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Falling in love with your fwb
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Luckily for them, no... It will never happen... I love both, live with one but am incapable of any more than being their friend and lover and for me, being in love is much more |
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over a year ago
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Me, and it was mutual, though I can’t say it was a FWB situation, more a love affair, met her from Fab, lasted for 4years, it was doomed from the start as we lived 150 miles apart and both married. I still think and dream of her even though we haven’t seen or corresponded for 5 years  |
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"Me, and it was mutual, though I can’t say it was a FWB situation, more a love affair, met her from Fab, lasted for 4years, it was doomed from the start as we lived 150 miles apart and both married. I still think and dream of her even though we haven’t seen or corresponded for 5 years "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I married mine "
Lucky Ye 
I was beginning to `fall` for a fwbs...& It hit me totally out of the blue...I actually felt like a love sick teenager... Truth...
Actually I had fallen for him big time after a long wkend spent with him...even though I had met him many times without these strong feelings. When I returned home I woke up the following morning missing him terribly 
I had to make the difficult decision to never see him again 
He still contacts me & still asks to meet. I never told him I fell for him, nor will I ever...
If the age gap wasn't so big I probably would have met him again...what I mean by saying this is I knew if a relationship was to form...it wouldn't last as who wants to spend a life with someone who is 20yrs older...I'd be traded in for a much younger new model  ...So I was actually protecting myself from heart ache by never meeting him again |
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Yup the times now lol one was an 8 year relationship that ended last year during the 8 years I fell for my first meta who I was with for two years, I'm polyamorous so yeah they knew about each other as my nesting partner was dating her husband at the same time, and the third my current meta who I am dating now. |
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Yes, and it was reciprocal, but she wasn't single and it broke my heart (very recently). I knew it would happen, but it hurt all the same. That said, I wouldn't have denied myself a year of happiness. I'm just worried I won't find anything similar again... |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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Had close encounter of the thought but it needs to be a two way thing so switched off and respectful of the pleasurable aspects that were still to be enjoyed pointless making this feel uncomfortable. |
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"I married mine
Lucky Ye
I was beginning to `fall` for a fwbs...& It hit me totally out of the blue...I actually felt like a love sick teenager... Truth...
Actually I had fallen for him big time after a long wkend spent with him...even though I had met him many times without these strong feelings. When I returned home I woke up the following morning missing him terribly
I had to make the difficult decision to never see him again
He still contacts me & still asks to meet. I never told him I fell for him, nor will I ever...
If the age gap wasn't so big I probably would have met him again...what I mean by saying this is I knew if a relationship was to form...it wouldn't last as who wants to spend a life with someone who is 20yrs older...I'd be traded in for a much younger new model ...So I was actually protecting myself from heart ache by never meeting him again"
Aww I'm really sorry to hear that, but that's not always the way it goes, some guys stay very happily with older women. My parents are a case in point! |
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I’m polyamorous. I do get the feels sometimes (but not always sometimes it’s also just fucking) and sometimes they do too and that’s okay because I’ve accepted that it’s possible to live multiple people, just like you can have multiple friends. They don’t always feel the same way and that’s okay too. Ultimately, I just want my lovers to enjoy my company and live their best most fulfilling lives. If I get a slice of that then I’m blessed. Sass |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately yes. Was a turbulent couple of years. He wrote me a letter as well saying how he felt but I soon learnt it was all bullshit or he wouldn’t have hurt me when when I was most vulnerable. I stupidly let him back in where as now I wish I had never met him at all as he completely broke me. I won’t ever let anyone get that close to me again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unfortunately yes. Was a turbulent couple of years. He wrote me a letter as well saying how he felt but I soon learnt it was all bullshit or he wouldn’t have hurt me when when I was most vulnerable. I stupidly let him back in where as now I wish I had never met him at all as he completely broke me. I won’t ever let anyone get that close to me again "
Ouch, sorry to hear |
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"I’m polyamorous. I do get the feels sometimes (but not always sometimes it’s also just fucking) and sometimes they do too and that’s okay because I’ve accepted that it’s possible to live multiple people, just like you can have multiple friends. They don’t always feel the same way and that’s okay too. Ultimately, I just want my lovers to enjoy my company and live their best most fulfilling lives. If I get a slice of that then I’m blessed. Sass"
Same here |
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"I’m here looking for a FWB but I do t want that to happen I’m happy being single so let’s see where the craziness takes me "
If that's all you want it to be then just make sure you make it clear from the start but be warned the feels can creep up on you out of the blue even if it's not what you wanted at the start lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happily so ... wouldn't be a fwb if I didn't love them! But I love my friends too ... love is absolutely an awesome thing and our lives without it would be terrible!
Think the problem isn't about love per se it's more about how individuals perceive love and theyvgo about loving someone else |
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"I married mine
Lucky Ye
I was beginning to `fall` for a fwbs...& It hit me totally out of the blue...I actually felt like a love sick teenager... Truth...
Actually I had fallen for him big time after a long wkend spent with him...even though I had met him many times without these strong feelings. When I returned home I woke up the following morning missing him terribly
I had to make the difficult decision to never see him again
He still contacts me & still asks to meet. I never told him I fell for him, nor will I ever...
If the age gap wasn't so big I probably would have met him again...what I mean by saying this is I knew if a relationship was to form...it wouldn't last as who wants to spend a life with someone who is 20yrs older...I'd be traded in for a much younger new model ...So I was actually protecting myself from heart ache by never meeting him again"
What a sad story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m here looking for a FWB but I do t want that to happen I’m happy being single so let’s see where the craziness takes me
If that's all you want it to be then just make sure you make it clear from the start but be warned the feels can creep up on you out of the blue even if it's not what you wanted at the start lol"
Fair I’ll keep that in mind |
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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago
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wasn't me with her but her with me....I was really fond of her and all that...but she spent a fair bit of time in my company inc dinners out (probs a mistake doing too many social things) but she wanted to leave hubby and bring all the baggage...in the end she stayed with him but it was complicated... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this  "
And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this
And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?"
Hubby is too special, been together since late teens, family together and he's too good to me! So could never develop to the same way i feel about him, however be nice to have another where we have strong feelings, mutual respect and lust after eachother, i guess be the third in our relationship |
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I mean yes there’s always some level of feeling towards them, as there’s an emotional and physical connection. Harsh as it may be, I feel that’s why sometimes its good to keep a healthy distance and step back when you sense you’re getting in the feels |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this
And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?
Hubby is too special, been together since late teens, family together and he's too good to me! So could never develop to the same way i feel about him, however be nice to have another where we have strong feelings, mutual respect and lust after eachother, i guess be the third in our relationship "
I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this
And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?
Hubby is too special, been together since late teens, family together and he's too good to me! So could never develop to the same way i feel about him, however be nice to have another where we have strong feelings, mutual respect and lust after eachother, i guess be the third in our relationship
I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible "
Maybe but that's our ideal situation x |
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"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this
And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?
Hubby is too special, been together since late teens, family together and he's too good to me! So could never develop to the same way i feel about him, however be nice to have another where we have strong feelings, mutual respect and lust after eachother, i guess be the third in our relationship
I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible "
Love comes in different types and forms and It is possible  I’m also married and I might end up loving someone else too. That doesn’t mean I would want to replace my husband with another! Guessing you have to be open to a poly relationships in mind a bit to make this possible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this
And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?
Hubby is too special, been together since late teens, family together and he's too good to me! So could never develop to the same way i feel about him, however be nice to have another where we have strong feelings, mutual respect and lust after eachother, i guess be the third in our relationship
I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible
Love comes in different types and forms and It is possible I’m also married and I might end up loving someone else too. That doesn’t mean I would want to replace my husband with another! Guessing you have to be open to a poly relationships in mind a bit to make this possible "
The poster I replied to specifically said she didn't want to and wouldn't fall in love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes unfortunately. We were the male female equivalents. Inseparable. Finished sentences, closest friends, confided everything........ She was married to someone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, in the throes of being a pair of smitten kittens after seeing each other regularly since summer. Not part of my plan but from first meet I had no barriers up ... it just felt easy and fun and natural.
God knows how it will pan out but we are both single so why not go with the flow. |
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This might sound odd but I'd like to. Happily married but we've agreed enm may work for us. So I'd like to find a connection with a fwb with the possibility of it turning to love and a poly relationship one day in the future.
Just need to get anyone to reply to a message so I can start chatting them up though lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a FBW fall in love with me and it's not easy to tell them that you don't feel the same. The first time he said I love was after amazing session so thinking he was on a high ,I did say I love you but I soon learned that was a mistake, as he did love me and really want to be my partner. I liked him but I just didn't love him.
I have learned from my mistake, now I keep things plan and simple , it just sex and that is all xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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had a few over the years tell me they are falling for me .... erm no bye bye i only love one man thats my hubs i have fun with others theres never a emotional connection from me ..not only that they should know from the start that we are unbreckable yet every now and then one tries .... not a chance ever |
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