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1st experience as a couple inviting a male or female to join
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Whow did this experience go? I know it can go 2 ways, either make a relationship or totally destroy it with jelousy overtaking and breaking a relationship.
I guess theirs no real way to know unless your actually in the moment and your doing it but has was your 1st experience as a couple (if your still together lol)
How did you go about it in the right way did you arrange a meet for soft play 1st or did you go straight in? Even if jelousy didnt become a problem did you feel any jelousy even in a bit of a kinky way? |
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i watched my wife have full sex with a guy on our first meet, she absolutely loved it and we have done it many times since. the jealousy feelings are hard to describe, yes they exist but thats part of the huge turn on. Our marriage is very solid and enduring and we now have a totally open relationship, which you can only have with complete trust |
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"i watched my wife have full sex with a guy on our first meet, she absolutely loved it and we have done it many times since. the jealousy feelings are hard to describe, yes they exist but thats part of the huge turn on. Our marriage is very solid and enduring and we now have a totally open relationship, which you can only have with complete trust"
My/our fear would be it being just a fantasy, and once its done theirs no going back if it wasnt good for the relationship |
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Our first meet was a foursome and we both loved seeing the other having fun. The complete lack of jealousy was a surprise but a good one. I think it helped that afterwards we went at each other for good session just by ourselves. M and N xx |
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"Our first meet was a foursome and we both loved seeing the other having fun. The complete lack of jealousy was a surprise but a good one. I think it helped that afterwards we went at each other for good session just by ourselves. M and N xx"
This is exactly our aim for our first experience. We both want to see each other having fun to see how we'll feel, we're pretty sure we'll love it. |
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This is something we BOTH really enjoy. There is no jealousy either way as we get a buzz from knowing the partner is fully enjoying the action but also being watched.
If there any jealous feelings perhaps you shouldn't be here at all.
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You need to agree before that any negative emotions brought up will be discussed *without blame* afterwards*. If you worry that it could destroy your relationship don't do it, you're not ready, discuss it more before you go ahead. |
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This is sound advice. Always discuss the possible negative feelings before hand and how you will handle them. Taking the plunge without discussing them will lead to possible issues later and not healthy for any relationship. |
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"i watched my wife have full sex with a guy on our first meet, she absolutely loved it and we have done it many times since. the jealousy feelings are hard to describe, yes they exist but thats part of the huge turn on. Our marriage is very solid and enduring and we now have a totally open relationship, which you can only have with complete trust
My/our fear would be it being just a fantasy, and once its done theirs no going back if it wasnt good for the relationship"
As a very basic premise I'd say unless you're in a rock solid marriage from every perspective, then leave swinging alone.
You'll never solve anything by either swopping your partner or sharing her with another guy.
Sort out any doubts or problems then enjoy the fun.
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I was in a club with x Lexi x and we were talking to a couple whilst drinking tea. Yep, hardcore I know.
After a bit, Lexi turned to me and said “are you going to fuck her or what?” 
I had no idea that the conversation had been leading that way. I thought we were all just talking and being social haha I may have blushed a little.
Then the female of the couple said “ok, let’s just finish our drinks first”. I took a look at the guy. He could have tore my arms from my limbs and slapped me with with my own hand he was that big, strong and muscly!!!
We went into a room, I don’t remember where Lexi went, and I started to undress the female. I had my head between her legs and then happened to look over at muscles, expecting him to be ready to kill me.......he’s smiling.
So I asked him “are you joining in?” They both looked at each other, kinda giggled a little, and she replied “no, he likes to watch”.
Was an amazing experience. The couple sometimes message me and we have a nice chat, think they want a second go at Little Tony
Next time, I’ll make him wear a sickie bow and serve water to cool us down haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have discuss this a few times and are planning are first experience together in august for my 40th. Softplay to start with and see how it goes just need to find right person or couple thay are in the same situation as us. |
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First time was a mmff, there was a pang of jealousy but very short lived and far outweighed by the fun we had during and after. Still hot when we think / talk about it now. 2nd time no jealousy at all. Overall I think its made our relationship stronger with less worry / jealousy altogether  |
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