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Single guys : Why are they conceited idiots who obviously enjoy celibacy .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are at a loss as to why around 2 thirds of single guys obviously are conceited cocklovers ( their own cocks of course ) , that by their actions and words obviously enjoy celibacy.
They message you talking about theor cocks and how good they are with them and insist in sending a couple of pics ( of their cocks ), expecting your missus too have legs akimbo waiting for them to come cum and go. They take in little or anything from what you write on your profile , then give you the usual grief when you say your busy and unavailable. You get called timewasters , fake or full of bullshit. No we have chilfren and complicated lives and responsiblities.
Grow the fuck up guys , quit the bs and get some manners your of an age now where throwing your rattle out of your pram isnt cool.
Oh and giess what guys you will find you get many more meets than you currently do.
I know thos might come across as a rant, i'm sorry it was meant too. I am sure we cant be the only ones who feel this way. |
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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
Probably best to ignore the 2/3rds or so of single guys who are rude to you.
I am almost grateful that these types of guys exist as it makes me look even more gentlemanly!
I appreciate that there may be a lot of single guys with bad attitudes but I can assure you that there are decent ones too. I genuinely hope that this hasn't been enough to put you off swinging  |
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By *igTeeMan
over a year ago
Bradford |
Not all of us my initial message mentions stuff that they've put in their profile do they know I've taken the time to read it n then just asking bout them if they want to see cock pics they can have a look or if they ask either on their profile or in a message then I will send them yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are at a loss as to why around 2 thirds of single guys obviously are conceited cocklovers ( their own cocks of course ) , that by their actions and words obviously enjoy celibacy.
They message you talking about theor cocks and how good they are with them and insist in sending a couple of pics ( of their cocks ), expecting your missus too have legs akimbo waiting for them to come cum and go."
i thought that was all men not just single ones  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No not all men think their cocks are best thing since slice bread. Yes some of us dont really give a toss about the size of it or consider ourselves as cocksmiths.
Some of us understand that there is lots more to pleasuring our partners or other women than whipping out our cocks and fucking till we cum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's guys like that, that make it so damn difficult those of us who are genuine. I don't think I've ever mentioned my prowess in the bedroom or sent a cock pic in a message unless asked to, and even then I'm kind of reluctant..
I think you'll find those of us that are genuine and decent will obviously have taken the time to read profiles and will have written a message accordingly and then add a face pic. They'll also be happy to chat for a while and make phone contact and meet for a coffee. I know that's how I do things, I never assume anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are at a loss as to why around 2 thirds of single guys obviously are conceited cocklovers ( their own cocks of course ) , that by their actions and words obviously enjoy celibacy."
You are quite entitled to a rant - we all do it! Don't know what experience you have of swinging sites but, in general, those like Fabs which allow free access are inhabited by a larger proportion of idiots/fakes/weirdos etc than those which charge. Fact of life.
The ONLY piece of advice/opinion on this which is relevant is - like an earlier contributor said - to ignore the 2/3rds of idiots and concentrate on the 1/3rd who may have some 'substance' to them. Why? Because there is most likely 3 times as many single men looking for couples, as there are couple looking for single men. Again - fact of life.
You need to be VERY clear about what YOU will look for in an intro message and filter them out from line one (assuming they are capable of writing one complete, intelligible line of course...) OR you turn it around and go the other way and YOU go out and find those you want to chat to, and meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's guys like that, that make it so damn difficult those of us who are genuine. I don't think I've ever mentioned my prowess in the bedroom or sent a cock pic in a message unless asked to, and even then I'm kind of reluctant..
I think you'll find those of us that are genuine and decent will obviously have taken the time to read profiles and will have written a message accordingly and then add a face pic. They'll also be happy to chat for a while and make phone contact and meet for a coffee. I know that's how I do things, I never assume anything."
Why don't you live nearer to me?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's guys like that, that make it so damn difficult those of us who are genuine. I don't think I've ever mentioned my prowess in the bedroom or sent a cock pic in a message unless asked to, and even then I'm kind of reluctant..
I think you'll find those of us that are genuine and decent will obviously have taken the time to read profiles and will have written a message accordingly and then add a face pic. They'll also be happy to chat for a while and make phone contact and meet for a coffee. I know that's how I do things, I never assume anything.
Why don't you live nearer to me?! "
I quit smoking so I could meet one member from here. Give me a little time, the housing market isn't quite what it was!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I class myself as one of the genuine ones! I also also agree with some fellow posters on this thread.
It is unfortuate that there are people on here who spoil it for the rest.
I take the time to read profiles, try and compose a message that relates to the couple or woman in question, and rarely send a cock picture!
As my profile says I am an Englishman who knows what his tongue is for... licking icecream!
Ladies and gents there are some genuine guys on here as you well know.
I like to think I am one of them or is that me being conceited? lol
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Problem is that two thirds of the single men think its their god given right to act like sex gods because they are on here. They think that every woman will drop their knickers at the drop of a hat and when they get told no they sulk. Its a shame because them men make us all look bad. I am speaking now as a single but used to be a couple on here so i know what your going through.Bur please dont tar all us single men with the same brush or give up on us because there are some really good polite guys on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think quite a lot of guys can we ed out from the first initial email they send.
I delete without a reply ones such as:
their email simply states something like.....'wanna chat?'
have just a cock pic on their profile
send a tel number on initial email with just a few words of an introduction
crap crap pics....maybe blurry, taken from 50 yrds ect
no pics at all
obviously a cut and past intro as your profile should not even attract them due to age, shape, location
guys who say they are a couple but female cannot play at moment and so they can meet on their own
profiles that have ladies sucking or fucking on but do not show the guy at all in any detail
text talk......just delete immediately
ones from guys who want a penpal as all they seem to want to do is chat
i think that list i have given will see you hitting the delete button for well over 70%
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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago
sheffield |
What else were you expecting here? It take a bit of good guys and lot of idiots to make any website
Depend how you make your pick
True some will waste your time: single guys, single ladies, couples and all type of fakers
No point ranting about it hence there is the block option
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When i had a couples profile we used to get a lots of mails off guys and they would say things like Wanna fuck and When lady online and does she wanna fuck.
I used to reply with well how about saying hello first mate and their comeback line was always the same hello so does lady wanna fuck
I just used to block then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember. If a user sends you an abusive mail after declining to meet , then please use the report button on their profile. Also, copy and paste the message in your report.
Admin want you to get the very best out of the site, but can only do so with help from the people who use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remember. If a user sends you an abusive mail after declining to meet , then please use the report button on their profile. Also, copy and paste the message in your report.
Admin want you to get the very best out of the site, but can only do so with help from the people who use it."
The majority aren't abusive, just total idiots! You can't report someone for being and idiot...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a vicious circle. From the other side of the fence, it is fairly demoralising to spend time individualy crafting an enticing message for them all to be instantly deleted. Perhaps some then spread their literary skills a bit thin?
I appreciate couples and ladies have a buyers market, however it strikes me that it is not just single men that are conceited.
Can you tell I am not getting much at the moment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've found from being on here several years now, that the guys who are more polite and talk less about sex in initial messages before a meet tend to be the best at the actions on the agreed meet.
Those that "big" themselves up by telling us how great they are have (in our experience anyway) never lived up to their reputation and whoever has told them that they are great, well we'd like to meet them lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a vicious circle. From the other side of the fence, it is fairly demoralising to spend time individualy crafting an enticing message for them all to be instantly deleted. Perhaps some then spread their literary skills a bit thin?
I appreciate couples and ladies have a buyers market, however it strikes me that it is not just single men that are conceited.
Can you tell I am not getting much at the moment? "
I agree that it can be demoralizing if messages are just deleted without a reply, as it only takes a few seconds to type a 'thanks, but no thanks' type of message.
Even when I receive that type of reply I send a message thanking them for taking the time to reply and send my best wishes for future meets.
What really seems to bug me, and I don't know why, is when I send a message, its read, but theydont delete it or reply. It just sits in their inbox! At least when its deleted there's some kind of closure...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've found from being on here several years now, that the guys who are more polite and talk less about sex in initial messages before a meet tend to be the best at the actions on the agreed meet.
Those that "big" themselves up by telling us how great they are have (in our experience anyway) never lived up to their reputation and whoever has told them that they are great, well we'd like to meet them lol "
And i have found that to be true also xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always answer messages from people, but sometimes if either Andy or myself are out we may have to wait so that we can both look at the profile and message again. If Andy reads them first he generally explains that I'm not around and asks if they have just a facial pic we can look at and go from there. |
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I think I am a polite,intelligent,single bloke that will not do a cock shot and by the way feel that pussy shots which there are many , are worse.
I am amazed at the attitude and rudeness to single men on some profiles-it only takes a second to block . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've found from being on here several years now, that the guys who are more polite and talk less about sex in initial messages before a meet tend to be the best at the actions on the agreed meet.
Those that "big" themselves up by telling us how great they are have (in our experience anyway) never lived up to their reputation and whoever has told them that they are great, well we'd like to meet them lol "
Very true!!! I just said something similar in another thread.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We always answer messages from people, but sometimes if either Andy or myself are out we may have to wait so that we can both look at the profile and message again. If Andy reads them first he generally explains that I'm not around and asks if they have just a facial pic we can look at and go from there. "
I've had some great conversations with hubby's this way even when the wife has returned and said I'm not for them we've still maintained a friendly relationship, which is fine with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dont blame single guys, blame the internet 
its the anonymity that brings out all the fakes, twats, trolls and timewasters "
Now I could try and seperate myself from 'the conceited idiots' as has been done in this Thread but I won't. I have a more general point to make.
As a single bloke on here I am getting a bit hacked off with couples jumping in here and ranting off about 'Single guys : Why are they conceited idiots who obviously enjoy celibacy' and similar comments.
Tarring us all with the same brush just shows how ignorant people like the OPs can be. So couples are never conceited idiots? Single females are never conceited idiots? Believe me I could give you a list of names but the difference is I just let it roll over me and jog on.
All it shows me is that SOME, repeat SOME, couples (like the OPs) have their combined heads up their own arses and an exaggerated sense of their own importance. It doesn't matter that the OPs modified it to 'two thirds' (now I wonder what mathematical analysis went ito that figure?) the headline grabbing comment was intended to infer 'ALL'.
People: if you have a problem with too many single blokes sending numptie messages report them, block them, filter them, ignore them, jog on, find a bridge and get over it...whatever. But slagging off the entire single bloke community is ignorance personified and does whoever groups us all together no favours at all.
In My Honest Opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are at a loss as to why around 2 thirds of single guys obviously are conceited cocklovers ( their own cocks of course ) , that by their actions and words obviously enjoy celibacy.
They message you talking about theor cocks and how good they are with them and insist in sending a couple of pics ( of their cocks ), expecting your missus too have legs akimbo waiting for them to come cum and go. They take in little or anything from what you write on your profile , then give you the usual grief when you say your busy and unavailable. You get called timewasters , fake or full of bullshit. No we have chilfren and complicated lives and responsiblities.
Grow the fuck up guys , quit the bs and get some manners your of an age now where throwing your rattle out of your pram isnt cool.
Oh and giess what guys you will find you get many more meets than you currently do.
I know thos might come across as a rant, i'm sorry it was meant too. I am sure we cant be the only ones who feel this way."
Never found this to be the case,we find a very large majority are polite and courteous,perhaps you are rubbing them up the wrong way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've found from being on here several years now, that the guys who are more polite and talk less about sex in initial messages before a meet tend to be the best at the actions on the agreed meet.
Those that "big" themselves up by telling us how great they are have (in our experience anyway) never lived up to their reputation and whoever has told them that they are great, well we'd like to meet them lol "
That's why I am keeping very quiet ladies!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I assume the op has had a bad experience and needed to get it off his chest so to speak!
Reading it I can't see where the op says ALL SINGLE MEN! Or am I wrong?
I have to admit I would say 98% of guys we have met have all been nothing but polite and honest but it isn't just guys!! We have met couples who have been downright rude and who also assume that as I am a larger lady I should be grateful that the m will play with me :-/
We also have a large family and jobs with very unsociable hours and sometimes after a meet. we might have to wait a while before we can meet again, most people are ok with that but others block us and call us timewasters, am I bothered lol
So to sum up not all single guys are idiots and not everyone Tars you all with same brush |
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Not read the whole thread but it's not really our perception of single guys on here.
The majority of them have been very respectful and accepted a polite no thanks from us (we reply to nearly all messages - apart from the crudest of the crude which we ignore)
The guys we chat to have understood that meeting takes time, getting to know each other a little on here and then working round our family and working lives (us and them of course).
Of course there are a few that question why you don't want to meet, but we've only had one turn a bit nasty with his comments, and that was after he said 'your hubby can't be much cop in bed or you wouldn't be on here!!
I advised him to rethink the swinging lifestyle if that was his opinion, and to post his thoughts on this forum if he wanted educating a little  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just read the profile from the authors of this thread-and they think others are conceited! Perhaps they would like to revisit their profile and be a little less aggressive?"
Just read their profile now and totally agree with what you say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not read the whole thread but it's not really our perception of single guys on here.
The majority of them have been very respectful and accepted a polite no thanks from us (we reply to nearly all messages - apart from the crudest of the crude which we ignore)
The guys we chat to have understood that meeting takes time, getting to know each other a little on here and then working round our family and working lives (us and them of course).
Of course there are a few that question why you don't want to meet, but we've only had one turn a bit nasty with his comments, and that was after he said 'your hubby can't be much cop in bed or you wouldn't be on here!!
I advised him to rethink the swinging lifestyle if that was his opinion, and to post his thoughts on this forum if he wanted educating a little "
We've had a few of the those and our response was very similar! |
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The good news is that most people who aren't suitable usually identify this very quickly.
Perhaps we should have a %of first messages replied to status measure for users, so that we can evaluate senders and receivers, in their response rates too. Realise this could exclude those of us blocking, where the first mails were so poor. But, maybe people would make more effort is they were sending a first email to a profile where closer to 100% of received first emails were responded to.
Part of this relates to people just coming on fab thinking it's a hard-up women's pickup joint, where we all crave any cock's cock, even if we're married etc to the best man going. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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a couple of things....
1) like someone else said... I quite like it the way it is, because the nice ones and the ones who "get it" do reap the rewards.... they do make themselves stand out...
2) if you think 2/3 of guys are knobs and you are encountering those "2/3rd" that says to me you probably need to revisit the way you do your selecting and your processes....
which brings me to 3...
3) like 2wheels said, you attract what you attract... so if you are trying to attract the 1/3 as it is at the moment, then very very very good luck to you...
as your profile is at the moment, wouldn't even think of coming near you... way too aggressive, way too condescending, and why would I as a nice guy want the grief....
you have to attract the nice guys as much as the nice guys have to attract you... its definately a two way street that "some" couples seem to forget that........ |
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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago
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"a couple of things....
1) like someone else said... I quite like it the way it is, because the nice ones and the ones who "get it" do reap the rewards.... they do make themselves stand out...
2) if you think 2/3 of guys are knobs and you are encountering those "2/3rd" that says to me you probably need to revisit the way you do your selecting and your processes....
which brings me to 3...
3) like 2wheels said, you attract what you attract... so if you are trying to attract the 1/3 as it is at the moment, then very very very good luck to you...
as your profile is at the moment, wouldn't even think of coming near you... way too aggressive, way too condescending, and why would I as a nice guy want the grief....
you have to attract the nice guys as much as the nice guys have to attract you... its definately a two way street that "some" couples seem to forget that........"
Fabio if I were a lady I would scream I LOVE YOUUUUUUU...good point
I was one the very first to reply to the OP and decided to be a bit diplomatic after reading their profile
You just said the truth. And to come to this conclusion only after 3weeks on the site is a bit too quick...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have quite clearly stated on my profile that couples are not my thing yet i get regular mails from couples and when I say thanks but not into couples it's like I should have been grateful to have been contacted or its the guy saying hes playing alone, I say Im still not interested and then I get told what Im missing etc.....single guys seem to be always getting ripped to bits by couples far as I can see on here but couples can be just as bad at not reading profiles, not accepting no means no and they can be very rude too.... just my experience from the other side of the fence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am almost grateful that these types of guys exist as it makes me look even more gentlemanly!
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Not really.
It turns people against you because you are a single man and they don't know you.
If there are 2 guys messaging a couple or a woman with a good message, pictures and an understanding from the profile they will be drowned out by the messages sent by tom dick and harry.
In a sea of turds it is hard to spot the decent ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every week there's a rant about single guys,that's what annoys me about fab,they are easy pickings to slate,yet single ladies and couples are just as bad,in a 2 week period I had 3 couples and 2 single ladies let me down,everytime I was left sitting in a pub,not even a txt to say sorry,it's always going to be the same on here,single guys are the lepers
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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In a sea of turds it is hard to spot the decent ones."
actually... completley disagree with you... the people who stand out have normally then gone the extra mile to stand out.....
its almost two fold.... how do you seperate yourself for the numpties... and then how do you seperate yourself in the pool of good guys! and thats when you will find out who goes "the extra mile"... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the single guys on here are lovely, well mannered and polite. Sadly there are an odd few (usually newbies) who totally spoil it for the rest. We just block them now and move on, but by no means tar all guys with the same brush. There are good and bad in every walk of life, and this site is no different, treat others how you would like to be treated yourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are at a loss as to why around 2 thirds of single guys obviously are conceited cocklovers ( their own cocks of course ) , that by their actions and words obviously enjoy celibacy.
They message you talking about theor cocks and how good they are with them and insist in sending a couple of pics ( of their cocks ), expecting your missus too have legs akimbo waiting for them to come cum and go. They take in little or anything from what you write on your profile , then give you the usual grief when you say your busy and unavailable. You get called timewasters , fake or full of bullshit. No we have chilfren and complicated lives and responsiblities.
Grow the fuck up guys , quit the bs and get some manners your of an age now where throwing your rattle out of your pram isnt cool.
Oh and giess what guys you will find you get many more meets than you currently do.
I know thos might come across as a rant, i'm sorry it was meant too. I am sure we cant be the only ones who feel this way."
the language and tone of your message indicates that i would not be interested in meeting you.
you maybe having a rant but you havnt considered blocking single guys or just deleting the messages,then blocking the ones you state need to grow up?
if anything you need to learn some manners as there is no need to include swearing in your message.
if you got a problem with it be an adult and deal with it.
dont come on here swearing and being abusive to single men as all of us are different,have manners and do not waste peoples time.
its people like you that make singles want to waste your time because they will get a kick out of knowing your exploding into a rage.
congratulations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the language and tone of your message indicates that i would not be interested in meeting you.
you maybe having a rant but you havnt considered blocking single guys or just deleting the messages,then blocking the ones you state need to grow up?
if anything you need to learn some manners as there is no need to include swearing in your message.
if you got a problem with it be an adult and deal with it.
dont come on here swearing and being abusive to single men as all of us are different,have manners and do not waste peoples time.
its people like you that make singles want to waste your time because they will get a kick out of knowing your exploding into a rage.
congratulations."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a sea of turds it is hard to spot the decent ones.
actually... completley disagree with you... the people who stand out have normally then gone the extra mile to stand out.....
its almost two fold.... how do you seperate yourself for the numpties... and then how do you seperate yourself in the pool of good guys! and thats when you will find out who goes "the extra mile"..."
Well look at it this way.
You take a dip in the turds and you wont like the results. Yes you can distinguish yourself but I have seen lots of profiles WITH ANGRY TEXT THAT ONLY THE HULK USES! 
Personally I stay away from these profiles because I know I'll get no response even though I do fit their criteria. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just as an aside and Off Thread ...
Would I (as a single bloke) have got away with posting a Thread entitled:
"Couples and Single Females : Why are they conceited idiots who obviously enjoy celibacy?"
It is a rhetorical question of course .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just as an aside and Off Thread ...
Would I (as a single bloke) have got away with posting a Thread entitled:
"Couples and Single Females : Why are they conceited idiots who obviously enjoy celibacy?"
It is a rhetorical question of course .... "
not if you were hoping for a meet in the next decade or three! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I believe that generally like attracts like. Habing read the opening post and their profile then I suspect that that is definitely the case here."
This..I truly believe that a shouty ranting agressive profile will encourage a shouty ranting agressive type of person to it and scare away the very people that you want to attract
Its your profile,your window to show others how you are and if it works for you then thats all good...oh it does'nt seem to be working for you very well though if this thread is anything to go by  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just as an aside and Off Thread ...
Would I (as a single bloke) have got away with posting a Thread entitled:
"Couples and Single Females : Why are they conceited idiots who obviously enjoy celibacy?"
It is a rhetorical question of course ....
not if you were hoping for a meet in the next decade or three! Lol"
I rest my case M'lud .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's guys like that, that make it so damn difficult those of us who are genuine. I don't think I've ever mentioned my prowess in the bedroom or sent a cock pic in a message unless asked to, and even then I'm kind of reluctant..
I think you'll find those of us that are genuine and decent will obviously have taken the time to read profiles and will have written a message accordingly and then add a face pic. They'll also be happy to chat for a while and make phone contact and meet for a coffee. I know that's how I do things, I never assume anything."
For what my opinion is worth, I agree with this 100% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably best to ignore the 2/3rds or so of single guys who are rude to you.
I am almost grateful that these types of guys exist as it makes me look even more gentlemanly!
I appreciate that there may be a lot of single guys with bad attitudes but I can assure you that there are decent ones too. I genuinely hope that this hasn't been enough to put you off swinging "
I appreciate this guy's comment. You are definitely entitled to a rant...just know that there ARE some decent, well-mannered guys out there. I'm always gutted to see nice profiles where they have blocked me from messaging them because I'm a guy, thanks to all the types you've been talking about. |
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"We are at a loss as to why around 2 thirds of single guys obviously are conceited cocklovers ( their own cocks of course ) , that by their actions and words obviously enjoy celibacy.
They message you talking about theor cocks and how good they are with them and insist in sending a couple of pics ( of their cocks ), expecting your missus too have legs akimbo waiting for them to come cum and go. They take in little or anything from what you write on your profile , then give you the usual grief when you say your busy and unavailable. You get called timewasters , fake or full of bullshit. No we have chilfren and complicated lives and responsiblities.
Grow the fuck up guys , quit the bs and get some manners your of an age now where throwing your rattle out of your pram isnt cool.
Oh and giess what guys you will find you get many more meets than you currently do.
I know thos might come across as a rant, i'm sorry it was meant too. I am sure we cant be the only ones who feel this way."
like most cpl's we have had emails etc from guys who are outside of our criteria etc..
the vast majority we reply to and they accept that, others take the 'ump and some we block..
if your perception differs it could be how you are communicating with guys..
also think you are just plucking a figure out of the air to be honest with your 2/3 rds etc..
one gets what one sows usually..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just as an aside and Off Thread ...
Would I (as a single bloke) have got away with posting a Thread entitled:
"Couples and Single Females : Why are they conceited idiots who obviously enjoy celibacy?"
It is a rhetorical question of course ....
not if you were hoping for a meet in the next decade or three! Lol"
and also is correct.
you crack a joke and people remove themselves from your friends list and block you.
people are fickle.
back on topic
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP gave a perfect example of stereo-typing which contrary to their intentions only serves to show couples in a poor light.
There are annoying, arrogant or rude people in all groups- single, fem, male , female,older,younger, whatever.
In our time here so far we have only had a few messages we thought to be offensive or rude and I can tell you now they were not all from single guys.
As many posts have said previously if someone annoys or pisses you off then block/ignore of report but treat everyone as the individuals they are.
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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I (fem) found 2/3 of msg from sngle males polite + friendly + I always reply @ least a thank you......the little rest I just delete.......only ever had to block 1 "persistent" rude guy.....may be we just lucky lol
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By *ayseanMan
over a year ago
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Very well said by the couple above me,you will find plonkers in each group on here and in life in general,so its best not to judge everyone the same,it does sound like they v had a bad experience with a few single guys,but iv had a few with couples on here,stuff like not showing for pre arranged meets,but dosent mean i think all couples are the same! My advice forget the bad,and enjoy life,its too short for bitterness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very well said by the couple above me,you will find plonkers in each group on here and in life in general,so its best not to judge everyone the same,it does sound like they v had a bad experience with a few single guys,but iv had a few with couples on here,stuff like not showing for pre arranged meets,but dosent mean i think all couples are the same! My advice forget the bad,and enjoy life,its too short for bitterness."
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"I believe that generally like attracts like. Habing read the opening post and their profile then I suspect that that is definitely the case here.
This..I truly believe that a shouty ranting agressive profile will encourage a shouty ranting agressive type of person to it and scare away the very people that you want to attract
Its your profile,your window to show others how you are and if it works for you then thats all good...oh it does'nt seem to be working for you very well though if this thread is anything to go by "
Having read the OP's profile (or rather tried to read it!) I would have to say that I wouldn't even be interested as a single guy, even if I was in the very local area they specify. Shouty, condescending, and aggressive! Not hard for me to choose which way to go there!
Most of us single guys on the forums are the ones who actually try - hence we are on the forums! The 'one-liner' brigade probably don't even know what the forums are. If they do, they're probably asking 'why can't we get any meets?'
The OP would do well to soften their approach a tad, and maybe be a little more welcoming?? Just a thought...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The OP had a much softer profile in the beginning and on previous occasions that we have been on the site.
On each occasion we have come across the same response from mainly single guys.
What your real question of us should have been , what was the real reason for the post.
Simple answer to that is, on each occasion we have been on the site i enjoyed reading the posts and occasionally commenting on them, but was amazed at how many single guys postef about timewasters, fakes etc etc and how they were going to leave the site.
We have also seen this on many single guys profiles and why ? , because they couldnt get what they wanted when they wanted.
The aggresive , condescending nature of the rant on our profile as was kindly pointed out was done to let them know they would get short shrift, we also considered that the more polite , intelligent single guys would be able to understand that.
Perhaps we were wrong. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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The aggresive , condescending nature of the rant on our profile as was kindly pointed out was done to let them know they would get short shrift, we also considered that the more polite , intelligent single guys would be able to understand that.
Perhaps we were wrong."
if that was the aim of the profile... I am willing to bet you a whole ton of money that of the nice guys you are after, more of them would say "no thanks" than "yes please"
me personally.. I think it would very much backfire, as I think it is likely to scare away the very people you are wanting to meet.....
after all... if I was to look at another profile and compare it to others this would be thinking process...
would they be fun to know...
do they seem cool and relax...
would i feel comfortable in their presence...
do I get a sense of their personality in the profile.. if so, is it a positive one...
as i said... I believe it is as much about single guys attracting couples.... as it is about a couple attracting the nice single guys....
remember a lot of the nice single guys aren't complaining because they are out there meeting.. and having fun... and laughs and giggles and creating friendships....
so it is as much of getting people to say "wow I have to meet that person"... that works both ways!!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally we have had more rude and disrespectful messages from other couples than we have had from single men, if someone was to start a topic with the same thread title but aimed at couples/women/tv's etc people would be outraged but because it's single men it's ok to write such a thing?  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters
Maybe this could be a good time to highlight filters.
All genders have the potential to send crap mails , it isn't just single males....and why the site gives you the tools to filter people you would rather not have mails from and then you can do the searching yourselves.
If the filters were used more there will probably be less chance we would get these type of threads.
To the respectful single men out there ....most of us know you are not a bad bunch of fellas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally we have had more rude and disrespectful messages from other couples than we have had from single men, if someone was to start a topic with the same thread title but aimed at couples/women/tv's etc people would be outraged but because it's single men it's ok to write such a thing? "
Well said,just waiting for the reply of yeah but alot of couples are you single guys haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have a few single male frienfs who when oruginally contacted us , were complaining of not getting meets, and they themselves blame the idiots that have gone before them and still plague this site and many others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have a few single male friends who when originally contacted us , were complaining of not getting meets, and they themselves blame the idiots that have gone before them and still plague this site and many others. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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So that was why you chose to rant? on behalf of someone else?
I personally think single men get a raw deal on this site by a lot of people.
We can only go on the single men who mail us, and we have no complaints at all with their mails....even the ones we have smiled at and said no thanks to are welcome.
I think they should be given a break. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You see the problem lies with you ladies most of the time. If youve got a naked profile pic or one where youre being Lady Bukkake, youre never going to attract the Dalai lama are you?
Personally it makes me laugh when ladies have sordid pics of intense sexual activity, chewing the meat off a random bone, THEN stipulate 'no cock pics'. bit of a joke really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps not as bad as all the single ladies who only meet with their fuck buddies after you have been chatting for a while. They also tend to let you down at the last minute on more than one occasion. It really makes the genuine ones look bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just as frustrating for single guys because then we all get tarnished with the same brush. Some of us understand commitments with kids/jobs/family etc and are more than happy to wait for the opportunity as long as there's communication back.
But yeah, i've been shown some messages that guys have sent women and they are a real eye opener. Idiots like that give the rest of us a bad name. |
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