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Being put off a meet even if their hot ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Attitude.
Chat.
Something they say.
If they have met women I can't compete with
Lots of things really"
One thing I need to point out you shouldn't think that you are competing with other women. You bring you to the table and if for any reason that isn't enough they're not worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Asking for bareback and with a load of verifications because I my head I'd always question if they were bareback with all the previous people... just a bit icky for me |
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I've been instantly turned off by over use of "I bet you can't wait to see me naked" or "coming on your tits" say it once but every message was telling me the same thing. Gorgeous fit guy too. No meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a gorgeous guy about a year ago. I'd been looking forward to meeting him for a long long time. He was tall, handsome, smelled great, well dressed... But Jesus Christ it was the worst, most boring sex I ever had  he asked for a repeat but I made sure it didn't happen  |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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Gynaecological photo  but we do try to keep an open mind. We have met people at socials/clubs who have been really lovely but had we seen their profile before we met them we would have ruled them out as not our type. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this "
Veris. You can't meet with them you don't get a meet without them.  |
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Mirroring many other comments:
1. Attitude!
-For example someone (we've been chatting to), just had a Status update saying "is there really noone who wants to give me a blow job?". Blocked.
2. Contrary to the beliefs of many we do read profiles. Lazy profiles, or the 'will fill in later' (yet on Fabs for more than a year) put us right off.
"only looking for single fem", or "looking for single FWB" are very valid and makes it simple for us to skip onto the next profile without pointless messaging etc.
3. No public pics, will get overlooked (& messages no matter how pleasant get ignored). You can see us & we aren't going to chat with anyone without knowing if we might remotely want to meet with.
4. We like to see veris. We are not put off by veris. Everyone to their own. Not worried how many veris you've had, in fact we prefer if you've had plenty as it confers (some) degree of credibility and, on the whole, prefer profiles where veris are shown. That way we can recognise that someone who has only ever met others who are 25 years younger may not be looking to meet us (despite what their age range may be saying)!
Similarly if they've only met those with very differng body type, we'd probably feel the same way.
Neither are absolutes but they are good guides.
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"Pushy profiles detailing what they will and won't accept in a meet. I get that but they are trying to project themselves as nice people who you'd want to spend a couple of hours with. "
Those profiles are generally written by people that have had enough of idiots doing to them what they say they don’t want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely the people who have verified them, the number and frequency of verifications, crude pictures and language used on their status to name a few . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve often added a profile to our hotlist when they seem compatible only to be totally put off when I’ve read some of their forum posts/threads which bear no resemblance to the people they’ve portrayed themselves as.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Them using the word "snowflake" as an insult... Or insulting people because they aren't what they are attracted to... Or because they think it will make me feel better about myself, or some other kinda horseshit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So I had this one couple, both seemed very hot to go with a CD (me) , but the guy seemed really pushy and when the "woman" finally entered the conversation "she" used exactly the same figures of speech and tone of voice (written) as him.
Now they may have been genuine and just so into each other they'd adopted the same style, but I got an instant red flag and put the brakes on. Also they had no conversation beyond how hot they both were, how much she squirted and he went like a sex Adonis blah blah.
Thanks but no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this "
Same here... either because the people they have been meeting wouldn’t pass for me, or because the girls are way better than me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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for me just attitude and lack of coms
nearly got stuck in birmingham after she said she could accom me then didn't talk and went to a different meet in london |
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There is nothing a lady or couple can put on there profile unless it is illegal or truly offensive that would put me off them if I find them attractive it would not bother me at all if they had no profile message I am here for sex not there interests or life story there are other places for that |
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Most of the above comments.
Slightly off topic but I feel is relivent
Although this is a new. Account I was here for 8 years pm the previous
It was commented a few times why are some veri hidden. As I only displayed group no play socails but occasionally they wanted the gritty details of 121. To me that sets off alarm bells as what goes on in my book is private between those involved
Infact it puts me off a person knowing what Tom dick n Harry ( somtimes within a few hrs of each other) did to them in graphic detail in the back of car |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this
Same here... either because the people they have been meeting wouldn’t pass for me, or because the girls are way better than me. "
It’s usually when they explain fully what they want….and their veris are very very different. It shows me that they will go with anyone that offers it too then. Not for me x |
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this
Same here... either because the people they have been meeting wouldn’t pass for me, or because the girls are way better than me. That is a very sweeping generalisation x
It’s usually when they explain fully what they want….and their veris are very very different. It shows me that they will go with anyone that offers it too then. Not for me x"
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this
Same here... either because the people they have been meeting wouldn’t pass for me, or because the girls are way better than me.
It’s usually when they explain fully what they want….and their veris are very very different. It shows me that they will go with anyone that offers it too then. Not for me x"
Does that apply to the women to. Only some of my veries are from people I've met that don't fit into what I say on my profile, but I certainly don't go with just anyone. |
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"We’re not all the same…the more veris the less chance you have "
it is easy for you to say that you are a incredibly attractive woman men lusting over you every day mere mortals have to take whatever chance they can xxx
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2 things.
1) We had a meet request up all week for tonight. On multiple occasions now we have had a conversation with multiple people who mesaaged us then have gone absoultely radio silent the moment the word social is mentioned. This isnt 2 or 3 messages in but a decent conversation.
2) posting a social request when you really want to one to come round at midnight to shag you.
People not reading profiles is wearing thin and it's worse than ever.
This site.....its not what it used to be currently. Really need to find a better way to connect with real swingers and not wannabes and chancers who are doing nothing more than trying to get a booty call after a few drinks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profiles that come across as overly high-strung and obnoxious - like the ones that have a huge detailed list brashly outlining everything they don’t want and finish with a phrase like “can’t accept that, then don’t waste my time”. I appreciate there are a lot of time wasters - god I get them too, but I’m a nice guy and believe there’s a right and wrong way to get your point across. If I see that, I’d rather avoid that sort of person.
Also women who start out chatting ok, then after a few messages it feels like you’re putting in all the work and getting few-word answers. I just stop at that point and leave it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People being offended by our Profile. I don’t actually expect anyone to read it. But, if they kinda can’t see the funny side of it, then we probably wouldn’t have had the correct fit anyway
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’re not all the same…the more veris the less chance you have it is easy for you to say that you are a incredibly attractive woman men lusting over you every day mere mortals have to take whatever chance they can xxx"
That’s the difference. I certainly don’t see myself that way….And it certainly doesn’t appeal to women if a man ‘takes whatever chance that can’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I don't feel sexy like how I used to be nearly 47 not comfortable on how I look esp when my life took a dramatic turn for the worst at end of 2019 now in my own home trying to keep hold of myself is hard esp weight gain in wrong places some men rather have a slim me than me now and my confidence is shot to pieces can't live up to people's expectations now am happy what I can do fat shaming is one step away from just give up
True reality some people are so cruel yet what makes me laugh is they are far from perfect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this
Same here... either because the people they have been meeting wouldn’t pass for me, or because the girls are way better than me.
It’s usually when they explain fully what they want….and their veris are very very different. It shows me that they will go with anyone that offers it too then. Not for me x
Does that apply to the women to. Only some of my veries are from people I've met that don't fit into what I say on my profile, but I certainly don't go with just anyone. "
If someone I’m chatting too is verified; I will certainly look at their veris, and then the veris of people they have met. It’s a long chain….but I’m unapologetic for what I’m attracted to and what I’m not attracted too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what puts you off a meet ? Even if their hot . For me it can be who’s verified them, How about you ? "
Asking me to be
Friends with benefits !!!! if the benefit is only sex !!!!!!
Fwb
Play friend
I’m none of these !!
However I do like a highly sexually charged meet or meets with a likeminded respectful guy x mutual respect xxx |
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"So what puts you off a meet ? Even if their hot . For me it can be who’s verified them, How about you ? "
Their personality. If you can’t talk to them and have a free flowing conversation then I won’t be playing. |
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"So many! my biggest pet peeve is men saying ‘I’ve always wanted to fuck an Indian girl’ FYI I’m not Indian "
Oh god, this is my biggest turn off... I've never been with a black woman before I hate it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have the total right to select who/why/what you wish but what is ‘too verified’ ?"
Rule of thumb
No verifications - probably fake
Only user verified - likely fake
Only admin verified - less likely to be fake
Admins and user verified - unlikely to be fake
“My pics are uploading or I’m waiting to be verified” - cool; drop up a message later then.
Only user verified? Without reviews. I’ll assume it’s fake until otherwise. Reviews can actually help you find accounts that shouldn’t be ducking verifing each other. These accounts can be 1yr+ old.
Flag,?does go to admin? But name+date on paper? Easy to fake.
Both without review - meh.
Both with reviews. Unlikely to be fake.
Either way. Yep do not trust any of the above.
The only verified I wil trust is telegram or WhatsApp selfie or video call.
Do not ask them to write and hold up name on paper. just before the pic. Tell them how many fingers. Use emoji.s. 4 fingers Vulcan.
If they rush you with a pic it is doesnt look right.tell them to take it again. If they made an excuse. Just go.
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"Profiles that come across as overly high-strung and obnoxious - like the ones that have a huge detailed list brashly outlining everything they don’t want and finish with a phrase like “can’t accept that, then don’t waste my time”. I appreciate there are a lot of time wasters - god I get them too, but I’m a nice guy and believe there’s a right and wrong way to get your point across. If I see that, I’d rather avoid that sort of person.
Also women who start out chatting ok, then after a few messages it feels like you’re putting in all the work and getting few-word answers. I just stop at that point and leave it."
yeah they're probably not that interested amd stringing you along just to be "polite"  |
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"So what puts you off a meet ? Even if their hot . For me it can be who’s verified them, How about you ?
A bare back cock ploughing into them on their pics. "
If it's a couples account its allowed isnt it? Assuming it is the couple. |
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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago
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"So what puts you off a meet ? Even if their hot . For me it can be who’s verified them, How about you ?
A bare back cock ploughing into them on their pics.
If it's a couples account its allowed isnt it? Assuming it is the couple."
True I should have clarified strangers cock  |
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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago
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"So what puts you off a meet ? Even if their hot . For me it can be who’s verified them, How about you ?
This.
And photos that appear.
Dodgy grubby beds or rooms and I'm gone. "
LoL so true! Clutter bedroom pics with last week's dirty washing on the floor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10k word essay in first message detailing what he's gonna do to be.
Yelling me he wants to try a fat girl for a change (yep totally had that one)
Lots of veris from slim petite women. (complete opposite of me)
Come and fuck me now messages.
No pics on profile. Will automatically delete unless there are any sent in the message. |
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"Veris ….I’d say they spoil my attraction 99 percent of the time. My meets are rare because of this
Same here... either because the people they have been meeting wouldn’t pass for me, or because the girls are way better than me.
It’s usually when they explain fully what they want….and their veris are very very different. It shows me that they will go with anyone that offers it too then. Not for me x
Does that apply to the women to. Only some of my veries are from people I've met that don't fit into what I say on my profile, but I certainly don't go with just anyone.
If someone I’m chatting too is verified; I will certainly look at their veris, and then the veris of people they have met. It’s a long chain….but I’m unapologetic for what I’m attracted to and what I’m not attracted too."
Absolutely you are. I was referring to the part about when they in their profile one thing and you don't think a person who they have met matches their " requirements " on their profile. How do you know they don't? My veris may not look like they match what my profile says. But they matched up great after chatting. I was just asking does the same apply to women then? |
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"10k word essay in first message detailing what he's gonna do to be.
Yelling me he wants to try a fat girl for a change (yep totally had that one)
Lots of veris from slim petite women. (complete opposite of me)
Come and fuck me now messages.
No pics on profile. Will automatically delete unless there are any sent in the message. "
I can definitely see where you're coming from.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Met a guy on here I really liked and seemed to really get the hotwife thing. However when it came down to it he tried to fuck me like a porno, was obsessed with trying to get me to squirt (which I often find embarrassing unless totally comfortable), and thought endlessly swearing was somehow hot. We didn’t meet again x |
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"2 things.
1) We had a meet request up all week for tonight. On multiple occasions now we have had a conversation with multiple people who mesaaged us then have gone absoultely radio silent the moment the word social is mentioned. This isnt 2 or 3 messages in but a decent conversation.
2) posting a social request when you really want to one to come round at midnight to shag you.
People not reading profiles is wearing thin and it's worse than ever.
This site.....its not what it used to be currently. Really need to find a better way to connect with real swingers and not wannabes and chancers who are doing nothing more than trying to get a booty call after a few drinks."
Pretty much essentially this for us as well yet we make it explicit in our profile we will always meet for a social first. There's 4 people in the mix & if doesn't work for one sexual attraction it's a no go BUT we may have made new social friendships that do work so it's still a win!
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