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Polite ways to turn people down.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people need to realise that everyone has a type and respect that. If someone says to me that they aren't interested, I wouldn't take offence. I would probably be a bit disappointed, but I wouldn't be offended by that. I'm always honest with people. If they don't like that, then that's up to them unfortunately. |
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I usually reply with "Ewww, seriously??" 
Joking of course, I usually say something along the lines of "thanks, but you arent what I am looking for."
People shouldnt be too precious on here, I have had many knockbacks on here and just got on with it, because equally, I have plenty of amazing meets with sexy and attractive people. |
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"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?"
What unwanted knock on effect is it having?
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?
What unwanted knock on effect is it having?
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"Why...why....why... why..." |
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"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?
What unwanted knock on effect is it having?
"Why...why....why... why...""
Block...block...block...block... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank you for your application. After much consideration and due diligence, we do not believe that you would be a good fit for our organisation. Please do not apply again unless you have a change in circumstances.
Kind regards
Partner-you-sexually-desired |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back 
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Yes, that’s the same as us - the worst we’ve ever had in response was from a lady who replied with ‘???’, so all very polite really. |
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"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?"
No reply is a polite "not interested". People get more offended with a "no thank you" message . |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back
Yes, that’s the same as us - the worst we’ve ever had in response was from a lady who replied with ‘???’, so all very polite really."
That was probably emoticons that the site didn't recognise |
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"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back
Yes, that’s the same as us - the worst we’ve ever had in response was from a lady who replied with ‘???’, so all very polite really.
That was probably emoticons that the site didn't recognise"
Thumbs  from android/iphone come out as ??? on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back
Or like this morning we get told we are rude for turning down a meet with someone more attractive than us
Lx"
He must have thought he was Adonis himself because you are gorgeous! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?"
We are always honest BUT sometimes it's hard to tell someone the truth, for instance just how do you tell a guy that Sheila does not find them attractive without offending anyone 
I often offend people as I am brutally honest and speak my mind which doesn't always go down well with anyone that does not know me as a person.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back
Yes, that’s the same as us - the worst we’ve ever had in response was from a lady who replied with ‘???’, so all very polite really.
That was probably emoticons that the site didn't recognise
Thumbs from android/iphone come out as ??? on here"
Really! Well that would explain it. ??  |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back
Yes, that’s the same as us - the worst we’ve ever had in response was from a lady who replied with ‘???’, so all very polite really.
That was probably emoticons that the site didn't recognise
Thumbs from android/iphone come out as ??? on here
Really! Well that would explain it. ?? "
Any phone emojis come up as question marks |
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I've never had abuse for a polite decline,
I usually say something along the lines of thanks for the message but that's not for me/I'm not interested/ not really my type.
Happy fabbing/hope you find what you're looking for etc.
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?
No reply is a polite "not interested". People get more offended with a "no thank you" message ."
Actually not true I've had abuse for not replying |
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"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?"
“No thank you” or “not interested thanks”
Then if they message again, ignored.
Again and blocked.
If they get arsey after my first message that’s their problem not mine. I’ve done nothing wrong lol x |
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By *izequeen95Woman
over a year ago
from surrey travel with work |
Usually say im not interested but now tend to just ignore. Just for the pure fact many ask why or offer money or tell me how good there oral or dick is. Like come on im not interested keep it moving and respectful |
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By *aynLexiCouple
over a year ago
Bridgwater, Somerset |
"My go to is "thanks for your message but your not what we are looking for" 99% of the time we get a nice thanks/no worries message back
Or like this morning we get told we are rude for turning down a meet with someone more attractive than us
Lx
He must have thought he was Adonis himself because you are gorgeous! "
That message was from a couple no pictures though so couldn't tell how attractive they were 
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"Had this issue more than once now.
I generally am upfront and honest and decline if I am not interested. However some people take great offence to this and it is having a unwanted knock on effect.
So what is the most polite way to decline a prospective offer?"
"I'm sorry, I'm just not feeling a connection" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just politely declined someone after their first message and got called names. Nothing vulgar, just playground stuff. I reported them anyway.
It can be very frustrating.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My response to some of the replies above:
To the person who said "no response means no thank you". Yes that's technically true, but it also can be quite mean-spirited. A polite message should at least deserve a polite response.
To the person who said "respond and then block". Again, the instant block can be useful tool, but it's unnecessary to use it on everyone who does not appeal to you.
To the people who have said "sorry but not for me". This is ok, but I think the "not for me" thing sounds a bit arrogant. It's much better IMO to say "we're not a match" or words to that effect. |
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