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50 age limit

By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

Being 50 isn’t old these days. I’m fitter now than when I was 30. However quite a lot of ladies set there age filter max at 50. Do any of you sometimes wonder you may be missing out on some great guys on fab by doing that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being 50 isn’t old these days. I’m fitter now than when I was 30. However quite a lot of ladies set there age filter max at 50. Do any of you sometimes wonder you may be missing out on some great guys on fab by doing that?"

I'm with you there, same here fitter and better than I've ever been. Add to that the experience that I can now bring to the table that I didn't have as a 20 something and it does make you think if only they knew.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

At a guess we would imagine people are happy with the choices they make.

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By *avrick180Man over a year ago

Pontypool

Know that feeling I'm 49 and a lot of women on here think ur over the hill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably…. But people do what they’re comfortable with not what you decide.

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I doubt they feel they are missing out OP. There is plenty of choice for women looking for men under 50. It's different at parties and socials of course. You don't have your age tattooed on your forehead so its down to you on the night.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

It's coz we are not as pretty anymore.

Women love to look at pretty eye candy.

Not old uggos.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

I don't have that problem with guys, but then I'm 53 and actively seek people in my age group.

Is it because you're mostly looking for younger women, OP? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know by my time of extending my age limit and opening filters that my upper age limit is correct

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By *etro1940sCouple over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We respect and understand the reasons behind age limitations. For us it is more about style, skill and acknowledgement of the dynamics of the play. We tend towards older but that is just us. Energetic 50+ is very much where we are. x Anne & George

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

Considering many men lie about their age I imagine most women are more than happy with any age limits they set.

Get to a club OP. If you are that good you will do well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a 45 year old, I started playing with men my age on here, but ventured to younger when offered and honestly, it's an eye candy thing for me. Nothing against men my age, but those 30 something men do it for me

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By *asycouple1971Couple over a year ago

midlands

Im 49 wife is 48.

Getting more meets now kids are older and at school. Wife is getting sexier.

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By *ubal1Man over a year ago

Newry Down

Frankly, I am completely contented with how I look and what I do; ageism is very prevalent, but at 65 I have a colossal amount of experience and a vast amount of knowledge to draw upon.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

No & I'm nearing 50 myself

I find the older the guy the more entitled they are, ignoring my preferences, thinking they can change my mind as to what I'm looking for etc

& that's honestly not a dig at the OP just an observation from the messages I receive

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We all have to set our age boundaries somewhere I imagine there are some 61 year old who feel the same way about our profile.

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By *esi_maverickMan over a year ago

Solihull

I like me a mature couple or fem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends if you mean real 50 or fab 50. On my single profile I've set the age lower because of the number of men who knock 10 years off their age

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I doubt they do wonder that OP as the plethora of choice in the age bracket they have chosen will prevent them from doing so.

At 56 I've never found my age to be a limitation on here - there are plenty who will meet the over 50s so I don't tend to worry about those that won't and simply respect and accept their preferences. Are they "missing out" by filtering me, and others my age, out? Not in the slightest, and I wouldn't be as presumptuous to think so.

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By *exyusMan over a year ago

halifax

message me and meet in pandora's x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many a good tune Played on a old Fiddle as the saying goes its so true the younger one just dont know it

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I’m 53 and yes that’s my real age on fab as well. You’ll attract different people and those who have met you will probably meet you again. It’s not been a big issue for me. My messages are fewer but that’s a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh well , you know what they say, it's better to be over the hill than under it.... sorry

I like an older man , like a fine wine just gets better.

Upper age limit for me , not sure if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why they will be found out sooner or later we are all looking for fun and fun it should be x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

good for you thats the way wish there were more people like you down my way

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By *irty PrettyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

Your profile says you’re 44?

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I do like the older gent. I just find I'm on the same wavelength with others around my age or older x

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By *attoo manMan over a year ago

Rhyl

I still feel like 20 year old. Then i wake up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s a buyer’s market.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

It works both ways as I am too old for many men too. I just move on and find others who do not bother so much about age.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I don't have that problem with guys, but then I'm 53 and actively seek people in my age group.

Is it because you're mostly looking for younger women, OP? X"

Agreed, Red, it's about people perhaps wanting other people nearer their age? We're mid 30s and set our age range plus or minus 10 years, so 25-45. Happy with that

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By *iguy1130Man over a year ago

Caerphilly borough

Its all about choices..we all make choices..anybody that criticize others for their choices..must take a look at themselves..and accept others choices.. we are all guilty in fancying younger people..but not always.. Chemistry between people you meet is more important than just being good looking..i know its difficult for older people to get contacts with younger people, but we must respect their preferences..good luck in your searches for a nice meet with others.

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

Your right, some guys are great in their 50

Fox

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

We all have our upper age limit. For some it's 50 and for others it's 60.

I'm pretty sure if anyone wondered what they were missing they'd up their limit

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By *atangMan over a year ago

bolton

I'm 51 and gutted when just outside the age range

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By *ouple 71Couple over a year ago

Stonehaven

Us too !

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m 61 and never get males over 50 messaging ... it’s always younger males

maybe I need to check the profile ... anyway probably cos I’m ancient 50 is young for me ha ha

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

See we have 40 to 55 as our age preferences but its more them being on the right page than their age really.

It's the reason we just auto block 35 and under.

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By *ig Boy FunMan over a year ago

Camden

Simple, for ladies its a buyers market, with so much choice they need to filter out, otherwise they get overloaded with messages and offers.

I do agreee, I been a parties where some 50+ gent would young guys to shame with their fitness, stamina and the ability to connect.

But remember now that 50+, you got move from MILFs to GILFs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone likes you and wants to meet they will.

Age won't come into it

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

not really as it's a physical thing for me. I can't imagine me being physically attracted to any man older than me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I duno what it is with me, but I always find older men patronising me with their "knowledge and expertise"... massive turn off. Plus i love supple smooth skin on a fresh face guy... everyone has their preferences

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By *aster C the kinksterMan over a year ago

Darlington

Just seen a post about the number of views. Girls get 900 views a day. Guys get 10 if your lucky. (I'm not lucky) so girls get to choose the cream.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in my 50s and have accepted that it's probably very unlikely I will meet any women on here but I stay for the forums and banter. Most of you have a great sense of humour and are fun.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"I don't have that problem with guys, but then I'm 53 and actively seek people in my age group.

Is it because you're mostly looking for younger women, OP? X"

No definitely not I think there are so many fantastic women on fab over 50

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By *tickyPollCouple over a year ago

Dartford

Keep up the hard work

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

Keep up the hard work

Wow just had a look and you guys are in amazing shape xx

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By *tickyPollCouple over a year ago

Dartford

Keep up the hard work

Wow just had a look and you guys are in amazing shape xx

Thank you

I have to say, some men fifteen years younger than you do not have your physical shape

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m like cherryblossom, I don’t tend to look at men older than me. It’s purely an eye candy thing.

That said, I know there’s the argument that older men are more “experienced”. Thing is, every time I’ve chatted to a man who says he’s “experienced”, he’s seemed to think he knows everything about pleasing a woman, and if I suggest that maybe not all women like the same thing, they get a bit affronted? Obviously that’s not all “experienced” men, maybe I’ve been unlucky.

I’d much much prefer to be with a man who is still willing to be shown what to do, what I like, and to be taught a bit, than a guy who has supreme confidence that he knows how to get every woman off.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

Keep up the hard work

Wow just had a look and you guys are in amazing shape xx

Thank you

I have to say, some men fifteen years younger than you do not have your physical shape

I’m good with a camera

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By *ouple2playCouple over a year ago

Solihull

Keep up the hard work

Wow just had a look and you guys are in amazing shape xx

Thank you

I have to say, some men fifteen years younger than you do not have your physical shape

I’m good with a camera

Have you got a tripod

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By *xford_geekCouple over a year ago

Cotswolds

I far prefer older guys. Different to hubby, more perverted, back up words with action and less arrogant

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By *rhugesMan over a year ago

Cardiff

I regularly beat 20 year olds in half and full marathons and I'm 54'

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By * and G CoupleCouple over a year ago

London

Same here.

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By *outhman15Man over a year ago

southampton

Im 54 glad to hear some ladies prefer a more mature man

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We lowered our age limit after being contacted by men that were not our preference, perhaps we had the “fab”50 year olds but we found that most were not in their best shape ever and looked considerably older.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you to all the over 50s men for commenting. I've got you all in 1 thread, perving the lot of ya

Claire xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No not really.

In my experience a lot of older men act far more entitled and condescending.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

No not really.

In my experience a lot of older men act far more entitled and condescending. "

That’s a shame to hear. Always a few rude people on here though. We are not all like this

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By *ecretsAndPleasuresCouple over a year ago

Swingville

I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x "

When I was younger I had absolutely no interest in men more than a few years older than me. I still don't. I don't expect anybody younger to be interested in me now,bwht on earth would they, when there are younger women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

I dunno. Your not so bad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m happy to be over 50 and it helps having to communicate on a level with people that are looking for my age group.. I can’t pretend I know anything about drake or reality stars but I am able to keep hard and am extremely horny all of the time.

And I would feel a little odd with anyone under 35

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By *ougie321Man over a year ago

Milford Haven

Well yesterday I felt like a 40 yr old the day before a 35 yr old and today I feel any women that has a pulse would do. Does that make me old

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

I dunno. Your not so bad

I know but I don't expect young people to want to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

I dunno. Your not so bad

I know but I don't expect young people to want to meet me.

I would not hesitate in meeting you

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

I dunno. Your not so bad

I know but I don't expect young people to want to meet me.

I would not hesitate in meeting you

Lol, thanks. The thing is I don't expect younger people to want to meet me. If they do, fine but I'm not losing sleep if they don't. I need all the sleep I can get at my age

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

I dunno. Your not so bad

I know but I don't expect young people to want to meet me.

I reckon some would.

You could then ban their ass after if the verification wasn't all in order

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think when your younger you want older and when you get older you want younger? It’s a strange one….x

I dunno. Your not so bad

I know but I don't expect young people to want to meet me.

I would not hesitate in meeting you

Lol, thanks. The thing is I don't expect younger people to want to meet me. If they do, fine but I'm not losing sleep if they don't. I need all the sleep I can get at my age

You wouldn't be getting much sleep if I was around

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By *orth_hantscplCouple over a year ago

camberley

It’s interesting OP that you’re looking for women up to 32 years younger then you but only 10 years older? Are you worried you might be missing out on some sexy older women?

If women took the same approach and only wanted 10 years older then they’d have to be at least 40.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting OP that you’re looking for women up to 32 years younger then you but only 10 years older? Are you worried you might be missing out on some sexy older women?

If women took the same approach and only wanted 10 years older then they’d have to be at least 40. "

Ooft...

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

They probably do it to cut down on messages, can you imagine how many some would get if they had an age range of 18 to 99

We’re cheeky as we have ours set at 49 lol but hey ho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe it’s just a preference. The way I prefer to not to meet men. The way I prefer to not eat gherkins or mushrooms.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At 51 I'm over most age preferences . I concentrate on the ones that want to meet the older gentleman. I was in a Quest on Friday night and have a lady on my hot list as she's local with a great profile. After seeing her in the bar on her own I got chatting and not long after a bit of flirting we ended up in a room. Just goes to show you can't always assume you are too old for anyone.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We have met people over our set age limit on here and also met people where we are above theirs, so I’d say meeting in person at say a club or party is different than an age preference on here, we just figured we had to set it somewhere when we joined about 7 years ago and not changed it as we’ve aged lol

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I was missing out, but the other way around. Had filters set from 35-54. Once I removed them, my main FWB who was 31 at the time was able to message me. Best decision I ever made.

So I have no filters now, people of any age can contact me. But it is very, very rare that I will reply to over 50s... I will do in very exceptional circumstances though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the ripe old age of 63 (nearly 64) I tend to be philosophical about my membership of the site and manage my expectations with regards to meeting people.

I tend to veer towards people my own age group and would have little in common with those under 45. Age is a number important to some but not to others. I fully understand that ladies and couples have a plethora of chaps to choose from and that a firm toned body is preferable by far than the advantages of senior citizens discounted public transportation.

Horses for courses...........as long as the fences are not to high!

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"It’s interesting OP that you’re looking for women up to 32 years younger then you but only 10 years older? Are you worried you might be missing out on some sexy older women?

If women took the same approach and only wanted 10 years older then they’d have to be at least 40. "

Tbh that’s a good point you make I should look at my age preferences. Pre Covid I was approached by a couple and the Lady was 62. She had an amazing body, better than most women half her age. Long slender legs, small waist, toned back and arse. Hoping to get back meeting them soon.

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By *ir SupremacyMan over a year ago

Bolton

I definitely prefer more mature ladies than me they more sexy .

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

To be honest, I don't give a stuff about ages, I've either been there, or hope to be still there when I'm older

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s interesting OP that you’re looking for women up to 32 years younger then you but only 10 years older? Are you worried you might be missing out on some sexy older women?

If women took the same approach and only wanted 10 years older then they’d have to be at least 40.

See this is what baffles me.

You say this woman had a body "better than most women half her age".

So on the one hand you're suggesting that past a certain age women's bodies worsen somehow. And yet you're asking not to be discounted based on your age because you have a great body?!

While ALSO making 30-something women feel bad for not having tiny waists, slender legs etc (which by the way, is YOUR definition of "better").

Why not just say she had a great body and leave it at that?!

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I was in my fifties when joining the site, I don't feel left out at all.

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

Would you recommend that people who set their age range from 50 and above, should consider trying something a bit younger, as they may be missing out?

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

furthermore, OP your age range is 18 to 60, not scared you may be missing out on something amazing? open your mind!.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See this is what baffles me."

Do as I say not as I do…

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

46 is too old for here so hit the club's my 46 looking not too bad to some of the 30s in the wild with no filters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree

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By *inkycreamCouple over a year ago

manchester

We much happier with couples and ladies over 50, we have a habit of ignoring younger, just the whole get along experience works better.

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple over a year ago

Reading

We love an older couple or singles. A fine wine........

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Nope. I don’t give it a moment’s thought. People make their choices and that’s up to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. I don’t give it a moment’s thought. People make their choices and that’s up to them.

Vx"

They sure do

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Just because people's filters are set at a certain age does not mean they are missing out on anything.

Mine are set at the ages I have to help with messages. If I see someone outside them that I like I'll contact them myself.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Just because people's filters are set at a certain age does not mean they are missing out on anything.

Mine are set at the ages I have to help with messages. If I see someone outside them that I like I'll contact them myself. "

exactly... plus it's not about being fit. it's having the right looks and attitude. I have met afew men like that in their forties plus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just because people's filters are set at a certain age does not mean they are missing out on anything.

Mine are set at the ages I have to help with messages. If I see someone outside them that I like I'll contact them myself.

exactly... plus it's not about being fit. it's having the right looks and attitude. I have met afew men like that in their forties plus

Maybe if you stopped moaning and complaining about men or the standard of men in most of the posts you make you may find they will be interested.

But if all they read is that your unhappy and fed up with your lot in life it doesn't matter how hot you are.

Guys will walk away. They don't need the grief

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my minimum age is 50 ...........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my minimum age is 50 ..........."

That's a damn shame as ur bloody hot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It works both ways as I am too old for many men too. I just move on and find others who do not bother so much about age."

Bluebell there is no way you are that age, you look more like a 30’s something super model.

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

Don't think I have a limit

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By *irty PrettyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

I can’t help noticing that all the comments men are making in this thread about older women being attractive are exclusively about the ones who look younger in some way. It seems men only really want women over 40 if we can pass as younger. Isn’t it a bit of a double standard to then complain that women don’t want older men?

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

Surely people are entitled to meet with who they want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some women just don't like men their age or older & it's not just the physical attributes... It can be the mindset too

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"It’s interesting OP that you’re looking for women up to 32 years younger then you but only 10 years older? Are you worried you might be missing out on some sexy older women?

If women took the same approach and only wanted 10 years older then they’d have to be at least 40.

See this is what baffles me.

You say this woman had a body "better than most women half her age".

So on the one hand you're suggesting that past a certain age women's bodies worsen somehow. And yet you're asking not to be discounted based on your age because you have a great body?!

While ALSO making 30-something women feel bad for not having tiny waists, slender legs etc (which by the way, is YOUR definition of "better").

Why not just say she had a great body and leave it at that?! "

Ooft!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some women just don't like men their age or older & it's not just the physical attributes... It can be the mindset too"

This!

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"I can’t help noticing that all the comments men are making in this thread about older women being attractive are exclusively about the ones who look younger in some way. It seems men only really want women over 40 if we can pass as younger. Isn’t it a bit of a double standard to then complain that women don’t want older men?"

Actually the thread discussion was about whether women setting there age limit at 50 were possibly missing out on some fit guys, but as always some people twist it to create confrontation. Then people react and off it goes down a negative path . That’s fab for you

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By *irty PrettyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

Haven’t you seen the comments? You even made one yourself. I’m not taking it anywhere you and other men haven’t already.

And to answer you original question, because the weekly threads on this topic haven’t answered it thoroughly enough - no, of course we’re not missing out. If we’ve decided to set an upper age limit at a particular age, it’s because we’re not interested in people over that age. If Hugh Jackman is on here and wants to message me, I don’t have filters on (I live in hope), but most older men however good they might think they are, don’t appeal to me. Especially with the “i’M sO eXpErIeNcEd” line which honestly just makes me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Age is something we cannot change..you either click with someone or you don't.

We all would like to remain as attractive as we were in our 30's but sadly it's not always possible but I will defintely keep trying (mrs).

You either like what you see or you don't.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

More women/couples set their upper bracket to 45, and from some I have chatted with, it’s more to do with cutting down the amount of mail they receive. If you appeal to someone, they will contact you whatever your age. Just be the best you you can be

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Age is something we cannot change..you either click with someone or you don't.

We all would like to remain as attractive as we were in our 30's but sadly it's not always possible but I will defintely keep trying (mrs).

You either like what you see or you don't."

I'm as attractive as I was in my thirties, in a different way and to different people.

Being sexually attractive wanes as you grow older and you appeal to fewer and different people but overall presentation and attractiveness doesn't on my opinion

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

People have set their preferences on how things are today for them, based on their knowledge of others today, rather than as they used to be.

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By *ornyyorksMan over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I do like the older gent. I just find I'm on the same wavelength with others around my age or older x"

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

Haven’t you seen the comments? You even made one yourself. I’m not taking it anywhere you and other men haven’t already.

I test my case

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

No, even though we meet guys over 50, we never wonder what we may be missing out on with any of our requirements. You could say that about virtually any age limit. Everyone has a right to specify what they're looking for and whether it makes sense to anyone else or not doesn't matter.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Just to add to the above, what has 'fitness' got to do with it? Some of us aren't looking to be shagged senseless by a marathon runner for hours and prefer a more relaxed mood.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

Just to add to the above, what has 'fitness' got to do with it? Some of us aren't looking to be shagged senseless by a marathon runner for hours and prefer a more relaxed mood.

Nothing wrong with vanilla. Everyone is entitled to there preferences on here. At the end of the day all I did was posed a question. I wasn’t looking for a fight

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Just to add to the above, what has 'fitness' got to do with it? Some of us aren't looking to be shagged senseless by a marathon runner for hours and prefer a more relaxed mood.

Nothing wrong with vanilla. Everyone is entitled to there preferences on here. At the end of the day all I did was posed a question. I wasn’t looking for a fight "

What makes you think we're trying to fight? We just stated our view on the subject in response to your OP and even added a

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By *irty PrettyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

"Haven’t you seen the comments? You even made one yourself. I’m not taking it anywhere you and other men haven’t already.

I test my case

“Experience” when it just means “I’ve had sex with a lot of women but only do it in one specific way regardless of the woman I’m with at the time” is no use to me. I want someone who has the ability to respond to me, who cares what I want, and age has nothing to do with that. I find the older a man is, the more likely he is to be set in his ways, in sex as in everything else in life.

I also don’t want someone who’s only fucked one woman for 25 years, and she checked out 20 years ago, so it’s been birthdays and holidays only ever since. That kind of man just wants blowjobs.

And before you say it, this is not me having an axe to grind, this is based on the joys of my inbox. I can give you a run-down of the problems with 20-year-old as well if you want (and no, I don’t think I’m missing out on them either).

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"Actually the thread discussion was about whether women setting there age limit at 50 were possibly missing out on some fit guys, but as always some people twist it to create confrontation. Then people react and off it goes down a negative path . That’s fab for you "

We are a couple that only meet younger men. Many younger men set an age limit of forty, so we can be unable to contact them due to message filters. From our perspective we are missing out on the opportunity to meet with someone we might be interested in. However, the crucial factor is that the guy has not missed out because his preference is to not meet with a couple of our age.

Sorry OP, but if you don't match what people are looking for then it is not them that misses out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It seems guys can’t post anything these days without some snowflakes being offended. The ‘calling out’ as it’s been referred to here is just an excuse to air single guy grievances/ bitterness in my view.

Nia x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It seems guys can’t post anything these days without some snowflakes being offended. The ‘calling out’ as it’s been referred to here is just an excuse to air single guy grievances/ bitterness in my view.

Nia x"

I agree with you to a degree.

But men do not help themselves by starting threads in the lounge knocking other men's looks, profile or if they just got a cock on show.

It's as if the men that do this are trying to take down the competition by belittling others.

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

"Some women just don't like men their age or older & it's not just the physical attributes... It can be the mindset too

This! "

Yeah young lads have filthy mindset haha

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

"Some women just don't like men their age or older & it's not just the physical attributes... It can be the mindset too

This!

Yeah young lads have filthy mindset haha"

I would agree when i was 20-30 but now at 43 it is obvious that older men have had more time and life experience to come up with filthy, fun ideas.

At this age I am also more capable of reading a woman, from the things she says and doesnt quite say.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

If they thought they were missing out then they wouldn’t have the age limit lol!

Age isn’t relevant to me, but it makes my skin crawl when men message me purely because of my age.

I don’t have set limits, but do have preferences. Putting filters on is just an easy way of reducing the inboxes from here, specially in world where were all judged on our profiles alone

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"Some women just don't like men their age or older & it's not just the physical attributes... It can be the mindset too

This!

Yeah young lads have filthy mindset haha

I would agree when i was 20-30 but now at 43 it is obvious that older men have had more time and life experience to come up with filthy, fun ideas.

At this age I am also more capable of reading a woman, from the things she says and doesnt quite say."

I don’t think it’s obvious at all that older men have had more life experience or time to come up with ideas.

I often meet men from 25-60 and don’t find that to be accurate at all.

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By *aby girl32Woman over a year ago

Leigh lancs

I have my age limit set to 52. If I was in a club, I dont tend to have a age limit I play with who I want.

If I was meeting a 50+ guy they would have to be special for me to want to meet, we are just on different wavelengths.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"I have my age limit set to 52. If I was in a club, I dont tend to have a age limit I play with who I want.

If I was meeting a 50+ guy they would have to be special for me to want to meet, we are just on different wavelengths."

I get that. 20 years is a sizeable generation gap

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Nia x"

I’ve often said you can post a thread about any subject in the world ever, and within 7 comments the men-haters will turn it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes seems they want younger but I'm lucky I look younger than 49 just not here where women judge. In person I look younger than some of the guys they go for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't tell people what to like just like nobody can tell me what to like.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

Nia x

I’ve often said you can post a thread about any subject in the world ever, and within 7 comments the men-haters will turn it

Considering there’s lots of straight women on here a lot of them hate men! Haha

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By *onnie 90Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Probably…. But people do what they’re comfortable with not what you decide."

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By *urplechesterCouple over a year ago

chester

We come across the max age 50 choice quite a lot! Mr PC is 52 and I’m 45, so we often still message. To be honest the majority of ladies message back saying they have no problem with mr being over their age range, it’s just a number! All personal choice really! Miss PC

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By *amb47gayMan over a year ago

Cambridge

24 years over the limit and I'm still fucking cute 18s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My Man is 51 and he’s fitter than he was in his 30s and the things he can do to me now is mind blowing! If couples by pass us because of our age it’s their loss!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t say they are missing out as they have their preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No & I'm nearing 50 myself

I find the older the guy the more entitled they are, ignoring my preferences, thinking they can change my mind as to what I'm looking for etc

& that's honestly not a dig at the OP just an observation from the messages I receive "

This was the reason I had to lower my age limit too, I found the 50 plus men tended to be quite nasty when given a polite no thank you, ignoring them had the same response.

In balance though, I find the 20’s bracket are similar with attitudes.

Obviously this isn’t towards all men of those age groups, just the unfortunate experience I’ve found on here.

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

People set their filters to fit with their preferences. Whilst I am sure there are many great people who are younger or older than my preferred age bracket, I choose to limit my options by narrowing the field. When I set my age limits I decided what age I'd be most happy to meet & then added 5 years on to either end because it isn't set in stone.

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"No & I'm nearing 50 myself

I find the older the guy the more entitled they are, ignoring my preferences, thinking they can change my mind as to what I'm looking for etc

& that's honestly not a dig at the OP just an observation from the messages I receive

This was the reason I had to lower my age limit too, I found the 50 plus men tended to be quite nasty when given a polite no thank you, ignoring them had the same response.

In balance though, I find the 20’s bracket are similar with attitudes.

Obviously this isn’t towards all men of those age groups, just the unfortunate experience I’ve found on here. "

You do what is right for you and I respect that. It’s gauling when you get tarred with the same brush though. There are some nasty folk on here of all ages is my experience

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By *xford_geekCouple over a year ago

Cotswolds

"No & I'm nearing 50 myself

I find the older the guy the more entitled they are, ignoring my preferences, thinking they can change my mind as to what I'm looking for etc

& that's honestly not a dig at the OP just an observation from the messages I receive "

I totally find the opposite true. I have strict no anal or oral rules and older guys respect that far more in my experience. Young guys all tell me they should be the exception, it is very tiresome...

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Motherwell

"Some women just don't like men their age or older & it's not just the physical attributes... It can be the mindset too

This!

Yeah young lads have filthy mindset haha

I would agree when i was 20-30 but now at 43 it is obvious that older men have had more time and life experience to come up with filthy, fun ideas.

At this age I am also more capable of reading a woman, from the things she says and doesnt quite say.

I don’t think it’s obvious at all that older men have had more life experience or time to come up with ideas.

I often meet men from 25-60 and don’t find that to be accurate at all.

Maybe just me then

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By *reestylingWoman over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I prefer the older man. Happy with 40 to 50 but much prefer an older man 50+ who will play with me sensually. Getting a fuck is easy; getting a deeply, lovely, sensual session of love making is hard to find. Or is it me x

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

Nia x

I’ve often said you can post a thread about any subject in the world ever, and within 7 comments the men-haters will turn it

Considering there’s lots of straight women on here a lot of them hate men! Haha

Hahaha this made me laugh !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer the older man. Happy with 40 to 50 but much prefer an older man 50+ who will play with me sensually. Getting a fuck is easy; getting a deeply, lovely, sensual session of love making is hard to find. Or is it me x

It’s the socks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think maximum age settings are probably a little arbitrary, and it seems human nature for many to choose a nice round number, so 50 or 55 are common choices relative to many women in, for example, their 40s (not all I might add). It's a little like deciding to set your alarm for 7am instead of 7.06am. I mean, how do you decide that your maximum age of the person you want to meet on fabs is, say, 53? Might as well specify 53 and 7 months (if the system allowed you).

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By *entleman of GirthMan over a year ago

Forest Row

If you think hitting 50 “limits your appeal” - God help you when you get to 60 ??

From one who is just that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably…. But people do what they’re comfortable with not what you decide."

Exactly.

I doubt they will feel they're missing out on people they have no intetest in.

We see a lot of threads from people complaining about the people whose criteria they don't meet when what they should be doing is focusing on those for whom they do.

I could have a moan about those who don't like those of us carrying a few extra pounds, but it won't solve anything, and thete are plenty on here who do like a larger bloke.

Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm guessing you're looking for younger ladies?

I know lots of fellas who knock a good few years of their profile age for this reason

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's coz we are not as pretty anymore.

Women love to look at pretty eye candy.

Not old uggos."

Not all women

I personally wouldn't meet men under 40

I find neither the sex or conversation is that interesting!

But then, I'm really old lol

Missy x

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We are both over 50, so enjoying not having to posture or pretend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm 52 and set my limit at 60, but only as a rough guide

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

Mine is set at 60 if someone intrigues me and grabs my attention then their age is obsolete, their only preferences after all

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By *9Karm69Man over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

"Mine is set at 60 if someone intrigues me and grabs my attention then their age is obsolete, their only preferences after all "

The problem being that those over 60 would not be able to message you to get your attention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mine is set at 60 if someone intrigues me and grabs my attention then their age is obsolete, their only preferences after all "

Excellent point, as you said yes it is just a preference. I prefer red wine but will drink rum from time to time because I want to. Doesn't mean my preference will always take precedence over everything else and I can't veer from that.

I also have a preference for attached women, doesn't mean I don't meet singles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First ever meet with my 21 y/o gf was with a 70 year old on fab. Loved every minute of it lol

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I have a thing for men MUCH older than me and MUCH younger than me ! Go figure !

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"I have a thing for men MUCH older than me and MUCH younger than me ! Go figure !"

Nothing wrong with that I say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mine is set at 60 if someone intrigues me and grabs my attention then their age is obsolete, their only preferences after all

The problem being that those over 60 would not be able to message you to get your attention "

They can wink and hope to get a message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At a guess we would imagine people are happy with the choices they make. "

Exactly lol

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

I prefer older men. But you fitter ones ARE in the minority for the age category.

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By *moothshaftMan over a year ago

Coventry

Well, tomorrow is my 64th birthday.

I honestly feel still in my 30's (I swear it's motorcycling that does it!), although it does pose it's problems on here lol, gets quite lonely!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personality-wise I prefer older men as their more on my wavelength but at the times I’ve had my filters open I’ve only had one guy message me that was a good match and he was exactly 50!

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

"Personality-wise I prefer older men as their more on my wavelength but at the times I’ve had my filters open I’ve only had one guy message me that was a good match and he was exactly 50! "

I believe that’s two guys now isn’t it ?

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By *heekychapieMan over a year ago

kent

Omg the end is nigh!!

Oh hang on a min, I love the older woman and I don’t know about you there are certainly some sexy older women here, love it !!

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By *Ci LutherMan over a year ago

Cumalot

"Omg the end is nigh!!

Oh hang on a min, I love the older woman and I don’t know about you there are certainly some sexy older women here, love it !!

Amen to that bro… I’ve got a thing for older sexy vixens

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll stick my neck out and say. Those in my area over 50 I haven't been attracted to as of yet. Maybe that's because of their age, maybe it isn't ...

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By *uitednbooted2 OP Man over a year ago

Berkshire

I'll stick my neck out and say. Those in my area over 50 I haven't been attracted to as of yet. Maybe that's because of their age, maybe it isn't ..."

In your case most likely. You have your preferences which you are perfectly entitled to. Glad you’re having fun.

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By *heekychapieMan over a year ago

kent

I'll stick my neck out and say. Those in my area over 50 I haven't been attracted to as of yet. Maybe that's because of their age, maybe it isn't ..."

Maybe move….

Plenty of lovely DILFs and GILFs out there lol

Oh and we still got it!! Well I do if I eat my wheatabix in the mornings

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By *Ci LutherMan over a year ago

Cumalot

Had my best experiences with older than me … applicants apply within

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By *heekychapieMan over a year ago

kent

"Had my best experiences with older than me … applicants apply within

It gets even better when they take their teeth out to suck u off lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say some people might like to look at their own age limits - if you are, for example, 50 and setting your own limits at "18-60" then who's ageist?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lot of older men are looking for females under 50 too!

Got to be something in it - so to speak

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

I'll stick my neck out and say. Those in my area over 50 I haven't been attracted to as of yet. Maybe that's because of their age, maybe it isn't ..."

When you say "in my area" do you mean whichever club you happen to be in at the time?

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"A lot of older men are looking for females under 50 too!

Got to be something in it - so to speak

I do seem to be popular with women in their 30's currently.......

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By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

Wait until you pass 61

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personality-wise I prefer older men as their more on my wavelength but at the times I’ve had my filters open I’ve only had one guy message me that was a good match and he was exactly 50!

I believe that’s two guys now isn’t it ?

Haven’t decided yet

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Just upped ours by a year as we haven't changed it in donkeys

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By *ieandteaseMan over a year ago

Wiltshire

Your profile says you’re 44?"

Ha ha ha, priceless.

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By *ilver FoxMan over a year ago

Manchester

In the good old days Fab allowed Gold/Silver supporters to change their age. As soon as I turned 50, messages from ladies and couples completely dried up so I changed my age to 49 and I started to get messages again.

Consequently, Fab-wise, I was very successfully 49 for several years, proving the 50 age limit was moot! Sadly, the ravages of time mean I can't get away with claiming to be 49 any more ??. That said, I might be able to get away with being 59 for a few more years - if only Fab would let me!

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