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"I like to think of my self as very polite and courteous.
But can be too nice and polite put people off ?"
I don’t think being polite and courteous would put people off, but you need to mix that with confidence aswell, getting that balance is the trick |
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over a year ago
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"I like to think of my self as very polite and courteous.
But can be too nice and polite put people off ?"
I think it all depends on the person to be honest, everyone is different so there is no one size fits all,
Like myself I would rather someone be polite and speak to me with abit of respect
Just speak to people how you would in normal day to day life x |
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"No, there is no such thing as being *genuinely* too nice. There is such a thing as being sychophantic or faux niceness which people often confuse with being genuinely just a nice person."
I've been dumped by a girlfriend for being too nice in her words and for years after I hated that term.
I have now found that balance between nice and mannerly and self confidence.
I have seen plenty on here though who act nice all the time and never have an opinion of their own. They echo multiple differing opinions and have to chat to as many people as possible on every thread. Others need public acknowledgement of their niceness.
It all seems like a lot of hard work for them so it's obvious that it's all a persona |
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Yes there is such a thing as been too nice unfortunately... 
Being too sweet to be wholesome...I've witnessed this on here & in real life 
Ulterior motives & quite sneaky...bordering on evil |
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"No, there is no such thing as being *genuinely* too nice. There is such a thing as being sychophantic or faux niceness which people often confuse with being genuinely just a nice person.
I've been dumped by a girlfriend for being too nice in her words and for years after I hated that term.
I have now found that balance between nice and mannerly and self confidence.
I have seen plenty on here though who act nice all the time and never have an opinion of their own. They echo multiple differing opinions and have to chat to as many people as possible on every thread. Others need public acknowledgement of their niceness.
It all seems like a lot of hard work for them so it's obvious that it's all a persona"
I was told the same many years back. I often wonder if it was just a "get out the relationship" reason in a nice way...similar to " the problem is me not you"! |
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"Yes there is such a thing as been too nice unfortunately...
Being too sweet to be wholesome...I've witnessed this on here & in real life
Ulterior motives & quite sneaky...bordering on evil"
I had a woman friend who was very much like this, had being the operative word. You simply couldn't trust that what she said to you was true. |
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"No, there is no such thing as being *genuinely* too nice. There is such a thing as being sychophantic or faux niceness which people often confuse with being genuinely just a nice person.
I've been dumped by a girlfriend for being too nice in her words and for years after I hated that term.
I have now found that balance between nice and mannerly and self confidence.
I have seen plenty on here though who act nice all the time and never have an opinion of their own. They echo multiple differing opinions and have to chat to as many people as possible on every thread. Others need public acknowledgement of their niceness.
It all seems like a lot of hard work for them so it's obvious that it's all a persona
I was told the same many years back. I often wonder if it was just a "get out the relationship" reason in a nice way...similar to " the problem is me not you"!"
Possibly. In my case we'd only been going out a couple of months and had never spent a single minute alone because her friends were always there.
Completely out of the blue she used those words at 5 mins to midnight on New year's Eve and then proceeded to snog one of the local bad boys on the dancefloor to see the New year in. |
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"No, there is no such thing as being *genuinely* too nice. There is such a thing as being sychophantic or faux niceness which people often confuse with being genuinely just a nice person.
I've been dumped by a girlfriend for being too nice in her words and for years after I hated that term.
I have now found that balance between nice and mannerly and self confidence.
I have seen plenty on here though who act nice all the time and never have an opinion of their own. They echo multiple differing opinions and have to chat to as many people as possible on every thread. Others need public acknowledgement of their niceness.
It all seems like a lot of hard work for them so it's obvious that it's all a persona
I was told the same many years back. I often wonder if it was just a "get out the relationship" reason in a nice way...similar to " the problem is me not you"!"
I've been told it in the past, too.
I assume it's a polite way of telling me they don't fancy me in the slightest, or I'm too emotional to deal with it when they inevitably lose interest and dump me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's nothing wrong in being a nice person as long as it is genuine, i get told i told im too nice for my own good sometimes but thats down to some of my old school morals haha |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
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Yeah you can for sure be too nice. Some people are so nice they get walked over by others. In a sex context whilst I require someone to be a genuinely nice person before I fuck them, I do like being treated like shit.
Totally depends on the context, you can never be too nice to a stranger, but you can definitely be too nice to a partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That is very true as ppl do walk over these types of people or use them to there own ends, i will admit i was one when i as a young teen but things changed when i started playing in metal bands and loved to be mental on stage and the partying after gigs haha |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"I like to think of my self as very polite and courteous.
But can be too nice and polite put people off ?"
It doesn't put me off but by being too nice myself I've ended up being hurt, here and IRL. |
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