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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens unfortunately OP...But just remember it's themselves they're `letting down` not you...
I learned very quickly from being on this site...You gotta grow a thick skin...Defo not for the sensitive...
I also discovered blocking doesn't help...They come back with a new profile & vendetta...
I have named & shamed a few at times in a status... & guess what it works... I never interact with abuse in a conversation...I Ignore...Never entertain abusive behaviour or a troll as in don't take the `bait` some just thrive on it...no matter what interaction it is |
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So many pathetic individuals on here unfortunately. They don't just let themselves down, but the rest of us single males as well.
Block, forget & move on.
On a positive note, there are plenty more genuine guys than there are rotters x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it works both ways, women can be very nasty too, just as nasty as any man.
None of it is right, we should all respect each others choices without question.X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So many pathetic individuals on here unfortunately. They don't just let themselves down, but the rest of us single males as well.
Block, forget & move on.
On a positive note, there are plenty more genuine guys than there are rotters x"
^^^^^^^ So true the good guys make up for the nasties  |
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"For attention mostly or thinking just cause they on this site they are entitled to it. Thankfully they are some great guys on here too."
The great men are very few and far between.. most of the time you get abusive and entitled /arrogant messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never understood being nasty to anyone no means no get over it and move on. Agree with everything in this thread the nastiest do make it hard work for the good guys. I personally will just carry on being nice and kind  |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"I was called a fat piggy by a guy I have never spoken to before I was like wth"
Insist on a face pic with every first message, they're far less likely to abuse you if they're not faceless. Don't open or read any message without an attachment. Some of course just attach their cock pic, but quick and easy to delete and block. Never reply to abusive messages, blocking and ignoring them is best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men get them as well ,I’ve found if I open a message and they see I have , and I don’t respond, due to them not reading what I am after eg face photo , I get a barrage of nasty messages, so I block them , some people get off on it I’m sure , there getting attention which some crave |
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Just explain that what they have looks like a penis only smaller a bit like their brain thank them kindly for taking the time to extend their vocabulary and then ick their arses and continue Happy fabbing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is just not women who get offensive messages.
As a couple we get them for many reasons. Yesterday it was for saying in the politest terms "Thank you but no thank you". We faced a triad of abuse at the same time as blocking us so we could reply.
I am sure it happens to many on here but it is their loss, not ours. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
It's not just men who send abusive messages women and couples can be just as abusive and sometimes even worse than men.
I don't know why they do it and I don't really care enough to find out it obviously gives them a cheap thrill and says more about them than anything else. As far as I'm concerned any abusive message is handy as it is like the rubbish taking itself out I just delete and block and move on without giving it a second thought. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. "
but if they read my profile it says I don't just fuck black men x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never sent rude nor degrading messages. Even though virtually most of them never get replied to regardless of reading and following he profile criteria, as disappointing as it can be, it just doesn’t add anything constructive to add insults. I found that this site can be very ‘cut-throat’ which I find toxic. I’m sorry you had to experience that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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here we go again guys saying that other guys ruin it for them ie the bad ruin it for the so called good well guess what thats bullshit .. abusive guys ruin it for themselves nobody else so stop using other for an excuse for getting nowhere everyone is responsible for themselves ..
ive found with abusive guys / guys who mess around / fake guys is that word of mouth is getting more of a thing certainty amongst locals chat groups /club vists and generally friends on here i never used to take noticed until i saw the pattern and indeed it is the guys getting spoken about ...so name and shame is against fab rules but what you say in private is not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. "
wow really ?? "resentment" for wanting something and excluding some = its ok to abuse and insult ..... talk about throwing your toys out the pram |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. but if they read my profile it says I don't just fuck black men x"
you dont have to justifie what you want |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. but if they read my profile it says I don't just fuck black men x
you dont have to justifie what you want "
thanks hun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do some men feel the need to message a nasty message to women and put them down "
I’d imagine it’s because they have a small penis and can’t handle rejection. |
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"As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. but if they read my profile it says I don't just fuck black men x
you dont have to justifie what you want thanks hun x"
I'll second this. You don't have to justify anything to anyone. You're here for you, not them. They're the sad arseholes sending the abusive messages. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As others have mentioned they're insecure. I noticed you also like Black guys so there could be an element of "resentment" from that as they feel excluded from gaining your attention so as petulant males go the opposite way and insult you. but if they read my profile it says I don't just fuck black men x
you dont have to justifie what you want thanks hun x
I'll second this. You don't have to justify anything to anyone. You're here for you, not them. They're the sad arseholes sending the abusive messages. "
thanks xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was called a fat piggy by a guy I have never spoken to before I was like wth"
I now see it as a blessing, one message like that and we can instantly avoid meeting any of the idiots in person x |
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"Why do some men feel the need to message a nasty message to women and put them down "
Because they are jealous of anyone else's popularity and feel the need to belittle them please don't take it to heart and just block them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think we should limit the messages only from men to women. I've received loads of insults after rejecting females and couples. Even had insults from a regular top fabbed pic female after I didn't message her back quick enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best thing you can do is report, block and move on. They don't deserve a response or you wasting any of your energy on them.
I've recently had a couple of women and a couple sending me abusive messages even though I hadn't contacted them.
I just reported and ignored em! Not going to let my emotions get caught up in something like that (although, admittedly it can be tough not to do so). And neither should you. All the best  |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
norwich |
I got blocked by two people on here after they sent me rather unfriendly messages, I then could not respond and i had two really nasty messages belittling my (transvestite) life choices. All in a week.
This sent me on a spiral of depression and tears for a week, it might be silly and a little thing to most but it Trully upset me.
I was going to leave FAB but thankfully the sweet and kind people outweigh the ones that don't care for others feeling so I have stayed and just stepped back a bit.
I have some amazing friends on here and I love them for being so supportive.
If anyone else if feeling low I send you a BIG hug xxx Chloe xxx |
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"I got blocked by two people on here after they sent me rather unfriendly messages, I then could not respond and i had two really nasty messages belittling my (transvestite) life choices. All in a week.
This sent me on a spiral of depression and tears for a week, it might be silly and a little thing to most but it Trully upset me.
I was going to leave FAB but thankfully the sweet and kind people outweigh the ones that don't care for others feeling so I have stayed and just stepped back a bit.
I have some amazing friends on here and I love them for being so supportive.
If anyone else if feeling low I send you a BIG hug xxx Chloe xxx"
That is truly awful. No one should have to put up with that . Hugs to you x |
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Honestly some of the crappy messages I’ve had, even one saying he hoped me and my kids got covid and died are disgusting but they don’t deserve my time so get blocked but I do actually give them a polite reply before I do because that annoys them more. That last guy who said about the covid kept opening new accounts just to keep sending me shitty messages. Why do any Nasty people do what they do… |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"I got blocked by two people on here after they sent me rather unfriendly messages, I then could not respond and i had two really nasty messages belittling my (transvestite) life choices. All in a week.
This sent me on a spiral of depression and tears for a week, it might be silly and a little thing to most but it Trully upset me.
I was going to leave FAB but thankfully the sweet and kind people outweigh the ones that don't care for others feeling so I have stayed and just stepped back a bit.
I have some amazing friends on here and I love them for being so supportive.
If anyone else if feeling low I send you a BIG hug xxx Chloe xxx"
That is awful , I’m glad you’ve stayed , why fab doesn’t police rude people more I’ll never no
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just picked up on this one......
It is so wrong that these things go on , but sadly OP the problem is not just with men ....... us men get some bad stuff to
so I put that down to people being pretty well protected by anomality on here, that they get away with it
Don't give up, you sound like a nice women
J xx  |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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To the OP , you look amazing and so pretty, thank goodness for the nice people on here.
To the people that responded to my post "Thank you" means more than you could imagine.
To everyone else , your all beautiful and I send you all a big hug and kiss, this thread has pulled at my heart strings.
Xxx Chloe xxx |
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"Honestly some of the crappy messages I’ve had, even one saying he hoped me and my kids got covid and died are disgusting but they don’t deserve my time so get blocked but I do actually give them a polite reply before I do because that annoys them more. That last guy who said about the covid kept opening new accounts just to keep sending me shitty messages. Why do any Nasty people do what they do…"
It's becoming a bigger problem on the site. Something needs to be done. |
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"Honestly some of the crappy messages I’ve had, even one saying he hoped me and my kids got covid and died are disgusting but they don’t deserve my time so get blocked but I do actually give them a polite reply before I do because that annoys them more. That last guy who said about the covid kept opening new accounts just to keep sending me shitty messages. Why do any Nasty people do what they do…
It's becoming a bigger problem on the site. Something needs to be done. "
Yes it does |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To the OP , you look amazing and so pretty, thank goodness for the nice people on here.
To the people that responded to my post "Thank you" means more than you could imagine.
To everyone else , your all beautiful and I send you all a big hug and kiss, this thread has pulled at my heart strings.
Xxx Chloe xxx"
awwwww ty chloe same goes to u hun xxxx |
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"Honestly some of the crappy messages I’ve had, even one saying he hoped me and my kids got covid and died are disgusting but they don’t deserve my time so get blocked but I do actually give them a polite reply before I do because that annoys them more. That last guy who said about the covid kept opening new accounts just to keep sending me shitty messages. Why do any Nasty people do what they do…
It's becoming a bigger problem on the site. Something needs to be done.
Yes it does"
I dont know why sad little idiots would message such horrid things to you, OP or anyone on fab to be honest.
How bitter does one have to be to say anything mean to a complete stranger on here?
We only have 4 modes modes on fab. Polite, friendly, flirty or ignore. Sometimes a it's one of the first 3, sometimes all 3. More and more it's becoming the last one lately.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Received a nasty message from a female this evening saying I don't deserve to meet anyone due to being 'pig ugly'. If people don't like how I look, just scroll on through. Makes you wonder what goes through their minds and makes them think it's OK to be like that.  |
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"Received a nasty message from a female this evening saying I don't deserve to meet anyone due to being 'pig ugly'. If people don't like how I look, just scroll on through. Makes you wonder what goes through their minds and makes them think it's OK to be like that. "
You should console yourself with the fact that, and i genuinely believe this to be true, that the woman in question is most likely deeply unhappy and probably always will be throughout her life |
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We had our first “not nice message” yesterday. Called L an ignorant slapper as we had not responded quickly enough to a message he had sent. Got a little angry about it but remembered it’s just the internet - called him a bellend and blocked, i felt very empowered . K |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We had our first “not nice message” yesterday. Called L an ignorant slapper as we had not responded quickly enough to a message he had sent. Got a little angry about it but remembered it’s just the internet - called him a bellend and blocked, i felt very empowered . K"
Firstly amazing profile you two.
Secondly it's weird how they think insulting someone improves their chances 
These people wouldn't say boo to a goose in person, sadly just keyboard warriors |
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By *ippy68Man
over a year ago
Weymouth |
"For attention mostly or thinking just cause they on this site they are entitled to it. Thankfully they are some great guys on here too.
The great men are very few and far between.. most of the time you get abusive and entitled /arrogant messages "
I’ve had some vile messages from women and I think the nicer more placid guys get overlooked by hung, younger muscled guys. However I continue waiting to try and find that connection most of us crave. |
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We had our first one recently. Apparently I "should have her put down" and something about feeling sorry for our kids! Came from a guy with a silhouette profile, whos tag line was "lets see if this site is all its cracked up to be" and had one very poorly taken picture of a cock (presumably his).
Before blocking him, I responded telling him his face picture was pretty accurate (a cock) and asked if his mum know he was online so late. |
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"For attention mostly or thinking just cause they on this site they are entitled to it. Thankfully they are some great guys on here too.
The great men are very few and far between.. most of the time you get abusive and entitled /arrogant messages
I’ve had some vile messages from women and I think the nicer more placid guys get overlooked by hung, younger muscled guys. However I continue waiting to try and find that connection most of us crave."
Yes some ladies (and couples) can be pretty rude and abusive too (verified ones not fakes that are a man). Some of the ladies get a bit carried away given the imbalance of men and constant interest. Feels like some are on a power trip and get a kick out of being rude. |
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