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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Accept rejection gratefully and remember female swingers are not meat. "
Well. They Technically.. are meat… *hides*
Say hello. Ask how we are. And don’t just assume |
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"Accept rejection gratefully and remember female swingers are not meat.
Well. They Technically.. are meat… *hides*
Say hello. Ask how we are. And don’t just assume"
Don't ask how we are.
Assume we are fine and move on to something original and engaging. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"Accept rejection gratefully and remember female swingers are not meat. "
People definitely need to be thick skinned on Fab. It's hard work. To many crazies. We decided a while ago to go down the club route. That's all changed with this Virus and who knows when a club will be safe again. We have tried to chat and arrange socials for when things are safe again. 7 single men so far have messed us about and 1 turned up for a socially distanced coffee. Who says men have no chance. They spoil it all on their own. Single women we don't message anymore as our message would most likely get lost in the abis of messages they get. Couples are ok, as long as you read their profiles and they match what you are looking for, as 99% of the time you will get a reply, well that's our experience as a couple   |
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If you're a guy, understand that single men vastly outnumber females/couples who often get huge numbers of messages so don't expect too much. Don't just fire off random one line messages and cock shots to everyone you fancy - you'll get nowhere fast. Write a profile which summarises you and what you're seeking NOT what you think 'other people want'. Read profiles to make sure you're a good match before making contact and if you don't get a response just take it as a polite no thanks and move on. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
For couples, to be 100% secure in your relationship, in love, 100% trust, zero jealousy and don't ever throw any of it back in an argument. If there's any cracks swinging will find it, mutually agree to stop if any issues arise. Just a few backbone non negotiables. |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"Accept rejection gratefully and remember female swingers are not meat.
People definitely need to be thick skinned on Fab. It's hard work. To many crazies. We decided a while ago to go down the club route. That's all changed with this Virus and who knows when a club will be safe again. We have tried to chat and arrange socials for when things are safe again. 7 single men so far have messed us about and 1 turned up for a socially distanced coffee. Who says men have no chance. They spoil it all on their own. Single women we don't message anymore as our message would most likely get lost in the abis of messages they get. Couples are ok, as long as you read their profiles and they match what you are looking for, as 99% of the time you will get a reply, well that's our experience as a couple "
Very true. We have a couples profile and my other half a singles one too. The amount of ghosting and time wasting is untrue!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would be your tip to someone new to the swinging scene ."
Get your profile proofread if you can't do it.
It's barely literate and honestly the grammar and spelling will put off at least half the people who look. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want x, y, and z without compromising on a, b or c.. have you thought about companionship by the hour instead? So much easier and nothing to be embarrassed of. |
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"For couples, to be 100% secure in your relationship, in love, 100% trust, zero jealousy and don't ever throw any of it back in an argument. If there's any cracks swinging will find it, mutually agree to stop if any issues arise. Just a few backbone non negotiables."
totally agree...go for socials...be honest with each other....and little steps...you may surprise yourself
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually. Last one.
Talk first, In Person.
Really important. Safe words. Whether it’s kinky stuff or not. Always.
Try have multiple ways. so for us as an example we use, traffics light system, taps and vowels. And for the emergency stop, medical emergency etc etc a few different sounding but related words. Spongebob+pineapple-krabby. And discuss what to do if it happens.
And we make sure we have a chill space where someone can take a break. Decompress. Nap.
Talk after, in person. You’ll learn what to do more or less next time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Become celibate instead. Far less hassle
Haha, so true x"
Nooo. Because then you post threads int he forum and complain how no one wants you and that makes them smug |
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