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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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We have had and are still facing the same difficulties,
Like yourselves we realise 4 way attraction is difficult, we get a wink send one back and the next thing we are blocked starting to find it very confusing indeed x Storm x |
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over a year ago
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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God knows why you look really nice couple and what sane person could resist  |
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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The four-way attraction is the key thing.
Sometimes it’s even harder than matching singles.
We never take one for the team, ever and wouldn’t expect potential playmates to either.
We’re incredibly lucky with the people we have as friends.
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By *xXAnonCouple
over a year ago
Leeds |
It's normally couple's looking at the girl than both mostly. We still haven't met anyone off here yet just had a bit of experience on holiday in a swingers club, but we are looking to try have meet in a club soon if anyone is interested x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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on our joint profile we stopped looking for couples years ago finding attraction all 4 ways was differcult but doable the main problem we found was couples not being even most were male led with death stare's and disagreement and then the few we did meet the male half always pestered for more and often asking behind his partner back ... so we only meet couples in clubs and use fab for guys |
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
We have had and are still facing the same difficulties,
Like yourselves we realise 4 way attraction is difficult, we get a wink send one back and the next thing we are blocked starting to find it very confusing indeed x Storm x"
Did you want profile advice? Can't give it unless it's asked for, of course! |
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Finding suitable couples is hard work even when you do find the attraction. Often they seem to blow hot and cold and seems are not actually looking to meet. We have also found it can be complicated with couples, often one of the couple driving it and the other not so comfortable with it all.
We like making friends on here with other couples but I never get my hopes up anymore. I think we will look more towards clubs and organised socials once we can again for couples. Fab works much better for us with single guys. We have met some great ones on here.
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The women can have that trouble too! Maybe get as far as swapping a few messages then get left hanging in the inbox as they have already spotted the next victim as they have the attention span of a fish haha |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Its easy to put it down to a lack of attraction in a physical sense but for us its about finding people who share similar interests. They may look great, but if they want different things to us then its never going to work.
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"It doesn't have to be 4 way attraction. The women should always take one for the team. That's why many couples only have pics of the woman.  "
It's SO CHUFFING BACKWARDS! The wives are generally... generally... the easy bit, they're the ones who DON'T usually need photos! |
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We think it is even harder to find couples if you are a bi couple . Sometimes we think it's better to meet at a club on a set night and if you click you can take it from there or go to private house parties |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're another couple that pretty much gave up looking for what suited us on here and chose the club route when they were open, it just seems so much easier and far less time consuming. |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
"We think it is even harder to find couples if you are a bi couple . Sometimes we think it's better to meet at a club on a set night and if you click you can take it from there or go to private house parties "
Yes it is. Mr is only lightly Bi but being honest is what we are about so don’t hide it.
We would love to build up a circle of naughty friends. Love the idea of house parties etc.
We used clubs a lot but found it hard to infiltrate the cliques and the Group Rooms were just couples lined up playing with each other and maybe just a quick grope.
Not the kind of thing we are looking for. We are sure it wasn’t this hard 10 years ago lol xxxxx |
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over a year ago
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"It doesn't have to be 4 way attraction. The women should always take one for the team. That's why many couples only have pics of the woman.
It's SO CHUFFING BACKWARDS! The wives are generally... generally... the easy bit, they're the ones who DON'T usually need photos!"
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
We have had and are still facing the same difficulties,
Like yourselves we realise 4 way attraction is difficult, we get a wink send one back and the next thing we are blocked starting to find it very confusing indeed x Storm x"
Wow..... not the reaction you'd get from me! |
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over a year ago
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"We think it is even harder to find couples if you are a bi couple . Sometimes we think it's better to meet at a club on a set night and if you click you can take it from there or go to private house parties
Yes it is. Mr is only lightly Bi but being honest is what we are about so don’t hide it.
We would love to build up a circle of naughty friends. Love the idea of house parties etc.
We used clubs a lot but found it hard to infiltrate the cliques and the Group Rooms were just couples lined up playing with each other and maybe just a quick grope.
Not the kind of thing we are looking for. We are sure it wasn’t this hard 10 years ago lol xxxxx"
Search for couples 'where both are bi'. Think it's the advanced search.
Great way to find bi couples and sort a small bi party. Then if you have 3+ couples it's easier for people to swap around and find a match.
We find couples we like then everyone swaps details so we can all chat before the party. |
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It's really tough to find a nice couple
The dynamics of all getting on is tough
Throw the bi lady into the mix , and tue fact that we like to kiss , and suddenly you are in a world of hassles
Lots of couples seem to have something going on between them
We don't do drama , we just do fun lol
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
"It's really tough to find a nice couple
The dynamics of all getting on is tough
Throw the bi lady into the mix , and tue fact that we like to kiss , and suddenly you are in a world of hassles
Lots of couples seem to have something going on between them
We don't do drama , we just do fun lol
X
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Agreed. We are the same. We love kissing. Full swap etc. The only thing we won’t do is separate room.
Hands. Fingers. Tongues. Cocks. Pussy. Yum yum.
Just enjoying others bodies xxxx |
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
We have had and are still facing the same difficulties,
Like yourselves we realise 4 way attraction is difficult, we get a wink send one back and the next thing we are blocked starting to find it very confusing indeed x Storm x"
What can happen is that one half of the couple likes what they see and sends a wink, and the other half doesn’t like what they see and blocks so that an awkward conversation doesn’t have to be had about why they’re not interested when they winked first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The women can have that trouble too! Maybe get as far as swapping a few messages then get left hanging in the inbox as they have already spotted the next victim as they have the attention span of a fish haha "
Totally agree. You are as only as good til something better comes along. Then the messages stop. |
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"The women can have that trouble too! Maybe get as far as swapping a few messages then get left hanging in the inbox as they have already spotted the next victim as they have the attention span of a fish haha
Totally agree. You are as only as good til something better comes along. Then the messages stop. "
This ^^ |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
"I have a single woman’s profile and a couples one. It’s the same on both. I can’t wait for clubs to open properly, it’s much easier to meet in clubs xx"
We love clubs but as mentioned before, there seems to be very little swapping going on unless you’re in the in crowd.
We try to chat but the defensive circle gets tighter lol.
We think the dynamic has changed considerably in recent years.
Maybe because it’s gone more mainstream?
Anyway. Whatever you get up to this weekend have a fun but safe time xxxxx
Our quest continues  xxxxxxxx |
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"I have a single woman’s profile and a couples one. It’s the same on both. I can’t wait for clubs to open properly, it’s much easier to meet in clubs xx
We love clubs but as mentioned before, there seems to be very little swapping going on unless you’re in the in crowd.
We try to chat but the defensive circle gets tighter lol.
We think the dynamic has changed considerably in recent years.
Maybe because it’s gone more mainstream?
Anyway. Whatever you get up to this weekend have a fun but safe time xxxxx
Our quest continues xxxxxxxx"
I’ve never found that apart from in one club, the others have been very inclusive x |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
"I have a single woman’s profile and a couples one. It’s the same on both. I can’t wait for clubs to open properly, it’s much easier to meet in clubs xx
We love clubs but as mentioned before, there seems to be very little swapping going on unless you’re in the in crowd.
We try to chat but the defensive circle gets tighter lol.
We think the dynamic has changed considerably in recent years.
Maybe because it’s gone more mainstream?
Anyway. Whatever you get up to this weekend have a fun but safe time xxxxx
Our quest continues xxxxxxxx
I’ve never found that apart from in one club, the others have been very inclusive x"
As a single woman? Xx |
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Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos? |
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"I have a single woman’s profile and a couples one. It’s the same on both. I can’t wait for clubs to open properly, it’s much easier to meet in clubs xx
We love clubs but as mentioned before, there seems to be very little swapping going on unless you’re in the in crowd.
We try to chat but the defensive circle gets tighter lol.
We think the dynamic has changed considerably in recent years.
Maybe because it’s gone more mainstream?
Anyway. Whatever you get up to this weekend have a fun but safe time xxxxx
Our quest continues xxxxxxxx
I’ve never found that apart from in one club, the others have been very inclusive x
As a single woman? Xx"
Or a couple, although I’m quite chatty so will introduce myself fairly confidently x |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?"
Are you on about full face photos on public display? X |
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We are finding similar op. It seems either people have forgotten how to go about chatting with a view to arranging a meet, or that it is the profiles that were largely on here for entertainment during lockdown getting in touch, with no real intention of actually meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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Why are you surprised..??
Who on Earth wouod want to meet a couple who were both born with identical black birthmarks right across their faces..?!?!
Damned shame I’m not part of a couple or I wouod be around to see you both soonest..lol
I’m sure you’re now going to be swamped with messages and that treacle-type substance will disappear almost immediately
R x x |
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc. Lock downs hasnt seemed to help ...rude folk about...nice to be nice ...we think ..X
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a lot things to match, 4 way attraction, looking for the same things, age... etc it's not easy but when you do find them people, they are gems 
We're lucky to have found some of them!
Keep searching, you look like a lovely couple
Her x |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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The challenges of the virtual /digital swinging zone is complicated by the reality that couples seek to meet a four way attraction. It is often the case that three can be happy to play but the fourth is not so keen. xx A & G |
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
Are you on about full face photos on public display? X"
Nope, not at all. |
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"It doesn't have to be 4 way attraction. The women should always take one for the team. That's why many couples only have pics of the woman.
It's SO CHUFFING BACKWARDS! The wives are generally... generally... the easy bit, they're the ones who DON'T usually need photos!
The wives are easy. As if "
That must be a joke..it has to be.. |
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Are you on about full face photos on public display? X
Nope, not at all. "
But to add to this, you can clearly see our face pics. As such we have a far better success rate. Even if that means far... FAR... fewer initial messages. |
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"It doesn't have to be 4 way attraction. The women should always take one for the team. That's why many couples only have pics of the woman.
It's SO CHUFFING BACKWARDS! The wives are generally... generally... the easy bit, they're the ones who DON'T usually need photos!
The wives are easy. As if
That must be a joke..it has to be.."
Which bit? For clarity I mean the wives are almost always "better" looking than the husbands. |
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over a year ago
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
We totally agree xx
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?"
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something. |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
Filthy Desires Upon Trent |
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Are you on about full face photos on public display? X
Nope, not at all.
But to add to this, you can clearly see our face pics. As such we have a far better success rate. Even if that means far... FAR... fewer initial messages. "
Having clear face pics will help.
We will send them after a couple of messages.
If people say no after that then so be it. We move on. No hard feelings.
Thanks to everyone who has posted. There are reasons we didn’t think of as to why we are finding it difficult but now know.
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something. "
As a starting point, just broadly equal to whatever there is of her. Not necessarily in quantity, but filling the rest of that annoying phrase... definitely the qualtiy. |
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"It doesn't have to be 4 way attraction. The women should always take one for the team. That's why many couples only have pics of the woman.
It's SO CHUFFING BACKWARDS! The wives are generally... generally... the easy bit, they're the ones who DON'T usually need photos!
The wives are easy. As if
That must be a joke..it has to be..
Which bit? For clarity I mean the wives are almost always "better" looking than the husbands. "
My mind just read we should take one for the team and sleep with anything...I've read it again now .. |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something.
As a starting point, just broadly equal to whatever there is of her. Not necessarily in quantity, but filling the rest of that annoying phrase... definitely the qualtiy."
Can you explain? Or are we being thick? Sorry xx |
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something.
As a starting point, just broadly equal to whatever there is of her. Not necessarily in quantity, but filling the rest of that annoying phrase... definitely the qualtiy.
Can you explain? Or are we being thick? Sorry xx"
I may have started on the friday wine...
Well personally, I think your photos are great. My comments aren't aimed towards you. Other couples though, just have NO pictures of the men. That's "fine" whatever that means, but for many other couples, it doesn't sit well, and leads to some presumptions that the man looks like the wrong end of a donkey. |
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something.
As a starting point, just broadly equal to whatever there is of her. Not necessarily in quantity, but filling the rest of that annoying phrase... definitely the qualtiy.
Can you explain? Or are we being thick? Sorry xx"
Basically, for me, I think it's good to hsve an nice balanced mix of pics of both M&F on a couples profile, as a single women if meeting a couple then I'm meeting you both so woukd want to pics of both included in the photos.. but that's what I'd be looking for, up to people what they do. |
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something.
As a starting point, just broadly equal to whatever there is of her. Not necessarily in quantity, but filling the rest of that annoying phrase... definitely the qualtiy.
Can you explain? Or are we being thick? Sorry xx
I may have started on the friday wine...
Well personally, I think your photos are great. My comments aren't aimed towards you. Other couples though, just have NO pictures of the men. That's "fine" whatever that means, but for many other couples, it doesn't sit well, and leads to some presumptions that the man looks like the wrong end of a donkey."
No offence taken at all lol. Just couldn’t understand what you were trying to say lol
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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?
When you say useful photos, how do you mean? Ones that show their face or body shots?
You hear on here often that M doesn't want or like having pics taken but times I've looked for couples I do get put off if no pics of M or ones that just show his hand on her ass cheek or something.
As a starting point, just broadly equal to whatever there is of her. Not necessarily in quantity, but filling the rest of that annoying phrase... definitely the qualtiy.
Can you explain? Or are we being thick? Sorry xx
I may have started on the friday wine...
Well personally, I think your photos are great. My comments aren't aimed towards you. Other couples though, just have NO pictures of the men. That's "fine" whatever that means, but for many other couples, it doesn't sit well, and leads to some presumptions that the man looks like the wrong end of a donkey."
No offence taken at all lol. Just couldn’t understand what you were trying to say lol
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
I suspect and obviously can't talk for couples etc, but suspect there are more on here now that have no intention of ever meeting. The site is just being used as another social media site rather than what it was set up for. |
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Is it a 4 way attraction problem? Or the women attracted to the men problem? When I've been in clubs coupled up and we've got talking to other couples 99% of the time im well up for a play, and then normally the girl/woman I'm with whispers 'i don't fancy him' well because like someone else has said most look like the the back end of a donkey (not me tho I'm like 8/9-10  ) |
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"Is it a 4 way attraction problem? Or the women attracted to the men problem? When I've been in clubs coupled up and we've got talking to other couples 99% of the time im well up for a play, and then normally the girl/woman I'm with whispers 'i don't fancy him' well because like someone else has said most look like the the back end of a donkey (not me tho I'm like 8/9-10 )"
I think 4-way is generally a nice way of saying it.
But I think it's an interesting subject... It must be true that in a healthy relationship, it *should* be the case that the woman says no. For better or worse, society judges a woman's appeal as much more visual than men. Women are taught to look for protectors, providers etc. Attributes that come from a much more advanced personal relationship that mere looks.
There's healthy and unhealthy versions of all these things, but ultimately it's reasonable that a lot more is likely to be missing for men than women when they are being assessed for short term play, rather than committed relationships. |
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over a year ago
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"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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Yeah it’s normal just brush it off smile and be happy the bonus of being a couple though is you still have each other no matter what the single guys just have themselves  |
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over a year ago
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"Without pointing any rule breaking fingers... Again... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES OF THE HUSBANDS?
I struggle to see how any couple can feel its OK to complain about their lack of success despite so much effort messaging when there are no useful pictures of the man in their galleries. Of course you're going to "waste time" if there are no pictures directly available to others before messaging. How else are others going to know if it's a miss without messaging if there's no photos?"
nobody has to put a face pic on there profiles ... we do all our face pics private but then as said we only meet couples at clubs only on here for guys |
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We feel your pain OP. Finding the right couple where you all feel the chemistry and attraction is difficult. Also I'm very bi and finding other bi ladies who genuinely want to play with me as well as Mr, well it's not easy.
We just want fun times with fun friends. How hard can it be. |
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"Yep it's the everyone finding each other attractive is the hardest thing.
Then finding a bi lady that is really bi and not just playing to please her OH.
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I'd love to think this scenario is a myth, but sadly personal experience says otherwise. |
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over a year ago
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Totally agree, it’s almost impossible to get a conversation with a genuine couple and utterly impossible to get to meet for a chat over a coffee
The site is filled with fakes, frauds and dreamers at the moment |
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"Totally agree, it’s almost impossible to get a conversation with a genuine couple and utterly impossible to get to meet for a chat over a coffee
The site is filled with fakes, frauds and dreamers at the moment "
Yup that’s always the case though and has been for years and years there’s always fakes so get on phone or video chat early on before you waste your time if there serious and real they won’t hold back x |
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"Totally agree, it’s almost impossible to get a conversation with a genuine couple and utterly impossible to get to meet for a chat over a coffee
The site is filled with fakes, frauds and dreamers at the moment
Yup that’s always the case though and has been for years and years there’s always fakes so get on phone or video chat early on before you waste your time if there serious and real they won’t hold back x"
I've never had an issue with time wasters. I always meet within 2 weeks of first chatting. Never been stood up. Good fun. |
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By *ostosaCouple
over a year ago
North of England |
We can completely relate to what you have wrote here OP. It’s hard work at the moment. We have met some lovely people from fab pre covid but lately we’re personally finding it’s impossible to even get chatting to anybody. The site is becoming flooded with fake profiles, time wasters or people so far up their own arse they can’t find the time to come back down and communicate like any normal civil human.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"Yep it's the everyone finding each other attractive is the hardest thing.
Then finding a bi lady that is really bi and not just playing to please her OH.
I'd love to think this scenario is a myth, but sadly personal experience says otherwise. "
Its definitely real, it's like we are the entertainment, warm up act before the main event.
I've had women cry on me telling me they are not bi or drinking so much they don't know what's going on. |
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"We struggle to find couples that are close, most we have met seem miles away, it’s a struggle as we feel we have missed more fun meets because of distance.
Lily "
Certainly spoken to lots of new couples who think they'll be able to happily stay within their county boundary!
Do wonder what role Fabs coders have to play in this all though tbh... It *could* be do muvh better if there was the will to improve the site! |
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"Yep it's the everyone finding each other attractive is the hardest thing.
Then finding a bi lady that is really bi and not just playing to please her OH.
I'd love to think this scenario is a myth, but sadly personal experience says otherwise.
Its definitely real, it's like we are the entertainment, warm up act before the main event.
I've had women cry on me telling me they are not bi or drinking so much they don't know what's going on. "
I agree it's a real issue. I had a woman say afterwards that she wasn't into women at all but only did it so that her man could watch her with another woman. Some women really need to think hard about what they are doing. It's disgraceful behaviour.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"Yep it's the everyone finding each other attractive is the hardest thing.
Then finding a bi lady that is really bi and not just playing to please her OH.
I'd love to think this scenario is a myth, but sadly personal experience says otherwise.
Its definitely real, it's like we are the entertainment, warm up act before the main event.
I've had women cry on me telling me they are not bi or drinking so much they don't know what's going on.
I agree it's a real issue. I had a woman say afterwards that she wasn't into women at all but only did it so that her man could watch her with another woman. Some women really need to think hard about what they are doing. It's disgraceful behaviour.
Mrs"
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
shropshire |
"We know there has been a little bug doing the rounds lately but!
We just want to reassure the Single Males amongst you that it’s not only you who have trouble engaging with folk.
Us couples are suffering the same plight. Messages deleted without being read etc.
It’s harder when you need 4 way attraction but wowzers. It’s like walking through treacle at the moment.
Mrs DH. Xxxxxxxxxx
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
shropshire |
"We can completely relate to what you have wrote here OP. It’s hard work at the moment. We have met some lovely people from fab pre covid but lately we’re personally finding it’s impossible to even get chatting to anybody. The site is becoming flooded with fake profiles, time wasters or people so far up their own arse they can’t find the time to come back down and communicate like any normal civil human.
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So true ! |
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Try being a couple in the minority that don't shave! You would think we have some disease
Does seem to be getting harder to even strike up conversations though. We get some winks,messages etc and it goes somewhere for a bit then just dies a death. Cynicism is starting to grip to the point that we are now doubting that any profile that we interact with isn't what they say they are. Sad state of affairs really as this was a great site when we first joined. It's being wasted now by the fakes,dreamers and OF/Snapchat profiles. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We've met one couple in two years (and that doesn't really count as she had to go home to let the dogs out, leaving her guy to play with Char) and we're finding it hard.
We thought it'd be a bit easier as I (Bry) don't play at all (except with some bi guys) so it's only a case of Char and the couple fancying each other. Char's fully bi and happy to play with a couple with or without me in attendance so she's certainly not doing it just for me. But keeping a conversation going can be hard work, and we're finding that the couples that message us seem to think they don't have to read the profile like single guys do.
We're booked in at Swingathon in July and hope to get to some clubs later in the year do maybe it'll get easier. |
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