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Yet I get so jealous
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok Tommy talking.
Me and my wife been together now for 20 years. We both still young in our late 30s.
For the past 2 or 3 years it's been my fantasy to share my wife.
The thought of my wife being pleasured by two guys really turns me on like crazy bat shit. And it does her too.
Well we now at the stage where we like. Shall we turn it into reality!? I've shared my wife on cam many times now. It's a Fuking turn on. Now we took the step to go to a soft swingers meet club. It's was ok. Nothing to x rated at all.
But the question is this
How do I climb over the jellous part of it. Her talking to another man and her wanting to fuck him makes me so jellous it's unreal.
But at the same time sharing her does turn me on.
Why does this have to be so hard. Its a huge step for us both to do. As you can appreciate.
Ideally wish it was as simple as we was Fuking and someone just came in joined in the party then leave.! I no I must sounds crazy but thoughts are all over the place. How do we get this right.
We are both strong. We both absolutely Madley in live with each other. We both after 20 year still can't keep our hands of each other. I trust her 100%. And she does me too.
Where's my head at.
Cheers folks
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Hubby and I took a break away from the scene while we got married. Prior to getting married there were no problems but our first visit back to club was horrendous!
Hubby was eyeing this woman up and a different woman was eyeing him up and my jealousy was stupid! We’d literally only been there 10 minutes and I demanded we left. Once I got my jealousy under control we went back and eased Ito it but us playing together and letting join us for kissing and touching first then when I felt happy with it we went back to full swaps at club.
Regardless of your length of relationship, if you try and bring a third person in, then the jealousy will cause serious problems and it will cause problems in your marriage too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds a bit of a hurdle you need to either overcome or back away from.
I’ve met many couples as a single guy and always the men are very much wanting to see their wife enjoying another cock but are always secure in knowing that the lady is very much theirs - and the cock is only for both their temporary enjoyment
If you can get to this view then the jealousy part might not be there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say not to carry on with it. I knew of a few couples on here over the years who have split up because of jealousy. Hope you're both ok and work things out OP x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you found yourself getting jealous at a soft swing then I think it would most definitely tear you up inside if you went ahead with full swing / share. So like others best to keep it as a fantasy for now and enjoy what you already have? Louise says is bi on profile, has she played with another woman with you being there? If so how did you feel about that? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Ok Tommy talking.
Me and my wife been together now for 20 years. We both still young in our late 30s.
For the past 2 or 3 years it's been my fantasy to share my wife.
The thought of my wife being pleasured by two guys really turns me on like crazy bat shit. And it does her too.
Well we now at the stage where we like. Shall we turn it into reality!? I've shared my wife on cam many times now. It's a Fuking turn on. Now we took the step to go to a soft swingers meet club. It's was ok. Nothing to x rated at all.
But the question is this
How do I climb over the jellous part of it. Her talking to another man and her wanting to fuck him makes me so jellous it's unreal.
But at the same time sharing her does turn me on.
Why does this have to be so hard. Its a huge step for us both to do. As you can appreciate.
Ideally wish it was as simple as we was Fuking and someone just came in joined in the party then leave.! I no I must sounds crazy but thoughts are all over the place. How do we get this right.
We are both strong. We both absolutely Madley in live with each other. We both after 20 year still can't keep our hands of each other. I trust her 100%. And she does me too.
Where's my head at.
Cheers folks
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If you are feeling jealous then obviously aren't ready to indulge, but turning things around how would the female half of your relationship feel if you were with another female. And how would this make you feel sexually. And her, you both need to sit down and discuss things deep so both agree and understand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok Tommy talking.
Me and my wife been together now for 20 years. We both still young in our late 30s.
For the past 2 or 3 years it's been my fantasy to share my wife.
The thought of my wife being pleasured by two guys really turns me on like crazy bat shit. And it does her too.
Well we now at the stage where we like. Shall we turn it into reality!? I've shared my wife on cam many times now. It's a Fuking turn on. Now we took the step to go to a soft swingers meet club. It's was ok. Nothing to x rated at all.
But the question is this
How do I climb over the jellous part of it. Her talking to another man and her wanting to fuck him makes me so jellous it's unreal.
But at the same time sharing her does turn me on.
Why does this have to be so hard. Its a huge step for us both to do. As you can appreciate.
Ideally wish it was as simple as we was Fuking and someone just came in joined in the party then leave.! I no I must sounds crazy but thoughts are all over the place. How do we get this right.
We are both strong. We both absolutely Madley in live with each other. We both after 20 year still can't keep our hands of each other. I trust her 100%. And she does me too.
Where's my head at.
Cheers folks
If you are feeling jealous then obviously aren't ready to indulge, but turning things around how would the female half of your relationship feel if you were with another female. And how would this make you feel sexually. And her, you both need to sit down and discuss things deep so both agree and understand."
OK so the wife I would say is bi cur. She don't mind having a play I think. But again it's never been done.
Now this is where it gets weird.
I mean really weird
It's only recently she said to me she'd thinks she will be OK with me being with another women.
This has never been said before and honestly it's never really crossed my mind as a possibility
But then I found myself sort of dm saying. Why would you want to share me.?
I no I no its f#d up as I want to share her. But my reasons for sharing her is because she is to hit to not show of a little.
Myself on the other hand I'm not as hot but. I dunno I found it hard to process in my thoughts and it's still all new to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For now we have both agreed
Not to swing.
But to keep it as a fantasy but at the same time still get to show her of on hear as photos..
Talks much talks needed. Like lots. Thanks for all your kind comments!
Just remember tho. This ain't easy for me. I so wanna give her what she deserves. But yet I can't get over that hurdle.
It's a killer inside if me. |
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"For now we have both agreed
Not to swing.
But to keep it as a fantasy but at the same time still get to show her of on hear as photos..
Talks much talks needed. Like lots. Thanks for all your kind comments!
Just remember tho. This ain't easy for me. I so wanna give her what she deserves. But yet I can't get over that hurdle.
It's a killer inside if me. "
Girl on Girl and play with own partner may suit you? Or just watching and being watched. Both scenarios can be great fun. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Ok Tommy talking.
Me and my wife been together now for 20 years. We both still young in our late 30s.
For the past 2 or 3 years it's been my fantasy to share my wife.
The thought of my wife being pleasured by two guys really turns me on like crazy bat shit. And it does her too.
Well we now at the stage where we like. Shall we turn it into reality!? I've shared my wife on cam many times now. It's a Fuking turn on. Now we took the step to go to a soft swingers meet club. It's was ok. Nothing to x rated at all.
But the question is this
How do I climb over the jellous part of it. Her talking to another man and her wanting to fuck him makes me so jellous it's unreal.
But at the same time sharing her does turn me on.
Why does this have to be so hard. Its a huge step for us both to do. As you can appreciate.
Ideally wish it was as simple as we was Fuking and someone just came in joined in the party then leave.! I no I must sounds crazy but thoughts are all over the place. How do we get this right.
We are both strong. We both absolutely Madley in live with each other. We both after 20 year still can't keep our hands of each other. I trust her 100%. And she does me too.
Where's my head at.
Cheers folks
If you are feeling jealous then obviously aren't ready to indulge, but turning things around how would the female half of your relationship feel if you were with another female. And how would this make you feel sexually. And her, you both need to sit down and discuss things deep so both agree and understand.
OK so the wife I would say is bi cur. She don't mind having a play I think. But again it's never been done.
Now this is where it gets weird.
I mean really weird
It's only recently she said to me she'd thinks she will be OK with me being with another women.
This has never been said before and honestly it's never really crossed my mind as a possibility
But then I found myself sort of dm saying. Why would you want to share me.?
I no I no its f#d up as I want to share her. But my reasons for sharing her is because she is to hit to not show of a little.
Myself on the other hand I'm not as hot but. I dunno I found it hard to process in my thoughts and it's still all new to me. "
The questions that you have could also mean exactly for your partner why? So unless you can find some common ground and explore a little not rushing so deep then discuss this with each other take little steps doesn't have to involve sex just go with a little foreplay with oral maybe have limits and talk to each other hopefully overcome the jealousy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok Tommy talking.
Me and my wife been together now for 20 years. We both still young in our late 30s.
For the past 2 or 3 years it's been my fantasy to share my wife.
The thought of my wife being pleasured by two guys really turns me on like crazy bat shit. And it does her too.
Well we now at the stage where we like. Shall we turn it into reality!? I've shared my wife on cam many times now. It's a Fuking turn on. Now we took the step to go to a soft swingers meet club. It's was ok. Nothing to x rated at all.
But the question is this
How do I climb over the jellous part of it. Her talking to another man and her wanting to fuck him makes me so jellous it's unreal.
But at the same time sharing her does turn me on.
Why does this have to be so hard. Its a huge step for us both to do. As you can appreciate.
Ideally wish it was as simple as we was Fuking and someone just came in joined in the party then leave.! I no I must sounds crazy but thoughts are all over the place. How do we get this right.
We are both strong. We both absolutely Madley in live with each other. We both after 20 year still can't keep our hands of each other. I trust her 100%. And she does me too.
Where's my head at.
Cheers folks
If you are feeling jealous then obviously aren't ready to indulge, but turning things around how would the female half of your relationship feel if you were with another female. And how would this make you feel sexually. And her, you both need to sit down and discuss things deep so both agree and understand.
OK so the wife I would say is bi cur. She don't mind having a play I think. But again it's never been done.
Now this is where it gets weird.
I mean really weird
It's only recently she said to me she'd thinks she will be OK with me being with another women.
This has never been said before and honestly it's never really crossed my mind as a possibility
But then I found myself sort of dm saying. Why would you want to share me.?
I no I no its f#d up as I want to share her. But my reasons for sharing her is because she is to hit to not show of a little.
Myself on the other hand I'm not as hot but. I dunno I found it hard to process in my thoughts and it's still all new to me. "
Tommy & Louise you are both hot in your own way but together you compliment each other so well it truly makes you Team smoking HOT.
Louise is absolutely stunning I won’t lie!
Tom I’m not into guys but my god man if only I looked half as good as good as you do, I would be flaunting my body off every minute.
As I say putting you both together is what makes you one of the hottest couples on this site and I honestly would hate for either of you to do something neither of you are emotionally or mentally equipped to do yet. Give it time your anxiety might pass if it doesn’t then I can assure you there are a lot people who will be just as happy to share you both in pictures or videos only. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok Tommy talking.
Me and my wife been together now for 20 years. We both still young in our late 30s.
For the past 2 or 3 years it's been my fantasy to share my wife.
The thought of my wife being pleasured by two guys really turns me on like crazy bat shit. And it does her too.
Well we now at the stage where we like. Shall we turn it into reality!? I've shared my wife on cam many times now. It's a Fuking turn on. Now we took the step to go to a soft swingers meet club. It's was ok. Nothing to x rated at all.
But the question is this
How do I climb over the jellous part of it. Her talking to another man and her wanting to fuck him makes me so jellous it's unreal.
But at the same time sharing her does turn me on.
Why does this have to be so hard. Its a huge step for us both to do. As you can appreciate.
Ideally wish it was as simple as we was Fuking and someone just came in joined in the party then leave.! I no I must sounds crazy but thoughts are all over the place. How do we get this right.
We are both strong. We both absolutely Madley in live with each other. We both after 20 year still can't keep our hands of each other. I trust her 100%. And she does me too.
Where's my head at.
Cheers folks
If you are feeling jealous then obviously aren't ready to indulge, but turning things around how would the female half of your relationship feel if you were with another female. And how would this make you feel sexually. And her, you both need to sit down and discuss things deep so both agree and understand.
OK so the wife I would say is bi cur. She don't mind having a play I think. But again it's never been done.
Now this is where it gets weird.
I mean really weird
It's only recently she said to me she'd thinks she will be OK with me being with another women.
This has never been said before and honestly it's never really crossed my mind as a possibility
But then I found myself sort of dm saying. Why would you want to share me.?
I no I no its f#d up as I want to share her. But my reasons for sharing her is because she is to hit to not show of a little.
Myself on the other hand I'm not as hot but. I dunno I found it hard to process in my thoughts and it's still all new to me.
Tommy & Louise you are both hot in your own way but together you compliment each other so well it truly makes you Team smoking HOT.
Louise is absolutely stunning I won’t lie!
Tom I’m not into guys but my god man if only I looked half as good as good as you do, I would be flaunting my body off every minute.
As I say putting you both together is what makes you one of the hottest couples on this site and I honestly would hate for either of you to do something neither of you are emotionally or mentally equipped to do yet. Give it time your anxiety might pass if it doesn’t then I can assure you there are a lot people who will be just as happy to share you both in pictures or videos only. "
That was put absolutely perfectly thank you so much. Your advice and comments are very welcome.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I'm reading each and everyone.
It's pretty heart warming to be fair. I thought I was going to get a lot more of
Then what you doing on hear bla bla bla.
Wanting help for people to listen and talk to genuine people on there views and experience is something you can't buy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm reading each and everyone.
It's pretty heart warming to be fair. I thought I was going to get a lot more of
Then what you doing on hear bla bla bla.
Wanting help for people to listen and talk to genuine people on there views and experience is something you can't buy.
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Tommy I saw you peeking at my profile lol. If you want to message me feel free anytime either as yourself or as both of you. I’m not quite as bad as people may think I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Seen this many times over the years, and quite honestly it doesnt end well.. ive seen it too many times where couples enter the lifestyle, vanish then one of the couples comes back as a single some months later.
If theres jealousy swinging isnt for you and those fantasys should stay as exactly that.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Seen this many times over the years, and quite honestly it doesnt end well.. ive seen it too many times where couples enter the lifestyle, vanish then one of the couples comes back as a single some months later.
If theres jealousy swinging isnt for you and those fantasys should stay as exactly that. "
Thank you for your honesty and point definitely taken.
I don't want to ruin what we have.
So maybe there is another way of showing her of and just having. Fun.  |
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"Seen this many times over the years, and quite honestly it doesnt end well.. ive seen it too many times where couples enter the lifestyle, vanish then one of the couples comes back as a single some months later.
If theres jealousy swinging isnt for you and those fantasys should stay as exactly that.
Thank you for your honesty and point definitely taken.
I don't want to ruin what we have.
So maybe there is another way of showing her of and just having. Fun. "
We were exactly the same, not jealous but none of us wanted to go with anyone else but enjoyed the scene and having sex infront of people. Im not a swinger par'se but enjoy the lifestyle and people... and having sex infront of people  |
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"For now we have both agreed
Not to swing.
But to keep it as a fantasy but at the same time still get to show her of on hear as photos..
Talks much talks needed. Like lots. Thanks for all your kind comments!
Just remember tho. This ain't easy for me. I so wanna give her what she deserves. But yet I can't get over that hurdle.
It's a killer inside if me. "
You need to realise that a woman looking great as undoubtedly your wife does, doesn't mean she "deserves" to have sex with multiple men |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For now we have both agreed
Not to swing.
But to keep it as a fantasy but at the same time still get to show her of on hear as photos..
Talks much talks needed. Like lots. Thanks for all your kind comments!
Just remember tho. This ain't easy for me. I so wanna give her what she deserves. But yet I can't get over that hurdle.
It's a killer inside if me.
You need to realise that a woman looking great as undoubtedly your wife does, doesn't mean she "deserves" to have sex with multiple men "
Yet it has nothing to do with that. |
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"For now we have both agreed
Not to swing.
But to keep it as a fantasy but at the same time still get to show her of on hear as photos..
Talks much talks needed. Like lots. Thanks for all your kind comments!
Just remember tho. This ain't easy for me. I so wanna give her what she deserves. But yet I can't get over that hurdle.
It's a killer inside if me.
You need to realise that a woman looking great as undoubtedly your wife does, doesn't mean she "deserves" to have sex with multiple men
Yet it has nothing to do with that. "
Ok, what do you feel she does deserve? I'm not being awkward but trying to understand |
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By *lydeXXXMan
over a year ago
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I was previously here as part of a couple and we both saw it like this. Love and sex go great together but they aren't always exclusive to each other. You can love without sex and you can have sex without love, you already know that. We both had very high sex drives and both had fantasies of sharing something that gave us both a great deal of pleasure we also trusted each other and felt why should we deny each other of these experiences. We set boundaries like no kissing, some do some dont and importantly if one of us says no then it's a no from us both. That's just how it worked for us and I'm just replying so you can maybe relate to anything I mentioned.
I would say though if there is the slightest niggling doubt then maybe it's best left in the realms of fantasy. There's nothing wrong with just using fantasy in your sex life. Everybody is different and this site can give you both a lot to look at to fuel those fantasies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If there is even the merest hint of jealousy; left unchecked it will fester. Best stay in the fantasy realm for now OP. There are other ways to share. Being watched together or watching others play. Go to a club and see the dynamics of other couples but play on your own… In the right context this may lead to more when trust negates the jealousy. But that will take time.
But ultimately be honest with yourselves. Don’t force it and don’t be afraid to admit it isn’t for you. Swinging isn’t for everyone.
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Many times what you imagine in the fantasy should stay as fantasy, reality will often not live up to expectations.
Maybe attend a few socials together and have a chat to some couples about how they swing and see how you both feel afterwards |
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Totally agree with what others have posted keep it on cam as a fantasy if any doubt of jealousy then don’t let your wife get fucked by another guy it will ruin your relationship especially if he’s hung and fucks her good great advice by others |
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