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How do you let your neighbours know that 'you know'?
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So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet? |
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"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
You could politely message saying who you are. I don't see any point in hinting. Are you prepared for awkwardness if they don't want to interact with you? |
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over a year ago
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I wouldnt directly let them know but maybe you could put a status up relating to something happening near you say drinks in a local pub or an event that may be happening better still if anything relating to your street in the hope they see it , if you get blocked you know they are not interested and want their privacy kept if they respond its a conversation starter, also use the who's near they may use it as well and just send a wink it will show your close |
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"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
I wouldn’t play that close to home |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"We wouldn't mind at all if someone said hi as long as we were alone at the time away from others. At the end of the day everyone on fab is after the same thing. Nothing to be ashamed of x"
Exactly this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say this would be a little close to home for my liking and to be fair would block them to save any awkwardness later, if you did meet and it all went sour you still live two doors apart
That said there was a couple on here who knew their neighbour (who was also on here) very well, although they never played together to be fair, so they could talk about fab with no problems and they still do |
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A guy who lived near us messaged very politely to say he knew us (we'd attended the same organised social). He never made things awkward, we hope we didn't either and we'd chat whenever we saw each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d leave it be, a mate always told me “never shit where you eat”, and whilst it’s in a total different context I would say the same here.
What if they want to keep their private life, private, and they have some dickhead from number ‘12’ messaging them ‘I know where you live’, not only will they feel violated, but will also cause neighbourhood issues. Especially if you are not what they are looking for.
There is literally 10,000s couples on here if not more, I’d leave them be and look elsewhere. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"A guy who lived near us messaged very politely to say he knew us (we'd attended the same organised social). He never made things awkward, we hope we didn't either and we'd chat whenever we saw each other. "
Aw. You really do live up to your name of "nice couple" |
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By *ands09Couple
over a year ago
West London |
"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
First and foremost - does their profile says that they actively looking for single men ?.. second do you fit their requirement in terms of age, appearance and endowment ?.. finally if you think you fit the bill, then then why not try and make friends with the male and slowly hint that you on fab too |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
Their is the alternative yes you could send a polite message without giving location and obviously ask if they have ever met or would consider meeting people who lived closer and if so how close would be to close this would give you a positive response and from this respecting each other views and also give you an answer whether to leave alone and block so each other could continue to enjoy and move forward
Hope this helps |
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You (op) would probably be last person they would consider playing with, even if you were the absolutely perfect guy, that ticked every criteria that they set out, purely because of your location !!
We have played with single guys and couples in the town we live in but wouldn’t consider anyone that lived on the same street !
what would happen if you don’t hit it off or if any problems arose ( from either side ?)
For most people, swinging is additional to their personal lives, why would you want the neighbours to know what your sexual preferences are !!
And just adding from the male half of the couple, I love watching E being pleasured by lots of guys but I would not be happy with a single male swinger living two doors down thinking he could just knock on when he’s horny lol
( that’s probably me being overly defensive, sorry  ) |
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"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
Essentially it would depend on a few aspects really.
A) Are you a fit in their age range and preferences? If not then take things no further.
B) If you pass the above, then how do you know it is them? If it’s because they have face pics in their public pics then they may be more open to contact... if it’s because you recognise them from tattoos or their house or something then things are trickier.
For B... if it’s face pics then message ON FAB ONLY with face pics of your own explaining who you are etc and leave them to decide.... if it’s from recognising something about them that others may not then I’d be tempted to not get in contact first, but if you do, ONLY ON FAB, do NOT mention you know them and include face pics so again they can decide if they want to go further.
No matter what, keep things polite and friendly and ONLY through here until they agree to anything offline |
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If your missus is as shy as you say, and she does indeed know of Fab.
How will she cope with the knowledge the someone so close, and interacts with on a daily basis, knows of this?
I would not say anything.
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
They must know that you're nearby. If they were wanting local playmates they'd probably have enquired already.
Short of putting a box of fab lollies on top of your recycling bin on bin day, I'd leave it. |
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Look at it this way. You know what they look like, where they live and that they're swingers with (presumably) identifiable photos on here. Thats a massive advantage you have over them. They know you on nodding terms.
We don't give out face pics, our address or meet anyone within ten miles to insulate ourselves from being outed as swingers or have to run into a meet in Tesco that went bad.
Personally, we'd either block them for the good of all concerned or at the very most, perve on them from afar but not make contact beyond being neighbourly in real life (which may lead to friendship and possibilities down the line)  |
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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago
south west |
I recognised a girl on here when I joined a new gym. I pondered how to say hello, so I put a status update that was suitably vague, along the lines of “is it rude to introduce myself to someone from fab who I recognise in the gym?”
Within an hour or so, she messaged me saying “ha, thought that was you!”
It’s not gone anywhere other than a smile and wave, and I don’t think it will. I do check her out in her leggings, she knows I do and enjoys it! But I would never ever try and take her safe place from her - I would think this couple is probably the same. Put a vague update up, it might get their attention enough to either message you or block you. Either of which answers your question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a few people that live nearby. We often talk about our fab antics. I am friends with singles and couples yet don't play with them all as we have no chemistry. I'm still friends with them.
It's fun when we talk about what we've been up to. Nice to chat with like minded people . Go for it OP What have you got to lose? |
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We’ve found one of our neighbours here on Fab. He was actually a customer of mine too. He messaged to say he thought we could be quite local. I replied to say we were VERY local. He asked how I knew, I replied with his first name. We chat on here but nothing more. He’s looking for different to us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get the pampas grass. Anyone tell me?
It's a commonly held belief that pampas grass in the garden means swingers live in the house. It isn't true of course  "
Don't know whether to cut mine down or not now. Do I put up with the strange looks off neighbours and men knocking on my door only to say wrong number? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?
We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.
Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
Nope. Just block them and keep that way.
We don't play with people within 3 miles radius. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hang about outside their home eating a fab ice lolly commenting on how much you love fab. Then start up a conversation about drugs. When they mention any simply say 'I've just given you a 24 hour ban from contact with me'.
They'll know you're on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can get weird if your neighbours know about you. I doubt it will end in sexy time and if you come across as creepy then that's a whole other handling
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