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Choosing the right one?
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Good morning you Fab lot.
We love nothing better than spending an evening with another couple but we now quite like to try our first MFM. This is mainly so MrsJ gets the attention she deserves and that I can watch her having that attention. Obviously during foursomes I’m mainly busy elsewhere. I love the look on her face, the smile and glint in her eye but I mainly miss these signs!
MrsJ has been reading some messages we received after our status plea but now has said I should choose someone. Only criteria is 30+, not too close to where we live, and the obvious clean/smart and decent.
As a husband, how do I decide who to choose? I’m straight so it’s not that I can choose a man who I find attractive. Asking you gents, how did you choose a sex partner for your wife?
Asking you ladies, did your husband get it right? What are the main qualities I need to look for?
I feel like being an interviewer for a very important job.  |
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Start with who she will find physically attractive (you should know this )
Try to avoid anyone who looks like they want to be auditioning for a porno. As you said, it is spoiling her, not pumping away.
Chose someone you can have a chat and a beer with.
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I would never let someone else choose who I have sex with but I understand that for some couples this is a turn on.
I honestly don't think asking us will help you though, you need guidance from her. Does she like tall, dark, blond, hairy, smooth?
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As a single guy, I can't really help.
But I do find it odd when guys say they can't tell which men are attractive.
I'm straight, but I can tell Tom Hardy is hot and Mr Tumble is not (no offence if you read that Mr Tumble). I just wouldn't want to fuck him.
There is nothing wrong with that.
Anyway, it's great you are thinking of her and wanting the best for her. Good luck with the auditions  |
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"I .......Does she like tall, dark, blond, hairy, smooth?
Good luck, hope you both enjoy"
There wouldn’t be any single one of those pints that would be a complete turn off. The main thing would certainly be someone with the right mental attitude rather than physical. Having said that; fat, dirty and smelly wouldn’t do me any favours either.
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"Why dont you ask her to hotlist a selection, and go from there, that way you have an idea who she would be interested in, but you can make the choice "
That’s an idea. I have to say that the majority in our Hotlist are my choices. Maybe I should have a clear out and ask her to add a few. Give me an idea of ‘the type’. |
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If she wants you to choose go by your sense of who and what she finds attractive in someone and opt for a guy with good verifications but not too many...someone respectful and experienced...and enjoy |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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I'd say wait until the clubs open. There you'll be able to choose someone who's clean, respectful, pleasant and attractive enough without having to rely on possibly fake photos and a hyped up profile. Also you'll be in a safe environment and you'll be sure the guy will turn up because he's in front of you. |
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Mr here. I'd say go with her hotlisting half a dozen or so. Then you can interact with them via message and whittle them down. You will just know if someone will be the right fit or not by chatting for a while. |
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"I'd say wait until the clubs open. There you'll be able to choose someone who's clean, respectful, pleasant and attractive enough without having to rely on possibly fake photos and a hyped up profile. Also you'll be in a safe environment and you'll be sure the guy will turn up because he's in front of you. "
Couldn't agree more, having experienced this first hand. |
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"If she wants you to choose go by your sense of who and what she finds attractive in someone and opt for a guy with good verifications but not too many...someone respectful and experienced...and enjoy "
You’re right there. I was interesting one fella, quite a bit younger than us, nice photos etc but then read his numerous verifications.  Double anal fisting isn’t something we’re looking for!! |
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"I'd say wait until the clubs open. There you'll be able to choose someone who's clean, respectful, pleasant and attractive enough without having to rely on possibly fake photos and a hyped up profile. Also you'll be in a safe environment and you'll be sure the guy will turn up because he's in front of you. "
Clubs was the initial thought but so far we seem to only come across the more ‘wanking zombie’ types that follow you around all night. We normally go on couples events but will give the other nights a try again.
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"If she wants you to choose go by your sense of who and what she finds attractive in someone and opt for a guy with good verifications but not too many...someone respectful and experienced...and enjoy
You’re right there. I was interesting one fella, quite a bit younger than us, nice photos etc but then read his numerous verifications. Double anal fisting isn’t something we’re looking for!!"
Correct...and your profile is detailed and specific...who you ultimately choose will have read and understood...the hallmark of a decent fab guy. The first time is a big moment for both of you and maybe the first of many. You both deserve it to be memorable  |
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Have been through this process before with an ex. Make sure you’ve talked through literally EVERYTHING before choosing the guy - who can do what, expectations, limits etc.
Find the person together and make sure there is a good connection over a beer. Personality is just as important as looks. And have fun. |
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"Good morning you Fab lot.
We love nothing better than spending an evening with another couple but we now quite like to try our first MFM. This is mainly so MrsJ gets the attention she deserves and that I can watch her having that attention. Obviously during foursomes I’m mainly busy elsewhere. I love the look on her face, the smile and glint in her eye but I mainly miss these signs!
MrsJ has been reading some messages we received after our status plea but now has said I should choose someone. Only criteria is 30+, not too close to where we live, and the obvious clean/smart and decent.
As a husband, how do I decide who to choose? I’m straight so it’s not that I can choose a man who I find attractive. Asking you gents, how did you choose a sex partner for your wife?
Asking you ladies, did your husband get it right? What are the main qualities I need to look for?
I feel like being an interviewer for a very important job. "
I’d say you don’t choose, let MrsJ take her pick from the sweet shop.
How do we apply? Lol x |
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"I'm straight, but I can tell Tom Hardy is hot and Mr Tumble is not (no offence if you read that Mr Tumble).
spot on that made me LOL
Poor old Mr Tumble!"
I’ll update our profile to say “no Mr. Tumble types. “ |
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"I'm straight, but I can tell Tom Hardy is hot and Mr Tumble is not (no offence if you read that Mr Tumble).
spot on that made me LOL
Poor old Mr Tumble!
I’ll update our profile to say “no Mr. Tumble types. “"
I actually looked to see if you had!!!  |
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"I'm straight, but I can tell Tom Hardy is hot and Mr Tumble is not (no offence if you read that Mr Tumble).
spot on that made me LOL
Poor old Mr Tumble!
I’ll update our profile to say “no Mr. Tumble types. “
I actually looked to see if you had!!! "
I had to Google what Mr Tumble looked like. |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm straight, but I can tell Tom Hardy is hot and Mr Tumble is not (no offence if you read that Mr Tumble).
spot on that made me LOL
Poor old Mr Tumble!
I’ll update our profile to say “no Mr. Tumble types. “
I actually looked to see if you had!!!
I had to Google what Mr Tumble looked like. "
Anyone with young kids knows. Very annoying! |
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When we finally get around to MFM (damn covid), Mrs KC gets to choose and I'm just there to make sure I don't pick up any bad vibes and then it would be a joint decision. We'd probably have a social first, unless it was in a club.
But I'd let the lady choose - she's got to be attracted and sometimes it's intangible stuff.
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"Good morning you Fab lot.
We love nothing better than spending an evening with another couple but we now quite like to try our first MFM. This is mainly so MrsJ gets the attention she deserves and that I can watch her having that attention. Obviously during foursomes I’m mainly busy elsewhere. I love the look on her face, the smile and glint in her eye but I mainly miss these signs!
MrsJ has been reading some messages we received after our status plea but now has said I should choose someone. Only criteria is 30+, not too close to where we live, and the obvious clean/smart and decent.
As a husband, how do I decide who to choose? I’m straight so it’s not that I can choose a man who I find attractive. Asking you gents, how did you choose a sex partner for your wife?
Asking you ladies, did your husband get it right? What are the main qualities I need to look for?
I feel like being an interviewer for a very important job. "
Asking complete strangers what your qualities your wife would want in a meet is very strange.
Sounds like you already have the criteria. 30+, not local, decent. Just pick the last one who mailed you. |
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"I'd say wait until the clubs open. There you'll be able to choose someone who's clean, respectful, pleasant and attractive enough without having to rely on possibly fake photos and a hyped up profile. Also you'll be in a safe environment and you'll be sure the guy will turn up because he's in front of you. "
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