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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im single at the moment but been on a few dates! But how the hell you drop yr secret fab life into a conversation haha to see if they would be ok joining me etc!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like everything, there is a time and a place
If the time and place is wrong girly gives ya slap on face
...simples
Just go for it and hope for the win 
Wolf |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well you can say your into swinging but thay may do a runner .. Thats the risk you take if you feel theres a need to tell .. its your life and if your not married or its long team girl friend why tell them ? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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just be honest with any new lady you meet when discussing your time being a single lad. You signed up to a swingers site to have fun, go to clubs etc etc.
You are a single playing the field, she may have been here.
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well you can say your into swinging but thay may do a runner .. Thats the risk you take if you feel theres a need to tell .. its your life and if your not married or its long team girl friend why tell them ?"
Ye but isn't that worse when if they become a long term girl friend dropping it on them then haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well you can say your into swinging but thay may do a runner .. Thats the risk you take if you feel theres a need to tell .. its your life and if your not married or its long team girl friend why tell them ?
Ye but isn't that worse when if they become a long term girl friend dropping it on them then haha "
well if you feel thay may become a long team girl friend ... maybe say... But you may have stoped swinging if into just one lady ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would be honest and upfront, maybe not on a first date
But if you like a girl and it seems the feeling is mutual and say after a few dates, at this stage you may then have chatted whether to take it to the next stage, eg a relationship.
I would then say, there is something I need to tell you, I am a member on a swinging site...etc etc
Then have to judge their reaction, it might be, it's me or the site....then it is your choice
Or sod off!
Or she may say show me, and you can go from there...
Or she may set up her own single profile 
Either way, I'd say if you want a serious relationship, and find the right girl, establish your own sex life before introducing more people, imo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well you can say your into swinging but thay may do a runner .. Thats the risk you take if you feel theres a need to tell .. its your life and if your not married or its long team girl friend why tell them ?
Ye but isn't that worse when if they become a long term girl friend dropping it on them then haha "
Hi Sam
Are you looking for a GF or FB ? sometime both go hand in hand, but be mega careful of not spoiling a relationship just to satisfy your sexuaal desires - do you keep it secret ? that im not sure as secrets can come back and bite you in the bum  |
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In my opinion youve got two roots be honest or lie.....
If your just dating I cant see fab being an issue,if they become girlfriend or more then would you still want to stay on fab??
When I first joined I was dating and having fun with a few women. But I then met someone and things started getting serious I was still on fab n having fun. I did tell myself Id come off fab as she wasnt the type to swing.....
Things dint work out but I met a single bi fem off fab so we both know about each others acyivities |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would just go for the crunch and tell her you never know she might be into it.
Find out what her fantasys likes/dislikes are in bed before you drop the bomshell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you see the woman on a regular basis,say work or local or whatever,bring up your swinging life in conversation before you ask her out on a date.
If she seems intrigued by it ask her out,if she says yes the worlds your oyster! 
XXXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now ive had this problem several times, and have always been open and honest with dates about my life...all but one have done a runner as they cant handle the jealousy aspect, so its risky, but i think honesty is the best policy and if its meant to be it will be x (the one who didnt do a runner was a twunt btw and i wouldnt touch him with a shitty stick now lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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depends if she's lovely, hot and intelligent, you may decide not to swing. Why not date longer and gain that regular sex. .if you still feel the need to swing once seen her longer, then tell her. No point telling her this early on
What i dont get is inbetween dates when your not going out but still got another date planned but it may be ages off as shes working 6 days a week etc so not seen her for weeks and weeks, should you still plan meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You start by walking them out side your front door then you run up stairs and open the top window and drop your laptop on there head with fab swingers open that's droppin it on them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"depends if she's lovely, hot and intelligent, you may decide not to swing."
So what your saying is that if she's dog rough and thick as a brick its O.K to swing, if she's not, best keep her to yourself? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"depends if she's lovely, hot and intelligent, you may decide not to swing.
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If she's lovely hot and intelligent and ever gets wind of that, she may find someone lovely, hot and intelligent instead of you... works both ways lol
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i did this the other day.. was taken by her with a large gulp of wine and silence.
we discussed it all but needless to say, were not together now..
its not for everyone... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Open and honest from the start before the friendship becomes more, me and Jayne spent hours on end talking about sexuality from the first day we chatted in person our likes loves who we were as individuals, start slow and listen to the lady you are with. There is nothing worse than hiding away the person you are and keeping a secret, you end up feeling like there is some thing you long to share but with time it becomes more and more difficult to let it out. We were honest with each other from the start and have the greatest relationship ever and not that its down to getting out all our honesty in the beginning, but we did go into our lives with eyes wide open and no shocks!
Chris and Jayne xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to be honest and upfront at the onset of a potentially meaningful relationship, so that there will be no surprises and no skeleton in the closet to discover at a later date.
It may not suit everyone, however, it suits me to be honest about myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met Tony on a site for friendship, ordinary vanilla site. After a few weeks he asked me if I would like to go to a party, I said yes then he told me it was a swinging party!! Curious, I still went. I watched and talked to people there and another swinger was born lol. Took me a while to be comfortable seeing tony with another woman but now, 11 years later, five of them married, I am a different woman.
Honesty is always best policy and you never know how things will develop lol |
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By *ayseanMan
over a year ago
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Its an interesting question for me as im getting to know a lady myself,although its early doors as to whether or not it will be a long term relationship,but perhaps in my case would leave fab,and maybe depending on how things went,mentioned my previous life on the swinging scene lol id say not to rush into bringing the subject up personally,just let the relationship grow,and take things from there,and if someone can't accept you they are not really worth it anyway |
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just do what I did.
"when i was younger i went to la chambre a couple of times" or "when i was younger i went to a swingers party by accident"
waffle a load of shit to them and see if they say "wow thats cool" or "errrr you pervert"
should be pretty easy to gage from there matey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it's best not to say anything especially if it works out between you, I told an ex of mine and it caused so much agro,constant questions of who with,where,how often.
It didn't help trust wise |
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