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By *olmateMan
over a year ago
west mids |
I am a man. Maybe man usually reply but it is just a hypothesis.
On the other hand, I always compose a new message after reading the profile.
And my messages are never "one liners"...
What I usually recieve in return is "silence"!
I am very open minded and take rejection as a sign of personal preference but only very few people reply if I'm not their type.
It is sad and strange behaviour but true.
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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago
East Lancashire |
Defo depends on the message.
If they've clearly not read interests etc or it just says "hi" it's a delete from me.
If some efforts gone into the message and it's polite I always answer even if it's a no thanks. |
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From Fab FAQs
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From Fab FAQs
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
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I was just going to write pretty much this exact thing. Sometimes when we’re particularly active on here we get literally bombarded with messsges, it’s just unrealistic to expect anyone to keep up to date with that. We’d need to employ a secretary part time, lol. And most messages off guys are crap to be honest, you’re not getting a response for a “hey” or “hi there”. We respond to guys and couples that make an effort and we’re attracted to. It’s that simple.  |
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I state in my profile that no reply means no thanks, this is because, like most women and couples, I get a lot of messages and I really can't be doing with replying to them all. Particularly as it often leads to whining or abuse.
If someone has clearly taken the time to read my profile and send something decent then I will politely decline but if it's a lazy message or clearly isn't what I want as per profile info, then I'm not wasting any time on him. |
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"If the person has taken the time to write a lengthy individual message we will reply. If it’s a one liner or a copy and paste then we won’t "
Exactly this. If they have not bothered why should i? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I state in my profile that no reply means no thanks, this is because, like most women and couples, I get a lot of messages and I really can't be doing with replying to them all. Particularly as it often leads to whining or abuse.
To be honest i do get a lot of messages
And i always reply even if its no thank u.
Since stating i was bi i probably get an extra 150-200 messages a day
If someone has clearly taken the time to read my profile and send something decent then I will politely decline but if it's a lazy message or clearly isn't what I want as per profile info, then I'm not wasting any time on him."
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Due to the collasal number of emails I receive a week (about 1) I do make the effort to reply.
However I had to draw the line at the “Hi” and nowt else email I received recently. Ironically from a profile demanding messages that were more than one-liners  |
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We might not reply if not interested.
Two reasons:
1. Message is like copy/paste
2. They do not match criteria we put in the profile
It is hard to reply sometimes. We have days when we get multiple messages. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I suppose everyone is different me personally as a single man wont get as many messages as a single woman before i used to get probably 90 messages a day probably half were not what i was looking 4 sp it was a polite no thank u but happy fabbing the other half id chat to.
When i declared i was bi i got about an extra 150-200 messages of either single blokes tvs/ts or bi couples will alwayd reply no thanks at least then probably block them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Defo depends on the message.
If they've clearly not read interests etc or it just says "hi" it's a delete from me.
If some efforts gone into the message and it's polite I always answer even if it's a no thanks. "
This  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to reply even if its a thanks but no thanks.
Only if its a one or two word message I don't bother. If they can't put the effort into an initial message I can't be bothered to reply. |
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By *ick34Man
over a year ago
Overton |
think the problem is some guys send stupid ill thought out messages and when they get a no thankyou they keep sending messages as to why not
so if the few send a thought out message and except the response then the rest of us would get a response to our messages
think about it meeting someone in a pub and saying want to fuck your wife would no doubt get you a black eye
its no different on here be respectful and polite and you never know |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
If the sender's profile is I will read the message, & if they have clearly read my profile & have put effort into writing more than 'hi' or 'how you doin?' then I will usually reply, even just to say no thanks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely reply now. If my filters are off I get a lot of messages, and I don’t have time to reply to them all, I don’t want any grief for saying no, and once your filters are back on, they can then still message you, which is just annoying (and this is the main reason I don’t reply). |
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