here are all aware of their mums high sex drive, and her adventures. Those are just three examples, there are many more that have come to my attention. I'm sure that my family know that I can't be living the life of a monk, but are just minding their own business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No definitely not,I have two grown up daughters,the eldest would be appalled & disgusted & the younger one wouldn't understand why I was cheating on her mother. Not told any of my friends. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
I don’t discuss my sex life with my family, and don’t intend to.
Some friends have an idea just because of how I am, but I’ve never gone into great detail with them.
I think being a member of the Fab community is something special and not to be shared with those outside the fold. If you’re in you’re in and anyone can join if they want to be in!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told my sister as shes the only close friend I have and she really didn't take it well and she rarely speaks to me now, i've never regretted something more. I'm rather lonely now but i've alienated myself |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
"I told my sister as shes the only close friend I have and she really didn't take it well and she rarely speaks to me now, i've never regretted something more. I'm rather lonely now but i've alienated myself "
That’s so sad! What a pity she can’t love the real you. Sending hugs (if you want them! If you don’t, leave them to one side). Xx |
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