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I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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over a year ago
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Of course, always! What sort of man wouldn’t? |
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Always have 1 on me anyway, but especially on any meet. Not because I expect anything, but as I always say "better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it".
I'm appauled that the guy kept taking them off then expected you to go bare, I'd have kicked him out rather than find another. Cheeky asshole! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've always brought some with me. I've had a few men who claimed they forgot or didn't have time to stop and buy any. 
And yes I do expect them to have condoms if they claim they practice safe sex . |
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No harm in bringing some yourself. Because people sometimes genuinely forget, misplace or there turns out to be a problem. But if a guy didn't come equipped I would see that as a red flag unless exceptional circumstances that I believe to be true. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Always bring my own if the arrangement has been discussed that the meeting is leading to naughtiness otherwise I don't because I don't do the last minute change. And make further plans to engage and be prepared. |
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By *rOralMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Defo!
I mean, under normal circumstances one should at least carry one condom because you know…hornyness happen and just in case…On the other hand, if one knows that is going to meet a potencial get-laid person, then of course! every one should be prepared and bring extra condoms, common sense no? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Defo!
I mean, under normal circumstances one should at least carry one condom because you know…hornyness happen and just in case…On the other hand, if one knows that is going to meet a potencial get-laid person, then of course! every one should be prepared and bring extra condoms, common sense no?"
No because if a person or persons were prepared they would've discussed this prior to the meeting this is being prepared  |
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over a year ago
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Always bring along my porn bag , and in my bag I have , condoms, toothpaste, toothbrush, tissues & a couple of toys |
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I always have a variety to cover most preferences, but the guys I have met have tended to bring their own preferred brands.
If we're meeting for a social and it turns into more (doesn't happen often!) then I would be more understanding of someone being unprepared than if we've arranged to have sex. As others have said, not having condoms at that point suggests they were hoping to push for bareback and I do find that off-putting. |
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over a year ago
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Sounds like he planned that I'm afraid, I don't understand the mentality myself. My gf and I always take our own to meets, no glove no love! |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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We always bring condoms just in case the person/people we are meeting have “forgotten” theirs.
OP what you describe by that guy is disgraceful and disrespectful behaviour. You should have sent him packing! |
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over a year ago
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
We always bring condoms just in case the person/people we are meeting have “forgotten” theirs.
OP what you describe by that guy is disgraceful and disrespectful behaviour. You should have sent him packing! "
100% right he should be wanking him self in separate room for that.
The man is the one who puts one on so he should have them
I’m back pocket  |
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"One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one. "
I wonder what his face would have been like if you said thats it meets over bye
If they dared leave bad feedback I wonder if you would say pulled condoms off for no reason so refused sex with them
Always take a new sealed pack with me on meets dont like carrying loose ones as they can be damaged in transit. |
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over a year ago
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I always take condoms with me. Would never presume there will be condoms supplied and if the person I was meeting had none this would make then think I was after bareback. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
I only meet in clubs but I always have condoms in my bag, I've also had the 'oh no, I only ever play protected but I don't have a condom so just this once we could do it bare'. I simply tell them to wait in the room and I'll go grab a few, once a guy literally disappeared, I think he legged it and left the club  |
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To be respected as a swinger surely you would remember to bring condoms.
Forget them dont expect a repeat visit and your reputation will spread, visits will dry up..
The more respectful your are. The more offers you are likely to receive.
Take condoms with you, take lube take a small kit bag with essentials.
Surely that is common sense...  |
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over a year ago
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I do, always. I believe it's the responsibility of both people to protect their sexual health.
Also, I prefer a specific, latex free brand, so I like to bring my own. |
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By *rOralMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
Some likedminded meets are social first, even though you happened to met on Fab. So you can test the chemistry; you don’t really know where it is gonna end. You don’t really arrange/agree to anything else. Thats what I meant.
"Defo!
I mean, under normal circumstances one should at least carry one condom because you know…hornyness happen and just in case…On the other hand, if one knows that is going to meet a potencial get-laid person, then of course! every one should be prepared and bring extra condoms, common sense no?
No because if a person or persons were prepared they would've discussed this prior to the meeting this is being prepared "
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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I'm surprised you persisted.
I think if anyone tried that we would just get up and leave.
If they pull it off once odds are they will try again when you are less aware.
Who wants that when you are trying to have fun.
Plenty of decent guys out there who would be happy to stick to the rules. |
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As a couple , we play as a 3 , or a 4 , or maybe more
So obviously is bare with my wife , but condoms for penetration with others
So we go through plenty
With all the swapping about it can be 10 or 20
On , off , on again
Never forget to put one on , never suggest bare , never not bring enough |
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"As a couple , we play as a 3 , or a 4 , or maybe more
So obviously is bare with my wife , but condoms for penetration with others
So we go through plenty
With all the swapping about it can be 10 or 20
On , off , on again
Never forget to put one on , never suggest bare , never not bring enough"
Much like the lovely couple above, I only play bare with my wife and always use condoms with others. We expect people to use our co some aswell as the wife has a severe latex allergy so unless they're definitely using their own latex free condoms, we won't play of they're not willing to use ours.
We also bring dozens with us aswell |
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Did you carry on fucking him (with condom) or did you tell him that was the end of it because of his behaviour? |
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over a year ago
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"It has been so long since I've had sex that my bag of assorted condoms will all have passed their expiry date !"
It’s only a guide. Just sniff them and if they smell ok you can probably still eat them |
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"It has been so long since I've had sex that my bag of assorted condoms will all have passed their expiry date !"
Mine too. Use them up for decorations at a birthday party (inflated) or knit a lady gaga dress out of them (uninflated)... Anyone got other good suggestions? |
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"It has been so long since I've had sex that my bag of assorted condoms will all have passed their expiry date !"
We always take backup condoms to meets. We expect the guy to have his own but it doesn’t hurt to have spare.
We just had to update our backup condoms for the quoted reason too!
- John |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"It has been so long since I've had sex that my bag of assorted condoms will all have passed their expiry date !
Mine too. Use them up for decorations at a birthday party (inflated) or knit a lady gaga dress out of them (uninflated)... Anyone got other good suggestions?"
Try an inflated dress. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I too am surprised by the number of men who don't carry them. Even in clubs! get in a room, and he says Oh! I don't have any thing.
or is it because they are expensive?
No, it's because they hope they can get away with going bareback.
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Sorry but that sounds like coercion. Why did u continue after he did it the first time ??? |
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No, it might sound old fashioned but i expect the guy to deal with this and always make it clear that I don't do bb.
Had one try to pull one over on me and i promptly left.
I have brought them with regular fb if they are out or low |
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I always offer, but I’ve met couples/ladies in the past who wanted to supply their own (preferences or allergic to latex etc)
I always have plenty myself. One of those essential questions to ask when arranging a meet, they say that assumption is the mother of all fuck ups after all
F xx |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I always offer, but I’ve met couples/ladies in the past who wanted to supply their own (preferences or allergic to latex etc)
I always have plenty myself. One of those essential questions to ask when arranging a meet, they say that assumption is the mother of all fuck ups after all
F xx "
I always have Skyns, I don't have a latex allergy but I'm always conscious that someone else might.
I also find they feel nicer and the guys I've been with say they feel nicer too.
I buy them 20 or so at a time. |
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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I do but if a guy can't be bothered to bring any for protection I send them away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always told my kids to always keep one in your wallet/purse ... you never know what direction life can take!
My fave saying has always been "Always carry an umbrella and a condom as you never know when you'll have sex in the rain" |
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By *BR_91Man
over a year ago
Leeds |
"No, it might sound old fashioned but i expect the guy to deal with this and always make it clear that I don't do bb.
Had one try to pull one over on me and i promptly left.
I have brought them with regular fb if they are out or low"
I think that's fair enough. It ultimately should be the guy's responsibility to bring them, and as long as you're prepared to kick them to touch if they don't there's no issue! |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"I always told my kids to always keep one in your wallet/purse ... you never know what direction life can take!
My fave saying has always been "Always carry an umbrella and a condom as you never know when you'll have sex in the rain" "
This is now going to be my new saying  |
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"I always told my kids to always keep one in your wallet/purse ... you never know what direction life can take!
My fave saying has always been "Always carry an umbrella and a condom as you never know when you'll have sex in the rain"
This is now going to be my new saying "
Just a better way of saying always be prepared oh and embarrassing the kids of course |
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Its only fair both parties should have condoms wheather you decide to use or not - its not down to one person - his behaviour would be a turn off 
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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disrespectful.. It would be a goodbye for me |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
I carry them in my make up bag. A couple in the car. In the house. I would expect lovers to have them too.
I would find it presumptuous and disrespectful if they expected otherwise. But I have good dialogue and communication with people I'm intending to have sex with. I'd sniff out the slack attitude a mile off x |
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When I was on the scene as a single female I always had some on me when going for a meet or to a club. I would expect the other person to bring them but never rely on that.
I know hubby also always had them when he was on the scene as a single and now we always have them as a couple.
Maybe we are just too prepared but I thought everyone would have them
Mrs c x |
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I always carry a condom and viagra.
1. Safety first, pleasure second
2. Don’t need the blue or green ones but it’s nice to know you can go on and on like a Duracell battery and put a big smile on a ladies face
3. If a regular meet asks for bareback it’s down to trust and knowing them well.
4. Anal with ladies at the ladies discretion. Sorry guys
5. If your unsure always use a condom
Good luck |
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over a year ago
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always take them as i know what feel good for me but also when meet bring them i don't mind as might suit her talk about it when we or ready go things are booked or in motion |
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By *araJayneWoman
over a year ago
Bishop Auckland |
"Always have 1 on me anyway, but especially on any meet. Not because I expect anything, but as I always say "better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it".
I'm appauled that the guy kept taking them off then expected you to go bare, I'd have kicked him out rather than find another. Cheeky asshole!"
So much same to this honestly |
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over a year ago
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Always. Bareback is simply not an option, and as I'm the one wearing it I consider it my responsibility to have them with me if there's any chance of needing them. |
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over a year ago
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as being on this scene for 25 ++ years i can say out of all the guys ive met only a hand full have brought condoms with them .... lucky for me i have a massive selection ... those whos face drop as a result of me saying condoms only are shown the door |
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"I was wondering if people bring their own protection when meeting someone?
I always have some but not all guys bring any when they meet me.
One guy knew I only had a couple and kept pulling them off and then said we would have to do bare, and was really disappointed when I managed to find another one.
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Cheeky fecker...shocking behaviour!!!  |
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