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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago
North West |
Bare with me on this... I'm told I'm being a princess (well was actually a bitch but same same for context).
What are you women feelings about guys with a toy collection which are transferable between partners ?
I mean I own a bunch of fetish and kink gear, cuffs, spreaders, paddles, bindings, ropes, etc and I feel find using them between partners but actual sex toys I feel a bit weird.
I'm currently rebuilding my toy chest after I gave loads away and binned loads, and at the point there I'm looking at buying a doxy, a womanizer, etc.
Normally I would buy bullets and small vines which I always left with partners.
I know with proper cleaning, and even a UV steriliser it will be clean but I just can't seem to bite the bullet and drop serious cash on high end toys.
How do you women feel about it ? |
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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago
North West |
I'm really on on the no no side.
I have a full collection of cleaning sprays, wipes, etc and I'm going to buy one of the UVC Sterilisers, which is more for my own piece of mind as I clean everything before every use anyway just because it gets dust and stuff in the storage bags, and lube from hands etc so always clean.
Personally IF I go ahead and it's a big if, I would want to clean them before use while the person is there to see I'm taking it seriously more so in the current climate.
Each time I think ok sod it, something stops me. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I'm really on on the no no side.
I have a full collection of cleaning sprays, wipes, etc and I'm going to buy one of the UVC Sterilisers, which is more for my own piece of mind as I clean everything before every use anyway just because it gets dust and stuff in the storage bags, and lube from hands etc so always clean.
Personally IF I go ahead and it's a big if, I would want to clean them before use while the person is there to see I'm taking it seriously more so in the current climate.
Each time I think ok sod it, something stops me. "
Each to their own, but my mouth, hands and genitals present a higher level of risk for the transmission of any nasties than a toy that has been cleaned before and after each use and can use other barriers such as condoms.
Do you make sure you have sterile lube or do you have a generic larger tube/dispenser? Do you wipe that down between each use?
As with everything its about consent. If they want to use their own toys thats great, leas for me to carry.
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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago
North West |
I think most people are in the same boat as me. I was assured I was being a princess in the group chat I'm in with about 60% women hahah.
Fair point about Condom usage on those which are capable of that, always have extra strong condoms too.
My current thinking is waterproof toys which can be properly cleaned, which may ease my mind. Honestly we're going to put our tongue / penis / fingers / hands / foot / head (I saw that video :p) in various places, so not 100% sure I'm so torn on this. |
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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago
North West |
I use a soap based cleaner or alcohol wipe depending on lube type to wipe the bottles down otherwise they end up slick and sticky ewww.
Absolutely Consent, I'll think about it more and probably buy some waterproof, toys which for my peace of mind can cleaned properly and just make it another question asked. Very good point about consent beforehand to avoid the uncomfortable issues at the time.
"Do you make sure you have sterile lube or do you have a generic larger tube/dispenser? Do you wipe that down between each use?
As with everything its about consent. If they want to use their own toys thats great, leas for me to carry.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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agree condoms and a good cleaner but i will not use any ones toys outside of my bedroom whats mine n hubs i know are kept spotlessly clean and used with condoms i cant trust what others do with there toys.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bare with me on this... I'm told I'm being a princess (well was actually a bitch but same same for context).
What are you women feelings about guys with a toy collection which are transferable between partners ?
I mean I own a bunch of fetish and kink gear, cuffs, spreaders, paddles, bindings, ropes, etc and I feel find using them between partners but actual sex toys I feel a bit weird.
I'm currently rebuilding my toy chest after I gave loads away and binned loads, and at the point there I'm looking at buying a doxy, a womanizer, etc.
Normally I would buy bullets and small vines which I always left with partners.
I know with proper cleaning, and even a UV steriliser it will be clean but I just can't seem to bite the bullet and drop serious cash on high end toys.
How do you women feel about it ?"
I have my own toys and bdsm gear and take it with me in an overnight bag if meeting away from home. I never use anyone else’s and particularly anything that will be inserted. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Fetish gear should never be shared. It's a big no no in the community. If theres a possibilty of blood on an item. Then no you don't share.
Same gose for vibes ect in my opinion. "
Or put simply, there's a reason why you don't share toothbrushes.
Try it, just the thought of it, is enough.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd rather bring my own wand, glass dildo etc to be honest. I do understand logically a penis *could* be less sterile but I wouldn't feel comfortable using certain items that other women have used. |
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"Bare with me on this... I'm told I'm being a princess (well was actually a bitch but same same for context).
What are you women feelings about guys with a toy collection which are transferable between partners ?
I mean I own a bunch of fetish and kink gear, cuffs, spreaders, paddles, bindings, ropes, etc and I feel find using them between partners but actual sex toys I feel a bit weird.
I'm currently rebuilding my toy chest after I gave loads away and binned loads, and at the point there I'm looking at buying a doxy, a womanizer, etc.
Normally I would buy bullets and small vines which I always left with partners.
I know with proper cleaning, and even a UV steriliser it will be clean but I just can't seem to bite the bullet and drop serious cash on high end toys.
How do you women feel about it ?"
I refuse to use the same toys been used by other partners. |
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