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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey fabbers and fabettes...do you read a person's verifications and find yourself a bit put off them? I read one and the veri was very descriptive and made me look at this person in a different way...or maybe veris should be more general? How does verifications work for you? Good or bad? |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes. |
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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago
Northwich |
"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes."
Exactly this x |
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes."
I’d say exactly the same but also add that we do look at the profiles of some of the verifications. You’d be surprised what they sometimes tell you about their conquests. They’re good to give a general idea of the person/couple. |
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes."
Agree with this although it is always nice to read what people think of you and the meet but Does feel a bit like a “Trip Advisor” review sometimes.
If nothing else, it shows you are genuine and will most likely turn up. |
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes.
Agree with this although it is always nice to read what people think of you and the meet but Does feel a bit like a “Trip Advisor” review sometimes.
If nothing else, it shows you are genuine and will most likely turn up. "
What? Verification's are meant to be honest?! |
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A slightly different take on the verifications topic. We were speaking to a really cool guy a while back about a meet. He was verified but none were available to read.
He explained that was because the members who had provided them had subsequently left the site. An explanation which satisfied us perfectly.
Until by accident we stumbled across some very lurid verifications he had written to other guys graphically describing how delicious their cocks were and how much he had enjoyed being fucked by them.
A bit of a surprise as he had told us he was straight!!
Now we realised exactly why his own verifications were hidden. Clearly it was nothing to do with the users leaving the site.
Busted. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey fabbers and fabettes...do you read a person's verifications and find yourself a bit put off them? I read one and the veri was very descriptive and made me look at this person in a different way...or maybe veris should be more general? How does verifications work for you? Good or bad?"
Some put me off for a very different reason OP when they are badly written which normally includes bragging on the males part, I do wonder of the standard of the people that the woman meets |
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For a while I didn't worry about veris because I don't make first contact anymore but on the odd occasion that someone gets in touch with me I will look at their veris if they are available.
I'll also follow the verification trail add that can be very informative and can often put me off chatting to people.
They can also determine whether or not I will engage with them in the forums especially if the veris Steve consistent with their forum persona.
Profiles with a single veri from a hidden profile are also to be avoided as they are usually fake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes."
This entirely. Although I have received a couple that are borderline that I occasionally show them take off.
On a previous profile I have had people put off by the amount of verifications. This profile is going the same way to an extent, so may be a little more selective |
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"Hey fabbers and fabettes...do you read a person's verifications and find yourself a bit put off them? I read one and the veri was very descriptive and made me look at this person in a different way...or maybe veris should be more general? How does verifications work for you? Good or bad?"
For me - the most important thing is couple/lday has veris - as it means they are real and actually do meet...people who dont have veris are normally fake. what is said in the verification is much less important |
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"We once got verified by a couple who seen us in a club(we didn't speak to them) it went into great detail about what they had seen us do and who with, it all came across a bit creepy  "
On a previous profile I received an unsolicited veri from another man. He claimed to have met me at a group social.
There were only a few people at that social and we had all verified each other but this man was definitely not there and no-one has any idea who he was.
To add to the confusion he said I was a very sexy lady and he looked forward to meeting again.
It took lots of messages to admin to get it removed. |
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My last verification was 15 months ago.
I hid them all a year ago because of a stalker issue and couldn't display them again until this week but during that time no-one has asked about them. A good forum presence can also tell you a lot about a person. |
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I look at the veris and also the profiles who have left them too. I would expect people to do the same to mine. It gives and idea of who they have met (although I do appreciate not all meets result in veris).
If one thing puts me off, its the 'treat them with respect' comment, for some reason it just does my head in. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
I want my veris to stay unpublished as it's nobodies business who I (or my sexual partners) have sex with.
I pinched this idea from someone else's Profile. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"I’d say exactly the same but also add that we do look at the profiles of some of the verifications. You’d be surprised what they sometimes tell you about their conquests. They’re good to give a general idea of the person/couple. "
Love you status. Sums up the struggle perfectly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To me..a veri should say you turned up...good fun....would meet again....
Not how she gushed or how she sucks fucks or anything....its kinda put me off a person....but I read her veris in return and pretty much the same....dont think I will engage with her as much....just keep to the occasional chat....x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Some veris do put me off yes, hands up I'm sometimes a bit of a judgy twunt. I'm cool with that. We all have our own filters and some veris suggest to me the other person isn't compatible with me, nor I with them. |
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
As regular visitors to our local club Liberty Elite we met and socialised with quite a few people. Many have verified us on FAB bit we haven't played with all of them. So people seeing our many veris might be put off, but we just love socialising as much as sexy fun x
Don't take veris too seriously
Mrs N |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone put off by too many veri's? I know some profiles have a thousand plus"
As I’ve mentioned earlier, it’s put people off me in the past.
Doesn’t put me off in the slightest. Think it’s a bit judgemental to be on here and be put off by numbers. Not all veri’s are from sex either. Socials and clubs etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As regular visitors to our local club Liberty Elite we met and socialised with quite a few people. Many have verified us on FAB bit we haven't played with all of them. So people seeing our many veris might be put off, but we just love socialising as much as sexy fun x
Don't take veris too seriously
Mrs N"
Its what was written in the veris that have put me off...to much info lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i never bother looking at the verification as i really dont care to read about them.
as long as someone has the number of veris showing on profile uptop thats cool with me . |
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"Hey fabbers and fabettes...do you read a person's verifications and find yourself a bit put off them? I read one and the veri was very descriptive and made me look at this person in a different way...or maybe veris should be more general? How does verifications work for you? Good or bad?"
I have been put off by someone's veris before yes, but because of who they had met previously  |
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes."
I try to become a Wordsworth with my veris. I make a story, I don’t discuss details (unless they’ve done so on my veri), and try and make them fun too.
My veris, I assure you, aren’t fake lol |
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Yep I have been put off in the past, by over the top graphic ones or ones where they've been verified by the same person several times, seems a bit territorial.
I take the gushing ones with a pinch of salt, I met someone years ago who had really good veries. Yet when I met him, he was nothing like I'd expect from looking at his verifications alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have point blank refused them.
What happens on tour stays on tour.
It is like a trip advisor review (who, what, where, how and sometimes photos)
All that is missing is a score out of 10.
Why do people say they want discretion and then put a list up of who they have been with.
Then again, each to their own
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only got 2-3 veris to tick the fab box.
I'm not trip advisor.
I don't need a star rating or go off someone else's opinion.
I'm real don't believe me that's not my issue.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They are just another piece of the puzzle. I guess in the end if you are put off then you probably weren't that compatible in the first place so probably better to have found out before you met."
I wasn't planning to meet her....she introduced me to this site as friends but just a bit urgh reading what men have done with her in detail lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They don't out me off in general but can make my mind up as to whether I would like to meet them.
If every veri they have is from VWE guys then I'm not going to take it any further as I'm not |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes."
Exactly this. And the possessive "treat this one with respect" type comments. Everyone should be treating everyone else with respect. Surely we don't need to be told to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some are just so nauseating I don't bother coming back on for a good few months.
Some guys come across so creepy in the veris I think the lady needs a medal having that weirdo |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
For my own reasons I don't accept verifications, on a previous couple's profile we had several & we were quite selective about which we would display because some people went into way more detail than necessary.
I do read veris though, if a profile captures my interest, and I also follow the verification trail. There have been several occasions where I have been put off by what I've read or who they have met. |
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Not into the graphic veris at all.
We're all here for the same thing (and it's not like our pictures dont tell a story) but we want to know if the persons we meet are genuine and sociable. Wed rather see "met this lovely person for a coffee and chatted for a few hours before... etc etc" over "arrived at this persons room and proceeded to do x,y or z to them".
Not judging anyone for anything, it's just we enjoy the social side as much as play and without the social side, we wont be playing...so that's what we look for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A verification is just to show you’re real, that’s it. Though it would be kinda cool if someone did me a graphic veri. Not bloody likely, but I can still dream. |
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I was put right off, he had just a few veris but one if them been very descriptive using rather demeaning words of the conquest. Never have I read such gutter type stuff coming from a woman.. left me thinking it's fake |
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"Not into the graphic veris at all.
We're all here for the same thing (and it's not like our pictures dont tell a story) but we want to know if the persons we meet are genuine and sociable. Wed rather see "met this lovely person for a coffee and chatted for a few hours before... etc etc" over "arrived at this persons room and proceeded to do x,y or z to them".
Not judging anyone for anything, it's just we enjoy the social side as much as play and without the social side, we wont be playing...so that's what we look for."
I think mine are somewhere inbetween these two lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can’t decide whether to publish ours or not. We’ve only got a few, but I think we’re kind of thinking as long as people can see your verified and as far as possible genuine, they don’t really need to know the details... |
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"I don't mind any type of veri, it is what it is. "
True.
I'm not knocking anyone's veri's. They are what they are. I just know what appeals to us, when we look at other peoples veri's. You, actually have the type we would favour (not a come on, just you make a good example here).
So in your case, aside from the fact they confirm you're real, they imply you're sociable, funny, lovely to be around and have a banging set of tits (you do by the way  ).
That's the type of people we want to meet.
Physical attraction is one thing (and yes, I know people need that as well) but if there's no click and conversation it isn't going to happen for us.
So yeah, sociable is sexy to us I guess?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes.
I’d say exactly the same but also add that we do look at the profiles of some of the verifications. You’d be surprised what they sometimes tell you about their conquests. They’re good to give a general idea of the person/couple. "
This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't especially like veris that are basically "reviews". A veri should really just show that the person is real, has shown up and is what they say they are.
Graphic descriptions of what they did, along with "hands off, he's mine!", etc, simply look like fakes.Exactly this
Ditto x"
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Some veris can put me off. Graphic ones I take with a pinch of salt. Ones that have been written in such a way you know the other person is not wanting anyone else to meet the person they veried would be a big red flag and I'd stay away I don't need the drama that can bring.
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"A verification is just to show you’re real, that’s it. Though it would be kinda cool if someone did me a graphic veri. Not bloody likely, but I can still dream."
The thing is; the tab you click is ‘Verify genuine’, and that’s all anyone needs to know |
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We had someone cancel a meet short notice because he’d just read our Veri’s and decided he couldn’t compete with the guys we’d already met!
I mean he could have read them before we’d arranged to meet up, we’d been chatting for a few weeks.
We tried exposing Fab wasn’t a competition, and that we like varied meets but to no avail.
We learnt to curate our Veri’s after that to show a more balanced view of what we are looking for and the type of meets we like. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I was put off two men who messaged this evening due to their verifications, not so much the content as such but who they went with. I know it sounds shallow but some of the pics were really quite gross of who verified them. Surprising who goes with who at times. |
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To be honest, we get put off more by profiles who demand "verified only" or "no newbies" - often snottily written in a way a green tick is the be all and end all on here. Tickles us sometimes as said demanding profile was new once and needed someone to take a chance meeting them to verify them.
Depends on the person/people to be honest. Occasionally read them but mostly just go off the actual people we're talking to. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I don't actually read verifications until I start talking with someone. Then once we've conversed a little while, I might read the odd one or two, by that time I've usually already decided if I'd like to take things further.
Tbf, I'm wasting my time reading verifications anyway, as 95% of the time they usually read like 'great girl/bloke. Genuine. Treat them well. Met in a club last night, chatted, didn't play, but hopefully next time.'
I'll quickly browse a verification to see if what's said in it correlates with what's said in their profile, to see if that person is who they are. Pretty easy to tell usually.
Basically verifications really don't mean a lot. |
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Personally I find it off putting if there is elaborate descriptions about the meet etc, for em they should be about the person , their values , and how closely their profile represents them in reality . |
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"Personally I find it off putting if there is elaborate descriptions about the meet etc, for em they should be about the person , their values , and how closely their profile represents them in reality ."
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