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What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. |
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"I've had that quite a bit recently all talk and then no shows or ghosted.. "
I can understand guys changing their mind, I know that we have. But at least message and say, especially when your online anyway. Do these guys get a kick out of it? |
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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago
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Sadly your predicament is all too familiar a story on site.
We likewise had a meet arranged and the person in question was also online leading up to meet but became unresponsive and avoided reading our last message.
So we seen it coming and prepared for their no show but still couldn't really move on incase they did show.
Does irk they can't find the common decency to say changed mind but it's typical story unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. "
Dont understand how guys could turn it down.
I've been looking to join since i returned and regardless of how i message someone noone seems to be interested.
Maybe your looking in the wrong place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They are full of what some say gift of the gab ie chatting up etc just for the fun of it or are in a relationship whereas guys like myself who lack confidence because of guys like that put us off and we never get a look and in or chance. So most of the genuine keen guys get left out. |
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"Its not just guys, can be anyone. Its also not just on this site.
Ps fellas stop saying they ruin it for the rest of you. They dont.  "
The only way they ruin it for us that we don't trust anyone anymore, they spoil the excitement of the lead up as you think why should I get excited because he won't show anyway.
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind.
Dont understand how guys could turn it down.
I've been looking to join since i returned and regardless of how i message someone noone seems to be interested.
Maybe your looking in the wrong place "
Where do we look? Where are these genuine guys? |
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"Its not just guys, can be anyone. Its also not just on this site.
Ps fellas stop saying they ruin it for the rest of you. They dont.
The only way they ruin it for us that we don't trust anyone anymore, they spoil the excitement of the lead up as you think why should I get excited because he won't show anyway.
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Yes I can understand that, people become cynical thinking they won't turn up, obviously there has been loads of threads on this, some time wasters will just be fantasists knocking one out in mommy's basement, at the thought real live people want his willy, others it's just the case that some are just so fickle and unreliable in general. |
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"I (male) went to my first gangbang this afternoon. Not something I've done before so.thought why not.
They had 6 guys invited and I was a last moment invite to.cover if somenone
Aside from myself, only 1 guy turned up and he was there 10 to 15 mins at best
Suited me fine. I had the lady more or less to myself for hours and I'll be seeing her with my wife accompanying next time again....
If you're legit people will see it sooner or later and the time wasters will wear themselves out on each other eventually.
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Definitely a winning situation for you 
I don't think our profile can look much more legit tbh. |
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By *rFunsurreyMan
over a year ago
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind.
Dont understand how guys could turn it down.
I've been looking to join since i returned and regardless of how i message someone noone seems to be interested.
Maybe your looking in the wrong place
Where do we look? Where are these genuine guys?"
Right here, enjoying your very sexy profile, busily planning a route down the M4 lol   |
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"I get rid of them by video call.
Time wasters tend to flip the camera to a door as their "too shy" to speak to someone but willing to meet   "
That just proves that they are real, not that they'll turn up. |
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By *oooner1Couple
over a year ago
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"It’s the nature of people living in fantasy land sadly
I think you're right.. can only fantasise, no intention of taking things any further. "
Yep. We’ve just had another one. Sounded really keen, kept messaging about all the things he was going to do. Arranged a meet. He’d booked a half day off work to come see us. Few hours before he was due had a message, three people had called in sick so his day off had been cancelled.
Fair enough theses things can happen, unlikely but possible I suppose. Gave him the benefit of the doubt and rearranged.
He kep messaging. Then when quiet, so I said if you’ve changed your mind, fair enough, just tell us and we’ll forget it, we’re fed up with being messed around. Nope, he was definitely coming.
Messages continued, day before went to WhatsApp to continue the arrangements.
Then they day before he was due to come had a message saying his wife had been through his phone and found out so couldn’t come.
Complete waste of our time, but i suspect he got out of it it exactly what he wanted all along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weve had it mainly with men, but also with women, we always arange to meet in a pub sore something first if its a first time meet with someone and then if we all agree, ten back home for some fun.
If we have a no show, we just say oh well and enjoy a night out on our own, so make the best of it, its very frustraighting, but at least we get a night out |
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"It’s the nature of people living in fantasy land sadly
I think you're right.. can only fantasise, no intention of taking things any further.
Yep. We’ve just had another one. Sounded really keen, kept messaging about all the things he was going to do. Arranged a meet. He’d booked a half day off work to come see us. Few hours before he was due had a message, three people had called in sick so his day off had been cancelled.
Fair enough theses things can happen, unlikely but possible I suppose. Gave him the benefit of the doubt and rearranged.
He kep messaging. Then when quiet, so I said if you’ve changed your mind, fair enough, just tell us and we’ll forget it, we’re fed up with being messed around. Nope, he was definitely coming.
Messages continued, day before went to WhatsApp to continue the arrangements.
Then they day before he was due to come had a message saying his wife had been through his phone and found out so couldn’t come.
Complete waste of our time, but i suspect he got out of it it exactly what he wanted all along. "
Out of curiosity these messages that go back and forth are they sort of sex messages what you will be wearing what's going to happen etc as I tend to find they just want to get off on them so I have a strict rule no sex chat if they are genuine then they will be more interested in the meet arrangements itself also these that say oh my day off got cancelled what job does he do because I'm sure most jobs when you book night off you get that night off regardless how short staffed they are it's not your problem x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s the nature of people living in fantasy land sadly
I think you're right.. can only fantasise, no intention of taking things any further.
Yep. We’ve just had another one. Sounded really keen, kept messaging about all the things he was going to do. Arranged a meet. He’d booked a half day off work to come see us. Few hours before he was due had a message, three people had called in sick so his day off had been cancelled.
Fair enough theses things can happen, unlikely but possible I suppose. Gave him the benefit of the doubt and rearranged.
He kep messaging. Then when quiet, so I said if you’ve changed your mind, fair enough, just tell us and we’ll forget it, we’re fed up with being messed around. Nope, he was definitely coming.
Messages continued, day before went to WhatsApp to continue the arrangements.
Then they day before he was due to come had a message saying his wife had been through his phone and found out so couldn’t come.
Complete waste of our time, but i suspect he got out of it it exactly what he wanted all along.
Out of curiosity these messages that go back and forth are they sort of sex messages what you will be wearing what's going to happen etc as I tend to find they just want to get off on them so I have a strict rule no sex chat if they are genuine then they will be more interested in the meet arrangements itself also these that say oh my day off got cancelled what job does he do because I'm sure most jobs when you book night off you get that night off regardless how short staffed they are it's not your problem x "
we never ingage in sex chat with potentual meets, as you said those that do are very unlikely to actually meet, infact its a good way to out some of the fakes |
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By *olmateMan
over a year ago
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"I (male) went to my first gangbang this afternoon. Not something I've done before so.thought why not.
They had 6 guys invited and I was a last moment invite to.cover if somenone cancelled.
Aside from myself, only 1 guy turned up and he was there 10 to 15 mins at best
Suited me fine. I had the lady more or less to myself for hours and I'll be seeing her with my wife accompanying next time again....
If you're legit people will see it sooner or later and the time wasters will wear themselves out on each other eventually.
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How to.know if there's going to be a gang bang!
I would love to experience it for the first time.
I never let down, though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. "
All I can say is he must be a fool as what a night it would be in my company, just a funny guy in general.. be full of laughter and giggles I know that! Hope you sort a meet soon and they show they're very lucky x |
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"It’s the nature of people living in fantasy land sadly
I think you're right.. can only fantasise, no intention of taking things any further.
Yep. We’ve just had another one. Sounded really keen, kept messaging about all the things he was going to do. Arranged a meet. He’d booked a half day off work to come see us. Few hours before he was due had a message, three people had called in sick so his day off had been cancelled.
Fair enough theses things can happen, unlikely but possible I suppose. Gave him the benefit of the doubt and rearranged.
He kep messaging. Then when quiet, so I said if you’ve changed your mind, fair enough, just tell us and we’ll forget it, we’re fed up with being messed around. Nope, he was definitely coming.
Messages continued, day before went to WhatsApp to continue the arrangements.
Then they day before he was due to come had a message saying his wife had been through his phone and found out so couldn’t come.
Complete waste of our time, but i suspect he got out of it it exactly what he wanted all along.
Out of curiosity these messages that go back and forth are they sort of sex messages what you will be wearing what's going to happen etc as I tend to find they just want to get off on them so I have a strict rule no sex chat if they are genuine then they will be more interested in the meet arrangements itself also these that say oh my day off got cancelled what job does he do because I'm sure most jobs when you book night off you get that night off regardless how short staffed they are it's not your problem x
we never ingage in sex chat with potentual meets, as you said those that do are very unlikely to actually meet, infact its a good way to out some of the fakes"
That's good then and me personally as soon as they go quiet it's immediate block and move on their are plenty of genuine guys on here a lot willing to travel too so I'm sure another meet could be arranged quickly don't let these idiots get to you or make you loose hope xx good luck and hope you find whatever your looking for soon xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Find this frustrating can be chatting really well online but getting them to agree to a meet impossible, they say yes are asking but just won’t commit so why they here wasting our time yes, I try to be honest and open don’t lead on best way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. "
It’s just men, couples do it too. Who would have thought it would be so hard to give sex away lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not just guys, can be anyone. Its also not just on this site.
Ps fellas stop saying they ruin it for the rest of you. They dont.
The only way they ruin it for us that we don't trust anyone anymore, they spoil the excitement of the lead up as you think why should I get excited because he won't show anyway.
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Do let them spoil it for you, they aren’t all the same. There’s always next time. And there will be your gorgeous |
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind.
All I can say is he must be a fool as what a night it would be in my company, just a funny guy in general.. be full of laughter and giggles I know that! Hope you sort a meet soon and they show they're very lucky x "
We found a genuine guy not long after and he popped round. We had a fantastic time with him and faith was restored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. "
Because it was always a fantasy or he does not want the flack of having to explain that he got a better offer.
Unfortunately, it's always going to be the case that online connections are tentative at best.
The investment to build an online relationship is minimal so people can afford to be casual or careless with others they connect to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately it doesn't help the rest of us Single fellas who would be more than happy to get a meet. Maybe when lockdown eases some of these Ghosters will feck off x"
Nope. Fab has been plagued with this for years. And it's not just men who do it. Women and couples do it too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's why I stopped talking about what sexual things we were going to do, when I was meeting... They have a wank, cum n change their mind, then don't care what is going on with you now and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unfortunately it doesn't help the rest of us Single fellas who would be more than happy to get a meet. Maybe when lockdown eases some of these Ghosters will feck off x
Nope. Fab has been plagued with this for years. And it's not just men who do it. Women and couples do it too"
Assuming they are actually women and couples.
I tend to assume everyone is a married 60 year old bloke who is enjoying a fantasy wank until I meet them in the flesh.
(although maybe even then it would not change my mind)
Prepare for the worst and you won't be disappointed if it turns out they are genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly it goes with the territory, been talking to a couple all weekend and arranged a meet. Now looks like they have deleted their profile, it always worries us that have they just copied our pics we sent to use elsewhere! |
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"It's why I stopped talking about what sexual things we were going to do, when I was meeting... They have a wank, cum n change their mind, then don't care what is going on with you now and move on "
I never engage in sexual talk as I'm aware that there are plenty of wankers on here. Probably had no intention of meeting, just happy with the fantasy. |
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"Unfortunately it doesn't help the rest of us Single fellas who would be more than happy to get a meet. Maybe when lockdown eases some of these Ghosters will feck off x
Nope. Fab has been plagued with this for years. And it's not just men who do it. Women and couples do it too
Assuming they are actually women and couples.
I tend to assume everyone is a married 60 year old bloke who is enjoying a fantasy wank until I meet them in the flesh.
(although maybe even then it would not change my mind)
Prepare for the worst and you won't be disappointed if it turns out they are genuine. "
But isn't it sad that we have to prepare for the worse. It spoils the excitement of the preparation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have found that only around 10% of people saying they would meet actually turn up or don't ghost us. It took my so long to have the courage to be on here because of my body, it's things like this that make me want to delete our account (Mrs)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have found that only around 10% of people saying they would meet actually turn up or don't ghost us. It took my so long to have the courage to be on here because of my body, it's things like this that make me want to delete our account (Mrs) "
Firstly, embrace your body, if someone doesn't like it then that's their problem not yours. The amount of men saying its gives us a bad name, I know from past experiences it's men, women, couples. I think the ratio of men to women/couples is just vastly different hence the reason u see more men failing to meet |
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Please don’t delete your profile, it’s a lovely profile! I’ve been ghosted many a times once after travelling 60miles and booking a hotel room of their choice and location.
But they I’ve had many lovely meets too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of suddenly dying grannies, broken down cars, hamsters escaping their cages, babysitters cancelling and emergency vet appointments that I had in my first couple of years here was unreal 
Since then, I meet new friends at clubs or organised socials mainly. If I am meeting for a one to one social from here, it is after a video call and absolutely no wank talk, and I don't waste time chatting for more han a day or two - quick video call and let's go for a drink and can plan from there for anything more.
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Do what we do ..have a back up single woman profile ..when someone has let you down..go on browse find him again and wink him ..let him do all the running about but this time tell him you are at a travelodge and am flying to Spain tomorrow and want some fun before flying out.i say I am alone and meeting my bf in Spain I tell him the hotel name and will tell him the door number when he is outside it .he messages that he has arrived and if you get this far its a good bet he is there then just pick a number under 20 and tell him to knock..then instantly block him ..I know its alot of hassle but some small satisfaction for messing us about especially after we booked and paid for a hotel room ..we have never ever let anyone down ..but have successfully done this to at least 10 idiots...who made an arrangement then failed to turn up and then had the nerve to block us |
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"Do what we do ..have a back up single woman profile ..when someone has let you down..go on browse find him again and wink him ..let him do all the running about but this time tell him you are at a travelodge and am flying to Spain tomorrow and want some fun before flying out.i say I am alone and meeting my bf in Spain I tell him the hotel name and will tell him the door number when he is outside it .he messages that he has arrived and if you get this far its a good bet he is there then just pick a number under 20 and tell him to knock..then instantly block him ..I know its alot of hassle but some small satisfaction for messing us about especially after we booked and paid for a hotel room ..we have never ever let anyone down ..but have successfully done this to at least 10 idiots...who made an arrangement then failed to turn up and then had the nerve to block us"
Hmmmm....2 wrongs don't make a right as they say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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common forms of normal human courteous correspondence are just not present on a free site like this from messages to replies to no shows when arranged.
It doesnt just apply to couples being let down
Single guys are also let down frequently
so many singles and couples are not what they appear to be, just fakes scams keyboard wankers etc
all single guys are lumped into one category to be ignored and treated like shit by the majority.
Arrogance because of an apparent plethora of choice is commonplace
if someone spoke to me in the street like many, who bother to reply (and thats the minority) do on here there would be a serious ruck and consequences
electronic anonymity allows the poorest forms of behaviour , lies and no shows included
sad indictment of the general type of person
few , but thankfully some, are the exception |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the biggest trait on this site is those who beef up a meet send endless messages talking the talk but then disappear with no intention of ever meeting ..im sure they get a buzz from it ? they treat FAB like FB |
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"Do what we do ..have a back up single woman profile ..when someone has let you down..go on browse find him again and wink him ..let him do all the running about but this time tell him you are at a travelodge and am flying to Spain tomorrow and want some fun before flying out.i say I am alone and meeting my bf in Spain I tell him the hotel name and will tell him the door number when he is outside it .he messages that he has arrived and if you get this far its a good bet he is there then just pick a number under 20 and tell him to knock..then instantly block him ..I know its alot of hassle but some small satisfaction for messing us about especially after we booked and paid for a hotel room ..we have never ever let anyone down ..but have successfully done this to at least 10 idiots...who made an arrangement then failed to turn up and then had the nerve to block us"
My kind of people |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Hi OP, you raise a good point, there appears to be a change in behavior on this site, as more and more people report being let down.
Maybe this is as a consequence of the lockdowns? People are lonely and need to feel wanted but have no intention of following bit through, they just need to know that someone wants them.
And, FYI OP, not everyone on Fab behaves this way infact, not everyone in your area is like that, just saying |
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Sadly I've been one to bail (albeit for good reason), but like you say op, at least be decent enough to give a heads up.
Luckily for me I have (probably because I used common decency) managed to stay in the good books in my situation and have been able to re arrange.
All it takes is a message saying thanks but no thanks, or sorry..
Common decency people.. Doesn't cost anything. |
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind.
Dont understand how guys could turn it down.
I've been looking to join since i returned and regardless of how i message someone noone seems to be interested.
Maybe your looking in the wrong place "
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"Hi OP, you raise a good point, there appears to be a change in behavior on this site, as more and more people report being let down.
Maybe this is as a consequence of the lockdowns? People are lonely and need to feel wanted but have no intention of following bit through, they just need to know that someone wants them.
And, FYI OP, not everyone on Fab behaves this way infact, not everyone in your area is like that, just saying "
It's not so much the being let down, it's the ghosting, suddenly stop talking a few hours before the meet time. Are they playing games or changed their mind? If that's the case at least have the decency to message saying that.
Yes there are decent local guys, we spent a few excellent hours with one last night |
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"Sadly I've been one to bail (albeit for good reason), but like you say op, at least be decent enough to give a heads up.
Luckily for me I have (probably because I used common decency) managed to stay in the good books in my situation and have been able to re arrange.
All it takes is a message saying thanks but no thanks, or sorry..
Common decency people.. Doesn't cost anything. "
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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago
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"We have found that only around 10% of people saying they would meet actually turn up or don't ghost us. It took my so long to have the courage to be on here because of my body, it's things like this that make me want to delete our account (Mrs) "
I know easier said than done but embrace yourself.
My way of thinking is …
I’m not forcing anyone to look at my pics or view my cam if i join a chat room. I know my size isn’t for everyone i know i have lumps and bumps in places some don’t, lol.
Lastly, I am not defined purely by my size, I am so much more than just a BBW.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have this problem with couples ALL the time too. Changing your mind isn’t the problem. It’s the not saying anything and ghosting. Has to be a way we can start naming and shaming properly. Like a report system. A certain amount of reports and you’re out!
One night a couple asked if I could pick up the Mrs and then drive to Mr. Was waiting in my motor for about 20 minutes for the address and nothing. Feel like for men it’s overlooked because we’re so many but our time is valuable as well…we’re not just bodies to use. |
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"Have this problem with couples ALL the time too. Changing your mind isn’t the problem. It’s the not saying anything and ghosting. Has to be a way we can start naming and shaming properly. Like a report system. A certain amount of reports and you’re out!
One night a couple asked if I could pick up the Mrs and then drive to Mr. Was waiting in my motor for about 20 minutes for the address and nothing. Feel like for men it’s overlooked because we’re so many but our time is valuable as well…we’re not just bodies to use."
Honestly it happens to moi as well, like I don’t even have to set up a day to meet or anything, honestly my advice at the moment is just go to clubs and stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I made an arrangement to meet a lady from a married couple who have a couples profile. She meets alone and he knows and is happy about it. Over several weeks chatting on here a day and time was set. I drove 70 miles pulled up at the meeting place no sign so I phoned her we had exchanged mobile numbers she just said can't make it and hung up. Lesson learnt. |
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"Have this problem with couples ALL the time too. Changing your mind isn’t the problem. It’s the not saying anything and ghosting. Has to be a way we can start naming and shaming properly. Like a report system. A certain amount of reports and you’re out!
One night a couple asked if I could pick up the Mrs and then drive to Mr. Was waiting in my motor for about 20 minutes for the address and nothing. Feel like for men it’s overlooked because we’re so many but our time is valuable as well…we’re not just bodies to use."
Yes I do appreciate that it's not only single guys. And I very much agree that there should be some way of putting a black mark on these profiles because they'll do it again. |
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over a year ago
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This place has definately changed, i took a break through lockdown because i could see things changing slightly, decided to come back and its even worse. Had some great times when i was first on here but now finding it difficult to even strike up a conversation with people let alone meet, cant even tell if people are real on here or not |
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"We have found that only around 10% of people saying they would meet actually turn up or don't ghost us. It took my so long to have the courage to be on here because of my body, it's things like this that make me want to delete our account (Mrs) "
Don't delete your profile. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"Hi OP, you raise a good point, there appears to be a change in behavior on this site, as more and more people report being let down.
Maybe this is as a consequence of the lockdowns? People are lonely and need to feel wanted but have no intention of following bit through, they just need to know that someone wants them.
And, FYI OP, not everyone on Fab behaves this way infact, not everyone in your area is like that, just saying
It's not so much the being let down, it's the ghosting, suddenly stop talking a few hours before the meet time. Are they playing games or changed their mind? If that's the case at least have the decency to message saying that.
Yes there are decent local guys, we spent a few excellent hours with one last night "
Lucky guy! |
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind.
Dont understand how guys could turn it down.
I've been looking to join since i returned and regardless of how i message someone noone seems to be interested.
Maybe your looking in the wrong place
Where do we look? Where are these genuine guys?"
Well, I'm one of the genuine guys. I've always shown up for my meets and will show up for my next one on Friday.
I can only assume that a lot of the guys who fail to show up are newbies who love the fantasy of swinging but, once faced with the reality, lose their bottle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t let it spoil your smile or fun, unfortunately some people just lack respect and manners, I’ll never understand why a polite message is to much to ask for even if it might be not what we want to read |
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. "
can they be reported and have a warning label on their profiles? |
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I just wouldn’t even entertain people if I wasn’t interested ... we’ve never stood anyone up and I think it’s just rude .... I’m sure people have better things to be doing with their time than bothering with people who can’t be bothered in general |
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I was the "reserve" guy for a gangbang over the weekend. Never done one but thought, what the hell, why not? You only live once right? Plus my wife was keen on me going rather than her lol.
Anyway, come the morning, I get an message that a guy has dropped out so off I went, nervous but ready to go.
I get there and 5 guys are a complete no show. No messages, no nothing. 1 other did arrive but he came and went within 15 mins or so.
So the lady in question was left with me and the host who occasionally joined in for 3 hours. Thankfully I didnt disappoint and made it a fun afternoon for her non the less (I've been asked for another meet and was left a glowing veri on my single guy account so i did something right).
We have already complained about the time wasting we have had as a couple (and lots of guys posing as couples). We know others are complaining about it as threads are popping up all the time. I witnessed it 1st hand happening to another couple over the weekend...
The veri structure on this site really needs to be changed.
It should be more of a traffic light system if you ask us.
Red: for photo veris
Amber: for webcam and 1 to 5 phtlysical meets.
Green: verified by 5 different accounts.
Now I'm sure some wont like it, hell.some dont like the veri system period but it will filter a lot of the bullshit out for.those who.do rely on it.
We have accounts being verified by fake accounts now but it's a lot harder to get 5 different verified accounts to.verify you, Photo.veris can easily be faked and I've straight up seen people verifying cam users who are clearly streaming a video etc etc.
It's not a removal but it just changes the system.
Fab either needs to do.skmething to protect its users for all the bullshit or its users will eventually go somewhere else. One entrepenuring swinger with a mindset for coding and app writing and we could all be on Swingapp in a year time. Myspace got complacent and look where that is now.
Be proactive Fab admin, not reactive. Your serious user base will thank you for it.
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There are those that talk the talk but won't walk the walk. Maybe they just loose their bottle, or maybe they have something to hide.
Others might just loose interest or get a more appealing offer elsewhere. Common decency woud be to cancel any arrangement before a meet, & not leave someone waiting or guessing.
There are some very over inflated egos on here, that lack basic common courtesy. |
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"There are those that talk the talk but won't walk the walk. Maybe they just loose their bottle, or maybe they have something to hide.
Others might just loose interest or get a more appealing offer elsewhere. Common decency woud be to cancel any arrangement before a meet, & not leave someone waiting or guessing.
There are some very over inflated egos on here, that lack basic common courtesy."
Yes we all change our minds or things come up last minute, but like you say, have the common decency to cancel.
I believe that the guy in question on Saturday was a keyboard wanker, at home knocking one out while playing out his fantasy. Unfortunately we won't ever get rid of these tossers. |
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind. "
That’s what happen when you pick the wrong single men… |
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"What on earth is going on with this site lately. So many guys arranging to meet then ghosting. Been chatting to a guy all day that we invited to join us at ours. He stopped replying a few hours ago but is online. Why not have the decency to say he's changed his mind.
That’s what happen when you pick the wrong single men… "
Or the wrong female or couple! |
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I’ve always relied on honesty being the best policy.
In all the years I’ve been involved on this site both as part of a couple and as a singleton I don’t think I’ve ever ghosted anyone or not made a meet when I said I would go.
Life is so short and far too complicated to be discourteous to others.
Just wish more people on here would think I’m worth meeting up with?? |
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But on a serious note sorry you had that experience. Hopefully the next one is better 
