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I have recently 'acquired' a new scar on my breast after I had a lump removed I'll be honest and say it does still bother me but my question to you lovely people is should I warn someone I'm meeting that it's there before I take off my bra or just hope they don't care? |
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By *onelfMan
over a year ago
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Sorry you've had to aquire a new distinguishing feature but I know you aren't alone.
Guess it depends on how it makes you feel. If you aren't worried by it then it's unlikely others will be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aww sweetie, it shouldn't bother you at all and bollocks to what anyone else might think. Wear it with pride, you're a beautiful warrior and it's a battle scar. |
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Husband here. And I would say 100% NO. If you had a concealed tattoo, would you tell them? If you had an appendix scar?
We go through life getting lumps, bumps, scars and blemishes. It’s what makes us all unique and interesting. No one should feel embarrassed or ashamed. No one is, or expects others to be perfect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Scars are part of us all (although I appreciate your was scarier than me getting scrap just falling over! ) but anyone you meet will totally accept and understand. If it's on your mind just mention it. It will be all good and then you can relax and enjoy yourself. Hope you well. Take care xx  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I would only mention it if you don’t want them to ask, talk or touch it.
Some scars run deep and people don’t like to be reminded of it.
If you don’t care about it, then I wouldn’t mention it. |
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Agree with above. Wouldn't mention it. We all pick up scars and blemishes through life. Sorry you've been through this but you shouldn't feel uncomfortable about your life experiences they make you who you are.
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"Aww sweetie, it shouldn't bother you at all and bollocks to what anyone else might think. Wear it with pride, you're a beautiful warrior and it's a battle scar."
Thank you, I like the idea of being a beautiful warrior |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ike looking at your eyes I’m sure most men wouldn’t even notice as they go tit blind anyway!!!!
Your new scar is part of you like hair or eye colour so I wouldn’t worry too much but if you feel uneasy then yes bring it up in conversation way before you wack your norks out!!!!!
Best of luck op.
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If its made you self conscious it might be worth having a pic on your profile. So at least it means anyone genuinely interested has seen it and would take away any potential anxiousness you might have on a meet. |
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"If its made you self conscious it might be worth having a pic on your profile. So at least it means anyone genuinely interested has seen it and would take away any potential anxiousness you might have on a meet."
You are a genius! Why did I not think of that??
Thank you xxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I warn people as ive a lot of scarring from having breast cancer and many surgeries, over 500 stitches inside and out.
I see them as the road map of my life story |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just added a photo showing the scar and it actually doesn't look too bad in the photo!"
It looks the the surgeon did very well. It'll fade and it won't be noticeable very soon. It's not going to bother anyone anyway.... Even if it's visible!! I've got one on my face which bothers me and nobody else...I can't help being fugly though, Born that way. PMSL |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Husband here. And I would say 100% NO. If you had a concealed tattoo, would you tell them? If you had an appendix scar?
We go through life getting lumps, bumps, scars and blemishes. It’s what makes us all unique and interesting. No one should feel embarrassed or ashamed. No one is, or expects others to be perfect. "
I fully agree. I have had several abdominal surgeries and I don't go warning guys of my scars and stretch marks from pregnancy. I really don't think it bothers them  |
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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago
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"I've just added a photo showing the scar and it actually doesn't look too bad in the photo!"
You’re probably so much more aware if it, but it’s very neat x. I have a C section scar (plus a couple of others) and never mention it. And if someone else did in a derogatory way they’d be shown the door sharpish! |
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"If its made you self conscious it might be worth having a pic on your profile. So at least it means anyone genuinely interested has seen it and would take away any potential anxiousness you might have on a meet.
You are a genius! Why did I not think of that??
Thank you xxxxxx"
Your welcome hun 
Ps. Ive just seen the pic and it looks like the surgeon didna fine job am pretty sure no men or women will have issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A proper gent would understand the likely reason for it and respect your privacy, or offer a supportive comment. No need to apologise at all, and no need to comment unless you wish to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a naturist and been to a few naturist places you get to see all sorts of scars and amputated limbs and are all good you see the person. Stay strong Hugsx |
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Can I just say, whoever did your stitching is very skilled in what they do!! They have done such a lovely job & it will fade.
T has one on his neck from a biopsy for non-Hodgkins Lymphoma & when 1st done it looked like he’d been butchered. But they knew what they were doing & most people don’t notice it. I do but only because I know it’s there. And I like to rub my finger over it & remind myself of how amazing he is x
J x |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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I have a few scars, scattered around, one in my groin but it's never occurred to me to discuss it with anyone. If someone is bothered by it, it says more about them than you.
I guess you are probably more aware of it at present, hopefully it will soon fade and just be part of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
I have recently 'acquired' a new scar on my breast after I had a lump removed I'll be honest and say it does still bother me but my question to you lovely people is should I warn someone I'm meeting that it's there before I take off my bra or just hope they don't care?"
If they're bothered you shouldn't be with them
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
I have recently 'acquired' a new scar on my breast after I had a lump removed I'll be honest and say it does still bother me but my question to you lovely people is should I warn someone I'm meeting that it's there before I take off my bra or just hope they don't care?"
I have a few biggish scars from surgery's and never put guys off( mine are on my hips and back) they do fade in time though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get the big deal made about having operation scars... You had an op, you now have a scar... I have one on my back, I rarely consider it... I certainly don't when organising a play date |
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"Hi
I have recently 'acquired' a new scar on my breast after I had a lump removed I'll be honest and say it does still bother me but my question to you lovely people is should I warn someone I'm meeting that it's there before I take off my bra or just hope they don't care?"
Oh girl. Please don’t even think you have to let them know. It’s no thing but a chicken wing.
I am so sorry to her you’ve acquired a scar but sincerely hope it’s on your boob longer than on your mind xx |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
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Scars are part of who we are OP and i think you look great. My own view is that if we have ourselves on display then those who show an interest in us are probably genuinely interested. |
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"Hi
I have recently 'acquired' a new scar on my breast after I had a lump removed I'll be honest and say it does still bother me but my question to you lovely people is should I warn someone I'm meeting that it's there before I take off my bra or just hope they don't care?"
Ahh bless ya and hope your feeling better, and yes your a female warrior a survivor too...so be proud of what you have come through...all up to you about mentioning it, I think if I knew things where going that far with a guy then I would talk about it...saves the question mid way of sexy fun...'Oo what is that scar'...all about what makes you feel 100% comfy and confident..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have chemotherapy scars on my leg and feet, look like I’ve been burnt by acid and a faint shingles scar on my chest. In my case people have got two choices. Stay or run for the hills. In you’re case, you’re obviously very beautiful so I wouldn’t worry about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally don’t think it would bother the vast majority of decent people.
If it’s on your mind, mention it and I suspect you’ll be reassured by the lucky person’s reaction.
In the past, when someone I’m dating has mentioned particularly aspects of their otherwise hidden body, I’ve sometimes wondered why they’re telling me this information. Of course I’m not so bright and should have realised they have a heightened sense of awareness and embarrassment of whatever it was.
Seriously don’t fret. I was literally dating someone recently who asked me about a scar and that was the first I became aware of it. No I’m not blind, but sometimes our minds can be overly critical of ourselves.
Enjoy and have fun
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I don't warn people. 
