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Contacting people from verifications
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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago
Redhill |
So... let’s say that you met someone, everything went well, fantastic time, etc.
When you go and verify this person you see that they have several veris from people who could be potential playmates for you.
Do you contact them? Do you mention the -link-? Do you let the veri owner know you’re contacting someone they’ve met already?
I don’t know why I am thinking this is poor etiquette... but I suppose it sabes some people doing the legwork!
It is late and my brain is fried- it likes to overthink when it is like that. 
And yes, I see now why some people don’t like verifications! |
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We've had people contact us suggesting we meet them because they notice from verifications that we've met someone they've also met. That's partly why our verifications are hidden.
I can't articulate why but it just seems poor form. |
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I would just approach them as if you had found their profile and liked what you seen, not mentioning the veri from the person you had mutually met. They could then view your profile and take it from there
Makes you look less like a verification stalker lol |
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Verifications can help me make a decision when I message and meet sometimes.
I have had guys message telling me that certain profiles have messaged them because they have met me and they want a go.
I've had so much hate because I publish all my verifications (most are hidden now) saying I must be riddled. |
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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Ps we like to do our own leg work  "
So do I! But someone seems to be having a whale of a time working through my shown veris lol- and it is someone I’ve not even met haha! We have a common meet and I suppose that is how she landed on my profile. I find it very poor tbh.
Ah, the delights of Fab politics! |
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"We've had people contact us suggesting we meet them because they notice from verifications that we've met someone they've also met. That's partly why our verifications are hidden.
I can't articulate why but it just seems poor form. "
That's the reason why i also hide my verifications . |
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"I would just approach them as if you had found their profile and liked what you seen, not mentioning the veri from the person you had mutually met. They could then view your profile and take it from there
Makes you look less like a verification stalker lol"
Completely agree  |
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I’ve been contacted and contacted others on the strength of verifications.
They are a source of information supplied by both the profile and the veri.
I see nothing wrong with it personally but I don’t say oh I see you met so and so that’s why I’m messaging you. I just introduce myself and go from there.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s wrong with meeting people from other verifications
It’s shows there are potentials for inviting them to parties should they have good connections surely
I think it’s quite nice"
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We have recently met up with two couples who from their verifications were the hottest thing this side of the Sahara. When we actually met we wondered were these the same people as described in their profiles. We appreciate that things work differently for different people but we do wonder how many of these profiles are any where near truthful.
Anyone who says they are telling the truth is almost certainly telling lies.
G&A |
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I'm not sure on this one.
Objectively I can see the sense in it - if we've met and enjoyed ourselves then chances are we've similar tastes, so you'd also get on with other people I've met and enjoyed myself with.
If you find verifications reassuring then verifications from people you know and trust must count for more than those of strangers.
I'd still feel slightly awkward if I found out someone was meeting me just because I'd met someone else and they were working their way through that third person's verifications.
I'd be convinced that at some point I'd end up answering questions about the meet with the other verified person (did they do XYZ with you because they did with me? etc).
It has the potential to feel a little awkward depending on motivations and how it was handled I think. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
I'm more than happy for people to do this with me. I think my verifications put me in a good light and that they serve as a reliable endorsement of me.
I've not done this myself though but in principle, I wouldn't rule it out. |
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By *viatrix OP Woman
over a year ago
Redhill |
"Its sounds a really crass thing to do tbh "
Agreed... the more I think about it the more cheap and crass it seems to me...
Need to get back fo work so I don’t keep thinking haha... but ut’s good to know I am not the only one with that line of thought! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't see any harm with contacting them, its no different to messaging anyone out of they blue but I wouldn't use the mutual connection as a conversation starter |
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I have people contacting me because of a verification review yes, but not because we've both seen the same person.... I see the logic but wouldn't point it out during conversation. Like others have said; they can see yours, you can see theirs... Doesn't take a genius to work out you've also both seen another fab member. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
No it has never occurred to me to contact anyone because of veris. I prefer to find people myself without going through people's veris .
I actually find it slightly strange that people do .I've had someone look through my veris and contact people off them before.
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"What’s wrong with meeting people from other verifications
It’s shows there are potentials for inviting them to parties should they have good connections surely
I think it’s quite nice"
I’ve had peoples contact me as they have seen my verification of someone and I’ve done the same
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have recently met up with two couples who from their verifications were the hottest thing this side of the Sahara. When we actually met we wondered were these the same people as described in their profiles. We appreciate that things work differently for different people but we do wonder how many of these profiles are any where near truthful.
Anyone who says they are telling the truth is almost certainly telling lies.
G&A"
This is why I hate verifications,they just make me cringe. Especially when people write several veris for one profile, gushing over their fabulousness and all the little "private jokes".  |
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Depends on how you view things...
One argument says it's a bit like stalking, another one says it's just networking. There are pros and cons for each. The swinging community isn't so big that you won't bump into people. |
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"Its sounds a really crass thing to do tbh
Agreed... the more I think about it the more cheap and crass it seems to me...
Need to get back fo work so I don’t keep thinking haha... but ut’s good to know I am not the only one with that line of thought! "
I get the odd feeling about it although from the point of view of safety it makes sense - if you met a person and felt safe with them then the hope is that whoever they verified would also be safe.
Also depends on verifications as well. I sometimes wonder if the intimate details are necessary to be so very public, for example I am not interested in reading verifications for the purpose of evaluating someone like they are a product but primarily to establish if they are real and safe.
Cannot say that verifications are so very reliable though - the latest person who stood me up (just didn't show up after agreeing on all the details of location, date and time, put the put down when I called to find out if he was late or lost) was verified by someone I actually know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've had people contact us suggesting we meet them because they notice from verifications that we've met someone they've also met. That's partly why our verifications are hidden.
I can't articulate why but it just seems poor form. "
I like to read reviews on restaurants/hotels maybe even goods I buy but this seems a different level and completely agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were once chatting to a guy, organising a meet to find out he was chatting to a friend couple of ours, who he found from our veri's. Some may think this is acceptable as it's swinging and we're not exclusive. However part of me (male half) thinks this is unacceptable. The Mrs didn't really mind. After all, sharing is caring |
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