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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, so having been on here a little while now, I'm just curious as to how couples manage the accounts, we speak to a few couples that just seem to be the male, it does make me wonder where the female gets involved in the decision of who she's meeting. I (the female) generally reply to messages, we both have access and move onto a group chat if we're both happy.
How do other couples manage the accounts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple. So we both equally do the admin. We discuss everything and if there is someone we like that’s messaged we make it clear that they will be speaking to both of us. And we don’t meet unless it’s at a club or we’ve gotten to know someone through here first followed by group chats so we all have an idea what’s what.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We both make decisions however I (Mrs) do most of the messaging etc if I like someone I give Mr a nudge to have a look but yes he leaves it up to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We both make decisions however I (Mrs) do most of the messaging etc if I like someone I give Mr a nudge to have a look but yes he leaves it up to me.
Mrs"
This is the same for us too |
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I fem pop in and out all day, poking around the forums. I'll reply to the daily messages. I'll block profiles from status updates and forum replies.
Mr, decides when were playing and put up a status & meet (when we could). He will then reply and sort messages.
So we both take a full and active role in the account. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We both make decisions however I (Mrs) do most of the messaging etc if I like someone I give Mr a nudge to have a look but yes he leaves it up to me.
Mrs"
Same for us, if its single men he leaves it generally to me until we get to the point we're likely to arrange a meet then will join in. For couples we both chat |
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"Hi, so having been on here a little while now, I'm just curious as to how couples manage the accounts, we speak to a few couples that just seem to be the male, it does make me wonder where the female gets involved in the decision of who she's meeting. I (the female) generally reply to messages, we both have access and move onto a group chat if we're both happy.
How do other couples manage the accounts? "
I (Cal) am mostly on here on the forums, but only because Anita uses her single account for the forums. She is mostly sat next to me whilst I'm on.
Messages that might lead to meets are always discussed, and usually replies come from Anita.
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"Hi, so having been on here a little while now, I'm just curious as to how couples manage the accounts, we speak to a few couples that just seem to be the male, it does make me wonder where the female gets involved in the decision of who she's meeting. I (the female) generally reply to messages, we both have access and move onto a group chat if we're both happy.
How do other couples manage the accounts?
I (Cal) am mostly on here on the forums, but only because Anita uses her single account for the forums. She is mostly sat next to me whilst I'm on.
Messages that might lead to meets are always discussed, and usually replies come from Anita.
Cal"
Yep... very true
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I'm the him, but I've come to see that it's an extremely changeable thing. We have friends here where 1) he never ever comes online but 2) Isn't Shrek. I kn wo, I know, it sounds unlikely, but they're out there being genuine real humans who have mortgages and train sets and electronic tyre pumps and all... |
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We both read all messages, who replies is often just down to which one of us has the time to do so (although I often leave the more bizarre ones for M to respond to!). We both fab pics, add people to the Hotlist, participate in the forums etc. I generally leave status updates for M to do though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us , it's mostly me( hubby) does the chatting and filtering because Priya can't dedicate time for Fab.
Once the filtering done ,then I pass on to her to check , get approved and then proceed further .
She then chats with the cpls or singles.
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"Hi, so having been on here a little while now, I'm just curious as to how couples manage the accounts, we speak to a few couples that just seem to be the male, it does make me wonder where the female gets involved in the decision of who she's meeting. I (the female) generally reply to messages, we both have access and move onto a group chat if we're both happy.
How do other couples manage the accounts? "
Yes fully understand where your coming from OP. We both try to get involved, however Mr has more free time during the day. If someone asks me a question directly I’ll answer when I can. You can tell it’s two people as our messaging styles are different. Good luck  |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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I can only speak for us. YMMV.
I (Mr.) run the account.
It's me who goes on the forum, it's me in chat (I always state this in chat) and it's me politely telling folk stuff that's already in the profile.
In our case, we're here for me to get involved, with her as a spectator, as it were. We have photos of both, frankly, so we don't disappoint folk who are looking for a pair of supermodels (she's a bigger lass, I'm slim, not everyone's taste and that's cool but I wouldn't want to meet with someone who likes the look of me and hadn't seen her etc.). |
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We both use it... However the scotsman messages. Not through choice. Lincs cannot be bothered! She loves to post pics and occasionally cams.
How it works with us. We discuss what we want to experience. The scotsman finds options, we discuss again. Then lincs will say hello.
It works for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, so having been on here a little while now, I'm just curious as to how couples manage the accounts, we speak to a few couples that just seem to be the male, it does make me wonder where the female gets involved in the decision of who she's meeting. I (the female) generally reply to messages, we both have access and move onto a group chat if we're both happy.
How do other couples manage the accounts? "
Sometimes it's just a man wanking. There is no 'female'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr tends to deal with the social media side of things as Mrs can't be bothered with all the hassle side of things.
I'll show her any messages and profiles that might catch her eye and we'll discuss.
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We both use the profile, sometimes Rob is on more, other times I am.
Rob sorts all the photos and vids for the profile. If I haven’t been on much he will tell me to look at any potentials we have had a message from. If I’ve been on and think there is someone of merit I’ll tell him to have a look.
Generally I’ll speak to guys, Rob generally speaks to couples/ ladies then maybe progress to group chat, but prefer to just have a social as we find group chats effort. We would rather find out if there is actual attraction in person sooner rather than later (been a bit hard during the past year for obvious reasons)
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We are both active on here and both read and respond to messages, except if it’s single guys, who we aren’t interested in, then I (the male) will reply so they don’t have access to C.
When a profile interests us then we let the other know so they can view. We make decisions together but we also know who each other’s type are so we’d know we could send a message to people too.
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Mainly Mr checks messages but anything that stands out goes into the ‘saved’ folder. MrsJ reads through those but will quickly go down the unread list and bulk delete. Photos are a joint decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are both active on here and both read and respond to messages, except if it’s single guys, who we aren’t interested in, then I (the male) will reply so they don’t have access to C.
When a profile interests us then we let the other know so they can view. We make decisions together but we also know who each other’s type are so we’d know we could send a message to people too.
K"
Exactly our approach - which is why we’re friends!
Both confidently active on here, both write to profiles and chat with like minds. Much more fun for us with both involved.
But just so fed up with flakes, fakes, dreamers and the unreliable, which is why we’re more active elsewhere now. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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I (Bry) do the vast majority of the "Fabmin" here. Char just doesn't have the patience to deal with the awful messages we get. Anything I think might take her interest then I leave unread, and any conversations she has ongoing with people I leave unread for her. Char always decides (either with me or on her own) who she wants to play with but I then generally make the arrangements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple who meet mostly together but we have different online approaches. I’m the guy and I fiddle with my phone more and like to keep in touch with a few fab friends. I also browse the site and add to the hotlist for us to consider together later, generally Saturday mornings in bed.
MissJ isn’t a fan of being online all the time and prefers me to deal with correspondence etc. She does send and answer emails herself but that is pretty much always to somebody we have met, it will meet.
I also deal with the many emails which come in but don’t say much etc
It has seemed to work so far. Mostly. X |
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It's always me (her) who replies to initial messages and chats in the forum. Mr doesn't have the time and gets a bit bored with it all. He pops on just to see if I am chatting to anyone of interest and we talk about anyone I think it is worth meeting. He tends to leave it down to me with the single guys and with couples we would look to move to group chat so it's easier for everyone to be involved. It's just what works best for people really, everyone is different.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who meet mostly together but we have different online approaches. I’m the guy and I fiddle with my phone more and like to keep in touch with a few fab friends. I also browse the site and add to the hotlist for us to consider together later, generally Saturday mornings in bed.
MissJ isn’t a fan of being online all the time and prefers me to deal with correspondence etc. She does send and answer emails herself but that is pretty much always to somebody we have met, it will meet.
I also deal with the many emails which come in but don’t say much etc
It has seemed to work so far. Mostly. X"
The hotlist is a good idea, I actually forget at times to reply to messages etc when waiting on A to look. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple who meet mostly together but we have different online approaches. I’m the guy and I fiddle with my phone more and like to keep in touch with a few fab friends. I also browse the site and add to the hotlist for us to consider together later, generally Saturday mornings in bed.
MissJ isn’t a fan of being online all the time and prefers me to deal with correspondence etc. She does send and answer emails herself but that is pretty much always to somebody we have met, it will meet.
I also deal with the many emails which come in but don’t say much etc
It has seemed to work so far. Mostly. X
The hotlist is a good idea, I actually forget at times to reply to messages etc when waiting on A to look. "
Same here. The number of people who get fed up because they have to wait for MissJ to look…
Still, it is worth it in the end. |
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Mr4 mainly deals with the messages as mrs4 isn't to keen on it due to past experiences and she prefers going in the chat room on cam ( to prove she is actually real) and have a natter but mr4 keeps her informed of anyone that might peak her interest but she has the final say on meeting ...  |
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Luna has no interest in the forums so that part is usually myself, we both fab pics, neither of us care much for winks, and we both read messages and delete as appropriate, then we respond to any messages that appeal to us together, occasionally we will each send a reply without the other but that's only when we know the other would be happy for us to do so, and we always sign off on messages so the 3rd party knows who they are talking to.
Mr H.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we're playing the wife does a lot of the chatting and arranging as she's the one that plays, when we're not looking she very rarely comes onto fab unless I show her something that might interest her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mainly me that answers the messages as I'm better at messenging, Mr J is better in person but we both have access to the fab account and he does come on here to nose.
If we exchange face pictures and want to meet the couple we go into a group chat outside of fab.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it’s rather one of the other that just pops on to read the mail and exchange a message or two. There is no knowing who you will get but we are both as active on here xxx |
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We find each couple manages things differently.
For us, we both use the account and check on from time to time. Some weeks Lily is more active, and other weeks it’s myself.
If we get a message we want the other person to read before we reply, we mark it as unread again.
Interestingly we’ve had people block us after that, they assume that we’ve read the message and not replied because we weren’t interested. Quite often it’s the opposite!
When messaging we just sign off with our names, keeps things easy for all involved.
- John |
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By *pl83mfCouple
over a year ago
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When only tend to come online when we are both together. There are times that its him responding and others it's her.
If we find that it's mostly the male partner or single male that is chatting it is her replying. The reverse is the case if it a girl.
We are pretty open or split the writtkng if we are chatting with another couple. |
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"Hi, so having been on here a little while now, I'm just curious as to how couples manage the accounts, we speak to a few couples that just seem to be the male, it does make me wonder where the female gets involved in the decision of who she's meeting. I (the female) generally reply to messages, we both have access and move onto a group chat if we're both happy.
How do other couples manage the accounts? "
We do exactly the same and only message when we are both there x
4 way chat is the only way we will go if we communicate off line x |
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We are a couple and only come on here when we are both together and add both our opinions and what we want to say in chats etc we've had meets arranged but at last minute the female couldn't make it but the male still wanted to go ahead with the meet x |
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It is mostly me (Mr) who does all the fabmin. Mrs reads all the messages - we talk about them but she leaves the replying to me. We always meet together and after agreeing we both think it could be fun |
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For us it’s me (the male), who does a majority of the fabmin......I consider it “research” while Rose considers it “perving” .
After over 12 years I’m pretty confident I know what kind of profile will appeal to us both, but obviously Rose does all the final “audit”.
Ultimately we evolved into those roles as a filter for the dross, we may be generalising, but as a guy, I’m used to knock backs and failures so I don’t worry about them. Rose used to take them seriously and personally.
I’m just shallow I guess..... |
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