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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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if it was me being ultra picky.... there are two things that immediatly stand out to me...
couples are to single fem, what single men are to couples..... lots of the former and not so many of the latter.... so do i think you do a good job of "why should that single fem choose us over another couple".... not really.... does it have the "wow, i really have to get to know them" factor... no... and as keen said, lots of pics of fem, none of mr..... remember there are two of you!!
profile says a lot but not really that much at the same time..... in that says a whole ton about you, but very very very little about the people you are actually after.... and if I were part of a couple I'd be thinking "is it us they are really after"...
like i said... its not bad, and better than a lot I have seen.... it could be tweeked to be better... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if it was me being ultra picky.... there are two things that immediatly stand out to me...
couples are to single fem, what single men are to couples..... lots of the former and not so many of the latter.... so do i think you do a good job of "why should that single fem choose us over another couple".... not really.... does it have the "wow, i really have to get to know them" factor... no... and as keen said, lots of pics of fem, none of mr..... remember there are two of you!!
profile says a lot but not really that much at the same time..... in that says a whole ton about you, but very very very little about the people you are actually after.... and if I were part of a couple I'd be thinking "is it us they are really after"...
like i said... its not bad, and better than a lot I have seen.... it could be tweeked to be better..."
Echo Fabios comments. The feel I get reading it, is that you offer on one hand, then take away on the other. The detail about why and when you can't meet is information which is important to YOU, which is perfectly okay - you have family and work commitments like everyone else. But they are coming over a little like a barrier to meeting.
The old adage in advertising - AIDA (Attention, Interest, Desire (!! Ha!), Action) is every bit as important in a swingers profile. The way it reads at the moment lets you get the A-I-D parts, then it's taken away and you don't get to the 'what action have I got to take to meet this couple?' part...
All you need to say is something like 'Our meet availability is limited due to family and work commitments' and leave it at that.
Other than that, better than most, not as good as some... but room for worthwhile improvement.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Simple question really, yes or no and if not, why?
Seeing if our profile needs changing.
Would like to see face pics, but yes think we would  "
Well, mr is off for an op in two weeks so out of action for a couple of months, but firmly added to the hotlist! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you need affirmation from randoms? 
Because this way we can gauge reactions to our profile from people who will tell us straight."
Ok then, no I wouldn't meet you solely on the grounds of this needy thread |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do you need affirmation from randoms?
Because this way we can gauge reactions to our profile from people who will tell us straight.
Ok then, no I wouldn't meet you solely on the grounds of this needy thread "
Oh dear, you really have missed the point of the original question havn't you? Needy? No. Simply asking the opinions of like minded people as to whether our profile works or not.
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for the same reason they can ask the question
get our point?
there are far to many people on here that judge others if you don’t like what they post ignore it and move on you don’t need to comment if all you have to comment is negative
that’s what we do anyway lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"im sorry but why do u need people to tell you i would meet you or not
i find it a bit insecure that people do this
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Let's also look at this another way, Believe you me/us there is no insecurity, more like marketing! We have received more messages in an hour than the whole of last week from people who we would actually like to meet. But the original idea was simply to gain profile feedback, just turned out to be much better than that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"im sorry but why do u need people to tell you i would meet you or not
i find it a bit insecure that people do this
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Let's also look at this another way, Believe you me/us there is no insecurity, more like marketing! We have received more messages in an hour than the whole of last week from people who we would actually like to meet. But the original idea was simply to gain profile feedback, just turned out to be much better than that. |
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"Let's also look at this another way, Believe you me/us there is no insecurity, more like marketing! We have received more messages in an hour than the whole of last week from people who we would actually like to meet. But the original idea was simply to gain profile feedback, just turned out to be much better than that."
And all of a sudden it makes sense... yet when single males do a similar thing they get absolutely ripped to shreds for posting a "Look at me" thread. Where's the equality, eh?
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No
There's nothing on the profile that stands out from the 20 or so other couples that I have mail from in my inbox...
Also the post asking people if they'd meet you puts me off more than anything else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"im sorry but why do u need people to tell you i would meet you or not
i find it a bit insecure that people do this
Let's also look at this another way, Believe you me/us there is no insecurity, more like marketing! We have received more messages in an hour than the whole of last week from people who we would actually like to meet. But the original idea was simply to gain profile feedback, just turned out to be much better than that."
I have been on and off here along time and i have never started a look its me thread or is my profile bad good
I am me and the profile the photos are all me!
if i listened to everyone who had an opinion i wouldn't meet i wouldn't have fun and fab wouldn't be fun for me
do you need complete strangers to tell you, u might be good looking, they might fuck you
or would u prefer a message what they have found your profile without all the above and talk to u
just my view x |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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up to a point I can understand what witham are saying....
if you don't think you are selling yourself well enough, look at others and see how they do it....
all in the end you can do is be the best "you" you can be... if that needs "affirmation" then you have issues no one can really help with.....
would i ask the question the op has.... nope.... because I am happy and comfortable with it, it is all "me".....
you are not going to please or attract everyone! and that is not the point of your profile anyway
that is the key that is missed.. you are looking for compatible people, not to impress all and sundry |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Let's also look at this another way, Believe you me/us there is no insecurity, more like marketing! We have received more messages in an hour than the whole of last week from people who we would actually like to meet. But the original idea was simply to gain profile feedback, just turned out to be much better than that.
And all of a sudden it makes sense... yet when single males do a similar thing they get absolutely ripped to shreds for posting a "Look at me" thread. Where's the equality, eh?
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Agreed! Good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Love it when a post becomes a difference of opinion. What fun.
But everybody is entitled to their own opinion."
Thats the good things about here.
im not getting at you by the way its just my view x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yet at the top a single male gave his opinion and you said this is more for couples and single women so you aren't looking for feedback in general, you are looking to see if the type of people you'd want to meet yourself would want to give you one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yet at the top a single male gave his opinion and you said this is more for couples and single women so you aren't looking for feedback in general, you are looking to see if the type of people you'd want to meet yourself would want to give you one"
Ah, but we are looking for couples/females so it really is only relevant what our 'target audience' think isn't it? Just forgot to say so in the first place.
You wouldn't advertise a Vespa scooter in Hells Angels weekly now would you? |
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I don’t see any problem in them asking that question
what’s the difference between what they asked and a snog-fuck-avoid thread
most people post there response on there don’t they on if they would do either to the post above |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Ah, but we are looking for couples/females so it really is only relevant what our 'target audience' think isn't it? Just forgot to say so in the first place.
You wouldn't advertise a Vespa scooter in Hells Angels weekly now would you?"
okay... now you are just about to lose me as well...
so as i am a "single man"... do my opinions not matter on the subject?
see... you may not like what I am about to say.... but if you are a couple looking for a single fem, you will probably need the same "mindset" as a single man looking for a couple.....
you need to stand out, you need to give people a reason to say "yes" or "wow"...
but heck... maybe this way you start to learn more about the people beneth the profile.. and it will give people an insight...
and in that respect this thread I am guessing may start to turn people off... if you have that attitude to people helping... whether that be couple... or single
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Ah, but we are looking for couples/females so it really is only relevant what our 'target audience' think isn't it? Just forgot to say so in the first place.
You wouldn't advertise a Vespa scooter in Hells Angels weekly now would you?
okay... now you are just about to lose me as well...
so as i am a "single man"... do my opinions not matter on the subject?
see... you may not like what I am about to say.... but if you are a couple looking for a single fem, you will probably need the same "mindset" as a single man looking for a couple.....
you need to stand out, you need to give people a reason to say "yes" or "wow"...
but heck... maybe this way you start to learn more about the people beneth the profile.. and it will give people an insight...
and in that respect this thread I am guessing may start to turn people off... if you have that attitude to people helping... whether that be couple... or single
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But our profile is intended for couples or single females in the first place. Surely therefore it really only counts as to what they think of it?
Missing something here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ah, but we are looking for couples/females so it really is only relevant what our 'target audience' think isn't it? Just forgot to say so in the first place.
You wouldn't advertise a Vespa scooter in Hells Angels weekly now would you?
okay... now you are just about to lose me as well...
so as i am a "single man"... do my opinions not matter on the subject?
see... you may not like what I am about to say.... but if you are a couple looking for a single fem, you will probably need the same "mindset" as a single man looking for a couple.....
you need to stand out, you need to give people a reason to say "yes" or "wow"...
but heck... maybe this way you start to learn more about the people beneth the profile.. and it will give people an insight...
and in that respect this thread I am guessing may start to turn people off... if you have that attitude to people helping... whether that be couple... or single
But our profile is intended for couples or single females in the first place. Surely therefore it really only counts as to what they think of it?
Missing something here?"
Ok, so a singleman can't have an opinion on your profile. Fabio speaks more sense than most on here when it comes to critiquing profiles...
So when you said it wasn't a look at me thread it clearly was.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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But our profile is intended for couples or single females in the first place. Surely therefore it really only counts as to what they think of it?
Missing something here?"
okay.... so opinions only count if they are the from the "right" people.... gotcha...
remember that the singles of the scene today can sometimes be the couples of the scene tomorrow and vice versa...
those very "couples" you are asking opinions of.....
I personally have played in couples... and have as singles... are my opinions worth less in your eyes?
"good advice" is good advice regardless of where it comes from..... |
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"okay.... so opinions only count if they are the from the "right" people.... gotcha...
remember that the singles of the scene today can sometimes be the couples of the scene tomorrow and vice versa...
those very "couples" you are asking opinions of.....
I personally have played in couples... and have as singles... are my opinions worth less in your eyes?
"good advice" is good advice regardless of where it comes from..... "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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But our profile is intended for couples or single females in the first place. Surely therefore it really only counts as to what they think of it?
Missing something here?
okay.... so opinions only count if they are the from the "right" people.... gotcha...
remember that the singles of the scene today can sometimes be the couples of the scene tomorrow and vice versa...
those very "couples" you are asking opinions of.....
I personally have played in couples... and have as singles... are my opinions worth less in your eyes?
"good advice" is good advice regardless of where it comes from..... "
Agree with a lot you say and also disagree with a fair amount. With hindsight you do have a point.
Just going to copy your profile now anyway and re-word it. It's good and very easy to read while you get valid points across. Easy to see why you appear to be a 'popular man'.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right am back from having a massive wank at the OP's profile.
If I was a cpl, I'd probably like to meet, male half is irrelevant to me(sexually), but it wouldnt be to my respective partner,
If I was a female it would be the same(apart from wanting to see Mr's big muscles n cock),fem half already has my clit quiverrrrrring.
Of course if I was any gender, I'd wanna be licking and fucking(with strapon if i had a fanny)
so the answer is yes. |
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I wouldn't like to commit one way or the other. When it comes to who I want to meet I am far too whimsical, changable, fickle or even capricious. So what I think today is changeable depending on whether I am being predictable or unpredictable whilst being impulsive or not.
I hope this answers your question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Simple question really, yes or no and if not, why?
Seeing if our profile needs changing.
Would like to see face pics, but yes think we would
Well, mr is off for an op in two weeks so out of action for a couple of months, but firmly added to the hotlist!"
Good stuff!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let's also look at this another way, Believe you me/us there is no insecurity, more like marketing! We have received more messages in an hour than the whole of last week from people who we would actually like to meet. But the original idea was simply to gain profile feedback, just turned out to be much better than that.
And all of a sudden it makes sense... yet when single males do a similar thing they get absolutely ripped to shreds for posting a "Look at me" thread. Where's the equality, eh?
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I disagree, when single blokes post, is my profile ok, what am I doing wrong etc, then all I do is give personal constructive criticism.
And plenty of others do so as well.
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