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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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It’s rare for me to cum from a blowjob, but I always cum during sex? |
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Blow job, hand job, full sex...,,I always cum and treat it as the end of that particular session.
As long as the lady is satisfied then I cum for her and my pleasure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly."
Is it something you purposefully control every time then? |
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We find the same as you too op. I/ we think the increase of ready availible porn and wanking. Along with little blue pills. Has a lot to answer for. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Blow job, hand job, full sex...,,I always cum and treat it as the end of that particular session.
As long as the lady is satisfied then I cum for her and my pleasure."
This is my preferred style. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so tempted to say your a sh!t f¥ck. but that would just be mean.
So:-
It’s not you. It must be all of them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m so tempted to say your a sh!t f¥ck. but that would just be mean.
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It’s not you. It must be all of them "
or a third of them!!
some have cum multiple times and called me a sex witch |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We find the same as you too op. I/ we think the increase of ready availible porn and wanking. Along with little blue pills. Has a lot to answer for. "
i did wonder about the blue pill usage with an ex alright, 55 and hard for hours omg the best lover ever but it did bother me that he never came |
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It can also be down to how sensitive they are and how much play they have had, I find the more I play the longer I last to the point where the sensitivity has gone and I struggle to. That isn't to say that I don't enjoy it far from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly.
Is it something you purposefully control every time then?"
Not for me, no.
It just sometimes happens that way, and the denial, frustration etc is very arousing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they still enjoy the whole experience, isn't that what matters? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It can also be down to how sensitive they are and how much play they have had, I find the more I play the longer I last to the point where the sensitivity has gone and I struggle to. That isn't to say that I don't enjoy it far from it."
thank you for this insight. ive always been reassured that they are enjoying it, but i couldnt help but wonder. and does my desire for them to cum cause inhibition too maybe?
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I don’t have that problem.. well not for round one anyway lol. I always tell my partners not touch my cock during making out as I can pop a bit too easily first time round. After that it’s a lot longer |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t have that problem.. well not for round one anyway lol. I always tell my partners not touch my cock during making out as I can pop a bit too easily first time round. After that it’s a lot longer "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m so tempted to say your a sh!t f¥ck. but that would just be mean.
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It’s not you. It must be all of them
or a third of them!!
some have cum multiple times and called me a sex witch "
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I would think excessive masturbation, possibly ‘banging one out’ just before meeting to avoid cumming too quickly? |
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Little blue pills have a lot to answer for, was with a guy a few years back, 25 he was and could stay solid for hours, turned up once and lasted 10 mins tops only then did he admit to taking viagra |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
I'd rather have a lot of fun with a guy who doesn't always cum, but enjoys the experience regardless, than an underwhelming experience with a guy who cums after a few minutes & then is finished.
On the flip side, I don't always orgasm on a meet but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy myself. |
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By *andG2018Couple (MM)
over a year ago
Nottingham |
A well known side effect of viagra . |
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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We've been on the scene on and off for 23 years and that happens to me sometimes. I just cant on occasions and its purely due to age and medical reasons.
Doesn't mean I don't want to or I'm not attracted to my wife or who ever I'm with in that moment. Doesn't mean I'm not having a fantastic time (I certainly am). I'm simply not the guy I was 20 years ago anymore. I'm 46 not 26 and sometimes one or two parts of my body just don't want to play nicely.
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Porn being so readily availble and over masturbation conditions the body without guys realising, ask the guys who don't cum how quick they can make themselves cum when having a wank! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have any issue with cumin. The third or fourth times take a bit longer to cum but it’s even more pleasurable and deeper than the first one.
But it does happen when I can only cum twice or once very rarely. But never? Never happened
Maybe they wank before your meeting ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Porn being so readily availble and over masturbation conditions the body without guys realising, ask the guys who don't cum how quick they can make themselves cum when having a wank!"
Thats interesting. Conditions their body in what way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never cum when I’m with a guy, well I never cum first as I prefer to stay horny and maybe meet another to suck them off too. Cum every time with a women though, no problem at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps it's age related.
I used to feel offended if they don't cum but after discussing it it's fine now. I don't cum with meets anyway so doesn't matter if they don't either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Porn being so readily availble and over masturbation conditions the body without guys realising, ask the guys who don't cum how quick they can make themselves cum when having a wank!
Thats interesting. Conditions their body in what way? "
There's research being carried out in the US at the moment studying this for the 18-26 yo as they are now finding out that ED and delayed ejaculation is becoming a serious problem in this age group ... the findings so far are showing it's likely to do with the amount of porn they watch. So without certain stimulation they literally can't get an erection or they can't cum because of over stimulation/over sensitivity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Porn being so readily availble and over masturbation conditions the body without guys realising, ask the guys who don't cum how quick they can make themselves cum when having a wank!
Thats interesting. Conditions their body in what way?
There's research being carried out in the US at the moment studying this for the 18-26 yo as they are now finding out that ED and delayed ejaculation is becoming a serious problem in this age group ... the findings so far are showing it's likely to do with the amount of porn they watch. So without certain stimulation they literally can't get an erection or they can't cum because of over stimulation/over sensitivity " ... and desensitisation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they wanna keep going. |
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I will cum quick 1st time, stay hard and cum again |
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"Maybe they wanna keep going."
Aww mate! What happened to ‘Bro Code’? You know we don’t want the women to know we can actually control ourselves!
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It maybe an age thing, on an extended play date each time I cum is harder lol to reach. To point that we've often give up trying for the 3rd time.
Although a playmate before the lockdowns could make me cum twice within a few minutes with her mouth. The 2nd time felt like I was being turned inside out
But to answer your question it does seem common with us older men. Think I'd rather that than only lasting a short time like in my teens. |
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Sue expects her fellas to spurt n spray her with warm spunk ....da law lol....she always ends up v sticky..lucky girl |
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I always cum at some point.
I have good self-control though, and I like to make it last so I rarely cum quickly. Although occasionally there’s nothing I can do about it and I just have to cum ASAP.
I recover quickly though so can usually manage another, longer, round… |
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You gotta find their magic button...yep us guys have them too you know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting problem to have. Usually it’s men cuming to quickly that’s the issue. If I’ve been in chastity a while I’ll cum pretty quickly with little or no stimulation required. I have found if my head isn’t in it I can be hard and not cum for ages. Mental stimulation usually gets me over the edge…like say my wife says to me she prefers bigger cocks while stroking me that will likely put me over the edge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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One word: Viagra!
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We find that guys get stage fright! They love the idea but then get scared with the reality |
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I always cum sometimes to quickly I'm just not satisfyed if I don't shoot my cum. I do take a pill (not the blue one) which makes me harder and gets me hard again quicker but it dose sometimes make me last for ages but I will always cum even if I have to wank myself of over someone |
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I can cum in a minute or so when it's just me and my wand.
When other people are around, let's just say my ability to pop isn't so forthcumming.
Some fellas hold off, coz they don't wanna cum "too soon" and 'disappoint' and in doing so, on occasion it stops it from happening at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too much porn. Quite a widespread problem these days |
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By *otsMan
over a year ago
Higham |
Theres alsorts of reasons for me.
-Sometimes is tgecpersons technique.
- whether relaxed and no stressed at that particular time, i dont mean during session.
- medication (blood pressure tablets dam they take the lead out the pencil).
- age most not all suffer with less ejaculate, or sensitivity isn't what is was.
Alsorts of reasons.
I haven't had many tho to compare.
Managed last couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can cum in a minute or so when it's just me and my wand.
When other people are around, let's just say my ability to pop isn't so forthcumming.
Some fellas hold off, coz they don't wanna cum "too soon" and 'disappoint' and in doing so, on occasion it stops it from happening at all.
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Good point about them holding off. It must be so stressful.
I'm sure I have female ED. Any little thing puts me off and my horn just disappears and I'm drier than a slice of toast. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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Modern lifestyles.....we're generally more overweight and less healthy (mild diabetes is common and not diagnosed), more stressed and tired (especially over the last year) and on more medication (antidepressants, blood pressure pills, etc) which can have an effect.
Me....I have all the above going against me |
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"I can cum in a minute or so when it's just me and my wand.
When other people are around, let's just say my ability to pop isn't so forthcumming.
Some fellas hold off, coz they don't wanna cum "too soon" and 'disappoint' and in doing so, on occasion it stops it from happening at all.
Good point about them holding off. It must be so stressful.
I'm sure I have female ED. Any little thing puts me off and my horn just disappears and I'm drier than a slice of toast."
I don't blame them for thinking they need to hold off. How many times have we all seen others whinge or piss take about guys who cum quickly? The pressure to perform exactly as someone else wants must really impact some.
I'm like you there, that's partly why I'm just not bothered anymore. I know mine stems from my psyche and sex drive can be affected by anything and everything. I dunno, I guess I just don't see it as fun anymore. |
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"Modern lifestyles.....we're generally more overweight and less healthy (mild diabetes is common and not diagnosed), more stressed and tired (especially over the last year) and on more medication (antidepressants, blood pressure pills, etc) which can have an effect.
Me....I have all the above going against me "
Extremely good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The opposite is true for me. I end up cumming too soon. |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
Cap d’Agde, France |
Tend to cum with my partner and a couple of long term friends who get off on it.
I rarely cum in group play which is common here in Cap d’Agde where like most guys I take viagra.
Even wanking off on to lady can be difficult after viagra. |
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"I can cum in a minute or so when it's just me and my wand.
When other people are around, let's just say my ability to pop isn't so forthcumming.
Some fellas hold off, coz they don't wanna cum "too soon" and 'disappoint' and in doing so, on occasion it stops it from happening at all.
Good point about them holding off. It must be so stressful.
I'm sure I have female ED. Any little thing puts me off and my horn just disappears and I'm drier than a slice of toast.
I don't blame them for thinking they need to hold off. How many times have we all seen others whinge or piss take about guys who cum quickly? The pressure to perform exactly as someone else wants must really impact some.
I'm like you there, that's partly why I'm just not bothered anymore. I know mine stems from my psyche and sex drive can be affected by anything and everything. I dunno, I guess I just don't see it as fun anymore. "
On a similar vein; I’m quite sensitive to the signals the woman is putting out, so if I sense she’s not comfortable, is nervous, or not enjoying herself, it stops me getting in to ‘the groove’, and things just don’t happen. It’s probably the No.1 reason I rarely cum from a bj, because 99% of the women only suck cock because they feel they should, as part of sex play. Very few genuinely enjoy it as a sex act alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The trouble is that a lady will think she’s failed somehow and that can cause issues. Nerves can play a big part, especially a first meet and also if it’s with a couple so there’s pressure straight away as there’s 2 of you waiting for the money shot. As I get older it take me longer to cum, I no longer have a raging hardon and the longer it takes to cum the pressure to “perform” gets more intense adding to the nerves. I now know what makes me pop so I concentrate on that. For example, if I can’t feel myself cumming from oral or intercourse then I know 100% if I squat over the lady and she licks my balls and ass whilst I wank then it’s just a matter of a couple of mins before the gift arrives |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
I've rarely cum from oeal alone. I trust it just as foreplay.
There have been times when I don't come from fucking either. Happened quite a bit or more often than not latterly. I think some of this comes down to the fact a couple of times I came very early when I was on a meet and seemed to leave them disappointed. Although back in those days my recovery was only a few minutes. So, I think I conditioned myself, so I could fuck for a couple of hours sometimes without cumming. Now, I find many ladies are disappointed if you don't cum!
For me, though the physical act of fucking can be enough, sometimes I feel as if I orgasm mentally without the physical showing. |
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Just have to touch me and I’ll cum haha |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Maybe you're putting pressure on them to come and it's having an adverse effect. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
"Maybe you're putting pressure on them to come and it's having an adverse effect."
There is that too!
Women trying to encourage me, always has the opposite effect because I start thinking about it then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
One word: Viagra!
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Might help with staying hard but cuming? |
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Are these guys not cuming at all, or is it, that after several orgasms they can't cum again?
I can only say from previous experience, that when I've been really unfit, it's physically knackering trying to go for it.
OP, how's your fitness? If you're running out of puff, then maybe it's not as intense as he needs to get him off.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've noticed a lot of guys not being able to cum pre covid. It's disappointing as tee is a bit of a cumslut and loves cum all over her. She has taken it personally in the past and felt shit about herself. I don't have a problem and can cum pretty much on demand but there have been occasions where I've not cum. This was due to taking a breather etc and then not continuing for some reason.
Tbf, got to have sympathy for the guys who want to cum but can't. They must feel pretty shit too if the woman is wanting it and they can't deliver. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
One word: Viagra!
Might help with staying hard but cuming?"
My thoughts too. Never taken it. Never had a problem getting hard or staying hard if I'm turned on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Over the years the way I cum has changed. It used to be from fucking, then it became handjobs and oral. But the most powerful experience is from being penetrated by two well-lubed fingers. A prostate massage. Amazing. Also been fucked by a strap on several times was pretty good too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks so much for all the replies, interesting feedback and something to consider.
yes i can be quite verbal and a bit bossy It does wonders for some but may be off putting for others.
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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I can only speak for myself. In my case it's partly age and (lack of) fitness making it difficult sometimes.
But mostly it's because I don't want to. Once I cum my body loses interest. But sex is fun and I don't want it to stop! So I'll often deliberately hold it back, and eventually get to the point where it won't come at all.
I need get my head around the fact that women can enjoy a man's orgasm just as much as he enjoys theirs. It's a matter of finding the balance.
Side note: Not all women enjoy giving bjs, but I've been surprised how many do, and how much they love it. They're not always doing it for your benefit |
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Can be for various reasons:
Too much wanking.
Some kind of op - inguinal hernias are notorious for this.
Too hot, too unfit, shit diet.
Viagra…
Overthinking it.
Being rushed.
I struggled to cum with a partner a few years back and she took it really personally, this then affected my performance with her.
Since being single again it’s not been an issue, sometimes hair trigger and other times it takes a while.. but always plenty.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t say I’ve ever had that issue, when I’ve had a few drinks it takes me longer to cum but I’m still able to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they wanna keep going.
Aww mate! What happened to ‘Bro Code’? You know we don’t want the women to know we can actually control ourselves!
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They probably don't believe us anyway. Haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah on V I don't feel like I'm gonna cum unless I think about poison dwarfs fucking ya Ma and she screams cum now big boy..
That'll do yanno |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely cannot be you, I always cum for my lady, whatever the action |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always cum unfortunately sometimes to quick |
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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For myself it's a number of factors
I don't ejaculate from a blow Job unless she has told me it's OK and knows what to expect when I do. (been known to drench at 4ft lol) so to me that's hard wired manors
Condoms are a much but alas I can't get thier when wearing so final moments have to be taken in hand..
And don't confuse the messy end with orgasam most cum when they cum but like myself that's shortly after.
However none of this gets close unless I sence the woman I am with is in the moment often its her release is my catalyst..
Shit bloke. Lol
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I always cum through bj or sex repeat too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Porn being so readily availble and over masturbation conditions the body without guys realising, ask the guys who don't cum how quick they can make themselves cum when having a wank!
Thats interesting. Conditions their body in what way?
There's research being carried out in the US at the moment studying this for the 18-26 yo as they are now finding out that ED and delayed ejaculation is becoming a serious problem in this age group ... the findings so far are showing it's likely to do with the amount of porn they watch. So without certain stimulation they literally can't get an erection or they can't cum because of over stimulation/over sensitivity "
I’d suggest that the opposite was true. I have a firm belief that too much consumption of porn creates deep-rooted emotional anchors to a certain visual/aesthetic; use of certain language and or “extreme” sexual scenarios. Continued and excessive repetition of use of this sort of “stimulus” can get to a point where a man will struggle to cum without it.
I used to study NLP as part of my professional development and also as part of sports training and conditioning I did for right and rowing - the linking of certain external Stimuli to feelings of well/being and feeling energised, was part of a mechanism to improve athletic ability. Recalling certain “anchors” - deep rooted in the psyche after months of programming/practice - was a really strong technique.
I suspect the same process is inadvertently being applied here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Porn being so readily availble and over masturbation conditions the body without guys realising, ask the guys who don't cum how quick they can make themselves cum when having a wank!
Thats interesting. Conditions their body in what way?
There's research being carried out in the US at the moment studying this for the 18-26 yo as they are now finding out that ED and delayed ejaculation is becoming a serious problem in this age group ... the findings so far are showing it's likely to do with the amount of porn they watch. So without certain stimulation they literally can't get an erection or they can't cum because of over stimulation/over sensitivity
I’d suggest that the opposite was true. I have a firm belief that too much consumption of porn creates deep-rooted emotional anchors to a certain visual/aesthetic; use of certain language and or “extreme” sexual scenarios. Continued and excessive repetition of use of this sort of “stimulus” can get to a point where a man will struggle to cum without it.
I used to study NLP as part of my professional development and also as part of sports training and conditioning I did for right and rowing - the linking of certain external Stimuli to feelings of well/being and feeling energised, was part of a mechanism to improve athletic ability. Recalling certain “anchors” - deep rooted in the psyche after months of programming/practice - was a really strong technique.
I suspect the same process is inadvertently being applied here. "
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Nerves can definitely play a part in not coming. If it's happening on first meets then I'd say that's pretty common. There's a lot of pressure on guys to be porn star perfect on the early encounters so that probably weighs on the mind. |
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"Nerves can definitely play a part in not coming. If it's happening on first meets then I'd say that's pretty common. There's a lot of pressure on guys to be porn star perfect on the early encounters so that probably weighs on the mind. "
What some dont grasp is porn is all fake I've been on set as a few friends in the fetish world we're involved in production and invited me to observe as I am a techie geek its like like a tarenteno movie that's been chopped and put in the right order ( have a look for outtakes and blooper reels) cum shot often 1st lol some of the blokes then visit the set Dr for a blue pill or even an injection so they are walking about with a perm erection. While they discuss the action.all very weird but eye opening |
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
For myself it's a number of factors
I don't ejaculate from a blow Job unless she has told me it's OK and knows what to expect when I do. (been known to drench at 4ft lol) so to me that's hard wired manors
Condoms are a much but alas I can't get thier when wearing so final moments have to be taken in hand..
And don't confuse the messy end with orgasam most cum when they cum but like myself that's shortly after.
However none of this gets close unless I sence the woman I am with is in the moment often its her release is my catalyst..
Shit bloke. Lol
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Shit bloke? Not at all... xx |
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I've found many dont.. my current partner often has an issue with it. I wont see it doesnt make me feel like a failure at some points as it does.. as he has admitted in the past hes struggled with lasting more than a minute.
But I have to accept that he has a good time regardless.
Now on a meet when I met people as I pretty much only did bukkake it would have been pointless if they had that issue x and I always made that clear |
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As mentioned above diet and fitness all play a part not just with being a certain age
I have a strict regime
Tai chi and kegel exercise
Supplements in the form of zinc, consentrated cranberry and ginsing amongst other things
Plenty of fresh water.I aim of 4 or 5l a day and easy on the spice drink and cigs..(and has the added benefit of making the end result more paletable if that is somthing they enjoy). It might be slightly off op topic. But it genuinely helps if you have a cum fetish Salirophilia. Believe me thier is a fetish for everything lol |
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Consider people's ages. I know that when I was in my 20s I'd shoot my load very easily. Now I'm approaching 50 it takes a lot more. It's been a long time since I had an orgasm from a blow job. Luke |
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There’s been a lot of times I’ve come close to cumming like bj/hj/woman on top but they end up slowing down or stopping and even tho it’s a brief second it totally disturbs the momentum, so when they start even a second later it’s like starting from the beginning. |
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I always cum way too quickly, if i try and hold off it makes it look like im not interested or enjoying it x |
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I think 90% of it is probably ED medication, without a medical need for it. Some guys occasionally have multiple meets lined up and so 'save' themselves, to heighten their pleasure.
If it was an issue, I'd ask in advance how easily they cum and repeat. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I've only ever been with one guy who didn't cum when we had sex.He said he still had a lot of fun and enjoyed himself .
But ye it's a bit odd when they don't and it made me realise how much I enjoy making a guy cum as well .
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over a year ago
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I repeat so I'm lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meds such as antidepressants can make men unable to cum, women too! They still enjoy sex, and are hopefully more happy!
Don’t take it too personal x |
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"It’s rare for me to cum from a blowjob, but I always cum during sex? "
Same with Mr Wolfe. I don't mind as it means I get to suck on his cock until I'm bored lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s rude not giving her the reward after hard work lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s rare for me to cum from a blowjob, but I always cum during sex?
Same with Mr Wolfe. I don't mind as it means I get to suck on his cock until I'm bored lol "
Maybe you should massage his prostate at the same time and he will for sure |
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Can’t cum from a bj or handjob from a girl, but, always cum with penetration |
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I can understand your mindset, OP, as I used to be like that. However, over the years, I have learned that, as long as they enjoy the experience and make me cum plenty, I am not that bothered whether they cum or not. Some men are so used to their own hands and particular speed/pressure/stimulation that they can only cum when the same happens. At least it's not the opposite: cumming withing seconds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I’m struggling then failsafe is the cheeky finger and that does the trick |
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Ive never experienced that problem however, i would be understanding if a guy couldnt cum. There are many reasons why a guy cant cum.
However, ive heard numerous times the increase in young men struggling. Due to watching to much porn and becoming desensatized or using viagra. I dont know why they do it. They are only fucking themselves up for a sex life as they get older.
A young healthy guy has no need for viagra |
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It (usually) takes me ages to cum, if I do at all.
It's an issue I've always had (doctors call it delayed ejaculation, and it's a similar bit opposite condition as premature ejaculation).
Yes, it can be caused by too much wanking, porn, stress, poor fitness or medication, but it can just be the guys natural way of being, just like some women find it hard to cum.
In my case my fitness is better than its been for years, I hardly ever look at porn, reduced wanking down to once every week or two at a maximum and I'm not on medication.
The thing that makes it worse is the stigma and expectation that I should be able to cum easily and the disappointment the women in with seems to feel as they blame themselves.
I now warn people that it may take a long time, if at all, but that doesn't mean I won't be having a great time.
One definite bonus, is that I can usually go for as long as the women I'm with wants (and my stamina keeps up) |
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I can often find after Cumming once that the 2nd time can take a lot longer. It isn't an issue for me but I know many ladies who like the man to cum. |
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"If I’m struggling then failsafe is the cheeky finger and that does the trick "
The cheeky finger...but how do you cum...
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I used to cum very quickly from any sexual method as I had a tight foreskin which mad it very sensitive. Was circumcised 12 years ago and now sometimes even I can't make it happen! I I'm close to the end and the person I'm with moves slightly then it's back to square one for me also, as mentioned before. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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It’s stopping me cumming that’s the problem,
Taking a woman to her special place and then entering her takes a lot of thinking about granny’s bed socks to slow down a hair trigger. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s stopping me cumming that’s the problem,
Taking a woman to her special place and then entering her takes a lot of thinking about granny’s bed socks to slow down a hair trigger."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sounds like guys are putting one in the bank before sex and cant repeat
If I didn't come I wouldn't have sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont cum from blow jobs or penetration, medication unfortunately.
Is what is, never stopped me getting meets though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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There is a condition called Delayed Ejaculation. For me it's nerve damage from a very serious spinal injury. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lots of input here, and so many factors contributing. Ive learnt a lot. thanks again all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a strange one the best of times, I can go from being able to cum in a few minutes by myself but when it comes to being with a partner I tend to hold back and start asking myself questions, is she enjoying it, ect focusing too much on what I'm doing and not getting my own pleasure
sometimes I struggle to finish during sex there can be just allot of factors happening in the background |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It (usually) takes me ages to cum, if I do at all.
It's an issue I've always had (doctors call it delayed ejaculation, and it's a similar bit opposite condition as premature ejaculation).
Yes, it can be caused by too much wanking, porn, stress, poor fitness or medication, but it can just be the guys natural way of being, just like some women find it hard to cum.
In my case my fitness is better than its been for years, I hardly ever look at porn, reduced wanking down to once every week or two at a maximum and I'm not on medication.
The thing that makes it worse is the stigma and expectation that I should be able to cum easily and the disappointment the women in with seems to feel as they blame themselves.
I now warn people that it may take a long time, if at all, but that doesn't mean I won't be having a great time.
One definite bonus, is that I can usually go for as long as the women I'm with wants (and my stamina keeps up) "
I can attest to this
Although.. I've also made you cum pretty quick too. It's just you and you cum when you cum x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need to be turned on. It's not something I just decide to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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I've had 2 guys who don't cum from oral but that could be linked to porn or over wanking. Who knows. |
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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Unless its lasting over an hour there is simply no way
Im cumming .
Not everyone has the same sensitivity
Some do some dont .
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Iv found as I'm getting older takes longer for me to cum but have never not cum |
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By *poddyMan
over a year ago
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I personaly can
Orgasam but not cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's also worth saying that sex and enjoyment is so much more than ejaculation. It's a shame if anyone limits themself to a narrower experience. |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"We find the same as you too op. I/ we think the increase of ready availible porn and wanking. Along with little blue pills. Has a lot to answer for. "
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You are correct there..
Blue pill often keeps a man rock hard but they cannot Cum.
And cum is all part of the fun for me
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"We find that guys get stage fright! They love the idea but then get scared with the reality "
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No problem here.
I'm not shy. |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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Other times.
Remember the person you meet may not fancy the arse off you.
But still fancies a fuck or suck
So may not cum.
But has probably enjoyed it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this thread is revealing the problem.
An unrealistic expectation, coupled with implied disappointment if this expectation isn't met, leads to guys becoming defensive about their ability to perform on demand. This just adds to any anxiety and makes the whole experience less enjoyable. It's the same pressure from guys ('I will make you cum') that leads to women "faking' an orgasm.
Let's all just relax and enjoy whatever happens. No expectations, just accepting fun in the company of another human being. |
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
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Exactly which 'Game' are we talking about?
I can think of at least one in which it is conventional that men come within a certain time.
I'm somewhat surprised that nobody else has been wondering. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this thread is revealing the problem.
An unrealistic expectation, coupled with implied disappointment if this expectation isn't met, leads to guys becoming defensive about their ability to perform on demand. This just adds to any anxiety and makes the whole experience less enjoyable. It's the same pressure from guys ('I will make you cum') that leads to women "faking' an orgasm.
Let's all just relax and enjoy whatever happens. No expectations, just accepting fun in the company of another human being. "
Noted, and feedback being assimilated. Thanks xx |
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"A well known side effect of viagra ."
Less of a side effect more a result of too high a dose, I think. The first couple of times I used the stuff I did a whole one and found I couldn't even if I wanted to. I found a third to a half to be much better, for both my pleasure and hers. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Internet porn and wanking. It’s more common in younger guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's always taken me a while to cum, even in my teenage years. I believe it's most likely a psychological issue, something to do with subconsciously holding back. I cum eventually, especially when it's not a new lover. But it's not a problem because I don't consider my orgasm the point of sex. |
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It’s definitely desensitisation for me. If I’m having sex daily then I’ll take a lot longer than if it’s been a week.
But agree with the guys who said drinking makes a difference as well, if the girls not doing much to turn me on... or stopping me doing things that turn me on like going down, then unless it’s been a while since I last had sex I wont cum at all.
Also the more the girl cums the easier I find it to cum, maybe that’s some sort of mental affect as well. |
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By *ensiveMan
over a year ago
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You consider the chaps may have taken cocaine or another class A, definitely make cumming more difficult, especially considering they'd then use Viagra to counter the . They may also just be using Viagra, which often makes cummng more difficult by itself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is probably even more of a naive answer.. but how do finish without that climax? When you get tired? or when you feel fulfilled? |
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Only come at the end of hopefully a long session. Has to be a build up and the woman to want a man to cum, preferably whilst giving a blow job. Great end or or warm up to start again!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ah Johnny Bravo - gotta love a big talking man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is probably even more of a naive answer.. but how do finish without that climax? When you get tired? or when you feel fulfilled? "
Just gradually wind down the activity. Might be gently sucking or playing with the cock or falling asleep while inside. For the lucky minority it's possible to have body orgasms or cock orgasms without ejaculation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Know it can be tough for some guys but do love to see the fruits of our labours |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is probably even more of a naive answer.. but how do finish without that climax? When you get tired? or when you feel fulfilled?
Just gradually wind down the activity. Might be gently sucking or playing with the cock or falling asleep while inside. For the lucky minority it's possible to have body orgasms or cock orgasms without ejaculation. "
Aw ok.. sounds nice xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is probably even more of a naive answer.. but how do finish without that climax? When you get tired? or when you feel fulfilled?
Just gradually wind down the activity. Might be gently sucking or playing with the cock or falling asleep while inside. For the lucky minority it's possible to have body orgasms or cock orgasms without ejaculation.
Aw ok.. sounds nice xx"
It's actually very sensual and a very different experience to explosive orgasm. Personally, I think it's better. |
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over a year ago
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I am quite a heavy cummer and can cum multiple times during a sex session it can get very messy it might be a blessing to not be cumming everywhere |
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Think it's fairly common, I've only come from a blow/ handjon job 3 times without having to help out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No problem here.
1 time at the club I pretended to cum, the women was not good at all, so I wanted to get out of the room and play with someone else.
Cum multiple times too. |
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By *andm300Man
over a year ago
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I have no trouble ejaculating and normally working hard to last using careful pelvic floor articulations, this control allows me to ride the edge which can be other worldly in which I loose all concept of time and reality (the problem is i find it addictive). If I dont cum I get to keep my Vibrancy. Sometimes I withhold ejaculation for weeks. I can still orgasm without ejaculating but sometimes I will leak a touch of cum whilst doing this (the main benefit is regulating how I feel In Myself). I have to do some weird hippy/yoga breathing practices to not go nuts. When I get it right I feel like it am on steroids (but more at peace in myself). When I get It Wrong I can get needy. These are Tantric and Taoist practices originally |
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By *andm300Man
over a year ago
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Following on ....when I do Ejaculate It’s epic and if I allowing it my body will keep spasming for 5+ minutes from when I started to cum. After I feel like I am working on sunshine?? |
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By *oingMan
over a year ago
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I don’t know about others but I cum. Sure if you finish first there’s always round 2 to make up some ground |
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By *ebenhamCouple
over a year ago
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"Just have to touch me and I’ll cum haha "
That must be embarrassing at airport security ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only ever cum with bj s outside |
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By *rGenMan
over a year ago
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As I have got older I sometimes don't cum but get hard and dribble lol Condoms can be a problem sometimes and to get me over the point of no return I sometimes have to take myself in hand and wank fast and furious. |
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I can pretty much always cum. The only exception to this is if I’ve had a drink prior.
Drinking before play is always a dangerous game for me as I never know how much booze is too much so as to not be able to perform.
On the other hand, I can come quite quickly if the lady takes control because of this, I try to take control as much as possible to avoid finishing to early |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can cum when i want to .. if I dont want to cum from friction (handjob/fucking) then i can shut it out from doing that ...
Equally sometimes if a play goes on too long it goes past the point of cumming at that time..
Another angle if the cock is in a condom then its irrelevent if it cums no ... you wont feel it pretty much anyway , and lets be honest anyone with a cock can pulsate/throb their cock to make out its cumming while wearing a condom ..
I think much the same as many women dont orgasm / squirt / gush whatever they want to call it with sex, doesnt mean they have not enjoyed themselves ..
somes guys/cock owners just dont cum easily or cum little amounts..
OP how do you view people that dry orgasm (no fluid release ) .. |
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"I can cum when i want to .. if I dont want to cum from friction (handjob/fucking) then i can shut it out from doing that ...
Equally sometimes if a play goes on too long it goes past the point of cumming at that time..
Another angle if the cock is in a condom then its irrelevent if it cums no ... you wont feel it pretty much anyway , and lets be honest anyone with a cock can pulsate/throb their cock to make out its cumming while wearing a condom ..
I think much the same as many women dont orgasm / squirt / gush whatever they want to call it with sex, doesnt mean they have not enjoyed themselves ..
somes guys/cock owners just dont cum easily or cum little amounts..
OP how do you view people that dry orgasm (no fluid release ) .."
I got used to it after being initially taken aback. I did miss the satisfaction of that 'evidence' i think, but all the other satisfaction criteria were fulfilled
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Empty prior to meet to either save them self from cuming after 2 strokes or to avoid having blue balls if it goes no where
(somthing I read somewhere long time ago on a similar thread on another site ) :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always been ok to cum what ever the position |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow...never failed to cum ever and also never suffered from brewer's droop...when I've had a lot to drink I'm as hard as ever but can take me a while to cum but will eventually cum |
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"It’s rare for me to cum from a blowjob, but I always cum during sex? "
I though it was just me, I’ve never been able to cum from a blowjob. I always end up wanking to finish the job x |
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Try finger in his arsehole. That gets me exploding in seconds whether I'm trying to hold back or its just not happening for any reason! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they're struggling to cum, just kick em in the balls until they do. Give it a try. I promise it'll work like a charm. |
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over a year ago
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(If this is actually a serious thread, don't worry about a guy not cumming. As long as you and the guy have fun, all is well.) |
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over a year ago
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That's news to me |
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no i definitely prefer a man to cum but my issue is they cum too fast and the party is cut short |
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"It’s rare for me to cum from a blowjob, but I always cum during sex?
I though it was just me, I’ve never been able to cum from a blowjob. I always end up wanking to finish the job x"
That’s kind of the issue; your hand knows what you want, and I’m conditioned to accept a bj as foreplay, not the main event |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't always cum plus if someone is giving you a bj don't want cum to quick or it's game over lol |
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If I were you I would just find the right position or the right spot where you can clearly see he is enjoying it and then just keep doing it building up the tension or pace slowly. Be constant. He will sooner or later cum! |
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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Have the men taken Viagra?
Have they got a mental block or issue that stops them climaxing?
Have they lost interest in the sex session?
Are they too nervous to cum?
Is it a physical complaint or due to medication they're on?
Who knows.
At least they're trying. God loves a tryer as they say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can never cum from a Blow Job, but with sex, yes!
I guess it is mental as well. Who knows!? |
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By *im ZeeMan
over a year ago
north staffs/cheshire |
"I’m so tempted to say your a sh!t f¥ck. but that would just be mean.
So:-
It’s not you. It must be all of them "
I’d like to try to find out and then compare with yourself….purely for scientific purposes of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather have a lot of fun with a guy who doesn't always cum, but enjoys the experience regardless, than an underwhelming experience with a guy who cums after a few minutes & then is finished.
On the flip side, I don't always orgasm on a meet but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy myself. "
I have a similar outlook. For me, a lot of the fun is the pleasure that comes before the orgasm. Also if I try to cum I put pressure on myself and it makes it less likely. I just want relaxed sex and to enjoy myself. |
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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago
quite close to you |
"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly.
Is it something you purposefully control every time then?"
Can do.
Or it’s the result of little blue helpers
Or sometimes it’s just not gonna happen
Depends on what you’re doing. If you’ve been out of the game for 20 years things might have shifted. You might find that some guys are not soo simple to switch on. I know I’ve faked it a few times as The whole thing was just a waste of both our time and we were just getting sticky for nothing. Yes guys can fake it too
I’ve cum in a flash at times and at others it’s taken ages ; my record for one session was five times, was walking like bow-legged cowboy with sore balls after that. It’s weird how many women just assume a ‘one size fits all’ approach to guys yeah we’re simple creatures but different strokes and all that; not it’s not all your fault sometimes guys have just had the same shit all the time and they’re not aware of what might turn them on or too nervous to say (one woman I was with had a great ass and though sex with her was good what got me off was having her sit on my face - came so hard I cleared the bed)
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"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly.
Is it something you purposefully control every time then?
Can do.
Or it’s the result of little blue helpers
Or sometimes it’s just not gonna happen
Depends on what you’re doing. If you’ve been out of the game for 20 years things might have shifted. You might find that some guys are not soo simple to switch on. I know I’ve faked it a few times as The whole thing was just a waste of both our time and we were just getting sticky for nothing. Yes guys can fake it too
I’ve cum in a flash at times and at others it’s taken ages ; my record for one session was five times, was walking like bow-legged cowboy with sore balls after that. It’s weird how many women just assume a ‘one size fits all’ approach to guys yeah we’re simple creatures but different strokes and all that; not it’s not all your fault sometimes guys have just had the same shit all the time and they’re not aware of what might turn them on or too nervous to say (one woman I was with had a great ass and though sex with her was good what got me off was having her sit on my face - came so hard I cleared the bed)
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What happened to 'Bro Code' mate? You're not supposed to put secrets like us being able to fake orgasms (I wonder how many women will be checking condoms after this) in to the public domain! |
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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago
quite close to you |
"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly.
Is it something you purposefully control every time then?
Can do.
Or it’s the result of little blue helpers
Or sometimes it’s just not gonna happen
Depends on what you’re doing. If you’ve been out of the game for 20 years things might have shifted. You might find that some guys are not soo simple to switch on. I know I’ve faked it a few times as The whole thing was just a waste of both our time and we were just getting sticky for nothing. Yes guys can fake it too
I’ve cum in a flash at times and at others it’s taken ages ; my record for one session was five times, was walking like bow-legged cowboy with sore balls after that. It’s weird how many women just assume a ‘one size fits all’ approach to guys yeah we’re simple creatures but different strokes and all that; not it’s not all your fault sometimes guys have just had the same shit all the time and they’re not aware of what might turn them on or too nervous to say (one woman I was with had a great ass and though sex with her was good what got me off was having her sit on my face - came so hard I cleared the bed)
What happened to 'Bro Code' mate? You're not supposed to put secrets like us being able to fake orgasms (I wonder how many women will be checking condoms after this) in to the public domain! "
It’s time to change up the game. |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
Nr Brighton 1 till 5pm areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat |
I have been told I'm a heavy cummer.
And i can normally cum with full sex or oral.
Exception is.
If I take Viagra to keep me at it and harder for longer.
I struggle to come on a 1st erection but normally do 2nd go.
No idea why?.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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dont doubt yourself OP |
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I think it's mainly about health issues. I had problems in my early 30s keeping an erection for example, but tended to drink a bit too much too regularly, combined with soft drugs from time to time. Since 35 stopped all drugs, exercise much more and hardly drink, plus greater self esteem. Still wank all day though, but never have problems with getting hard or cumming. I'm sure any sexual issues will be related to health, diet, exercise, wellbeing - as well as a fun and horny lady to stimulate you!!! |
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The only I guy I ever met who couldn't cum, was because it was based on past trauma. |
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I mean i know i struggle to cum from blowjobs alone but aside from that never realised other people had that issue/worse |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly.
Is it something you purposefully control every time then?
Can do.
Or it’s the result of little blue helpers
Or sometimes it’s just not gonna happen
Depends on what you’re doing. If you’ve been out of the game for 20 years things might have shifted. You might find that some guys are not soo simple to switch on. I know I’ve faked it a few times as The whole thing was just a waste of both our time and we were just getting sticky for nothing. Yes guys can fake it too
I’ve cum in a flash at times and at others it’s taken ages ; my record for one session was five times, was walking like bow-legged cowboy with sore balls after that. It’s weird how many women just assume a ‘one size fits all’ approach to guys yeah we’re simple creatures but different strokes and all that; not it’s not all your fault sometimes guys have just had the same shit all the time and they’re not aware of what might turn them on or too nervous to say (one woman I was with had a great ass and though sex with her was good what got me off was having her sit on my face - came so hard I cleared the bed)
What happened to 'Bro Code' mate? You're not supposed to put secrets like us being able to fake orgasms (I wonder how many women will be checking condoms after this) in to the public domain!
It’s time to change up the game. "
Brilliant answer
some men have cum 4 times in as many hours with me so Im not always wrong but different strokes for different folks I getcha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ps thanks so so much to all the contributors here, i never thought it would spark so much response and i appreciate it all xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys can't cum coz they are taking antidepressants... |
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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago
Lancashire |
I always cum, but I usually try and make female cum first as that really pleasures me. Is it that these men are of the same mind and are trying to achieve your orgasm first? |
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I cum quicker when receiving bj
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i lve been out of 'the game' between lets say 1997-2017. Prior to that when i was with a guy they would always cum; blow job, sex, whatever, there was 'the grand finale'
Now im single again and id say a third of the guys ive been with havent cum. Turns out its a pretty important part of sexual pleasure for me.
Is this the usual experience now or just me? Hope its not me
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Antidepressants cause that.
If they wank alot.
alcohol doesn't help either.
Drugs.
Just a few reasons there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They haven’t met me |
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By *oingMan
over a year ago
co. antrim |
"They haven’t met me "
Yeoooo |
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By *anB451Man
over a year ago
Reading |
Not entirely convinced they even need to meet you Annie |
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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago
quite close to you |
"I dont always cum, and its not essential, I love really long sessions, edging and staying in that state of arousal has a certain pleasure to it. Other times, its a quick fuck & cum very quickly.
Is it something you purposefully control every time then?
Can do.
Or it’s the result of little blue helpers
Or sometimes it’s just not gonna happen
Depends on what you’re doing. If you’ve been out of the game for 20 years things might have shifted. You might find that some guys are not soo simple to switch on. I know I’ve faked it a few times as The whole thing was just a waste of both our time and we were just getting sticky for nothing. Yes guys can fake it too
I’ve cum in a flash at times and at others it’s taken ages ; my record for one session was five times, was walking like bow-legged cowboy with sore balls after that. It’s weird how many women just assume a ‘one size fits all’ approach to guys yeah we’re simple creatures but different strokes and all that; not it’s not all your fault sometimes guys have just had the same shit all the time and they’re not aware of what might turn them on or too nervous to say (one woman I was with had a great ass and though sex with her was good what got me off was having her sit on my face - came so hard I cleared the bed)
What happened to 'Bro Code' mate? You're not supposed to put secrets like us being able to fake orgasms (I wonder how many women will be checking condoms after this) in to the public domain!
It’s time to change up the game.
Brilliant answer
some men have cum 4 times in as many hours with me so Im not always wrong but different strokes for different folks I getcha "
Both men and women get such bad advice and the expectation for both it’s that “they should just know” - if you don’t ask and conversely if you don’t tell then it’s a guessing game.
Anyway I hope you continue to have fun as it appears you are |
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