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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't class it as a kink personally, it just is, for me anyway. I know it's different for everyone and that's okay.
Everyone has their thing, and some things are different.  "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry new to this what is DDLG?
Daddy Dom / Little girl
This is totally new to me? How does this play out?"
There's no right or wrong, it's different for everyone. And as said below, the gender roles can be reversed too. There's lots of options and dynamics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't class it as a kink personally, it just is, for me anyway. I know it's different for everyone and that's okay.
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I think calling it a 'kink' makes it seem seedy. |
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"Sorry new to this what is DDLG?
Daddy Dom / Little girl
This is totally new to me? How does this play out?"
Very much depends on the couple. To me personally it's similar to a D/s dynamic but with a nuturing aspect to it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't class it as a kink personally, it just is, for me anyway. I know it's different for everyone and that's okay.
I think calling it a 'kink' makes it seem seedy. "
Agree with you there. |
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"I can understand uncle but not daddy
Can you explain the daddy thing to me girls? "
Not all who are in a DDlg call their DD daddy or are called lg. People get bogged down with the name of the dynamic not the actual dynamic itself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?"
No it's not. I don't use the name "daddy" at all. It's about the dynamic, not the label. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand uncle but not daddy
Can you explain the daddy thing to me girls?
Not all who are in a DDlg call their DD daddy or are called lg. People get bogged down with the name of the dynamic not the actual dynamic itself. "
The name really put me off. I'll be honest I felt it was creepy.
Then NYCSausage did a thread a few weeks/ months ago and it made more sense to me. People discussed their experiences and the different terms they use. It was interesting and helpful. To me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No it's not. I don't use the name "daddy" at all. It's about the dynamic, not the label. "
agreed. its about the connection and quality of relationship. the label could have a different connotation but couples who play this out will come from a wide range of ages. fab is not a space to judge. its a place to enjoys kinks and fetishes of all descriptions  |
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"I can understand uncle but not daddy
Can you explain the daddy thing to me girls?
Not all who are in a DDlg call their DD daddy or are called lg. People get bogged down with the name of the dynamic not the actual dynamic itself.
The name really put me off. I'll be honest I felt it was creepy.
Then NYCSausage did a thread a few weeks/ months ago and it made more sense to me. People discussed their experiences and the different terms they use. It was interesting and helpful. To me anyway. "
It was a good thread, here's the link to others who may want to read it https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1141347
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I don't class it as a kink personally, it just is, for me anyway. I know it's different for everyone and that's okay.
I think calling it a 'kink' makes it seem seedy.
Agree with you there. "
Isn’t that a reflection of your own personal prejudices though?
DD/LG absolutely is a kink, there’s no doubt about that. As is anything based around power exchanges in sex that don’t fit within the parameters of ‘vanilla’ sexual relations.
Which then might make you wonder why you think kink is seedy, as you know from your own experiences of the kink you personally enjoy, that seediness is not implicit with kink. |
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"I don't class it as a kink personally, it just is, for me anyway. I know it's different for everyone and that's okay.
I think calling it a 'kink' makes it seem seedy.
Agree with you there.
Isn’t that a reflection of your own personal prejudices though?
DD/LG absolutely is a kink, there’s no doubt about that. As is anything based around power exchanges in sex that don’t fit within the parameters of ‘vanilla’ sexual relations.
Which then might make you wonder why you think kink is seedy, as you know from your own experiences of the kink you personally enjoy, that seediness is not implicit with kink."
This is a sexy brain. |
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Everyone always goes to dark places when you see DDLG, but the dark stuff is a miniscule amount.
The actual dynamics often don't include agere or any age play, and often those who do agere don't in a sexual sense.
The core is actually pretty common most good relationships, just it's almost animated and amplified in DDLG, same as any other kink.
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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago
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It's definitely my thing too, it's what I feel the most comfortable and happy doing.
It is very hard to find the right "daddy dom" thou as I think it's still classed in some ways as "weird" to some.
But to me it's not, its what I crave the most. It's what makes me happy and that's all that matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can understand uncle but not daddy
Can you explain the daddy thing to me girls?
Not all who are in a DDlg call their DD daddy or are called lg. People get bogged down with the name of the dynamic not the actual dynamic itself.
The name really put me off. I'll be honest I felt it was creepy.
Then NYCSausage did a thread a few weeks/ months ago and it made more sense to me. People discussed their experiences and the different terms they use. It was interesting and helpful. To me anyway.
It was a good thread, here's the link to others who may want to read it https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1141347
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We like it, but we wouldn’t involve others in it. It’s our special thing! "
This... So much this...we don't quite live it 24/7,but a good proportion..as others have said, it's so much more than the name suggests.. My DD is my protector. He comforts, cares and nurtures me. We also have aspects of "trad wife". We both have our roles in the relationship, but there is a lot of cross over.. It works for us and that's all that matters |
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I've got a couple of young female friends on here who I role play this exact scenario.
They find me the perfect age for this, and we regularly make each other cum so strongly through this.
We love it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Canot fathom how DDLG is kink.
Why not if you don't mind me asking? "
My personal opinion, each one has there own liking. Perhaps such word wont turn me on, rather would do reverse. Once you establish connection with some one age gap wont matter, but after connection i wont call daddy or mommy in debauchery. |
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"Canot fathom how DDLG is kink.
Why not if you don't mind me asking?
My personal opinion, each one has there own liking. Perhaps such word wont turn me on, rather would do reverse. Once you establish connection with some one age gap wont matter, but after connection i wont call daddy or mommy in debauchery. "
Fair, some things turn me on others don't. I think it was saying it wasn't a kink confused me. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
I agree and think most kinksters would agree that DDlg is a kink. However I agree with OP that some "kinks" are innate and not role play or an excuse to perk up the sex life. What we do is taboo and meets an inner need, and provided it is done with informed and genuine consent and not harming anyone it is fair play, and not seedy at all. |
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By *anklerMan
over a year ago
Suffolk |
"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?"
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me at allll. Met up with a girl once, we hadn’t talked about preferences or anything. We were kissing and heavy petting then right in the middle of it she called me daddy… I went stone cold and soft as putty. Put me right off. Not shaming it, just isn’t for me.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I find it very enticing. As with any kink the most important part is the chemistry and interaction, perhaps that is less simple on a DDLG basis if generation difference is involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
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I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing |
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By *anklerMan
over a year ago
Suffolk |
"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing "
That's lovely to hear. I'm glad you've connected with a good Daddy.
Hope everything works out well for you both |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing "
Lucky lady (and hes very lucky ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing
Lucky lady (and hes very lucky )"
We both are, and we appreciate that, it’s hard to find isn’t it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing That's lovely to hear. I'm glad you've connected with a good Daddy.
Hope everything works out well for you both"
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing
Lucky lady (and hes very lucky )
We both are, and we appreciate that, it’s hard to find isn’t it. "
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"I can understand uncle but not daddy
Can you explain the daddy thing to me girls?
Not all who are in a DDlg call their DD daddy or are called lg. People get bogged down with the name of the dynamic not the actual dynamic itself.
The name really put me off. I'll be honest I felt it was creepy.
Then NYCSausage did a thread a few weeks/ months ago and it made more sense to me. People discussed their experiences and the different terms they use. It was interesting and helpful. To me anyway. "
I can’t believe you remembered it was me thank you. Really does mean a lot. It was a great thread and I learnt so much from it.
Still not managed to enact it yet, maybe one day. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I believe that there are no kink, and if you enjoy whatever you are doing then all the best to you"
The reason we refer to these preferences or practises as ‘kink’ is to create a clear separation between that and what would be called vanilla.
The word ‘kink’ doesn’t imply there is anything negative or wrong about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so the actual term daddy is not the key?
Explain the dynamic please?
No. That's not the key. The dynamic varies from relationship to relationship.
It is a Ds dynamic. But with a softer side nurturing core.
A little doesn't really play at that. It's a deep part of who they are and should be nurtured and looked after
I agree with this, my little side needs patience, support, love and understanding. There’s no playing at it, it’s just who I am, kind of my innocent side? I am extremely lucky that I’ve found a DD who’s perfect for me, he’s supported me through a lot, and is amazing
Lucky lady (and hes very lucky )
We both are, and we appreciate that, it’s hard to find isn’t it.
Yes "
I hope you find one . The right one will come along. |
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"It is a kink to many, but one, especially being a little that is misunderstood by the majority on here."
It is a kink to many, it is also a lifestyle to many others. People will take it where they want to. We don't use the labels MD/lb but that is our relationship dynamic, I care, protect and nuture him to help him become the man he wants to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys like mommy types too so it works both ways.
Nothing wrong if it turns you on.
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Have to disagree with that one as i think the courts would tend to be in favour of the victim |
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over a year ago
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"Guys like mommy types too so it works both ways.
Nothing wrong if it turns you on.
Have to disagree with that one as i think the courts would tend to be in favour of the victim "
It’s a dynamic between two consenting adults |
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"Guys like mommy types too so it works both ways.
Nothing wrong if it turns you on.
Have to disagree with that one as i think the courts would tend to be in favour of the victim "
There are no “victims” in this dynamic, it’s 2 consenting adults enjoying what they like |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"But don’t mind the kink at all, everyone’s entitled to carry out any role play they wish if they both consent to it x
What’s everyone’s opinion?"
*Safe Sane Consensual
*Risk Aware Consensual Kink
If it falls within those definitions, it’s all good. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"But don’t mind the kink at all, everyone’s entitled to carry out any role play they wish if they both consent to it x
What’s everyone’s opinion?
*Safe Sane Consensual
*Risk Aware Consensual Kink
If it falls within those definitions, it’s all good."
Don’t forget
Personal Responsibility in/informed Consensual Kink |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"But don’t mind the kink at all, everyone’s entitled to carry out any role play they wish if they both consent to it x
What’s everyone’s opinion?
*Safe Sane Consensual
*Risk Aware Consensual Kink
If it falls within those definitions, it’s all good.
Don’t forget
Personal Responsibility in/informed Consensual Kink"
An unnecessary definition in my view, as it doesn’t add anything to RACK. RA is by definition PRI, although you may certainly disagree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What takes your interest?
The dynamic?"
It’s something that developed within an existing D/s dynamic for us, I was always opposed to it, but it just happened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something we have developed over our time together...a dynamic that just works perfectly for us.
Such an array of ways it can work for you, you don't have to fit into anyone else's box, it's what works for YOU.
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