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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all, we are new to the lifestyle and are having fun exploring.
We are good friends with our neighbours who are around our age and attractive. We would like to swing with them but don't kmow if they are in the lifestyle or are interested in us.
Any advice on how to go about finding out? We don't want to scare them off lol |
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Hi. We had a similar situation a while back. We still have nights out with them after a good few years. We decided that we would make a joking bet with them, can’t remember what it was, when we were on a weekend away with them. Basically, if they won the bet they got to decide where we would be eating out that night, and if we won they had to serve us drinks in our room naked. The bet was so heavily stacked in their favour, that they couldn’t lose so they took it. Conversation all day was about the bet, and after a few drinks we said “you’ve won, where are we eating? And how about for a bit of fun we will serve you drinks in your room while you get ready?”. Worked very well, her hubby got a hard on, and we ended up staying in the room all night…. 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi. We had a similar situation a while back. We still have nights out with them after a good few years. We decided that we would make a joking bet with them, can’t remember what it was, when we were on a weekend away with them. Basically, if they won the bet they got to decide where we would be eating out that night, and if we won they had to serve us drinks in our room naked. The bet was so heavily stacked in their favour, that they couldn’t lose so they took it. Conversation all day was about the bet, and after a few drinks we said “you’ve won, where are we eating? And how about for a bit of fun we will serve you drinks in your room while you get ready?”. Worked very well, her hubby got a hard on, and we ended up staying in the room all night….
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That is a hot situation! Did you find it made it awkward with them afteraards though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're clearly not aware of the myth that surrounds Pampass Grass then.
No idea where it started but it's akin to myths around secret handshakes among Freemasons.
Apparently, us swingers grow Pampass grass in our gardens as a signal to other swingers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My advice. Don’t!
It’s far more likely that at some point it goes wrong and then you’re right next door.
Never shit on your own doorstep ( or the neighbours)"
Thats a shame  they are around our age and attractive so it is a constant tease lol might need to move house |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You're clearly not aware of the myth that surrounds Pampass Grass then.
No idea where it started but it's akin to myths around secret handshakes among Freemasons.
Apparently, us swingers grow Pampass grass in our gardens as a signal to other swingers"
Huh that is a new one! Why don't we just develop a secret hand shake  might need to grow some pampas then, plant it in the back garden because only they can see into it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say enjoy the fantasy privately but I would not go there in reality.
Let's say for arguments sake they are up for it.
You all meet up and swing but the sex is rubbish.
Its not like a club meet or fab were you never have to see them again, they literally live on your doorstep.
They may have enjoyed it and want more. Now you have to either take one for the team or reject them.
And we all know how we all love being rejected.
This is only one outcome there are a multitude of bad outcomes here.
I'd say enjoy the fantasy and if it happens naturally then it will but don't work towards it knowingly. |
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How good friends are you with them? Do you socialise together or just chat when you're putting out the bins?
Don't write anything off but also don't try and force things. Meet up with them for a few drinks, let the conversation flow around to the subject of sex and drop in your fantasy of swinging. If they pick up on it then see where it goes. If not then leave it.
We tried testing the waters with some friends this way. We thought they'd be into it but when we mentioned swingers they seemed horrified by the idea so it ended there   |
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We have a nice woman across from us who's recently split from her partner,
We would love her to join us and she regularly speaks to me (A)
Bit of harmless flirting,
We have noticed she now leaves her curtains open when in her bedroom, not being pervy but we are directly across from each other so hard not to notice!
So D has started doing the same as she noticed her looking at us through the window once when we was having sex,
Whilst I'd love her to join us and D is in agreement on this I'm a firm believer of don't s*** on your own doorstep lol
Sometimes neighbours should stay neighbours  |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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Best plan is not to do it.
Second best plan? Just keep dragging the conversation back to sex! They'll either go along with you or stop meeting you.
Even if they are happy to talk about sex with you, that still doesn't mean they will swing.
Even if they swing, it doesn't mean they'll swing with you.
Even if they swing with you, it doesn't mean it'll be any good. Stick to the best plan!
Gbat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey all, we are new to the lifestyle and are having fun exploring.
We are good friends with our neighbours who are around our age and attractive. We would like to swing with them but don't kmow if they are in the lifestyle or are interested in us.
Any advice on how to go about finding out? We don't want to scare them off lol "
Tell first before asking. If they are interested they'll tell you. |
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