How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut! |
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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Yeah, I get a bit confused with this Slut thing. What do people mean by it? If it's a sexually confident and fulfilled woman, why does that need special word, and if it does need a special word, then it shouldn't be Slut.
Slut is usually used in a pejorative way, so I suppose I could support women trying to "reclaim the word with pride" but apart from that, I think it usually comes across as unpleasant.
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal. "
 this.
But still, proud slut here  xx |
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal.
this.
But still, proud slut here xx"
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"There is a time and place for everything
Yep.
Also I don't think women necessarily need to be told by a man that it's ok to be sexual. It kind of defeats the object of owning your own sexuality."
Suspect sexually confident women don’t care.
As in sexually confident men don’t either.
It’s those that are unsure that, well…. |
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"There is a time and place for everything
Yep.
Also I don't think women necessarily need to be told by a man that it's ok to be sexual. It kind of defeats the object of owning your own sexuality.
Suspect sexually confident women don’t care.
As in sexually confident men don’t either.
It’s those that are unsure that, well…."
Sexually confident people don't need to be told by anybody that it's ok to be sexual |
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
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I (Her) have a real dislike of being called a slut but I'm his whore and love it. That being said, I'd hate it if anybody else called me a whore in any context and I'd certainly have something to say if the other half called me a whore in anger rather than than the loving way it's usually used! Her x |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"There is a time and place for everything
Yep.
Also I don't think women necessarily need to be told by a man that it's ok to be sexual. It kind of defeats the object of owning your own sexuality.
Suspect sexually confident women don’t care.
As in sexually confident men don’t either.
It’s those that are unsure that, well….
Sexually confident people don't need to be told by anybody that it's ok to be sexual "
However some play the game and don’t need to be told by others.
I believe, okay my belief, that everyone is doing their best with what they have, or they wouldn’t be doing it.
Quite liberating for me.
It allows me to look to beliefs not facades.
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal.
this.
But still, proud slut here xx"
I don't mind slut.. I can't stand slag tho at all x |
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By *icentiousCouple
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal.
this.
But still, proud slut here xx
I don't mind slut.. I can't stand slag tho at all x"
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It's a context thing, can even be used as a term of endearment between mates and lovers within context.
I have been called a slut many a time both in a derogatory and in a friendly manner but doesn't bother me.
It all depends on ones tolerance levels.
I just see it as a word and nothing more.
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!
I agree! "
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It's a horrible word how can I word this?
It is something that men use as a control , reaffirming their opinions of women using derogatory word's and treating them as such.
Not sure if it's an age thing but we are of the age where calling a woman a slut was and still is meant only as an insult.
So I don't believe it can ever be used in a way of empowerment by "taking it back" when in fact there's nothing to take back as it's an insulating derogatory word used to demean a woman.
It's interesting that men seem to view this as acceptable.
If you are in a relationship and roleplay then what you do in your bedroom is entirely up to you.
But if a guy ever referred to my wife as a slut then I would be having a quiet word with him outside. |
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This is a tricky one, as in the act of a good fucking I love being called a dirty slut.
Turns me on.
But if its being used to negatively describe a female because of her sexual appetite then its wrong.
But then I also don't care what people think or what they call me people are entitled to their opinions I guess
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"It's a horrible word how can I word this?
It is something that men use as a control , reaffirming their opinions of women using derogatory word's and treating them as such.
Not sure if it's an age thing but we are of the age where calling a woman a slut was and still is meant only as an insult.
So I don't believe it can ever be used in a way of empowerment by "taking it back" when in fact there's nothing to take back as it's an insulating derogatory word used to demean a woman.
It's interesting that men seem to view this as acceptable.
If you are in a relationship and roleplay then what you do in your bedroom is entirely up to you.
But if a guy ever referred to my wife as a slut then I would be having a quiet word with him outside."
I dont think it's just men there are a fair few women I reckon that would have no issue in using the word to bitch about another female. |
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Personally don’t like the word and would bypass any profile looking for a slut. I think it’s derogatory though can see how it’s used in the bedroom between a couple.
Lunchtime conversation about a lady, negatively remarked on her sexual habits and I said maybe she just enjoys life but none agreed - nothing was said about men sleeping around |
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"It's a horrible word how can I word this?
It is something that men use as a control , reaffirming their opinions of women using derogatory word's and treating them as such.
Not sure if it's an age thing but we are of the age where calling a woman a slut was and still is meant only as an insult.
So I don't believe it can ever be used in a way of empowerment by "taking it back" when in fact there's nothing to take back as it's an insulating derogatory word used to demean a woman.
It's interesting that men seem to view this as acceptable.
If you are in a relationship and roleplay then what you do in your bedroom is entirely up to you.
But if a guy ever referred to my wife as a slut then I would be having a quiet word with him outside."
I agree.
Why can't women just be women without reference to how often they have sex and with how many people an why do we need the approval of anybody men or women to just be the way we are? |
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"There is a time and place for everything
Yep.
Also I don't think women necessarily need to be told by a man that it's ok to be sexual. It kind of defeats the object of owning your own sexuality.
Suspect sexually confident women don’t care.
As in sexually confident men don’t either.
It’s those that are unsure that, well….
Sexually confident people don't need to be told by anybody that it's ok to be sexual
However some play the game and don’t need to be told by others.
I believe, okay my belief, that everyone is doing their best with what they have, or they wouldn’t be doing it.
Quite liberating for me.
It allows me to look to beliefs not facades.
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I'm not sure I understand. What do you mean by some play the game? |
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal.
this.
But still, proud slut here xx"
I'm laughing at that! |
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I think all that matters is if someone wants to be called a Slut or not? Its their choice to enjoy themselves the way they want and be called what they want. It's not for anyone else to judge or make assumptions. And it's not for anyone to call anyone a Slut unless they know that's OK with the person in question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the bedroom or wherever else we might be doing it then saying you are a slut/whore or being called a slut/where is fine.
Outside of passionate moments never."
Yep same for me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
A time and a place for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always read slut as just somebody of either gender who is just honest about loving sex and getting as much of it as possible. So I can envisage a monogamous slut.
Slag on the other hand can only be pejorative. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
Used as a pet name in a consenting relationship sure.
Used as a label by random people because she enjoys sex? No.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like it at all, speaking for myself, being called a slut is a huge turn off for me. If I met someone and they referred to me that way, I'd never meet them again. |
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
Interesting topic. Always as far as I am aware been associated with a women who. Sleeps around with a number of partners etc. We are very quick in society to label people for all different reasons. Being quire a Conservative country especialky when it comes to sex. Everyone to their own
As I have always said... Providing it is legal,consentual and not hurting anyone fill your boots. |
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I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal. "
So are you saying that within the bdsm scene, then honorifics are abnormal |
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"Nope I don't think women who enjoy sex with loads of different people should be called anything apart from women. Having a special name makes it appear abnormal.
So are you saying that within the bdsm scene, then honorifics are abnormal "
I think for whatever someone's kink is, is just that. Definitely not abnormal, what is normal these days |
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A guy or woman even has to earn my respect before I would allow it. And then I'd wear it but only from the person I'm with
He or she can comment to others that I'm his slut, others cannot use this word |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"There is a time and place for everything
Yep.
Also I don't think women necessarily need to be told by a man that it's ok to be sexual. It kind of defeats the object of owning your own sexuality.
Suspect sexually confident women don’t care.
As in sexually confident men don’t either.
It’s those that are unsure that, well….
Sexually confident people don't need to be told by anybody that it's ok to be sexual
However some play the game and don’t need to be told by others.
I believe, okay my belief, that everyone is doing their best with what they have, or they wouldn’t be doing it.
Quite liberating for me.
It allows me to look to beliefs not facades.
I'm not sure I understand. What do you mean by some play the game?"
You don’t think people on here play games?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Iv recently expressed to C that id like her to be more slutty on occasion. To me, theres a diference between a slut and a slag.
S"
I don't get this?
What is the difference and what criteria would you use to judge someone as a slag?
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Iv recently expressed to C that id like her to be more slutty on occasion. To me, theres a diference between a slut and a slag.
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I don't get this?
What is the difference and what criteria would you use to judge someone as a slag?
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Personal semantics/experience. |
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"Iv recently expressed to C that id like her to be more slutty on occasion. To me, theres a diference between a slut and a slag.
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I don't get this?
What is the difference and what criteria would you use to judge someone as a slag?
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I totally agree. There seams to be a derogatory feeling around it I feel.
But I do agree, the freedom to express you adore sex (as a woman) should never be seen as a bad thing.
Personally, it really turns me on in the bedroom to be called a whore (even been known to cum from it whilst in the action).
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"I totally agree. There seams to be a derogatory feeling around it I feel.
But I do agree, the freedom to express you adore sex (as a woman) should never be seen as a bad thing.
Personally, it really turns me on in the bedroom to be called a whore (even been known to cum from it whilst in the action).
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In reality no one is anything 24/7.
You may be a slut for a few hours a week, the rest of the week you may be a Coworker, father, sister, carer, wife, husband. Etc.
The label only works in scenarios where it is wanted. The rest of the time it's just a lazy insult to describe someone who has either turned you down or has more sexual partners or activity than you arbitrarily deem suitable.
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"Iv recently expressed to C that id like her to be more slutty on occasion. To me, theres a diference between a slut and a slag.
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I don't get this?
What is the difference and what criteria would you use to judge someone as a slag?
He couldn't possibly be married to a slag "
Ok. To me, being dirty or dressing in a sexily dirty manner for yourself or someonelse is slutty. Being a slag has a more negative meaning. Thats just how i define things. And no, my wife is nowhere near a slag:/ but she is sexually charged and amazing in being so, for herself and for me.
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Does seem to be a word that polarises. Also noticed a generational aspect. Maybe to those who grew up with the derogatory meaning then any sense of reclaiming it or for it to be a positive label is an impossibility.
Also think that men like labelling things more than women. And men also like breaking the rules/norms. So can understand how where the OP is coming from.
Hotwife/slut/swinger what’s the difference these days in the context of a fab type of lifestyle?
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I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
Slut we see as a compliment slag we see as an insult |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Does seem to be a word that polarises. Also noticed a generational aspect. Maybe to those who grew up with the derogatory meaning then any sense of reclaiming it or for it to be a positive label is an impossibility.
Also think that men like labelling things more than women. And men also like breaking the rules/norms. So can understand how where the OP is coming from.
Hotwife/slut/swinger what’s the difference these days in the context of a fab type of lifestyle?
If the cap fits and nobody’s getting hurt then crack on. "
I absolutely agree.
No judgment in a non judgmental social/sexual site. |
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!
Used as a pet name in a consenting relationship sure.
Used as a label by random people because she enjoys sex? No.
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This. I love being called slut by him, because I’m
his slut, but not by some random stranger, because I haven’t consented to it. |
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!
Used as a pet name in a consenting relationship sure.
Used as a label by random people because she enjoys sex? No.
This. I love being called slut by him, because I’m
his slut, but not by some random stranger, because I haven’t consented to it."
This is exactly where my gf and I lie on the subject! |
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By *issusWoman
over a year ago
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"How many women share my view that being referred to as a "slut" should be a term to be proud of and worn like a badge of honour. Not something to be ashamed of or used in a derogatory manner.
I for one would be exceptionally proud to be in a relationship with a woman with a reputation as an unashamed slut!"
Depends what you class as a slut.
One woman can be called a slut for wearing a skirt that's too short or having long fingernails..
While another woman may enjoy the slut badge and fuck everything that moves.
Society is fucked up that way. There is no real definition to a word slut because everyone interprets it differently.
The only thing that's consistent is that it's designed to be used in derogatory manner.
No, I don't think every woman should "own" the badge and be proud of it because to some women it's a genuine insult.
I don't consider myself to be a slut. Do I like it when my SO calls me that mid sex? - absolutely. Does every stranger have a right to call me that? - absolutely not. |
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