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over a year ago
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I was extremely nervous when I “lost my Club virginity” sat outside for a while and eventually thought “sod it what have I got to lose” and went inside and I’m extremely glad I did, everyone was so friendly and welcoming, before covid I was a regular and will be venturing back soon. Hope this helps |
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Just be friendly and smiley and talk to people, everyone is friendly. They all have their own thing that they are looking for but I’ve found everyone is happy to chat and you soon work out of you are what they are looking for. Just relax and be yourself and you never know what might happen  |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??"
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit "
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means |
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"Many thanks all, now just need to find a lady to come along with me or grow bigger bollocks  "
You could go with a bloke- surely someone who has been through a newbie experience is a better chaperone than a lady? |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
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"Many thanks all, now just need to find a lady to come along with me or grow bigger bollocks
You could go with a bloke- surely someone who has been through a newbie experience is a better chaperone than a lady?"
True and thank you |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means "
Jeans are not smart end of.
It don't take much effort to dress nice.
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By *u41Man
over a year ago
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means
Jeans are not smart end of.
It don't take much effort to dress nice.
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What would you class a smart casual? |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means
Jeans are not smart end of.
It don't take much effort to dress nice.
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In your opinion  |
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"There isn’t a lot of ladies that like company. Sometimes it makes for an awkward evening.
I often wonder why If two men wanted go why they just don’t go together if they darent go on their own "
When I’ve wandered around clubs looking for a friendly soul to chat with, it tends to only be other lonely single guys you can draw conversation with. Several times though, blokes have have asked me to walk away, as couples and single females avoid blokes bunching together……  |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means "
Sure you go wearing exactly what you want.
Ignore the advice given by people in good faith with an attitude like that you will be a roaring success |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??"
Jeans and a smart shirt definitely works in a club... As long as they are smart black jeans |
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??"
Depends in the club. Wet clubs such as chameleons in Newport and Darlaston require you to wear shorts or a towel in the club (they have changing rooms and lockers). No cash carried in the club. You pay for your drinks etc when you leave as they are logged beside your locker number.
Xtasia and liberty elite are more night clubby clubs with play areas so people generally get dressed up in sexy clothes (which can and does include smart jeans) and you change into appropriate at clothes when the moment is right lol
Just tried to keep it yo a few local clubs to you. If you are interested in any others then I'd check their websites out. |
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"There isn’t a lot of ladies that like company. Sometimes it makes for an awkward evening.
I often wonder why If two men wanted go why they just don’t go together if they darent go on their own
When I’ve wandered around clubs looking for a friendly soul to chat with, it tends to only be other lonely single guys you can draw conversation with. Several times though, blokes have have asked me to walk away, as couples and single females avoid blokes bunching together…… "
Personally I’d rather go chat with a couple of men chatting together than one that seemed stand-offish in the corner, but that’s literally just my opinion, other ladies/couples might think differently x |
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"There isn’t a lot of ladies that like company. Sometimes it makes for an awkward evening.
I often wonder why If two men wanted go why they just don’t go together if they darent go on their own
When I’ve wandered around clubs looking for a friendly soul to chat with, it tends to only be other lonely single guys you can draw conversation with. Several times though, blokes have have asked me to walk away, as couples and single females avoid blokes bunching together……
Personally I’d rather go chat with a couple of men chatting together than one that seemed stand-offish in the corner, but that’s literally just my opinion, other ladies/couples might think differently x"
A friendly club with good hosts would ensure nobody is left standing in corners appearing stand-offish, but that’s literally just my opinion….. x |
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"There isn’t a lot of ladies that like company. Sometimes it makes for an awkward evening.
I often wonder why If two men wanted go why they just don’t go together if they darent go on their own
When I’ve wandered around clubs looking for a friendly soul to chat with, it tends to only be other lonely single guys you can draw conversation with. Several times though, blokes have have asked me to walk away, as couples and single females avoid blokes bunching together……
Personally I’d rather go chat with a couple of men chatting together than one that seemed stand-offish in the corner, but that’s literally just my opinion, other ladies/couples might think differently x
A friendly club with good hosts would ensure nobody is left standing in corners appearing stand-offish, but that’s literally just my opinion….. x"
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"I’m guessing newbies at clubs stand out a mile. I know each club would be different but would regulars make an effort to make newbies comfortable or would people be busy doing their own thing?"
Always been made to feel welcome in the clubs I have visited solo or as a couple  |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear? "
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
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Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x"
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there? |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there? "
Usually people change into their swinging attire when they feel comfortable at xstasia. |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there?
Usually people change into their swinging attire when they feel comfortable at xstasia."
Ahh ok see I didn't know this, thank you! So I'll get tarted up club stylee but take sexy lingerie to change into when I'm feeling it  |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there?
Usually people change into their swinging attire when they feel comfortable at xstasia.
Ahh ok see I didn't know this, thank you! So I'll get tarted up club stylee but take sexy lingerie to change into when I'm feeling it "
Yes
and enjoy yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there?
Usually people change into their swinging attire when they feel comfortable at xstasia.
Ahh ok see I didn't know this, thank you! So I'll get tarted up club stylee but take sexy lingerie to change into when I'm feeling it
Yes
and enjoy yourself "
Aww thank you, glad I could help.
Yeah just go club stylee and then when your there and feeling it just get changed. There are lockers there as well to store stuff. The only other thing I forgot to mention is you must be able to prove you’ve had both Covid jabs. They won’t except the card as that can be easily forged. Download the NHS App and login and it show you when you had your jabs and what vaccine you had. Other than that, yeah just enjoy yourself and have a fab time x |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there?
Usually people change into their swinging attire when they feel comfortable at xstasia.
Ahh ok see I didn't know this, thank you! So I'll get tarted up club stylee but take sexy lingerie to change into when I'm feeling it
Yes
and enjoy yourself
Aww thank you, glad I could help.
Yeah just go club stylee and then when your there and feeling it just get changed. There are lockers there as well to store stuff. The only other thing I forgot to mention is you must be able to prove you’ve had both Covid jabs. They won’t except the card as that can be easily forged. Download the NHS App and login and it show you when you had your jabs and what vaccine you had. Other than that, yeah just enjoy yourself and have a fab time x"
That is why I am staying away from the club's for a while longer the spread of cvoid. |
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x
This is great advice thank you! Do people take sexy outfits with them, or change into sexy lingerie there, or just wear pulling clothes the whole time they're there?
Usually people change into their swinging attire when they feel comfortable at xstasia.
Ahh ok see I didn't know this, thank you! So I'll get tarted up club stylee but take sexy lingerie to change into when I'm feeling it
Yes
and enjoy yourself
Aww thank you, glad I could help.
Yeah just go club stylee and then when your there and feeling it just get changed. There are lockers there as well to store stuff. The only other thing I forgot to mention is you must be able to prove you’ve had both Covid jabs. They won’t except the card as that can be easily forged. Download the NHS App and login and it show you when you had your jabs and what vaccine you had. Other than that, yeah just enjoy yourself and have a fab time x"
Oh I didn't know this, I thought they'd accept the card, but that's fine I can do that as I am double jabbed. Really appreciate all the help! |
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Check on the club your planning to visit's website for info on what is expected of you as they may differ from others. All of the ones we have visited people wore sexy undies or towels once inside.
Just be yourself chat to people and don't expect to Shah everyone there, as a first visit it can be kid in a candy shop lol. Be polite and take a no thanks gracefully or you may be asked to leave!
Take some condoms with you as you will need them should you be lucky enough to be invited to join someone. |
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Be go with no expectations, be respectful, be friendly and talk to people as you would do in a social setting,
Don’t pester, don’t follow couples/ladies around, don’t get d*unk, don’t lurk in corridors, don’t knock on locked room doors, don’t touch people without invite and don’t do anything without asking or invite
Wear a condom and just be yourself
A big list of “Don’ts” but these are important rules that will make your visit more enjoyable, won’t mark you down as being a nuisance and may give you a better chance of being asked to join someone.
But remember go with the intention of having a good social evening and you’ll have a great night |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
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"I'm really unsure what I'd wear as a woman going to say Xstasia. I'm now a member so need to go ASAP, but one it's daunting alone and two what do women wear?
Xstasia is like a night club wear something has if you were on the pull
Went today during the daytime when I knew it would be a little quieter for my first visit to Xtasia. Went on my own though it would be great to have a mate to go with but you don’t have to and it no where near as daunting as you think it will be. I’d definitely take a male friend for me rather than a female friend and vis versa if I was a lady. The Club is open all day from 11 am on a Tuesday, the other days I think it ‘s only open in the evening. During the day it casual wear but on the evening, wear the same thing you would wear on a night out clubbing to start with. Staff are really kind, friendly and chatty. The reality is it’s no different then other pubs and clubs except for the possibility for things to go further it you make a connection, were in other clubs and pubs it stops at flirting. I only chatted to staff today and we just chatted and joked like you would in any other conversation. There wasn’t pressure to perform or everything being about swinging and sex. It was a very chilled and fun experience for me. You’ll have a blast when you go x"
Yep sounds good mate |
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By *oss11Man
over a year ago
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"There isn’t a lot of ladies that like company. Sometimes it makes for an awkward evening.
I often wonder why If two men wanted go why they just don’t go together if they darent go on their own "
Hard enough getting into a club as a single male let alone two |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means
Jeans are not smart end of.
It don't take much effort to dress nice.
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Depending me I would wear 501s with a nice pair of shoes and shirt and suit jacket? As if we were going out. |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
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"Whats the dress code or does it vary club to club, would jeans & polo shirt cut the mark or shirt & trousers??
Jeans not exactly smart casual.
Check with the club you plan to visit
would have thought that a nice pair of Jeans and a Smart Shirt is exactly what Smart Casual means
Jeans are not smart end of.
It don't take much effort to dress nice.
Depending me I would wear 501s with a nice pair of shoes and shirt and suit jacket? As if we were going out."
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