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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi this my first ever forum message.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 30 years.

We have a loving relationship and sex life is great.

But my girlfriend has only ever been with me.

I have asked her before would she never like to find out what it would be like with someone else apart from me.

She says that she wouldn't has she is happy with me.

I want her to have the greatest pleasure she can from sex and I sometimes think I can't pleasure her how she should be.

She has said that she gets all the pleasure from me and what I do.

But I have said she has only ever been with me so she may be missing out on greater pleasure.

But then also I am worried that if she does go with someone else I will become Jealous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Hi this my first ever forum message.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 30 years.

We have a loving relationship and sex life is great.

But my girlfriend has only ever been with me.

I have asked her before would she never like to find out what it would be like with someone else apart from me.

She says that she wouldn't has she is happy with me.

I want her to have the greatest pleasure she can from sex and I sometimes think I can't pleasure her how she should be.

She has said that she gets all the pleasure from me and what I do.

But I have said she has only ever been with me so she may be missing out on greater pleasure.

But then also I am worried that if she does go with someone else I will become Jealous.

If I was you I'd leave fab and live happily ever after

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if shes not interested then she isnt interested, not everyone wants to swing, and as the other poster said, maybe leave fab and enjoy your girl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It sounds like you want to introduce bisexual men into your relationship, she might never want that. I'll assume she knows you're on here meeting with men.

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

If you're genuinely just interested in her pleasure, it sounds like she's got everything she needs. Nice one!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Welcome to the forum.

You should believe what your girlfriend says and stop worrying that she's missing out. She knows her own mind better than you.

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By *arc and KamaCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you sure it’s her that you feel is missing out or is it you?

Are you on here with her blessing? If so, crack on, do your thing and leave her be, she’s happy as she is.

If you’re cheating then, well....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that"

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you. "

can understand that, although find it a bit sad, but if your happy being single then good on you, i was single for a few years and it didnt bother me, but do prefere being in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

can understand that, although find it a bit sad, but if your happy being single then good on you, i was single for a few years and it didnt bother me, but do prefere being in a relationship"

All the men cheating on here but me off to be honest. I’m happy single, no one cheating on me and no getting hurt. There’s a guy I absolutely love with my soul but I’d never have a relationship ever again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

can understand that, although find it a bit sad, but if your happy being single then good on you, i was single for a few years and it didnt bother me, but do prefere being in a relationship

Arri and i think weve found a good comprimise, we dont live together, but spend alot of time together and often stay over at each others house, but we also get me time so to speak, plus she has kids that live with her, and im not really the dad type, it works for us and we are happy, its all about finding a balance, but we are definatly a couple and very much in love, and niether of us would play away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

can understand that, although find it a bit sad, but if your happy being single then good on you, i was single for a few years and it didnt bother me, but do prefere being in a relationship

Never say never mush, some men don't cheat. Risk/reward

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have a few options as this is not only you in this situation. There are many couples like you on the world where only one of them want something extra.

Option 1 - agree and forget

Option 2 - split

Option 3 - ask her for permission for you to swing

Option 4 - discuss with her what you like and find out what is the reason she does not like swinging. Maybe she is worried that you meet someone and leave her. Explain what is swinging etc.

Option 5 a start cheating

I can tell you that the most common is the last option.

looking at his verifications , he is already doing that

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you. "

Exactly. It's betrayal and it's disgusting.

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By *arc and KamaCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you. "

Man is not designed to be with one woman only.

Human is not designed to live single.

Where I fully respect your choice, I think that there are moments where you are a bit jealous of seeing couples. Even I see in your profile that you are not going on holiday alone. And there will be moments which will be coming with the age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

Man is not designed to be with one woman only.

Human is not designed to live single.

I’m definitely not jealous of couples. I love being single. If I wanted a boyfriend I could get one today.

I just use a msn when I want a fuck or, as my status, as company on holiday. I have the best of both worlds without the commitment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

Man is not designed to be with one woman only.

Human is not designed to live single.

Actually, monogamous relationships gave us an evolutionary advantage. Our babies are born a bit useless and need a family around them for many years. Monogamy is the best way to ensure this happens. Maybe that's why so many people swing when they're older and have had kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your comments I have and will take them all in.

I understand the feelings of some on this site towards the like of me.

I am younger than my girlfriend and when we meet i was very inexperienced and I was my girlfriends one and only lover I learned almost all my knowledge from books magazines and the odd film.

With me been shy it took me ages to make the first move (8years).

I always aim to pleasure her before i even think about my pleasure.

As I have said I am the only person my girlfriend has ever been with.

I want her to experience the different pleasures of others as I don't feel as though I fully satisfy her.

(And this does not mean I Secretly want another man so I can enjoy my bi side.)

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By *eerobCouple over a year ago

solihull

She sounds like a keeper and you shouldnt be cheating on her. If i were you i would be worried that if she swapped...not that you may be jealous but perhaps she realises what she has bern missing and leaves you because she knows she can do better.

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

Sounds like it is actually you that wants to experience others (& apparently already are) . She has told you categorically that she is happy with just you.

How do you think she would feel if she saw your profile on here?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

As others have said op, it sounds as if its you that doesn't want to miss out, so you're trying to justify it by suggesting your gf meet others.

You're putting your relationship at risk being here without her knowledge, is it all worth it?

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

Man is not designed to be with one woman only.

Human is not designed to live single.

I’m definitely not jealous of couples. I love being single. If I wanted a boyfriend I could get one today.

I just use a msn when I want a fuck or, as my status, as company on holiday. I have the best of both worlds without the commitment

Don't you just hate when people try to push their own agenda on you, like it's not possible to live a fulfilled life without a man around? Trust me, it is. I would go so far as saying life is better. I've done the relationship thing, was cheated on, by a man I did everything for. Now I don't have to trip over his big smelly feet, or watch shite TV, or cook big dinners when all I fancy is a bowl of cereal

And like yourself, my love, I can get pretty much any man I want when I want so.... (wish there was a middle finger emoji I could place here)

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

I once received a message from a female, oh I do get them lol. She said "She would never meet someone like me", I replied "Who are you? We have never spoken" She blocked me. Why do women here assume just because I'm male they can be rude. Yet if it had been me I would have been lynched and burnt at the stake

#canthaveanyman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why I’m single. If someone can be with a girl for 30 years and cheat, there’s no hope. Imagine only being with one man your whole life and he cheats on you. It would destroy you.

Man is not designed to be with one woman only.

Human is not designed to live single.

I’m definitely not jealous of couples. I love being single. If I wanted a boyfriend I could get one today.

I just use a msn when I want a fuck or, as my status, as company on holiday. I have the best of both worlds without the commitment

And like yourself, my love, I can get pretty much any man I want when I want so.... (wish there was a middle finger emoji I could place here)

Men don’t like it when women tell them that they live a wonderful single life. They like to feel needed, bless

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By *urflrCouple over a year ago

wirral

I don’t often on this kind of post, but would say if you love this woman who you’ve been with for most of your mutual adult lives, and she doesn’t know you’re on here, why the hell would you put face pics on your profile? How do you know she won’t see them, or a friend of hers etc. 30 years and you’d risk that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As others have said op, it sounds as if its you that doesn't want to miss out, so you're trying to justify it by suggesting your gf meet others.

You're putting your relationship at risk being here without her knowledge, is it all worth it?

Miss "

I find it hard when my girlfriend says that she gets all the pleasure she needs from me.

I don't see myself as a good lover and I am always looking for ways to give her more pleasure.

My pleasure comes from seeing her in pleasure and I want to improve on that.

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

"As others have said op, it sounds as if its you that doesn't want to miss out, so you're trying to justify it by suggesting your gf meet others.

You're putting your relationship at risk being here without her knowledge, is it all worth it?

Miss

I find it hard when my girlfriend says that she gets all the pleasure she needs from me.

I don't see myself as a good lover and I am always looking for ways to give her more pleasure.

My pleasure comes from seeing her in pleasure and I want to improve on that.

Maybe you could improve your skills by watching videos, or reading books or exploring toys etc together. You justifying wanting to have sex with others, without her knowing, by saying you want to improve your ability to pleasure her is pretty far fetched.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where to start?

The answer is very simple.

You don't.

She has said No.

You need to respect that.

Or you could show her your profile on here, then she'll probably be up for having sex with others - but never again with you.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

" Hi this my first ever forum message.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 30 years.

We have a loving relationship and sex life is great.

But my girlfriend has only ever been with me.

I have asked her before would she never like to find out what it would be like with someone else apart from me.

She says that she wouldn't has she is happy with me.

I want her to have the greatest pleasure she can from sex and I sometimes think I can't pleasure her how she should be.

She has said that she gets all the pleasure from me and what I do.

But I have said she has only ever been with me so she may be missing out on greater pleasure.

But then also I am worried that if she does go with someone else I will become Jealous.

Another cheat??

Wow!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Hi this my first ever forum message.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 30 years.

We have a loving relationship and sex life is great.

But my girlfriend has only ever been with me.

I have asked her before would she never like to find out what it would be like with someone else apart from me.

She says that she wouldn't has she is happy with me.

I want her to have the greatest pleasure she can from sex and I sometimes think I can't pleasure her how she should be.

She has said that she gets all the pleasure from me and what I do.

But I have said she has only ever been with me so she may be missing out on greater pleasure.

But then also I am worried that if she does go with someone else I will become Jealous.

Another cheat??

Wow!!"

I hope they all get found out, it's disgusting. I once tracked down a guys gf and told her everything. Happy to do it again.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

" Hi this my first ever forum message.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 30 years.

We have a loving relationship and sex life is great.

But my girlfriend has only ever been with me.

I have asked her before would she never like to find out what it would be like with someone else apart from me.

She says that she wouldn't has she is happy with me.

I want her to have the greatest pleasure she can from sex and I sometimes think I can't pleasure her how she should be.

She has said that she gets all the pleasure from me and what I do.

But I have said she has only ever been with me so she may be missing out on greater pleasure.

But then also I am worried that if she does go with someone else I will become Jealous.

Another cheat??

Wow!!

I hope they all get found out, it's disgusting. I once tracked down a guys gf and told her everything. Happy to do it again."

We would do exactly the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Hi this my first ever forum message.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 30 years.

We have a loving relationship and sex life is great.

But my girlfriend has only ever been with me.

I have asked her before would she never like to find out what it would be like with someone else apart from me.

She says that she wouldn't has she is happy with me.

I want her to have the greatest pleasure she can from sex and I sometimes think I can't pleasure her how she should be.

She has said that she gets all the pleasure from me and what I do.

But I have said she has only ever been with me so she may be missing out on greater pleasure.

But then also I am worried that if she does go with someone else I will become Jealous.

If I was you I'd leave fab and live happily ever after"
Have to agree with this. Sounds like it is your fantasy to have your partner sleep with other men, although she is more than satisfied with the sexual relationship she has with you. Also, you are concerned you will feel jealous. My honest opinion would be to leave well alone, and keep it as your fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for all your messages I have taken them in and yes I am packing this site in.

My girlfriend means the world to me and by been on this site i am been unfaithful.

However i do believe she does deserve better than me and that she is missing out sexual pleasure by only ever having me.

I was not thinking about my pleasure i was thinking of hers.

But as some have said it is her choice and i will learn to please more.

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