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Hetroflexible over bi curious.
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Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you. |
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you."
Surely in that scenario you just need to make it clear that it's straight play only?
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over a year ago
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Fab is quite limited in its labelling options, and bisexual seems to mean different things to everyone. So I use my profile to clarify that I'm bisexual, but more homoflexible. So that way I can be clear that I'm primarily attracted to the same sex.
The choice of using bisexual or bi-curious as a label is very much an individual thing and like wituu mist things, it'll put off some people and attract others. |
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I am bisexual - not going to hide it, it's what I like - born out of being in a open Bi relationship with my ex wife, who was/is also Bi - why lie is my view
Sadly as mentioned many times before being a Bi man in terms of swingers categorises us a "dirty old men in mac's perving in parks and public toilets"
True there might be some men that fit that label - but the vast majority of men who are Bi are just happy and comfortable with MM contact
A Bi women however tends to get a much better press - it's predominantly looked upon as being dead sexy and downright horny
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
Surely in that scenario you just need to make it clear that it's straight play only?
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No. I need to make clear it's not happening, period!
It isn't something we have to justify anymore than someone being bi having to justify that. We don't know the other parties, we don't know the attitude of the other guy and we've had enough occasions where straight guys have attempted to push boundaries when they shouldn't have so not going to risk it with bi guys.
People wont meet other people for their own reasons. smokers, different ethnicity's, different body builds, ages etc etc. We want regular Friends for regular meets and bi male play is never ever going to happen so why bother going down that route to begin with. Just respect it (assuming they;re not being offensive about it) and move on. Plenty of others out there who will meet you.
We fully support the LGBTQ community (my wife is part of it) and contrary to the thoughts of some, not wanting to have intimate meets with people of a certain category doesn't make you discriminatory. It just means you're not interested in being intimate with them.
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
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I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel? |
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over a year ago
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I would consider myself hetero-flexible but have bi-curious.
I don't actively seek men and am not attracted to men but if an opportunity/situation presented itself I wouldn't say no. |
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
Surely in that scenario you just need to make it clear that it's straight play only?
No. I need to make clear it's not happening, period!
It isn't something we have to justify anymore than someone being bi having to justify that. We don't know the other parties, we don't know the attitude of the other guy and we've had enough occasions where straight guys have attempted to push boundaries when they shouldn't have so not going to risk it with bi guys.
People wont meet other people for their own reasons. smokers, different ethnicity's, different body builds, ages etc etc. We want regular Friends for regular meets and bi male play is never ever going to happen so why bother going down that route to begin with. Just respect it (assuming they;re not being offensive about it) and move on. Plenty of others out there who will meet you.
We fully support the LGBTQ community (my wife is part of it) and contrary to the thoughts of some, not wanting to have intimate meets with people of a certain category doesn't make you discriminatory. It just means you're not interested in being intimate with them.
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Fair enough if that's been your personal experience, not trying to insinuate it's wrong or that you need to justify it I was just curious as to whether making it clear that no bi play would be involved would open up your options on here instead of pigeon holing everyone as the same as each other.
Personally I would be annoyed if I'd said no to something and the other person still tried it on so if that's happened to you then I get it. |
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?"
They’re not saying you can’t be trusted I don’t think, rather that they don’t know if they can trust you and so don’t want to take the chance because of previous bad experiences. That’s ok isn’t it?
I don’t meet bi men either, nothing to do with not being able to trust them, I just don’t find bi men sexually attractive. I’m bi myself, but that’s just how my sexual attraction works. We all just like what we like. I’ve never met anyone who can control who/what they find attractive
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?"
You're a prime example of why we wont meet bi guys.
Firstly you question our logic? to which I have to ask what give you the right to question any one else about their choices and who they choose to meet. It's not your business.
Secondly, why should we care what you think or find offensive? No ones attacking you for being bi.We completely support it in fact. We just don't want to get intimate with you.
Thirdly, we wouldn't care if someone opted to not meet us for "reasons". We actually respect their choices, don't question them and move onto meeting those who do want to meet us. Honestly don't care. It their choice not ours.
This whole "me, me, me" mentality some on here have is the pinnacle of the problem. I completely understand it's the short end of the stick at multiple levels for certain people on the LGBTQ spectrum but when it comes to swinging we are here for us and want to find people on the exact same wave length as us. It makes for happier meet all round.
Why get upset about who other people will meet when it has nothing to do with you to being with? The reality is, people like yourself take offense on here because you actually think it's all about you and how it effects your chances.
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?
You're a prime example of why we wont meet bi guys.
Firstly you question our logic? to which I have to ask what give you the right to question any one else about their choices and who they choose to meet. It's not your business.
Secondly, why should we care what you think or find offensive? No ones attacking you for being bi.We completely support it in fact. We just don't want to get intimate with you.
Thirdly, we wouldn't care if someone opted to not meet us for "reasons". We actually respect their choices, don't question them and move onto meeting those who do want to meet us. Honestly don't care. It their choice not ours.
This whole "me, me, me" mentality some on here have is the pinnacle of the problem. I completely understand it's the short end of the stick at multiple levels for certain people on the LGBTQ spectrum but when it comes to swinging we are here for us and want to find people on the exact same wave length as us. It makes for happier meet all round.
Why get upset about who other people will meet when it has nothing to do with you to being with? The reality is, people like yourself take offense on here because you actually think it's all about you and how it effects your chances.
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I did not question your right to a choice, but what you based the choice on.
That is the whole basis of debate, to question someone's logic. It is only in this way that you can change the point of view of the person with whom you are debating.
I am not upset because you are limiting my chances, or about who you will meet. I am upset that you are being prejudicial against a whole group of people (even though you claim to be supportive of this group).
You are effectively saying that anyone with the term bi or bi-curious in their profile cannot be trusted to play straight.
Painting a whole group of people with the same brush is pretty much the definition of prejudice.
You can keep your choice, but at least base it on something factual, rather than a misperception (I am afraid your experience with a few people, is not enough information on which to judge everyone).
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"Fab is quite limited in its labelling options, and bisexual seems to mean different things to everyone. So I use my profile to clarify that I'm bisexual, but more homoflexible. So that way I can be clear that I'm primarily attracted to the same sex.
The choice of using bisexual or bi-curious as a label is very much an individual thing and like wituu mist things, it'll put off some people and attract others. "
Completely agree with this. Bisexual is an incredibly broad term and fabs is very limited in what labels you can give yourself.
But in a lot of ways we can't really be critical of the assumptions people make on here (assuming we don't know how to "play straight" for example), seeing as we would look at any profile with unprotected sex photos and assume that person doesn't know how to have safe sex.
But we'd definitely appreciate some extra label options when it comes to sexuality.  |
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100% , weve been asked by a few couples were the male half has been described " straight " if our male half is "totally straight" because they are bi curious .I think guys especially don't want to describe themselves as " bi" because there's a stigma or they feel it'll but the other couple off. |
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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?
They’re not saying you can’t be trusted I don’t think, rather that they don’t know if they can trust you and so don’t want to take the chance because of previous bad experiences. That’s ok isn’t it?
I don’t meet bi men either, nothing to do with not being able to trust them, I just don’t find bi men sexually attractive. I’m bi myself, but that’s just how my sexual attraction works. We all just like what we like. I’ve never met anyone who can control who/what they find attractive
*waits for barrage of people telling me in homophobic "
How do you know you havent been with a bi man  I think it's a very broad statement that you dont find bi men attractive  |
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?
They’re not saying you can’t be trusted I don’t think, rather that they don’t know if they can trust you and so don’t want to take the chance because of previous bad experiences. That’s ok isn’t it?
I don’t meet bi men either, nothing to do with not being able to trust them, I just don’t find bi men sexually attractive. I’m bi myself, but that’s just how my sexual attraction works. We all just like what we like. I’ve never met anyone who can control who/what they find attractive
*waits for barrage of people telling me in homophobic
How do you know you havent been with a bi man I think it's a very broad statement that you dont find bi men attractive "
I don’t, maybe I have. But if I know in advance then it’s something that doesn’t turn me on. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Fab could definitely do with some 21st century gender and sexuality descriptions. For me I find my sexuality is fluid. I’m not bi curious, I’m not bisexual, I’m not straight. I just picked a label because it’s there. I also think (unless it’s relevant to meeting up with someone) sexuality is private. It doesn’t need to be broadcast for everyone to see. And I really don’t care if you’re not truthful about it, I guess you could say I’m not truthful about mine because I’m not bi-c.
I’ll discuss sexuality privately with people I’m getting to know.
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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"Fab could definitely do with some 21st century gender and sexuality descriptions. For me I find my sexuality is fluid. I’m not bi curious, I’m not bisexual, I’m not straight. I just picked a label because it’s there. I also think (unless it’s relevant to meeting up with someone) sexuality is private. It doesn’t need to be broadcast for everyone to see. And I really don’t care if you’re not truthful about it, I guess you could say I’m not truthful about mine because I’m not bi-c.
I’ll discuss sexuality privately with people I’m getting to know.
V x "
Excellently put. Labels are a thing of the past and eventually FAB will hopefully catch up. |
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over a year ago
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Does liking both or any sex make me bi .....for the purposes of fab I'm bi but feel judged my some.
Seems OK for ladies to.be bi but some not so keen on bi guys |
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"Fab could definitely do with some 21st century gender and sexuality descriptions. For me I find my sexuality is fluid. I’m not bi curious, I’m not bisexual, I’m not straight. I just picked a label because it’s there. I also think (unless it’s relevant to meeting up with someone) sexuality is private. It doesn’t need to be broadcast for everyone to see. And I really don’t care if you’re not truthful about it, I guess you could say I’m not truthful about mine because I’m not bi-c.
I’ll discuss sexuality privately with people I’m getting to know.
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Excellently put. Labels are a thing of the past and eventually FAB will hopefully catch up."
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?"
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you."
I don't meet couples for similar reasons. Just send the bi guys to me as I adore them  |
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I don't meet couples for similar reasons. Just send the bi guys to me as I adore them "
Hi coveted duchess, will come find you haha
What I dont get is, why its bi guys that seem to be the issue, in a sense of the straight hetero male would be put off just because he 'might' try and get involved with the guy.
Sexual attraction doesn't work like that, it has to be mutual. So if I was to find the idea of playing with a couple because we got on, and the woman was centre of it, that's great, but to be turned down simply because I'm Bi (without any other conviction/offense ) seems illogical.
Also, someone saying they might find a guy attractive, have slept with him, had a great night, but instantly turned off/ regret had she known he was bi.
Yes, each to their own for having reasons to choosing not to play with someone, but just because of their sexuality alone doesn't make sense to me.
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I don't meet couples for similar reasons. Just send the bi guys to me as I adore them
Hi coveted duchess, will come find you haha
What I dont get is, why its bi guys that seem to be the issue, in a sense of the straight hetero male would be put off just because he 'might' try and get involved with the guy.
Sexual attraction doesn't work like that, it has to be mutual. So if I was to find the idea of playing with a couple because we got on, and the woman was centre of it, that's great, but to be turned down simply because I'm Bi (without any other conviction/offense ) seems illogical.
Also, someone saying they might find a guy attractive, have slept with him, had a great night, but instantly turned off/ regret had she known he was bi.
Yes, each to their own for having reasons to choosing not to play with someone, but just because of their sexuality alone doesn't make sense to me.
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Any time darling. I've never ever had a problem with bi guys or bi women. However my bad experiences were all with MF couples. |
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I don't meet couples for similar reasons. Just send the bi guys to me as I adore them
Hi coveted duchess, will come find you haha
What I dont get is, why its bi guys that seem to be the issue, in a sense of the straight hetero male would be put off just because he 'might' try and get involved with the guy.
Sexual attraction doesn't work like that, it has to be mutual. So if I was to find the idea of playing with a couple because we got on, and the woman was centre of it, that's great, but to be turned down simply because I'm Bi (without any other conviction/offense ) seems illogical.
Also, someone saying they might find a guy attractive, have slept with him, had a great night, but instantly turned off/ regret had she known he was bi.
Yes, each to their own for having reasons to choosing not to play with someone, but just because of their sexuality alone doesn't make sense to me.
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I wouldn’t regret playing with a bi male, I didn’t say that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being bi, I’m bi myself, I just don’t find 2 guys together a turn on, so knowing a guy does that isn’t hot for me. That’s literally as deep as it goes. Sexuality is something you can’t always quantify or explain, we’re all just attracted to what we’re attracted to. There are lots of things that I do/don’t find attractive. |
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I wouldn’t regret playing with a bi male, I didn’t say that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being bi, I’m bi myself, I just don’t find 2 guys together a turn on, so knowing a guy does that isn’t hot for me. That’s literally as deep as it goes. Sexuality is something you can’t always quantify or explain, we’re all just attracted to what we’re attracted to. There are lots of things that I do/don’t find attractive. "
That makes sense, but if a bi guy was interested in you, and the main focus was on you,would you still turn him down, just because he 'might' interact with a guy.
That's the crux of what some are saying on here. Just because the are bi, doesn't mean that they will always want to play with the guy in the couple. (Not saying that's what you do, but some do) |
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over a year ago
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?
You're a prime example of why we wont meet bi guys.
Firstly you question our logic? to which I have to ask what give you the right to question any one else about their choices and who they choose to meet. It's not your business.
Secondly, why should we care what you think or find offensive? No ones attacking you for being bi.We completely support it in fact. We just don't want to get intimate with you.
Thirdly, we wouldn't care if someone opted to not meet us for "reasons". We actually respect their choices, don't question them and move onto meeting those who do want to meet us. Honestly don't care. It their choice not ours.
This whole "me, me, me" mentality some on here have is the pinnacle of the problem. I completely understand it's the short end of the stick at multiple levels for certain people on the LGBTQ spectrum but when it comes to swinging we are here for us and want to find people on the exact same wave length as us. It makes for happier meet all round.
Why get upset about who other people will meet when it has nothing to do with you to being with? The reality is, people like yourself take offense on here because you actually think it's all about you and how it effects your chances.
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Stop getting wound up, it’s not all about you boo. |
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I wouldn’t regret playing with a bi male, I didn’t say that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being bi, I’m bi myself, I just don’t find 2 guys together a turn on, so knowing a guy does that isn’t hot for me. That’s literally as deep as it goes. Sexuality is something you can’t always quantify or explain, we’re all just attracted to what we’re attracted to. There are lots of things that I do/don’t find attractive.
That makes sense, but if a bi guy was interested in you, and the main focus was on you,would you still turn him down, just because he 'might' interact with a guy.
That's the crux of what some are saying on here. Just because the are bi, doesn't mean that they will always want to play with the guy in the couple. (Not saying that's what you do, but some do)"
Yeah, I would turn him down. It’s not just about what they would do in the moment and nothing to do with trust. We could be alone in a room, but if a man finds other men attractive it’s a turn off for me and so I wouldn’t want to play with him. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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It probably does, which is a shame, but that's just how it is.
We feel that what we're here for is clear, but we get plenty of messages, winks and friends requests from straight guys. Cool.
When we say we're looking for a gay or bi fella, some insist they're bi.
It's a shame that people can't be open here, but then we do understand that it can limit a person's options heavily.
End of the day, everyone is an individual, and sometimes people don't like certain things.
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I wouldn’t regret playing with a bi male, I didn’t say that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being bi, I’m bi myself, I just don’t find 2 guys together a turn on, so knowing a guy does that isn’t hot for me. That’s literally as deep as it goes. Sexuality is something you can’t always quantify or explain, we’re all just attracted to what we’re attracted to. There are lots of things that I do/don’t find attractive.
That makes sense, but if a bi guy was interested in you, and the main focus was on you,would you still turn him down, just because he 'might' interact with a guy.
That's the crux of what some are saying on here. Just because the are bi, doesn't mean that they will always want to play with the guy in the couple. (Not saying that's what you do, but some do)
Yeah, I would turn him down. It’s not just about what they would do in the moment and nothing to do with trust. We could be alone in a room, but if a man finds other men attractive it’s a turn off for me and so I wouldn’t want to play with him. "
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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago
rochdale oldham border |
"It probably does, which is a shame, but that's just how it is.
We feel that what we're here for is clear, but we get plenty of messages, winks and friends requests from straight guys. Cool.
When we say we're looking for a gay or bi fella, some insist they're bi.
It's a shame that people can't be open here, but then we do understand that it can limit a person's options heavily.
End of the day, everyone is an individual, and sometimes people don't like certain things.
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over a year ago
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I'm hugely aroused by the female form. Drives me wild.
I am not turned on one bit by guys. But I have listed myself as bi... Why?
Because I enjoy playing with couples who are not restrainted by the labels modern society are using.
Will I miss out on couples who explicitly refuse bi on accounts. Most likely but that's something I'm OK with. |
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"I'm hugely aroused by the female form. Drives me wild.
I am not turned on one bit by guys. But I have listed myself as bi... Why?
Because I enjoy playing with couples who are not restrainted by the labels modern society are using.
Will I miss out on couples who explicitly refuse bi on accounts. Most likely but that's something I'm OK with. "
Yes, very much the bracket I put myself in. It's more a willingness to be flexible and not limit myself, rather than any degree of desire.
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm hugely aroused by the female form. Drives me wild.
I am not turned on one bit by guys. But I have listed myself as bi... Why?
Because I enjoy playing with couples who are not restrainted by the labels modern society are using.
Will I miss out on couples who explicitly refuse bi on accounts. Most likely but that's something I'm OK with.
Yes, very much the bracket I put myself in. It's more a willingness to be flexible and not limit myself, rather than any degree of desire.
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Exactly that! Perfectly put.
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over a year ago
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you."
Sir is bi, but when we're in male straight play, you'd never know. |
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We have met a few/know Bi men and they are more than happy & actually quite capable at playing straight as long as everyone is honest and up front but then it's seems some think that if someone is Bi they'll try it on with them ???? and everyone has a right to choose who they'll meet and have fun with though and our red line is having fun with a Liverpool fan( unless she's cute/slim and has pert boooooooooooooooobies) ...lol xxx  |
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"I'm hugely aroused by the female form. Drives me wild.
I am not turned on one bit by guys. But I have listed myself as bi... Why?
Because I enjoy playing with couples who are not restrainted by the labels modern society are using.
Will I miss out on couples who explicitly refuse bi on accounts. Most likely but that's something I'm OK with. "
I'm bi as is on our profile. But we're looking for males for MFM so the male half is down as bi curious. Because he doesn't care if his cock is in close proximity to another cock, that's all he's bothered about is me in that scenario. However, some males have a bee in their bonnet about being so close to another man. And we genuinely cannot be bothered about worrying where bits of anatomy are when we are with someone hence the label.
With not finding someone attractive because they find other men attractive. I never understood because goodness knows what kind of porn someone may get their rocks off too. I'm not looking for a relationship with someone on here, I'm looking to enjoy my experience of the meet with them. |
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"We're more fans of the bi-comfortable label that is available on another site we are in. We are comfortable with consensus safe play but it's not a definitive thing for us."
Not heard of that one, what does it actually mean? |
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over a year ago
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The lack of choice in the options is a bit infuriating, I had to put bi-curious as that is the closest to my sexuality.
I am orally bisexual, I enjoy giving and receiving blowjobs and handjobs but not anal sex. |
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Its personal choice.
If you don't want to play with a bisexual man, thats your choice totally.
But looking at it from a different angle, how do you know every man you've played with has been never messed on with a guy.
Some men have experimented, decided it not for them and class themselves as straight.
and really they don't have disclose that information to anyone.
Personally for example, I hate the idea of fisting. It knocks me sick. But I don't go around interrogating potential partners if they've done it in their past. None of my business. I'm looking to set the parameters for a potential situation in the future, they just have to understand that fisting isn't on the table for me. |
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over a year ago
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"Its personal choice.
If you don't want to play with a bisexual man, thats your choice totally.
But looking at it from a different angle, how do you know every man you've played with has been never messed on with a guy.
Some men have experimented, decided it not for them and class themselves as straight.
and really they don't have disclose that information to anyone.
Personally for example, I hate the idea of fisting. It knocks me sick. But I don't go around interrogating potential partners if they've done it in their past. None of my business. I'm looking to set the parameters for a potential situation in the future, they just have to understand that fisting isn't on the table for me. "
Yeah this is us but bareback. If they've got a bunch of bareback photos on their profile and proud of it, we wouldn't meet them. But ultimately if we don't know about it we always take procautions ourselves, even then we can never be 100% sure and safe with anyone anyway. |
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The term "bi" does seem to put a lot of people off.
I didn't even know I was until I had cock fun for the first time about 10 years ago, so I suppose some folks are on different stages of different journeys.
Personally, I found full bi MFM sex the most mind-blowing I've ever had! |
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over a year ago
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"Its personal choice.
If you don't want to play with a bisexual man, thats your choice totally.
But looking at it from a different angle, how do you know every man you've played with has been never messed on with a guy.
Some men have experimented, decided it not for them and class themselves as straight.
and really they don't have disclose that information to anyone.
Personally for example, I hate the idea of fisting. It knocks me sick. But I don't go around interrogating potential partners if they've done it in their past. None of my business. I'm looking to set the parameters for a potential situation in the future, they just have to understand that fisting isn't on the table for me. "
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over a year ago
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Being old  .... I wonder if we older folk still have an internal bias against bi males and see them as promiscuous or have a high chance of having an STI. (Note I say internal and not a 'front of brain' conscious thought)
I know when I worked in sexual health a huge focus was on 'men who have sex with men' as they had high HIV rates. They didn't and wouldn't identify as bi- but still had sex with men and women. More often than not bareback with their loving mrs at home... this spreading any infections?
This is something I know I actively worked to overcome and personally find any sexual orientation sexy AF. I can't wait to share a cock with my man. |
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over a year ago
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"Of course it does.
We dont want to meet bi guy couples because there will be no bi guy play under any circumstances. So we wouldnt meet a bi guy couple.
We also completely disagree with men hiding that they are bi or bi curious just to get more meets so they can get their leg over.
It would be a nicer site if we all where honest then everyone could meet people who are compatible with them.
There is no shame in a guy being bi or bi curious but it isnt for everyone. Just be honest and you'll find it opens more doors for you.
I know it's your choice, and you have every right to make that choice. But I do find the logic you use to make that choice odd.
Surely as long as you make the above (no MM play) clear, that's all that is required. Rather than a blanket ban.
I find it slightly offensive to be told I can't be trusted.
For example, if a couple decided they did not want to meet you because they did not trust the female (as she is labelled bi) half of your couple, how would you feel?
You're a prime example of why we wont meet bi guys.
Firstly you question our logic? to which I have to ask what give you the right to question any one else about their choices and who they choose to meet. It's not your business.
Secondly, why should we care what you think or find offensive? No ones attacking you for being bi.We completely support it in fact. We just don't want to get intimate with you.
Thirdly, we wouldn't care if someone opted to not meet us for "reasons". We actually respect their choices, don't question them and move onto meeting those who do want to meet us. Honestly don't care. It their choice not ours.
This whole "me, me, me" mentality some on here have is the pinnacle of the problem. I completely understand it's the short end of the stick at multiple levels for certain people on the LGBTQ spectrum but when it comes to swinging we are here for us and want to find people on the exact same wave length as us. It makes for happier meet all round.
Why get upset about who other people will meet when it has nothing to do with you to being with? The reality is, people like yourself take offense on here because you actually think it's all about you and how it effects your chances.
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You happened to mention that straight guys had pushed boundaries
Surely you should be less trusting of the straighties who say
Ok but push it .
I personally wouldnt meet a couple who said they were straight
But wanted to meet a bi guy for straight play .
Unless of course they has stated
We are a straight couple but he wants to be tempted .
Of course you can choose who you meet .
Surely the best way to meet people is to define the
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I wouldn’t regret playing with a bi male, I didn’t say that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being bi, I’m bi myself, I just don’t find 2 guys together a turn on, so knowing a guy does that isn’t hot for me. That’s literally as deep as it goes. Sexuality is something you can’t always quantify or explain, we’re all just attracted to what we’re attracted to. There are lots of things that I do/don’t find attractive.
That makes sense, but if a bi guy was interested in you, and the main focus was on you,would you still turn him down, just because he 'might' interact with a guy.
That's the crux of what some are saying on here. Just because the are bi, doesn't mean that they will always want to play with the guy in the couple. (Not saying that's what you do, but some do)
Yeah, I would turn him down. It’s not just about what they would do in the moment and nothing to do with trust. We could be alone in a room, but if a man finds other men attractive it’s a turn off for me and so I wouldn’t want to play with him.
Thanks for your reply. I respect that's how your sexuality works, and hope others can do that with you too "
Thank you. Some don’t get it, some do. I think that’s ok, I don’t get some things about others too.I’m sure we could all drill down to figure out why we’re attracted to certain things and not others, but I’ve got no desire to do that. I’m happy with my own and everyone else’s sexuality, it is what it is. Each to their own. |
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"Its personal choice.
If you don't want to play with a bisexual man, thats your choice totally.
But looking at it from a different angle, how do you know every man you've played with has been never messed on with a guy.
Some men have experimented, decided it not for them and class themselves as straight.
and really they don't have disclose that information to anyone.
Personally for example, I hate the idea of fisting. It knocks me sick. But I don't go around interrogating potential partners if they've done it in their past. None of my business. I'm looking to set the parameters for a potential situation in the future, they just have to understand that fisting isn't on the table for me. "
I’m sure I’ve played with bisexual men in the past without knowing. It’s not something I quiz for. |
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over a year ago
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"Being old .... I wonder if we older folk still have an internal bias against bi males and see them as promiscuous or have a high chance of having an STI. (Note I say internal and not a 'front of brain' conscious thought)
I know when I worked in sexual health a huge focus was on 'men who have sex with men' as they had high HIV rates. They didn't and wouldn't identify as bi- but still had sex with men and women. More often than not bareback with their loving mrs at home... this spreading any infections?
This is something I know I actively worked to overcome and personally find any sexual orientation sexy AF. I can't wait to share a cock with my man. "
Without a reputable source to back up such a sweeping generalisation, I find that hard to believe, especially as you mention the poor unfortunate woman at home. Had you not added that, your story might have been more viable. I'm finding a lot of discrimination here on fab towards bi guys. If it were on another gender or sexual persuasion it would be classed as discrimination and I think the derogatory comments towards bi guys here needs to be addressed by admin |
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These notions and data are back from years ago when I worked in public health. In Manchester there was a huge push focussing on men who have sex with men....
I will add again... these are not my personally held opinions.... I was posing thoughts
A direct quote tho for you ..... (again to note From OLD OUTDATED STI sources)
"The number of new diagnoses in men who have sex with men (MSM) continues to rise with 57% of all new cases."
https://lgbt.foundation/news/hiv-in-greater-manchester---men-who-have-sex-with-men/30?__cf_chl_jschl_tk__=eab448551c94df5fd73dfd370bb8eb0233e6ef74-1623956844-0-AZvPJ0wlUORKcuWxzpsIt5YOnBt43Qb5evt7Usw35IhG35Q1LfO_pwrRB25mjs-AH0GrkuSDmS02fEZie800xSSI_NTpQ9Thxop7d4vYygPfnDRQT5wyP-0eSZXMZz2pykR1spkNPNU1aXNwvErhAFpgHp2CHByfnz1Jiq3bnzpW9amoWY4dv1rLR4E-nw7kiEPur6LT_V2-yqM_ykrDp3tv6TlseSCRycMXS8KAw7n1Ql0eqDve4CN5uClO9AwZ0iHmyedg_s53HyK36eOA13Dui0BGEdN7YOoE8ymR0oYwmMGOrCdOxuFvLWlUesWaH-WrUuW68VpOWSeA9w2hqhBRoTBkcTYepEw8CP7qySh6V3AJ6gI7zX8DdS3Z9-sWMF0uRl5V4KLedYr45ICGg3VMrPC6hmXjAtT48B51-NqnFSsAs93gk5D1sBy6enJraIUiCqaQv_0kIlhx5TaMk-Z1j699zXUiLj1SUGOMKDC-
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From my experience, and apparently It’s a common experience, it’s couples with a bi female that are the ones who don’t seem to understand boundaries rather than bi guys. |
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"Sorry I can't seem to get the link to be short and neat....
But the info is there dating back to 2005 from the LGBT Society "
Appreciate the effort, but as you say it was a long time ago. Education prevails these days and people and habits change. Women are just as promiscuous. More so in lots of cases. |
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"From my experience, and apparently It’s a common experience, it’s couples with a bi female that are the ones who don’t seem to understand boundaries rather than bi guys. "
I agree. As I posted previously, my only bad experiences ever were with MF couples and very demanding husband's/bf's. |
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"Sorry I can't seem to get the link to be short and neat....
But the info is there dating back to 2005 from the LGBT Society
Appreciate the effort, but as you say it was a long time ago. Education prevails these days and people and habits change. Women are just as promiscuous. More so in lots of cases."
I think you may have missed my point ....
These are the messages that were floating round 5-10 years ago.... key messages sink into ones mind and settle and may form an internal bias....
I was simply musing - have they stuck? And is that some of the issue still. That we need to get over that old data and old msgs?
And absolutely I agree with you on promiscuity.... no gender rules that one.
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"Sorry I can't seem to get the link to be short and neat....
But the info is there dating back to 2005 from the LGBT Society
Appreciate the effort, but as you say it was a long time ago. Education prevails these days and people and habits change. Women are just as promiscuous. More so in lots of cases.
I think you may have missed my point ....
These are the messages that were floating round 5-10 years ago.... key messages sink into ones mind and settle and may form an internal bias....
I was simply musing - have they stuck? And is that some of the issue still. That we need to get over that old data and old msgs?
And absolutely I agree with you on promiscuity.... no gender rules that one.
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A very sweet after thought but the fact still stands. Bi guys appear to be discriminated against here and in life and it speaks volumes. Have a nice day |
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"I'm hugely aroused by the female form. Drives me wild.
I am not turned on one bit by guys. But I have listed myself as bi... Why?
Because I enjoy playing with couples who are not restrainted by the labels modern society are using.
Will I miss out on couples who explicitly refuse bi on accounts. Most likely but that's something I'm OK with. "
Completely agree with this. I’m not attracted to guys at all. I’m just open minded when playing. In fact 80% of our play has been straight. Mrs is the same. Doesn’t go after other women or even attracted to them, but if the mood is right, play on. It’s all about the fun. And also agree that FAB categories don’t reflect modern sexualities. |
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"From my experience, and apparently It’s a common experience, it’s couples with a bi female that are the ones who don’t seem to understand boundaries rather than bi guys. "
Agreed and have experience of this. |
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"Fab could definitely do with some 21st century gender and sexuality descriptions. For me I find my sexuality is fluid. I’m not bi curious, I’m not bisexual, I’m not straight. I just picked a label because it’s there. I also think (unless it’s relevant to meeting up with someone) sexuality is private. It doesn’t need to be broadcast for everyone to see. And I really don’t care if you’re not truthful about it, I guess you could say I’m not truthful about mine because I’m not bi-c.
I’ll discuss sexuality privately with people I’m getting to know.
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Excellently put. Labels are a thing of the past and eventually FAB will hopefully catch up."
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For me bi-curious actually equals "mostly hetrosexual" as I am no longer curious about my orientation and quite happy to accept I prefer women but can be tempted by a bit of cock.
But other people are curious because they are still waiting to explore, so it's always difficult to know what label to use.
I don't want to put bi-sexual because I feel it implies an equal attraction to both sexes... But that's probably not the right view to hold of that label!
Maybe we need another label, but then we will end up drowning in many labels for basically the same thing!
Perhaps a % scale for how gay you feel today? |
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