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Has FAB become a dating site?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

It is now far easier to get laid on any traditional dating site due to the ridiculous hoops that you now have to jump through here. I speak as a single male, I'm sure the same doesn't apply to females.

We single males seem to have become a symbol of ridicule to cpls/ fems, with obvious delight being shown by many in Updates to the fact that they have blocked them. There is a constant complaint that we don't read profiles, not true in my case, however, when you do read them they state that they are looking for single guys, you contact them, and then get abuse for being a single guy!

Also, I believe that many fems on here have no intention of ever meeting in person but use the sight to gauge if any men still find them attractive. And some of the must do this, mustn't be that nonsense put out by some of these women are ridiculous. They act as if they are supermodels, when in reality, nobody would look at them twice in the real world. I personally am past my best, as are most of us, but I think I'm a little more realistic, although not for me to judge.

Talking of judging, if we cannot accommodate it is automatically assumed that we are cheating on someone. I live with my daughter and do not wish her to be aware of my activities. It's the same for photos, I have 3 grown up children who they and there friends are old enough to use the site. I do not want them knowing what I am up to and in to. So please stop being so judgemental.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

Fab is whatever you want it to be.

There’s nothing wrong with chatting to people first and getting to know them before you jump into bed with them. Doesn’t mean I want to date.

I block people who pester and don’t take no for an answer, messages that are vile, and I certainly don’t delight in ‘ridiculing men’

I don’t ask anyone to jump through hoops, simply take a read over a profile and go from there. Ultimately there has to be attraction, so no point I back and forth messages when it won’t turn into anything.

You say stop being so judgemental - but then come out with the supermodels insult

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Suspect you haven’t done yourself any favours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I take your point on the supermodels. I do believe what you say about the test of it, however, there are many, but obviously not all, that don't behave as you do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a difficult read. I put a request to meet up this week. I opened my inbox to 60 messages- most not much more than a “hi” or “hey babe”. And a lot of men who don’t take no for an answer.

Put yourself in my shoes and ask how tiring and wearing that can feel.

I hear your views but I would just say don’t take any of it personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don't mind. It needed saying.

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By *uliette500Woman over a year ago

Hull

Maybe it is more that the dating sites have become sex sites and that is what men expect when they join here.

The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up.

The guys joining recently don't seem to understand this and then get huffy and abusive when we say no.

I've had a few tell me they got more action on the various dating sites. My response is bugger off back to them then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes, I am aware that you get inundated with messages and that it would be very time consuming to read and answer them all. I don't take it personally, I just wanted to open up the discussion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont find it to be any of those things OP, the site is being used for a variety of reasons - if you want to get laid you are just going to have to keep at on it here or try another site if this one is not working out for you.

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

All i ask is you read the profile and don’t cherry pick it!! I don’t think I am a super model and don’t really care if men wouldn’t look twice at me in the real world.

I don’t meet off here as I swing in clubs .. this is a swingers site is it not? I have as much right as the next person to be here! The site works a treat for me!

Read my veris and you will see there not all sexual encounters in fact only a handful are!

Many excuses have been given by all on here to why they not getting any interest. To me these people need to work on themselves and how they approach people then maybe just maybe they will get chatting

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

The thing with fab is you are more likely to find someone more on your wavelength than on a dating site. I’m looking for more than NSA, I like the swinging/social side, and I like to find others with the same interests.

If people want to use the site for NSA sex, to post pics to make them feel good, to chat to others....let them be

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe it is more that the dating sites have become sex sites and that is what men expect when they join here.

The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up.

The guys joining recently don't seem to understand this and then get huffy and abusive when we say no.

I've had a few tell me they got more action on the various dating sites. My response is bugger off back to them then. "

I'm just saying that I have been on and off this site for years, and it has definitely changed. I personally don't want a quick bunk up BTW.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"All i ask is you read the profile and don’t cherry pick it!! I don’t think I am a super model and don’t really care if men wouldn’t look twice at me in the real world.

I don’t meet off here as I swing in clubs .. this is a swingers site is it not? I have as much right as the next person to be here! The site works a treat for me!

Read my veris and you will see there not all sexual encounters in fact only a handful are!

Fair comment

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"I don't mind. It needed saying."

It didn't really.

Someone posts a variant of this about once a week.

Women (and everyone else) can use this site how they want. If you want to meet people without the hassle of fabs then get along to clubs.

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By *uliette500Woman over a year ago

Hull

"Maybe it is more that the dating sites have become sex sites and that is what men expect when they join here.

The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up.

The guys joining recently don't seem to understand this and then get huffy and abusive when we say no.

I've had a few tell me they got more action on the various dating sites. My response is bugger off back to them then.

I'm just saying that I have been on and off this site for years, and it has definitely changed. I personally don't want a quick bunk up BTW."

I wasn't implying that you were OP.

I have only been on the site 2.5 years and I have noticed the changes. I don't tar everyone with the same brush but there is

definitely an increasing number of men who spit their dummy out, sulk and get abusive when a woman won't meet after the first message and many of these have made comments to me about a certain dating site beginning with T being better for sex than here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What hoops are you referring to OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you cant please everyone.

those you cant. fuck em.

those you can. fuck em

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS over a year ago

doncaster

Costa coffee will be doing a roaring trade again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab is whatever you make it. You get out what you put in

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By *ate_BMan over a year ago

London

"The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up. "

A good point. I also understand where OP is coming from as I’ve had a much easier time talking and seeing women on dating sites. It’s easier to reveal more there than it is on fab (discretion obviously).

To me fab comes across like a dating site which promotes an adult theme so I guess some have the idea that ppl are here to bang for fun while others enjoy socialising and I suppose the ratio of men to women causes an issue too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

We feel your pain but not all couples or single women judge you badly. We think public venting is acceptable and most sensible folk will accept it as that. Personally Bob and I think there should be a dating forum as most of the single men we meet are genuinely looking for love and a relationship with an open minded woman. Xxx

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

If traditional sites work better for you and you feel so mistreated on this site, why are you posting here and not on those sites?

Personally, I've had hardly any luck on traditional sites. I've had much more conversations on here, which I think if I'd wanted to pursue them, could have turned into more.

Plus I like looking at and posting photos that would get me kicked off the other sites

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I use this site to date and I will continue to do so.

Thanks

V x

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"Fab is whatever you make it. You get out what you put in

This

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

One could argue that what was once a SWINGING site has now been hijacked by the kind of people who've no interest in the swinging community and would previously have been more at home on Craigslist.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To me it’s not a dating site.

It is a site that shows you like minded people.

It’s a site let’s you know what is going on in the world.

It’s a site to chat.

It’s a site that I think is tremendous fun.

I think it is great, if I didn’t, I wouldn’t be on it.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Seems to have become a place men come when they are horny and want a convenient hole.

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By *rs-sensual-meWoman over a year ago

gwynedd

"I use this site to date and I will continue to do so.

Thanks

V x "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One could argue that what was once a SWINGING site has now been hijacked by the kind of people who've no interest in the swinging community and would previously have been more at home on Craigslist."

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

I do find myself looking at the gorgeous ladies on here and swiping right a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe it is more that the dating sites have become sex sites and that is what men expect when they join here.

The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up.

The guys joining recently don't seem to understand this and then get huffy and abusive when we say no.

I've had a few tell me they got more action on the various dating sites. My response is bugger off back to them then. "

I would agree. There are some sites out there that are specifically designed for No-Strings hook ups.

I think the OP, in his comments about FAB, has fallen into the trap that many often do where he perhaps doesn't quite understand what swinging is about - though I would argue that it's not exactly the same for everyone.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Maybe it is more that the dating sites have become sex sites and that is what men expect when they join here.

The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up.

The guys joining recently don't seem to understand this and then get huffy and abusive when we say no.

I've had a few tell me they got more action on the various dating sites. My response is bugger off back to them then.

I'm just saying that I have been on and off this site for years, and it has definitely changed. I personally don't want a quick bunk up BTW."

I've been here constantly over ten years and it remains the same.

That means trying to find a single man that I want to get naked with is virtually impossible but the vast majority don't mind wanting to use me as a wet hole.

Oh, women are not 'fems' we are women.

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By *orello-pieWoman over a year ago

southwest

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism.

Fab is whatever you want it to be.

There’s nothing wrong with chatting to people first and getting to know them before you jump into bed with them. Doesn’t mean I want to date.

I block people who pester and don’t take no for an answer, messages that are vile, and I certainly don’t delight in ‘ridiculing men’

You say stop being so judgemental - but then come out with the supermodels insult

I could write a lengthy reply here, but I think this lady has summed up everything I’d like to say xx

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Fab is whatever anyone who joins wants it to be.

I agree it is tougher for men on her than women or couples but in saying that I don't owe anyone a fuck basically just because I am on here.

You say you read a profile and message and then get abuse well sadly most people get abuse at some point on here .And just because you may think you are suitable for someone it does not mean they have to think the same. And plenty give abuse if you decline them as well.

I have never made anyone jump through any hoops to chat to me or to meet me. I am also though not willing to jump through hoops for others or meet quickly off here .That's my choice and it works for me on here I don't owe anyone who messages me anything I prefer to get to know people before I meet them I learnt the hard way early what can happen if you meet someone fast and I will never do it again on here. I have to actually like someone before I chose to get naked with them .

And no I'm no supermodel I have never claimed to be not do I have an ego I'm just an ordinary 48 year old woman .Resorting to insults like you have op says more about you and your attitude than anything else.

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By *arol321Woman over a year ago

Poole

" It's the same for photos, I have 3 grown up children who they and there friends are old enough to use the site. I do not want them knowing what I am up to and in to. So please stop being so judgemental.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

This is the bit I don’t understand, but so many guys use it as an excuse to not have photos.

I too have grown up children but in reality what is the chance that even if they were on this site that they’d be looking for a 52 year old woman!

They would have to lie about their age (and in the case of my daughters their gender) to get past my filters.

In the unlikely event that they were on here and they or their friends actually found me I think in all honesty they’d preserve my secrets as they wouldn’t want me to find about theirs.

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By *rya MyneWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

Sounds like you're the one trying to use a swinging site as a place to find an easy shag. T*nder is where you go for an easy shag. Fabs is where you can have detailed, open conversations about anything from kinks to clubs and parties etc.

Many men are on here to feel attractive just as much as women. To say we wouldn't get looked at twice in the street is a cheap shot.

Today I took the time to reply to someone saying thank you for the message but I'm not interested and to take care. To which I got the reply "single women on a swinging site are fucked up and desperate".

How are women to know which men are gonna get nasty. I blocked him and I wouldn't hesitate to again.

If you put as much effort into the OP as your search for people on your wavelength you'd be much happier with fabs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some food for thought here

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By *arol321Woman over a year ago

Poole

Oh, women are not 'fems' we are women."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love these threads....no on one replying obviously just a dating site now lol next thread, are all the ladies on fab lesbians.......Just chill out message people you are genuinely on a level with and enjoy.

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

"Fab is whatever you make it. You get out what you put in

This

That's not true. it's much more uneven that that.

""you put out a lot of messages and get 0 replies is more like it!

I put a lot of thought when I do send a message. As for my froum posts, I really try to add something new and to show the site, that I trying to exercise a few grey cells whilst on the keyboard.

This site is best described as a mine. Some times you strike gold but a lot of the time you don't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love these threads....no on one replying obviously just a dating site now lol next thread, are all the ladies on fab lesbians.......Just chill out message people you are genuinely on a level with and enjoy."

How can we be lesbians when we are all fake?

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

"Seems to have become a place men come when they are horny and want a convenient hole.

I want holes: yes I do: cake hole, ear holes and a 'hole lot of fun. Not too much to ask, is it?

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS over a year ago

stockport

Of you want nothing more than sex try an escort.

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By *ate_BMan over a year ago

London

"Sounds like you're the one trying to use a swinging site as a place to find an easy shag. T*nder is where you go for an easy shag. Fabs is where you can have detailed, open conversations about anything from kinks to clubs and parties etc.

Many men are on here to feel attractive just as much as women. To say we wouldn't get looked at twice in the street is a cheap shot.

How are women to know which men are gonna get nasty. I blocked him and I wouldn't hesitate to again.

If you put as much effort into the OP as your search for people on your wavelength you'd be much happier with fabs."

wow….that’s just plain rude. I understand why clubs are a preferential place to meet/socialise, at least you know who shares a similar interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People can use the site however they want OP, as long as it's within the rules. If there is stuff on profiles you don't like or you feel like you're being made to jump through hoops then surely just walk away and find someone else?

I'm not looking to meet so should I leave the site because you say so?

I also don't think I'm a supermodel but you carry on tarring us all with the same brush whilst not being judgemental

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By *otsossieMan over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Of you want nothing more than sex try an escort. "

Or get married.

Oh, no, hang on…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

okay for starters it is undoubtedly harder for single guys...personally the ones we chat to are respectful and show a genuine interest... and though we may never end up meeting them for no shortage of reasons (e.g time/covid/no particular strong attraction) we try to be appreciative. However when it comes to entitlement, wake up guys...that's misogyny...a major turn off for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can we be lesbians when we are all fake?

"
true forgot this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of you want nothing more than sex try an escort.

Or get married.

Oh, no, hang on…"

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

OP, we are 16 months into a global health crisis the likes of which we have never known. How many meets were you hoping for?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s a swinging site not a sex site. I’m fed up men complaining when women won’t meet for sex at the drop of a hat. Alot of men put no effort in whatsoever Many people have met on here and are now in relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if we want a date,social and drink and get to know someone before we decide to fuck with them then who are you to say we cannot? this is exactly why we decided to stick to a club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alot of men assume they join Fab, pay membership, few sentences= a shag...despite my new profile, ive been here many years and there are alot of decent genuine people here, most just dont suffer fools gladly, but hey, live an learn and have a Fab time lolololol

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By *reeneggsandsamMan over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

I like sex and travel. I'm good with children and animals and would use my wish to solve world hunger. How am I doing?

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

"I use this site to date and I will continue to do so.

Thanks

V x "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like how some assume that because women aren't meeting them, that they aren't meeting anyone at all and are just here to tease and get an ego boost!

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

I like how some assume that because women aren't meeting them, that they aren't meeting anyone at all and are just here to tease and get an ego boost! "

Aye. Smacks of seeing men in the local updates complaining that the women here are all fake and timewasters. No pal, we're real alright, we just don't want to meet you.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

Couldn’t disagree more sorry.

I only meet single, verified men from here and no other aps purely for sex.

If it says they don’t accom then I ask why, because h only meet single. I take their answer at face a lube because I have no wish to become a detective.

That being said; the men are much more polite on other aps because sex isn’t expected.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like how some assume that because women aren't meeting them, that they aren't meeting anyone at all and are just here to tease and get an ego boost!

Aye. Smacks of seeing men in the local updates complaining that the women here are all fake and timewasters. No pal, we're real alright, we just don't want to meet you."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s a swinging site not a sex site. I’m fed up men complaining when women won’t meet for sex at the drop of a hat. Alot of men put no effort in whatsoever Many people have met on here and are now in relationships. "

This

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Oh, women are not 'fems' we are women.

Ugh I hate the term “fem” too.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

. I’ve been on and off this site for over a century and the only thing that’s changed is men use it as a hook up site and expect women to fall at their feet and then throw their toys out of the pram when women don’t want to meet them.

It also seems to be much more full of compulsive liars and cheats too

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

The issue is expectations. If you expect something to happen then you deserve to be disappointed. There are no guarantees.

Nobody makes anyone jump through hoops. If you choose to do things that a person requests on their profile then that is your choice. You are an adult after all

In my experience men expect a supermodel whilst being far from that themselves - that is a broad statement but you get my point… it isn’t gender specific.

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

PS, I doubt anyone here would take any lessons on the suitability of Fab for "dating" from a man who is here as a cheat.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

" what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked."

I thought it was once a swingers' site

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"PS, I doubt anyone here would take any lessons on the suitability of Fab for "dating" from a man who is here as a cheat."

Also one who openly admits “not so choosy regarding fun”..... nice lol

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"PS, I doubt anyone here would take any lessons on the suitability of Fab for "dating" from a man who is here as a cheat."

He's also admitted to categorising women into those he would date and those he would lower his standards for and fuck.

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

"PS, I doubt anyone here would take any lessons on the suitability of Fab for "dating" from a man who is here as a cheat.

Also one who openly admits “not so choosy regarding fun”..... nice lol "

What a catch!

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

And an expert on the way the site used to be after 11 months

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"PS, I doubt anyone here would take any lessons on the suitability of Fab for "dating" from a man who is here as a cheat.

He's also admitted to categorising women into those he would date and those he would lower his standards for and fuck."

Unfortunately for him they don't seem to be lowering theirs seems to be the issue he has

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By *issAphroditeWoman over a year ago

Norwich

"And an expert on the way the site used to be after 11 months

Typical mansplaining

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I think a lot of men on here are just after something to wank over, or some sex that is marginally better than a wank.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And had hidden his profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You OK hun?

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

The mention of supermodels is quite offensive. Supermodels or not, they can still choose who they play with.

Are you bitter because no one is interested in you??

If traditional sites are better for you getting free sex, then go for it.

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site I find is for chatting and maybe flirting. It certainly is not a dating site and we can do without the attitude of the OP. I’ve always preferred clubs where I can interact with ladies and couples when there is a mutual attraction.

I can count the meets arranged on here on one hand. I’m still on here for the reason stated.

I accept however that is the nature of the scene and respectful of all on here.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

I'm no supermodel, so maybe you wouldn't look at me twice in the "real world" OP.

That said if I'm just looking for a quick fuck I can walk to the local pub and get a good dicking within an hour, it's not tough and I don't need any website for it, just very low standards.

I went through a phase where I found this site more depressing than fun, so I took a break and came back when I was in a more light hearted frame of mind. If you're not finding this site fun then maybe consider using one of the other sites out there for a while, come back in a more positive frame of mind (or find so much fun elsewhere that you don't log in anywhere else, who knows?).

Whatever you decide to do to solve your issue I'm not sure a thread like this will get you there, but wish you luck.

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You are correct in that FAB isn’t the real world. Women do have a lot of choice.

But there’s no point moaning about it, instead do something about changing the odds to get them more in your favour.

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

I hate these threads...the op may have a weird perception of fab, clumsy language and daft comments but I do think he was trying to understand this site , a virtual surreal universe.

It seems to generate so much vitriol...

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"I hate these threads...the op may have a weird perception of fab, clumsy language and daft comments but I do think he was trying to understand this site , a virtual surreal universe.

It seems to generate so much vitriol...

It's difficult when the site is winding you up to get the necessary headspace for perspective. I get that.

I don't believe in vitriol but I understand that when people (usually women) are attacked in messages for not wanting to fuck every guy who asks, that they then feel attacked when someone starts a thread criticising the lack of easy sex on here.

It's also a very common theme, with many threads on the same topic, so patience does wear thin.

It's horses for courses, but I do think sometimes taking a break can restore perspective.

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By *ustathingMan over a year ago

Reading

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

"I hate these threads...the op may have a weird perception of fab, clumsy language and daft comments but I do think he was trying to understand this site , a virtual surreal universe.

It seems to generate so much vitriol...

It's difficult when the site is winding you up to get the necessary headspace for perspective. I get that.

It's also a very common theme, with many threads on the same topic, so patience does wear thin.

It's horses for courses, but I do think sometimes taking a break can restore perspective."

Yes ..i understand,and it is a common thread... perspective is indeed key ..lets not lose sight of the many nice folk on here..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP"

Defo not !

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

How can we be lesbians when we are all fake?

Fake lesbians, that makes you straight.

Drat it may be a dating site.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Maybe it is more that the dating sites have become sex sites and that is what men expect when they join here.

The problem is the women and couples on here know what they want and most are not after a quick bunk up.

The guys joining recently don't seem to understand this and then get huffy and abusive when we say no.

I've had a few tell me they got more action on the various dating sites. My response is bugger off back to them then. "

Amen (and women)

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I don't believe people act like "supermodels". What I believe is the people you accuse of that have simply put boundaries in place and aren't afraid to stick to them.

They have preferences and aren't afraid to stick to them.

They fancy certain people and won't shag those they don't fancy because they don't want to.

Would you eat everything on an all you could eat buffet just because it was there and available even if you didn't really want it?

There's more to swinging than sex for many people, there's friendships, trust to be built and people bitch n moan about the site, "it's a sex site yadda yada cunting yadda...."

Well if you look at the WHOLE site rather than just people's profiles you'll understand there's areas where events and club nights are advertised. So what, the swingers on here to use that part of the site to keep up to date with swinging events, at swinging clubs.... aren't swinging properly? Or are they just not "swinging" the way YOU want them to, by dropping their drawers at the click of your fingers?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah, people have to have coherent communication and that’s in no danger of happening

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

This is site is whatever you want it to be, your experience here and expectations are polar opposites to mine

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"I don't believe people act like "supermodels". What I believe is the people you accuse of that have simply put boundaries in place and aren't afraid to stick to them.

They have preferences and aren't afraid to stick to them.

They fancy certain people and won't shag those they don't fancy because they don't want to.

Would you eat everything on an all you could eat buffet just because it was there and available even if you didn't really want it?

There's more to swinging than sex for many people, there's friendships, trust to be built and people bitch n moan about the site, "it's a sex site yadda yada cunting yadda...."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If this site isn’t working for you isn’t it best you try somewhere else?

Your post sounds like a bad rant because you’re not getting what you want from this place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also you ask for people to stop being so judgmental but isn’t this you being judgemental?

“ And some of the must do this, mustn't be that nonsense put out by some of these women are ridiculous. They act as if they are supermodels, when in reality, nobody would look at them twice in the real world. I personally am past my best, as are most of us, but I think I'm a little more realistic, although not for me to judge”

Beauty of in the eyes of the beholder, what you wouldn’t look at twice someone else will think is beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" And some of the must do this, mustn't be that nonsense put out by some of these women are ridiculous. They act as if they are supermodels, when in reality, nobody would look at them twice in the real world. I personally am past my best, as are most of us, but I think I'm a little more realistic, although not for me to judge.

So if a woman is not a 'supermodel' she is not allowed to have standards and preferences regarding who she chooses to have sex with?

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Oh and the things you call ridiculous....

If anyone at all wants a juggling ewok with 3 eyes and 27 nipples who can sing Purple Rain backwards, well, that's entirely up to them. If you don't have the required elements or can't/won't meet the required "hoops" so be it. What ya sweating it for?

If you wanted something/someone particular would you think it's acceptable for someone to tell you you're wrong or should be doing things differently because it doesn't suit them rather than doesn't suit you? I doubt it. Chances are you'd tell em to mind their own beeswax and concentrate on their own pursuits.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

So if a woman is not a 'supermodel' she is not allowed to have standards and preferences regarding who she chooses to have sex with?

Seemingly not.

I wonder if these people who whinge would say to their mothers or sisters they should just drop their kegs and be thankful for any interest or whether they'd hope their loved ones showed some self respect and did what they wanted with who they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Moral of the story here is actually false, reading the female replies.

1. Read the profile - makes no odds to the ability to even read the message or have the decency to see its relevant or the person feels or wants the same

2. Attraction - again makes no odds - once that first message is in... The lack of filters and ability to curate a response means nothing and most women HIDE faces yet demand them !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this site isn’t working for you isn’t it best you try somewhere else?

Your post sounds like a bad rant because you’re not getting what you want from this place. "

Said the two week old profile openly promoting Instagram and probably selling content...

THIS is not your platform and against the rules... needle in a muddy haystack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP

Defo not !

Yet you have age filters and preferences and and and and

That's vanilla dating surely

Not swining which is the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners, especially on a habitual basis.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP

Defo not !

Yet you have age filters and preferences and and and and

That's vanilla dating surely

Not swining which is the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners, especially on a habitual basis."

You shag geezers even though you're straight? Or not, coz you don't fancy them? Coz ya know, anything else is dating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are several hundred men for every single woman. It's unlikely any will reply to you ..it's not just you but the same for every new male. This is because fab is essentially a meat market where women can pick and choose from a cast of thousands to satisfy specific sexual desires and specific attraction. They will usually go for men who have sexual report cards filled in from other women ( no matter how cringeworthy ) because it shows they are not a complete psycho. It's a dangerous business for a woman or couple meeting a man for sex and they need to feel reassured.

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

So if its "far easier to get laid on any traditional dating site"

Why are you here moaning about this place?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a difficult read. I put a request to meet up this week. I opened my inbox to 60 messages- most not much more than a “hi” or “hey babe”. And a lot of men who don’t take no for an answer.

Put yourself in my shoes and ask how tiring and wearing that can feel.

I hear your views but I would just say don’t take any of it personally "

True. I've got a few messages from guys saying "hi" and when I read their profile, it's empty. Can get frustrating.

Although, my frustration is when I send a longish well thought out message and I get no reply even when they've read it and when I seem to meet their criteria.

Ah well, that doesn't put me down. It's all part of the game..and like you said, no one should take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this site isn’t working for you isn’t it best you try somewhere else?

Your post sounds like a bad rant because you’re not getting what you want from this place.

Said the two week old profile openly promoting Instagram and probably selling content...

THIS is not your platform and against the rules... needle in a muddy haystack"

1. I don’t sell content. I’ve been regularly accused of being fake, hence the *free* social media platform in my profile, which isn’t against the rules. It’s no different to sharing your Twitter handle.

2. I first used Fab in 2018.

I’m sorry my post seems to have hit a nerve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP

Defo not !

Yet you have age filters and preferences and and and and

That's vanilla dating surely

Not swining which is the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners, especially on a habitual basis.

You shag geezers even though you're straight? Or not, coz you don't fancy them? Coz ya know, anything else is dating."

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

Short answer.... No!

I have no desire to date. I want to meet people to have hot filthy fun.

I am perfectly aware that I am and never have been a supermodel. However this doesn’t mean I can’t choose the people I want to get naked with and this site has some good tools that helps me to do so.

I don’t automatically assume that someone that can’t accommodate is cheating, although let’s face it plenty on here are. I also live with grown up children and so there would be little point entertaining meeting someone in a similar situation.

I just wish all those complaining about this site would just bugger off and leave the rest of us to our fun!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I'm not here to look for dates but I'm also not going to shag anyone that asks, just because they think this is a hook up site.

Also, your view is what's wrong with alot of single men imo, they think just because we are on fab we must be up for shagging anybody, then come out with the usual 'must think they are supermodels, wouldn't get looked at in the real world' bullshit when they get ignored/rejected.

What does that say about the man trying to shag these 'hideous' women?

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By *isces WomanWoman over a year ago

West London

Just lastnight I sat in a restaurant for 30mins waiting for a guy I'd been chatting to for a week. He did a no show but worse no message or sorry.

If I get cancelled on 1st date that's it I have no patience or belief in the excuses anymore.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple over a year ago

Darlington

"Just lastnight I sat in a restaurant for 30mins waiting for a guy I'd been chatting to for a week. He did a no show but worse no message or sorry.

If I get cancelled on 1st date that's it I have no patience or belief in the excuses anymore.

Absolutely his loss he didnt show.

Every day this site gets a little more disheartening.

We're going to have to look into a site with a membership fee I think. For all the legitimate people on here, there's to be about 20 no hope timewasters now. Such is the downside of running a free site I guess.

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

"Just lastnight I sat in a restaurant for 30mins waiting for a guy I'd been chatting to for a week. He did a no show but worse no message or sorry.

If I get cancelled on 1st date that's it I have no patience or belief in the excuses anymore.

Absolutely his loss he didnt show.

Every day this site gets a little more disheartening.

Unfortunately the only difference on pay sites is less choice and timewasters with money.

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

So what you're saying OP is you're really annoyed that women on this site aren't offering themselves to you as unpaid prostitutes?

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By *onochrome2Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"So what you're saying OP is you're really annoyed that women on this site aren't offering themselves to you as unpaid prostitutes?

Pretty much lol

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By *otwife and MasterCouple over a year ago

Derby

Well OP. All I can say is, if it so much easier to get laid on other traditional sites.. 1. Why are you here.. 2. You clearly have no respect for women. 3. You clearly have no understanding that, regardless of being on a site like FAB, the people on FAB are here for numerous reasons.

Most of the messages we get from single guys are either lacking effort ie 1 line messages or have not read our profile.. again lacking effort.. Do you really think that the partner of a wife/female partner would disrespect their partner to introduce them to someone that has no respect for them!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dating site with explicit content posted for fabs.

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By *lym4realCouple over a year ago

plymouth

It is far easier to get laid on other sites but to be 100% sure of having sex you have to go to others certain sites ?? and shagging or attempting to shag basically anything that moves or shows the slightest bit of interest is not and never will be "Swinging" in our humble opinion we are on here to meet others of the same outlook but we are both happily weird in that we have to actually like the person to engage in sexual antics and this kind of post only goes to prove why so many Couples and Single females have the attitude they have

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By *ownhamguyMan over a year ago

Battle

There's always good and bad sides to everything and basically is the difference between men and women regarding sex. Speaking as a man and let's be fair guys most of us would fuck anyone given half a chance. People may not want to hear that but it's basically true. Happily married or not as the old saying goes a standing cock has no conscience.

Most women but not all need to have some kind of physical attraction first.

And that's where a lot of men come unstuck. Just because a woman replies to a message doesn't guarantee sex.

Personally I'm always respectful. I don't expect sex but it's nice when an initial message developes but it is quite rare.

The bit regarding this site that I find hard is the initial message. A lot of women always state say no one liners, or hi or fancy a fuck, be different. When you put some effort in and get no reply it can get disheartening.

If only all you women would drop your pants at the drop of a hat life would be soooooo much simpler!!! Only joking.

Yes theres lots of fakes and liars, men and women, but that's life in general.

Now if any of you lovely ladies would like to form an orderly queue at my front door I'm sure I can fit you all in!!

Happy fabbing and everything that goes with it!!

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By *ee And MikeCouple over a year ago

Cannock

As a cuck couple we do see this as a dating site, if you are going to meet a bull on a regular basis there has to be some chemistry between him and the hotwife to make it work long-term.

Some people want drop your knickers and fuck, others want to make friends and build on that, be it with couples or single guys, each to their own we say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just lastnight I sat in a restaurant for 30mins waiting for a guy I'd been chatting to for a week. He did a no show but worse no message or sorry.

If I get cancelled on 1st date that's it I have no patience or belief in the excuses anymore.

Absolutely his loss he didnt show.

Every day this site gets a little more disheartening.

Imagine how much more pissed off you'll be when you've spent more money and still having your time wasted

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

My thoughts are, why aren't you on the other traditional dating sites if it's easier to get laid and fab is so bad ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why so many ladies don't use actual dating sites anymore! Too many dishonest men lying to use them as sex sites!!!

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

"Just lastnight I sat in a restaurant for 30mins waiting for a guy I'd been chatting to for a week. He did a no show but worse no message or sorry.

If I get cancelled on 1st date that's it I have no patience or belief in the excuses anymore.

That's happened to me a few times ...its horrible, I replayed our chat in my head , wondered how anybody could be so slimy, kicked myself for being gullible etc ...I genuinely think there are some folks on here and other sites that get a kick out of doing it ....

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

"Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP

Defo not !

Yet you have age filters and preferences and and and and

That's vanilla dating surely

Not swining which is the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners, especially on a habitual basis."

So in your eyes swingers aren't allowed to have any standards or preferences? They're just supposed to fuck anyone? That's not my experience of the swinging scene, in fact couldn't be further from it.

If I'm engaging in group sex, or swapping partners, I do it with people who I find attractive, both in terms of looks and personality. I also enjoy the social side of swinging, so it helps a lot of they can hold a decent conversation and have interesting things to say.

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By *appypaul69Man over a year ago

vale

Because women and couples get so much Mail from men I have reverted to just winking and have put on my profile 'if I wink I'm interested"

I have put Bi on my profile, something that I'd only be comfortable in a 3sum situation.

Both work against me because I get hassled by men or ignored by the couple.

All in all as a single man I get a raw deal because of the idiots who spoil this site.

By hey I don't worry about it and what's to be will be eh

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Nope, definitely not a dating site. Hope that helps OP

Defo not !

Yet you have age filters and preferences and and and and

That's vanilla dating surely

Not swining which is the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners, especially on a habitual basis."

Swapping of sexual partner?

How do single guys do that??

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

"This is why so many ladies don't use actual dating sites anymore! Too many dishonest men lying to use them as sex sites!!! "

Exactly!

I used to amuse myself on the dating sites and a large percentage of the men would get upset when I wouldn’t shag them. I would explain that it was a dating site and I wasn’t the type of woman that would have sex on a first date lol.

There’s a much larger majority of more respectful and interesting people on here. Plus I don’t want a relationship.

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By *appypaul69Man over a year ago

vale

The emphasis seems to be notches rather than meeting like minded people who you can have a a laugh (and maybe more) with.

There are some great people on her but the numbers are getting bigger by people who spoil it.

It woukdnt bother me if I met a couple and nothing happen, we could still remain friends if not compatible

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By *irldnCouple over a year ago

Brighton

Totally this. Afterall it is called fabSWINGERS

While there are many flavours of swinging I would argue that swinging is generally about “kink sex” ie something that you can’t as easily broach in the vanilla dating world.

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By *appypaul69Man over a year ago

vale

"One could argue that what was once a SWINGING site has now been hijacked by the kind of people who've no interest in the swinging community and would previously have been more at home on Craigslist.

Totally this. Afterall it is called fabSWINGERS

While there are many flavours of swinging I would argue that swinging is generally about “kink sex” ie something that you can’t as easily broach in the vanilla dating world."

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By *ersey GirlCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

has it not always been just a dating site for most singles?

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By *appypaul69Man over a year ago

vale

Is it dating if you meet a couple. No it's meeting up and exploring, living out fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They act as if they are supermodels, when in reality, nobody would look at them twice in the real world."

That sentence just sounds like you’ve been blown out by someone you think is beneath you so you’re even more angry at the fact that even some hideous beast won’t meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are looking at fab wrong. I see fab as more of a social site, I wouldn’t expect to meet many people of here as I would on tinder/bumble etc.

Fabs great for chatting and making connections, finding out good nights for clubs etc and meeting the odd couple. If I just want sex I’ll go to a club I wouldn’t really invest much time with Fab for that.

Tinder is great for NSA sex, I’m taking a break from it at the moment but it was great for a quick meet up and sex. It’s so easy and better than fab in that respect but that’s because I’m using it right, remember you need the right tools for the job. Fab for social, tinder etc for sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

While there are many flavours of swinging I would argue that swinging is generally about “kink sex” ie something that you can’t as easily broach in the vanilla dating world."

Get on tinder, absolute full of kink sex on there, I’ve had the more weirder meets on tinder than I have on fab to be far. I’d say fab is very suited for groups etc, which I guess is the ethos of swinging.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"You are looking at fab wrong. I see fab as more of a social site, I wouldn’t expect to meet many people of here as I would on tinder/bumble etc.

I think how tinder is used is dependant upon where your from.

For me, it’s all the same men on tinder and fab.

Their fab profile is asking me to fuck and their tinder is asking me to date.

Tinder is actually used for dating near me and guys wouldn’t dare ask for a fuck straight away lol- even though I know it’s what they want cos they are asking me on fab hahaha xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think how tinder is used is dependant upon where your from.

For me, it’s all the same men on tinder and fab.

Their fab profile is asking me to fuck and their tinder is asking me to date.

Tinder is actually used for dating near me and guys wouldn’t dare ask for a fuck straight away lol- even though I know it’s what they want cos they are asking me on fab hahaha xx

Oh fair enough I didn’t realise that. I’ve experienced the absolute opposite lol, where on fab people want to meet more for social than sex.

I’m from Manchester and pretty much 4/5 matches on tinder is to meet up for sex, it’s rare I get asked for dates etc and never ask a lady out for a date, that being said my profile did clearly state I’m DTF and that’s it.

Maybe it is, northern ladies I guess are quite open and very liberal I’ve found, not dissing anywhere else like though.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

I think how tinder is used is dependant upon where your from.

For me, it’s all the same men on tinder and fab.

Their fab profile is asking me to fuck and their tinder is asking me to date.

Tinder is actually used for dating near me and guys wouldn’t dare ask for a fuck straight away lol- even though I know it’s what they want cos they are asking me on fab hahaha xx

Oh fair enough I didn’t realise that. I’ve experienced the absolute opposite lol, where on fab people want to meet more for social than sex.

Maybe it is, northern ladies I guess are quite open and very liberal I’ve found, not dissing anywhere else like though."

Hey I’m northern lol! And have on my profile I don’t do socials on here so very rare I get asked.

It’s all about sex on here for me and my inbox reflects that.

I do like to reply on tinder telling them they have a great cock and I prefer their fab message to their date message! Haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "

You're probably correct in your assessment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe it is, northern ladies I guess are quite open and very liberal I’ve found, not dissing anywhere else like though.

Hey I’m northern lol! And have on my profile I don’t do socials on here so very rare I get asked.

It’s all about sex on here for me and my inbox reflects that.

I do like to reply on tinder telling them they have a great cock and I prefer their fab message to their date message! Haha "

fair enough lol, bet they get a shock when the realise you seen their fab.

Maybe it’s a male/ female thing more than a location. Or I need to do better with my profile or something

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

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After reading your profile with its 'invitation to tender' I'm surprised that you didn't get far more than 60 replies. Maybe your listed standards were successfully acting as a filter.

I can't understand why anyone who has read your profile would just say “hi” or “hey babe” without adding anything else. It smacks of "Oh, well, might as well give this one a chance, you never know I might get lucky, A Hi costs nothing"!

Hopefully none launched in with the 'slut' or 'whore' greetings which you specifically proscribed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is why so many ladies don't use actual dating sites anymore! Too many dishonest men lying to use them as sex sites!!! "
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Agreed!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab works wonderfully for me as a swinging site, met some incredible people had a lot of fun and will continue to.

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

"This is why so many ladies don't use actual dating sites anymore! Too many dishonest men lying to use them as sex sites!!! .

Agreed!!!"

In my experience, ulterior motives and human nature transcend the gender barrier more than you might think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone is dishonest not just men.

Fact is you pick who to tango with. So if they turn out to not be who they say they are that's your fault no one else's.

That's on you, take responsibility for your own errors.

And if women are going to complain about the treatment they get then stop using sexist terms like 'mansplaining' because that's regarded as condescending or patronizing and us exactly the sort of behaviour you women complain about from men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only use fab to meet hotwives or couples for threesome fun. If I come across a particularly interesting single female profile (submissive) then I would meet them but if I just wanted a quick fuck I would 100% use a dating site.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"has it not always been just a dating site for most singles?

No.

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By *unandfriendship4uMan over a year ago

sheffield

Fab has died of death. So many fakes on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of you are gonna hate this!!! Please don't bother messaging though it's just my view & opinion from experience.

As great as the site is I can honestly say other than when I was out gigging or ligging I got laid more & met more females through the old Craigslist personals!!!!

Say what you like about it, but it's true!!!

Yes some time wasted & quite a lot of B/S but no more than I find here really. But then this isn't just about meeting & fucking. Many people just enjoy the banter from it & not much more but we know that anyway.

I could rant & rave on about all the pros & cons of it all, hell I could write a bloody book on the subject, but it'd be a waste of my time & probably yours, everyone has opinions, we all have certain needs & sometimes we just want a quick easy fix to our needs.

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By *r-OreoMan over a year ago

Birmingham

" Hi all, I ask this in all seriousness, what was once a site to arrange nsa sex with like minded people has been hijacked.

Your thoughts please. I am open to constructive criticism. "
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I feel you and I agree with you but you can't stop women who just want to use fabs to get attention and gauge how attractive they are..Normally when a girl has 300 pictures and 4 cam verifications you can tell she's an attention seeker. I personally despise attention seekers.

And yes also most times you read the profile and you still get shit. It's just how it is on fabs..

Fabs is becoming more difficult but I think it also depends on your profile, pictures and location (where you're based)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Ladies I cannot find something about you I may like if all I see is damning men and at best brat entitled attitude. Yes I know the site works in your favour but do you really think I personally find abuse, anger and finger pointing attractive?

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

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By *r-OreoMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of you are gonna hate this!!! Please don't bother messaging though it's just my view & opinion from experience.

As great as the site is I can honestly say other than when I was out gigging or ligging I got laid more & met more females through the old Craigslist personals!!!!

Say what you like about it, but it's true!!!

That's what prostitutes are for!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

What qualifications do you have to “study women” probably none.

I for one don’t hate men at all, and actively meet on here. There’s plenty of great men on here.

If you don’t like attention seekers then don’t message them.

If you don’t find something attractive don’t message them.

I’m sure 99.9% of the women on here couldn’t care less what language you find attractive or not.

I don’t see why it’s so difficult for people

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

God, this is hilarious.

Most of us don't hate men, we hate the entitled attitude of SOME men.

I think what SOME men fail to understand is that we aren't here for you, we are here for ourselves, to get what we want, same as what men are here for. So if we choose not to shag you, we aren't being stuck up of vain, we just don't want to shag you.

As soon as some of you stop thinking of us as vessels to dump your seed in, you might start having more luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

What qualifications do you have to “study women” probably none.

I for one don’t hate men at all, and actively meet on here. There’s plenty of great men on here.

If you don’t like attention seekers then don’t message them.

If you don’t find something attractive don’t message them.

I’m sure 99.9% of the women on here couldn’t care less what language you find attractive or not.

I don’t see why it’s so difficult for people

I don't need a qualification.

I see enough to know that some of the women on the forum do not including themselves in threads which are demonizing or angry towards the opposite sex.

And as a result men will gravitate towards them and that's a shame.

Who wants to know someone who's constantly unhappy with their lot and looking for a reason to unload that frustration. I.e. on men as they are an easy target.

When you are calm and able to look at things you can see this.

As I've said I understand women get abuse, are abused and it's wrong.

You all have message filters, you can block men then message who you like. The site provides this for free.

Complaining will not change a thing just add to your frustration and quite frankly it's very unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

God, this is hilarious.

Most of us don't hate men, we hate the entitled attitude of SOME men.

As soon as some of you stop thinking of us as vessels to dump your seed in, you might start having more luck. "

Very well said!!!

fab works well for me. I like guys and defo meet the ones where we have a good vibe. Keely definitely spoke correctly here.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

...and yet another thread littered with men blaming women for not getting laid because they don't understand the difference between swinging and random fucking.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

What qualifications do you have to “study women” probably none.

I for one don’t hate men at all, and actively meet on here. There’s plenty of great men on here.

If you don’t like attention seekers then don’t message them.

If you don’t find something attractive don’t message them.

I’m sure 99.9% of the women on here couldn’t care less what language you find attractive or not.

I don’t see why it’s so difficult for people

Couldn't have said it any better honestly, It makes no sense why some send messages just to put them down. Also regarding the OP I don't think this place has become a dating site I think it's what you make of it

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

What qualifications do you have to “study women” probably none.

I for one don’t hate men at all, and actively meet on here. There’s plenty of great men on here.

If you don’t like attention seekers then don’t message them.

If you don’t find something attractive don’t message them.

I’m sure 99.9% of the women on here couldn’t care less what language you find attractive or not.

I don’t see why it’s so difficult for people

I don't need a qualification.

I see enough to know that some of the women on the forum do not including themselves in threads which are demonizing or angry towards the opposite sex.

And as a result men will gravitate towards them and that's a shame.

Who wants to know someone who's constantly unhappy with their lot and looking for a reason to unload that frustration. I.e. on men as they are an easy target.

When you are calm and able to look at things you can see this.

As I've said I understand women get abuse, are abused and it's wrong.

You all have message filters, you can block men then message who you like. The site provides this for free.

Complaining will not change a thing just add to your frustration and quite frankly it's very unattractive.

Or, instead of us having to stopmen abusing us, the men could just stop doing it? It isn't our responsibility to stop some men acting like fucking troglodytes.

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By *aidForSharingWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

Highly unlikely that any woman is going to want to date you OP, so no worries on that score. Or fuck you either, until you drop your misogynistic and offensive attitude (or at least have the common sense to hide it in your pursuit of nsa sex. Which, incidentally, most women can get simply by smiling at ANY man. ANYWHERE. At ANY time).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think because a lot of women have had bad experiences with men who clearly cannot or do not know how to interact with them when a guy who comes along who can use his brain, be accountable and open woman are suspicious so resort to degrading his character.

The woman I've met enjoyed and many of them are my friends never join in on threads that attack others.

They hold themselves to a higher standard and so do I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I see is an incredible amount of unhappy women and men.

People need to take accountability for their actions and behaviour.

Women on here telling men to fuck off if they don't like something is not attractive at all.

Why doesn't the women take her own advice clearly she is unhappy herself.

One thing I do is study women a lot. This place is confusing at best, you get loads of mail some nice some not so nice, I get the crap as well but that's fine we all disagree with each other.

But don't let this cross into anger or hate for the opposite sex as that is the undoing for those (like me) would love to get to know some of you better and find an attractive about you.

Of course I don't and nor do you.

I know many of you hate my open honest appraisal which often offends but at times you leave me no choice when I come up against an angry mob of women who are collectively sounding and acting badly.

Hate me fine. But that's the ones who hurt and upset you.

Not the guys who want to chat and meet some of you in-person.

Hope we can chat soon.

What qualifications do you have to “study women” probably none.

I for one don’t hate men at all, and actively meet on here. There’s plenty of great men on here.

If you don’t like attention seekers then don’t message them.

If you don’t find something attractive don’t message them.

I’m sure 99.9% of the women on here couldn’t care less what language you find attractive or not.

I don’t see why it’s so difficult for people

I don't need a qualification.

I see enough to know that some of the women on the forum do not including themselves in threads which are demonizing or angry towards the opposite sex.

And as a result men will gravitate towards them and that's a shame.

Who wants to know someone who's constantly unhappy with their lot and looking for a reason to unload that frustration. I.e. on men as they are an easy target.

When you are calm and able to look at things you can see this.

As I've said I understand women get abuse, are abused and it's wrong.

You all have message filters, you can block men then message who you like. The site provides this for free.

Complaining will not change a thing just add to your frustration and quite frankly it's very unattractive.

Or, instead of us having to stopmen abusing us, the men could just stop doing it? It isn't our responsibility to stop some men acting like fucking troglodytes. "

See that is you not being responsible.

You have a message filters system here which allows you to only speak to the men you want

And if he is a prat you can block him and move on.

You have the be adult and accountable to who you let access to your message box.

It's not hard to do

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By *aneyyMan over a year ago

london

Hey all thought I would put my 2 pennies worth in. I would so I’m in ok shape and ok looking. And I have to say the op has a point about the likely hood of you getting “laid” on a normal dating site being higher than on here 100% for single guys. Although his delivery could have been articulated a little better haha.

I also agree that this site is definitely used for an ego boost more so than meeting but hey, what ever makes you happy at the end of the day. Your life your right. It’s also used by a lot of women and couples to sell which sort of ruins it a little but that’s basically where the negatives stop.

For me it’s completely different to other dating sites because finding someone open to this way of life off of here would be like finding a needle in a haystack and even when you think you have, having a convo about it could end in tears lol( I’ve tried a few times). I do see why people can get a little frustrated with fab, but maybe the expectations some guys have are a little unrealistic.

Fab should be a tool used to maybe meet/socialise with like minded people. If you do great, if you don’t that’s fine to. Just don’t take things to heart.

As for the messaging and getting to know people. A little social and drinks. A good vibe is head and shoulders better than any turn up cum and go meet and I’ve done both. Sex just one part of the dynamic when it comes to a meet. All of my favourite and best meets have always had some sort of social/ getting to know them involved.

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By *nkforthekinkMan over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

"Hey all thought I would put my 2 pennies worth in. I would so I’m in ok shape and ok looking. And I have to say the op has a point about the likely hood of you getting “laid” on a normal dating site being higher than on here 100% for single guys. Although his delivery could have been articulated a little better haha.

Fab should be a tool used to maybe meet/socialise with like minded people. If you do great, if you don’t that’s fine to. Just don’t take things to heart.

Agreed

I would always be open to a fab date night thou!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think because a lot of women have had bad experiences with men who clearly cannot or do not know how to interact with them when a guy who comes along who can use his brain, be accountable and open woman are suspicious so resort to degrading his character.

The woman I've met enjoyed and many of them are my friends never join in on threads that attack others.

They hold themselves to a higher standard and so do I

You make a hell of a lot of sweeping generalisations and assumptions about women as a whole and yet if women did that about men you’d have an issue with it.

The irony.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Complaining will not change a thing just add to your frustration and quite frankly it's very unattractive.

Sound advice for the man that started this thread.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

See that is you not being responsible.

You have a message filters system here which allows you to only speak to the men you want

And if he is a prat you can block him and move on.

You have the be adult and accountable to who you let access to your message box.

It's not hard to do "

Are you trying to tell me it's MY fault if someone sends me abuse? I am NOT responsible for someone else's bad behaviour.

Also, for the record, I'm a huge supporter of single men on fab and in clubs, I rarely bitch about them.

However, threads like this, that blame women for men not getting laid, piss me off. It is not our fault if you can't get laid.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

In my precious experience as a single guy, they're genrally not on here date. They're here to satisfy sexual desires with people they fancy, get on with and trust. Not here for rent a dick or to be someone's sex toy. Be that a 1 night thing or an ongoing arrangement. Same goes for women seeking couples. And naturally if your looking for a relationship and to stay on the scene this is a great place to look.

I must admit I do detect a case of sour Grapes.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

See that is you not being responsible.

You have a message filters system here which allows you to only speak to the men you want

And if he is a prat you can block him and move on.

You have the be adult and accountable to who you let access to your message box.

It's not hard to do

Are you trying to tell me it's MY fault if someone sends me abuse? I am NOT responsible for someone else's bad behaviour.

Also, for the record, I'm a huge supporter of single men on fab and in clubs, I rarely bitch about them.

However, threads like this, that blame women for men not getting laid, piss me off. It is not our fault if you can't get laid. "

THiS

Nailed it.

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By *uriousguyHDMan over a year ago

close by

I have spoke to people who met and have had a great relationship from fab ! Suppose there’s something for everyone on here and finding someone on the same page whatever that be is surely what most people came on here for...all to gain nothing to loose :P positivity people !! Haha !

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I have spoke to people who met and have had a great relationship from fab ! Suppose there’s something for everyone on here and finding someone on the same page whatever that be is surely what most people came on here for...all to gain nothing to loose :P positivity people !! Haha ! "

I enjoy fab and I get what I want out of it

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By *thleticgirthMan over a year ago

wirral

If it has then let me know, i could do with a nice girl more permanently

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By *ornado69Man over a year ago

Princess Risborough

I would love to find a lady who i can have a loving relationship with who is also into this lifestyle, message me if you exist x

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

See that is you not being responsible.

You have a message filters system here which allows you to only speak to the men you want

And if he is a prat you can block him and move on.

You have the be adult and accountable to who you let access to your message box.

It's not hard to do

Are you trying to tell me it's MY fault if someone sends me abuse? I am NOT responsible for someone else's bad behaviour.

Also, for the record, I'm a huge supporter of single men on fab and in clubs, I rarely bitch about them.

However, threads like this, that blame women for men not getting laid, piss me off. It is not our fault if you can't get laid. "

Yes it is. You all need to start ‘putting it about a bit more’. Up your game ladies!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

See that is you not being responsible.

You have a message filters system here which allows you to only speak to the men you want

And if he is a prat you can block him and move on.

You have the be adult and accountable to who you let access to your message box.

It's not hard to do

Are you trying to tell me it's MY fault if someone sends me abuse? I am NOT responsible for someone else's bad behaviour.

Also, for the record, I'm a huge supporter of single men on fab and in clubs, I rarely bitch about them.

However, threads like this, that blame women for men not getting laid, piss me off. It is not our fault if you can't get laid.

Yes it is. You all need to start ‘putting it about a bit more’. Up your game ladies! "

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