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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" As many people will tell you, cheating and swinging are completely different. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. | |||
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"Op let people do as they wish not our problem and you do not have to meet the cheats. Do not think it's the easiest site to meet I would probably say the people here and looking for far more than other apps." I was Introduced to fab by a lady, Who then got upset as she still felt it was still cheating even if we were swinging, So it works both ways  | |||
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"Chatting with someone who says they can accommodate...but only while his wife is at work! We are not sneaking around anybody's home while they are at work. " You could treat it like role play, Pretending your buying the house and it’s exciting that he may get caught? | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. " Admire your honesty bro  | |||
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"Op let people do as they wish not our problem and you do not have to meet the cheats. Do not think it's the easiest site to meet I would probably say the people here and looking for far more than other apps." Am not judging I totally get it I just like to hear peoples specific reasons | |||
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"I'd say fab is much cheaper than the married sites,hence then joining here. Plus maybe doesn't show on any bank statements etc. Some will cheat because they are in sexless relationships, however have seen many profiles admit they do get sex at home and are greedy. So no one size fits all It's the ones that try to justify it on the forums that get on peoples nerves i think. " Totally agree, no ones hear to judge but trying to justify it just gets peoples backs up. I just like to hear specific reasons | |||
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but it's cheating not swinging regardless of sex and trying to get a meet on here most times is pretty hard with out throwing in ... | |||
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"A lot of the people who are on here cheating aren't honest about it on their profile so are very unlikely to comment on this post OP. " Totally get that and understand why as alot of women on fab are not interested in men who are knowingly in relationships without the partners knowledge | |||
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 A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" I think some people like sex with multiple partners and so crack on and get it. Their partner may or may not know, I guess, and we tend not to ask questions. We see swinging as a separate part of life. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. Admire your honesty bro "im in the exact same boat and that’s why I’m here. | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into. "Admire your honesty, ive only start being active on the forums as of late so would not have come across your story | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into.
Admire your honesty, ive only start being active on the forums as of late so would not have come across your story "I can accommodate and meet anytime of day , But not undated yet lol , More meets on Badoo then here , Enjoy the forum for chats  | |||
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"We play with one of S best mates he is married and has a kid. Do we feel bad about it no. His choice to play, both partners in the marriage married for convenience rather than love. They haven't had sex for over a year. But live together and sleep in separate beds. We are a secure and safe way for him to enjoy his sexual desires. We are no threat to his marriage. And in a way we both feel sorry for him. Trapped in a marriage of convenience. " Wow very insightful story, thanks for sharing | |||
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"Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. " Precisely, that isn’t cheating. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Same here. Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. " | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Same here. Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. " | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" Haven't had one of these for a day. Some do, some don't. Shades of gray. | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into. "And let the judgement begin. Walk a mile in a man's shoes etc... | |||
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"You get one shot at life and in the grand scheme of things we are here for the blink of an eye. Why spend your days been miserable with someone who doesnt fulfill all your needs physically and or emotionally. Sneaking around breaking that person's heart when they find out, which can take some YEARS to get over. Go out and live your life to the maximum and if that max has to be without your current partner well then better to sit down and have that conversation with them and let them get living to. This whole "its not as easy as that for some" line doesnt wash. It is as easy as that, yes it's the harder choice to make but doing the right thing always tends to be harder way to go. Tuppence worth for what it's worth. " I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends  ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
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" I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
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I get it completley aswell but you pointed out exactly what I said. The only reasons to stay are because its easier logistically and financially.
Having grown up in a home with 2 parents like this I can tell you it's better for the kids to see less of there parents than watch them be miserable together. The long lasting effects it leaves on some children into adulthood is awful.
I was on my death bed a few years ago and was sure my number was up so I speak from experience here. I never once wished I had more money. The only things I wished for was more time but more time well spent.
Dont normally get deep on here and really not judging anyone who does this just wish people could see we are here for such little time dont waste it sneaking around with the possibility of breaking someone's heart, go out enjoy life and make a positive difference to others. | |||
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" I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
They say 3rd time is a charm
I get it completley aswell but you pointed out exactly what I said. The only reasons to stay are because its easier logistically and financially.
Having grown up in a home with 2 parents like this I can tell you it's better for the kids to see less of there parents than watch them be miserable together. The long lasting effects it leaves on some children into adulthood is awful.
I was on my death bed a few years ago and was sure my number was up so I speak from experience here. I never once wished I had more money. The only things I wished for was more time but more time well spent.
Dont normally get deep on here and really not judging anyone who does this just wish people could see we are here for such little time dont waste it sneaking around with the possibility of breaking someone's heart, go out enjoy life and make a positive difference to others. "Another adult child here who's still unable to form healthy romantic relationships due to many factors, including growing up in a home that was clearly lacking loving love (rather than familiar or "responsibility love"), being cheated on in my own relationship and ending up being a mistress when I thought I was a partner/girlfriend. Had I had a healthy family home (and children CAN AND DO sense things) I do think my romantic life would have been different and I'd not now be 100% closed off to future relationships. | |||
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" I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
They say 3rd time is a charm
I get it completley aswell but you pointed out exactly what I said. The only reasons to stay are because its easier logistically and financially.
Having grown up in a home with 2 parents like this I can tell you it's better for the kids to see less of there parents than watch them be miserable together. The long lasting effects it leaves on some children into adulthood is awful.
I was on my death bed a few years ago and was sure my number was up so I speak from experience here. I never once wished I had more money. The only things I wished for was more time but more time well spent.
Dont normally get deep on here and really not judging anyone who does this just wish people could see we are here for such little time dont waste it sneaking around with the possibility of breaking someone's heart, go out enjoy life and make a positive difference to others.
Another adult child here who's still unable to form healthy romantic relationships due to many factors, including growing up in a home that was clearly lacking loving love (rather than familiar or "responsibility love"), being cheated on in my own relationship and ending up being a mistress when I thought I was a partner/girlfriend.
Had I had a healthy family home (and children CAN AND DO sense things) I do think my romantic life would have been different and I'd not now be 100% closed off to future relationships. "Peach, no pressure to respond but im interested to understand better. In your childhood Did your folks stay together "for the kids" but not for loving love as you write? | |||
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"You get one shot at life and in the grand scheme of things we are here for the blink of an eye. Why spend your days been miserable with someone who doesnt fulfill all your needs physically and or emotionally. Sneaking around breaking that person's heart when they find out, which can take some YEARS to get over. Go out and live your life to the maximum and if that max has to be without your current partner well then better to sit down and have that conversation with them and let them get living to. This whole "its not as easy as that for some" line doesnt wash. It is as easy as that, yes it's the harder choice to make but doing the right thing always tends to be harder way to go. Tuppence worth for what it's worth. " I agree in principal but it's not often down to staying for the children or financial reasons so it can be harder to be selfish just choose a fun life disregarding everyone else | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into.
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Walk a mile in a man's shoes etc... "I’ve posted this several times and fortunately, I’ve never been harshly judged on here. I suppose being a woman works in my favour! So... sorry to disappoint you if you wanted to see blood spilled. I am always very transparent in my situation. Some people have asked me if it is revenge... not really. I just wanted the same he had. I found someone just as things were crumbling with his mistress. Tough... maybe if they hadn’t broken up, we’d both be in parallel relationships, or we’d had split up... who knows. | |||
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" I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
They say 3rd time is a charm
I get it completley aswell but you pointed out exactly what I said. The only reasons to stay are because its easier logistically and financially.
Having grown up in a home with 2 parents like this I can tell you it's better for the kids to see less of there parents than watch them be miserable together. The long lasting effects it leaves on some children into adulthood is awful.
I was on my death bed a few years ago and was sure my number was up so I speak from experience here. I never once wished I had more money. The only things I wished for was more time but more time well spent.
Dont normally get deep on here and really not judging anyone who does this just wish people could see we are here for such little time dont waste it sneaking around with the possibility of breaking someone's heart, go out enjoy life and make a positive difference to others. "Do love this post. I agree wholeheartedly. | |||
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" I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
They say 3rd time is a charm
I get it completley aswell but you pointed out exactly what I said. The only reasons to stay are because its easier logistically and financially.
Having grown up in a home with 2 parents like this I can tell you it's better for the kids to see less of there parents than watch them be miserable together. The long lasting effects it leaves on some children into adulthood is awful.
I was on my death bed a few years ago and was sure my number was up so I speak from experience here. I never once wished I had more money. The only things I wished for was more time but more time well spent.
Dont normally get deep on here and really not judging anyone who does this just wish people could see we are here for such little time dont waste it sneaking around with the possibility of breaking someone's heart, go out enjoy life and make a positive difference to others.
Another adult child here who's still unable to form healthy romantic relationships due to many factors, including growing up in a home that was clearly lacking loving love (rather than familiar or "responsibility love"), being cheated on in my own relationship and ending up being a mistress when I thought I was a partner/girlfriend.
Had I had a healthy family home (and children CAN AND DO sense things) I do think my romantic life would have been different and I'd not now be 100% closed off to future relationships.
Peach, no pressure to respond but im interested to understand better. In your childhood Did your folks stay together "for the kids" but not for loving love as you write? "100% When my dad left when I was 17 I outright asked him why he didn't do it sooner coz it was blatant. There was absolute zero intimacy or even affection. They'd been grown apart for years. Dad's reply "I needed to make sure you were OK to stand on your own 2 feet" I understand the thought process, I understand the sense of responsibility. I do. However... I felt so fucking guilty for years that my parents were essentially staying in an unhappy marriage because of me. If I hadn't been born they'd have gone their separate ways many years earlier and had the opportunity to live happier lives. I'd have also much rather have had 2 happy homes separately than one where you could practically inhale the hidden misery | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into. "You deserve your life on here | |||
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" I agree fully with the hurt as I'd never cheat BUT having gone through one divorce and now going through my second (I'm almost as bad as Ross from Friends ) I can see why the easier thing would be to stay.
Now I know this is playing devil's advocate but there are many factors like knowing you're not going to see your kids as much, having nowhere to live, losing some income for upkeep of family and the fact that you will break someone's heart who actually still means an awful lot to you even if you don't have sex anymore.
I couldn't cheat but I try to understand why others do. Personally I couldn't walk back in knowing what I'd done and carry on as normal. But that's just me. X
They say 3rd time is a charm
I get it completley aswell but you pointed out exactly what I said. The only reasons to stay are because its easier logistically and financially.
Having grown up in a home with 2 parents like this I can tell you it's better for the kids to see less of there parents than watch them be miserable together. The long lasting effects it leaves on some children into adulthood is awful.
I was on my death bed a few years ago and was sure my number was up so I speak from experience here. I never once wished I had more money. The only things I wished for was more time but more time well spent.
Dont normally get deep on here and really not judging anyone who does this just wish people could see we are here for such little time dont waste it sneaking around with the possibility of breaking someone's heart, go out enjoy life and make a positive difference to others.
Another adult child here who's still unable to form healthy romantic relationships due to many factors, including growing up in a home that was clearly lacking loving love (rather than familiar or "responsibility love"), being cheated on in my own relationship and ending up being a mistress when I thought I was a partner/girlfriend.
Had I had a healthy family home (and children CAN AND DO sense things) I do think my romantic life would have been different and I'd not now be 100% closed off to future relationships.
Peach, no pressure to respond but im interested to understand better. In your childhood Did your folks stay together "for the kids" but not for loving love as you write?
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When my dad left when I was 17 I outright asked him why he didn't do it sooner coz it was blatant. There was absolute zero intimacy or even affection. They'd been grown apart for years.
Dad's reply "I needed to make sure you were OK to stand on your own 2 feet"
I understand the thought process, I understand the sense of responsibility. I do. However... I felt so fucking guilty for years that my parents were essentially staying in an unhappy marriage because of me. If I hadn't been born they'd have gone their separate ways many years earlier and had the opportunity to live happier lives.
I'd have also much rather have had 2 happy homes separately than one where you could practically inhale the hidden misery "Thanks. I would have done the same with mine but my ex insisted on divorce and 15 years later I'm still fighting my demons. It's amazing how the sins of the father are laid upon the children. I wish I knew then what I know now that's for sure. | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into.
And let the judgement begin.
Walk a mile in a man's shoes etc...
I’ve posted this several times and fortunately, I’ve never been harshly judged on here. I suppose being a woman works in my favour! So... sorry to disappoint you if you wanted to see blood spilled.
I am always very transparent in my situation. Some people have asked me if it is revenge... not really. I just wanted the same he had. I found someone just as things were crumbling with his mistress. Tough... maybe if they hadn’t broken up, we’d both be in parallel relationships, or we’d had split up... who knows.
"Is he aware you found somebody and have seen been on fab to meet people? In your case he was the cheater first and it sounded more like an affair as oppose to just sex? A lot of guys who cheat think its one rule for them but would go bat shit crazy if their Mrs did the same. I've known many guys think like that sadly. Surely he can't begrudge you doing why he started? KJ | |||
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" I'd have also much rather have had 2 happy homes separately than one where you could practically inhale the hidden misery " As someone who spent years working with young adults who came from broken loveless homes this statement really resonated with me. Anyone "staying for the kids" should read this. KJ | |||
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"You get one shot at life and in the grand scheme of things we are here for the blink of an eye. Why spend your days been miserable with someone who doesnt fulfill all your needs physically and or emotionally. Sneaking around breaking that person's heart when they find out, which can take some YEARS to get over. Go out and live your life to the maximum and if that max has to be without your current partner well then better to sit down and have that conversation with them and let them get living to. This whole "its not as easy as that for some" line doesnt wash. It is as easy as that, yes it's the harder choice to make but doing the right thing always tends to be harder way to go. Tuppence worth for what it's worth. " I agree 110%. If you aren't happy then I suspect the partner isn't either. Move on, try and remain courteous and both be happy without each other. I suspect material things are a big thing that keep misery churning.. | |||
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"I’ve said it several times, but maybe if you missed it... I opened my Fab account at the height of my husband’s torrid affair. He was still a great husband to me- an excellent father and an ok lover, despite the fact that he used to tell me back then that he was not attracted to me and he liked Chinese/Far Eastern ladies- hence his extra marital relationship, but I was his wife, the “woman he chose to spend the rest of his life with” and he’d always be loyal to me. I decided I wanted something for myself too so went on Fab and have met great people. His affair ended up in the most horrid way which shook us all to the core (it was with a work colleague) and I was not prepared to abandon my Fab journey. I have tried many times for him to accept an open relationship, he doesn’t want to because it’s “not fair” and “not the same”... of course it isn’t- he has no mistress now. So that’s why I ended up here. A divorce right now is not practical for many reasons I will not go into.
And let the judgement begin.
Walk a mile in a man's shoes etc...
I’ve posted this several times and fortunately, I’ve never been harshly judged on here. I suppose being a woman works in my favour! So... sorry to disappoint you if you wanted to see blood spilled.
I am always very transparent in my situation. Some people have asked me if it is revenge... not really. I just wanted the same he had. I found someone just as things were crumbling with his mistress. Tough... maybe if they hadn’t broken up, we’d both be in parallel relationships, or we’d had split up... who knows.
Is he aware you found somebody and have seen been on fab to meet people?
In your case he was the cheater first and it sounded more like an affair as oppose to just sex?
A lot of guys who cheat think its one rule for them but would go bat shit crazy if their Mrs did the same. I've known many guys think like that sadly.
Surely he can't begrudge you doing why he started?
KJ"He can’t, and he shouldn’t... but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t, for the reasons you state above. It is one rule for some men (not going to say all men) but as I said before- he thinks “it’s not fair” now that he has no affair partner and I suppose he has no drive to find another one after the last one (which had tribunals and lawyers involved) ended... I said 2 years ago I had someone I want to pursue a relationship with (not a main relationship- neither of us can’t at the moment for various reasons) so wanted an open relationship... I haven’t got a “no”, but not a definite “yes” either. So I keep things discreet. Much better than he ever did anyway. | |||
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it's so selfish beyond belief.
It's actually fked up imo. Men & Women in these Dysfunctional marriages should be given the go-ahead by their spouses to seek sex elsewhere.
Also I actually firmly believe we were never meant to be manogamous. How many relationships can honestly say the sexual spark is still very much alive after yrs of being together??? & Please don't lie | |||
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"My parents marriage ended as a result of one party having an affair. The fallout was horrendous and has led to me suffering life-long PTSD and being unable to form intimate relationships. I hate my parents and think they were horrible, selfish human beings. Why is it fair that I had to suffer because someone chose to cheat and someone else couldn't handle it?" Indeed. How different things would have been if they'd shown by example how to treat each other with respect and consideration upon ending their relationship. How different things would be if they'd shown that both parties have the right to be happy, and do it separately. How if they'd shown each other support in their new chapters in life things could have easily been done with love and come from a good place. But that shizzle is rare. Too many times it comes down to a "final straw" that creates a fucking volcanic eruption engulfing the children as collateral damage in lava flow. There are so many tools online even now, free tools from sites like relate that give guidance and help in how to have difficult conversations. But nah, it's too ouchy. They'll just sneak around instead and wait for the inevitable explosion that'll come at some point whilst claiming "I didn't mean to hurt you" Really? What did ya mean then coz it was only gonna go one fucking way eventually. Take preventative action so that remedial action isn't bloody necessary. Parents, damn. Be a positive role model for your children please.... not the reason they struggle to form healthy relationships. | |||
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"There's many on here in sexless marriages...yes many...if I'm to believe what they tell me on here... How can one individual expect another to live a sexless life is beyond me it's so selfish beyond belief.
It's actually fked up imo. Men & Women in these Dysfunctional marriages should be given the go-ahead by their spouses to seek sex elsewhere.
Also I actually firmly believe we were never meant to be manogamous. How many relationships can honestly say the sexual spark is still very much alive after yrs of being together??? & Please don't lie "I agree. My husband is 66 and 13 years older than me. He says when he loses his sex drive that we will both go to a club and enjoy the social aspect together and if I find sex there then he is happy for me... We both enjoy swinging as an aspect separate from the lives where we love each other, however our life is the one we cherish and won't give up | |||
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" I'd have also much rather have had 2 happy homes separately than one where you could practically inhale the hidden misery As someone who spent years working with young adults who came from broken loveless homes this statement really resonated with me. Anyone "staying for the kids" should read this. KJ" My one biggest wish in life is that my parents had been mature and responsible adults, acknowledged that their marriage wasn't working, and amicably gone their separate ways. It would have made the world of difference to me as a young child.  | |||
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"My parents marriage ended as a result of one party having an affair. The fallout was horrendous and has led to me suffering life-long PTSD and being unable to form intimate relationships. I hate my parents and think they were horrible, selfish human beings. Why is it fair that I had to suffer because someone chose to cheat and someone else couldn't handle it? Indeed. How different things would have been if they'd shown by example how to treat each other with respect and consideration upon ending their relationship. How different things would be if they'd shown that both parties have the right to be happy, and do it separately. How if they'd shown each other support in their new chapters in life things could have easily been done with love and come from a good place. But that shizzle is rare. Too many times it comes down to a "final straw" that creates a fucking volcanic eruption engulfing the children as collateral damage in lava flow. There are so many tools online even now, free tools from sites like relate that give guidance and help in how to have difficult conversations. But nah, it's too ouchy. They'll just sneak around instead and wait for the inevitable explosion that'll come at some point whilst claiming "I didn't mean to hurt you" Really? What did ya mean then coz it was only gonna go one fucking way eventually. Take preventative action so that remedial action isn't bloody necessary. Parents, damn. Be a positive role model for your children please.... not the reason they struggle to form healthy relationships. " | |||
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"If lack of sex is considered a justifiable reason for potentially destroying someone you claim to love, that suggests there are other significant problems in the relationship (which are quite possibly part of the reason for the lack of sex in the first place). K " Sex and love are 2 different things. I believe if a marriage or a relationship is sexless for whatever reason... True Love is giving the go ahead for your partner to seek sex elsewhere...if one or other has lost their sexdrive/libido. Expecting someone to live a sexless life is unreal irrational selfish behaviour. | |||
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"If lack of sex is considered a justifiable reason for potentially destroying someone you claim to love, that suggests there are other significant problems in the relationship (which are quite possibly part of the reason for the lack of sex in the first place). K Sex and love are 2 different things. I believe if a marriage or a relationship is sexless for whatever reason... True Love is giving the go ahead for your partner to seek sex elsewhere...if one or other has lost their sexdrive/libido. Expecting someone to live a sexless life is unreal irrational selfish behaviour." As is not giving the libido loser the choice to be able to consent because instead of having the awkward convo, instead of attempting to get to the root of the issue or find an actual resolution, the "easy" option is to hope they don't get caught and in most cases blatantly lie when they do, accuse their partner of being mental and lead them into hell instead of counselling for couples. Of course some do try the adult route of communication, but for most that's just effort. | |||
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"If lack of sex is considered a justifiable reason for potentially destroying someone you claim to love, that suggests there are other significant problems in the relationship (which are quite possibly part of the reason for the lack of sex in the first place). K Sex and love are 2 different things. I believe if a marriage or a relationship is sexless for whatever reason... True Love is giving the go ahead for your partner to seek sex elsewhere...if one or other has lost their sexdrive/libido. Expecting someone to live a sexless life is unreal irrational selfish behaviour." Some would say true love would be open and honest communication, supporting your partner, working out what has caused the loss of sex drive and trying everything you can to find a solution that works for you both. Having total disregard for your partners feelings by cheating on them & telling lies is also incredibly selfish behaviour. | |||
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"If lack of sex is considered a justifiable reason for potentially destroying someone you claim to love, that suggests there are other significant problems in the relationship (which are quite possibly part of the reason for the lack of sex in the first place). K Sex and love are 2 different things. I believe if a marriage or a relationship is sexless for whatever reason... True Love is giving the go ahead for your partner to seek sex elsewhere...if one or other has lost their sexdrive/libido. Expecting someone to live a sexless life is unreal irrational selfish behaviour. Some would say true love would be open and honest communication, supporting your partner, working out what has caused the loss of sex drive and trying everything you can to find a solution that works for you both. Having total disregard for your partners feelings by cheating on them & telling lies is also incredibly selfish behaviour. " ^^^^^^^ I would never ever be an advocate of `cheating` ever. I think you missed my point. Unfortunately some people lose their sex drive for whatever reason & they never regain it. Yes communication is key and being open. I lost my sex drive in my early 40s temporarily due to illness but thankfully I regained it. At the time I brought the topic up with my partner and told him he was free to seek sex elsewhere. I would never ever have expected him to live a sexless life just because I had gone of sex. He did have 1 affair but it wasn't cheating cos I gave him the go ahead to do so. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? No. It's because my wife decided that 99% celibacy was the way forward. I love her, and would never push her into something that she didn't like to do anymore. Yes, I feel bad being on here, but it makes me feel wanted sometimes. " You love her, but choose to cheat? Doesn't make sense to us and you should just be honest with her. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" Every person is on here for their own reasons. Does it matter if someone is cheating? All I’ve ever asked is for on here is for people not to judge me, so the least I can do is not judge them lol So if you’re cheating, I’m sure you’ll have your reasons. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? Every person is on here for their own reasons. Does it matter if someone is cheating? All I’ve ever asked is for on here is for people not to judge me, so the least I can do is not judge them lol So if you’re cheating, I’m sure you’ll have your reasons. " The issue we have personally when approached by someone cheating, is that if they don't have any respect for their own partner, then they're hardly going to have any respect for randomers like us. (Keep having to delete and repost as replies keep coming up blank?) | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? Every person is on here for their own reasons. Does it matter if someone is cheating? All I’ve ever asked is for on here is for people not to judge me, so the least I can do is not judge them lol So if you’re cheating, I’m sure you’ll have your reasons. The issue we have personally when approached by someone cheating, is that if they don't have any respect for their own partner, then they're hardly going to have any respect for randomers like us. (Keep having to delete and repost as replies keep coming up blank?)" Agree with this totally! We had an ex-friend who got involved with another couple. Totally ignored their need for privacy although he needed discretion as well. told everyone how this well know person's wife liked it up the arse, showed her intimate photos to everyone. Anyone who can cheat their life partner cannot be trusted. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? As many people will tell you, cheating and swinging are completely different. " | |||
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"I'd say fab is much cheaper than the married sites,hence then joining here. Plus maybe doesn't show on any bank statements etc. Some will cheat because they are in sexless relationships, however have seen many profiles admit they do get sex at home and are greedy. So no one size fits all It's the ones that try to justify it on the forums that get on peoples nerves i think. " Lol it’s not cheating it’s a hobby | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? Every person is on here for their own reasons. Does it matter if someone is cheating? All I’ve ever asked is for on here is for people not to judge me, so the least I can do is not judge them lol So if you’re cheating, I’m sure you’ll have your reasons. The issue we have personally when approached by someone cheating, is that if they don't have any respect for their own partner, then they're hardly going to have any respect for randomers like us. (Keep having to delete and repost as replies keep coming up blank?) Agree with this totally! We had an ex-friend who got involved with another couple. Totally ignored their need for privacy although he needed discretion as well. told everyone how this well know person's wife liked it up the arse, showed her intimate photos to everyone. Anyone who can cheat their life partner cannot be trusted." Exactly! What makes us laugh is that a lot of people cheating claim to be honest on their profile. Not exactly honest if your cheating behind someones back! We avoid them like the plague! | |||
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"I get what your saying But doesn’t make people bad people " Maybe so, but it doesnt make someone a particularly good person either. How would you feel if you were on the receiving end? | |||
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"I get what your saying But doesn’t make people bad people Maybe so, but it doesnt make someone a particularly good person either. How would you feel if you were on the receiving end?" I have been Their Married I was paying £60 an hr for him to help her mentally | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? " You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating " Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on?" Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs " So you are dishonest to her? | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship? Every person is on here for their own reasons. Does it matter if someone is cheating? All I’ve ever asked is for on here is for people not to judge me, so the least I can do is not judge them lol So if you’re cheating, I’m sure you’ll have your reasons. The issue we have personally when approached by someone cheating, is that if they don't have any respect for their own partner, then they're hardly going to have any respect for randomers like us. (Keep having to delete and repost as replies keep coming up blank?) Agree with this totally! We had an ex-friend who got involved with another couple. Totally ignored their need for privacy although he needed discretion as well. told everyone how this well know person's wife liked it up the arse, showed her intimate photos to everyone. Anyone who can cheat their life partner cannot be trusted. Exactly! What makes us laugh is that a lot of people cheating claim to be honest on their profile. Not exactly honest if your cheating behind someones back! We avoid them like the plague!" We would love to see a few of them caught. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her?" I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together " Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge?" Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie | |||
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"So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together " Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie " So you are being dishonest with her. Do you think it is a respectful way to treat her? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together " What she doesn't know doesn't hurt her??? If that's not being dishonest I don't know what is! | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie So you are being dishonest with her. Do you think it is a respectful way to treat her?" How can it be dishonest if she doesn’t ask ? We’re sat together now She has my full respect | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie So you are being dishonest with her. Do you think it is a respectful way to treat her? How can it be dishonest if she doesn’t ask ? We’re sat together now She has my full respect " Yes know exactly what you mean | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? " Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie So you are being dishonest with her. Do you think it is a respectful way to treat her? How can it be dishonest if she doesn’t ask ? We’re sat together now She has my full respect " Er...because your doing something behind her back that you know she won't approve of. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie So you are being dishonest with her. Do you think it is a respectful way to treat her? How can it be dishonest if she doesn’t ask ? We’re sat together now She has my full respect " No offence intended, but you must be deluded if you think you are behaving respectfully and honestly. If she had your full respect, you would be honest with her. Would she ask you to leave if she knew?? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? " To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol" You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol" We went to clubs where she would sit and socialise and I would play But I can’t say I’m going out to play | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes " | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes " If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest." I’m honest with everyone on here I’m not dishonest if I don’t lie to her | |||
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"The knickers I am currently wearing say "Its not cheating if my husband watches" "So does my t shirt | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest. I’m honest with everyone on here I’m not dishonest if I don’t lie to her " It's lying by omission though, and definitely not being honest ... she trusts you and you're breaking that trust, she respects you and you're disrespecting her! | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" Is.it any of your business op, as to the reasons why | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest. I’m honest with everyone on here I’m not dishonest if I don’t lie to her It's lying by omission though, and definitely not being honest ... she trusts you and you're breaking that trust, she respects you and you're disrespecting her! " That's some assumption/judgement to make given you don't know their relationship | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest. I’m honest with everyone on here I’m not dishonest if I don’t lie to her It's lying by omission though, and definitely not being honest ... she trusts you and you're breaking that trust, she respects you and you're disrespecting her! " I disagree How do you know how she feels How do you know I don’t respect her How do you no any of the things your speaking about | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest. I’m honest with everyone on here I’m not dishonest if I don’t lie to her It's lying by omission though, and definitely not being honest ... she trusts you and you're breaking that trust, she respects you and you're disrespecting her! That's some assumption/judgement to make given you don't know their relationship " He's told us quite a bit about his relationship tbf ... | |||
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"I was on here with my partner ,but,shes decided to have a break from fab .she told me to stay on here ,has the password and can read the messages . So called friends on here actually contacted her to say that we would be better off splitting up.to quote them it was fairer on me,let me find someone else who would swing... My relationship with my partner is fine and for the moment we want different things ." You need "friends" like that.... Not | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol" Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating" Totally agree | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating" Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? | |||
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"why people are on here cheating to be honest has nothing to do with me ..i try and avoid them if i can but there is no way possible to know if some slip past ... for those of you saying 100% you wont meet a cheater then you already probably have ..for as long as people lie then people will cheat ... and got to say to those who say all relationships go sexually stale after a while clearly dont see all the very very strong couples on fab who have been together for 20 years ++ .. one brush cannot paint all the different colors of life" I'm very envious of those invariably lovely couples who through whatever magic manage to keep things sparkling after many years. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol You describe yourself as 'a genuine guy open and honest' Is that really how you see yourself?? On my profile yes If she's fine with what you get up to, then no harm caused, but if your doing something behind her back and you know that she won't approve, no matter how you look at it, that does NOT make you honest. I’m honest with everyone on here I’m not dishonest if I don’t lie to her It's lying by omission though, and definitely not being honest ... she trusts you and you're breaking that trust, she respects you and you're disrespecting her! I disagree How do you know how she feels How do you know I don’t respect her How do you no any of the things your speaking about " How on earth can you respect her? You are cheating on her. You need a reality check chap. | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ??" Right, if she has said go do what you want but I don't want to know about it, that's totally different from not having had a conversation. The way you've led snippets of info you've made it sound like she is totally in the dark. Maybe if you give a whole picture instead of a snapshot people will understand what it is you're leading the breadcrumbs to. | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ??" Go for it. | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ?? Go for it. " 07512 027426 | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account???" Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW  & you've intentionally done so | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ?? Go for it. 07512 027426 " Come on mate not necessary to be posting the phine number, what do you have to prove to ppl that you don't even know | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so "She doesn’t But know ones rung Sat here now told her someone might ring | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ?? Go for it. 07512 027426 " just rang it its the bloody chinease takeaway. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ?? Go for it. 07 " I've deleted the phone number as I personally think it's bang out of order. You know anyone can see this thread content right? Why on earth would you do that? There could be any ole creepo now gonna stalk her or some other dumb and frightening stuff. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
She doesn’t
But know ones rung
Sat here now told her someone might ring
Did u really expect anybody to ring, im sure ppl.have better things to.do with there time "it's fake anyway number is a fruit and veg shop Google it. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
She doesn’t
But know ones rung
Sat here now told her someone might ring
Did u really expect anybody to ring, im sure ppl.have better things to.do with there time "All talk telling me how I should live my life yet when it comes to it no one can speak up just key pad warrior | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab " Yours contradicting yourself now...a couple of msgs back you said she doesn't know lol... You ain't doing yourself any favours of potential meets now...you're coming across as fake also... with your crap talk | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
She doesn’t
But know ones rung
Sat here now told her someone might ring
Did u really expect anybody to ring, im sure ppl.have better things to.do with there time
All talk telling me how I should live my life yet when it comes to it no one can speak up just key pad warrior "Mate it's a open forum, from what I've seen and understand, no one is telling you hiw to live your life there just challenging your opinion with there opinion, n that's cool, if u take offence from that, then look at why woykd u disclose this stuff | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab Yours contradicting yourself now...a couple of msgs back you said she doesn't know lol... You ain't doing yourself any favours of potential meets now...you're coming across as fake also... with your crap talk "it's fake Google the number it's a fruit and veg shop | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ?? Go for it. 07512 027426 just rang it its the bloody chinease takeaway." What did you order? | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab Yours contradicting yourself now...a couple of msgs back you said she doesn't know lol... You ain't doing yourself any favours of potential meets now...you're coming across as fake also... with your crap talk it's fake Google the number it's a fruit and veg shop"Now that's a long winded way to promote a business. | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab Yours contradicting yourself now...a couple of msgs back you said she doesn't know lol... You ain't doing yourself any favours of potential meets now...you're coming across as fake also... with your crap talk it's fake Google the number it's a fruit and veg shop
Now that's a long winded way to promote a business."Nice hook tho | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab " Bullshit. | |||
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"I could post her phone number if you all want to ring her ?? Go for it. 07512 027426 just rang it its the bloody chinease takeaway. What did you order? " No it’s not | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab Bullshit." So ring | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab Yours contradicting yourself now...a couple of msgs back you said she doesn't know lol... You ain't doing yourself any favours of potential meets now...you're coming across as fake also... with your crap talk it's fake Google the number it's a fruit and veg shop
Now that's a long winded way to promote a business.
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
She doesn’t
But know ones rung
Sat here now told her someone might ring
Did u really expect anybody to ring, im sure ppl.have better things to.do with there time
All talk telling me how I should live my life yet when it comes to it no one can speak up just key pad warrior "If you gave us the real number we PROMISE we will call her. Let's see who the warrior is now. | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
She doesn’t
But know ones rung
Sat here now told her someone might ring
Did u really expect anybody to ring, im sure ppl.have better things to.do with there time
All talk telling me how I should live my life yet when it comes to it no one can speak up just key pad warrior
If you gave us the real number we PROMISE we will call her.
Let's see who the warrior is now. "So ring it So far it’s a Chinese takeaway and a fruit and veg shop | |||
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"She knows I’m on fab Yours contradicting yourself now...a couple of msgs back you said she doesn't know lol... You ain't doing yourself any favours of potential meets now...you're coming across as fake also... with your crap talk it's fake Google the number it's a fruit and veg shop
Now that's a long winded way to promote a business.
Nice hook tho
She doesn’t know I meet "So let me get this right, yoyr defending yourself saying your not dishonest to her, by telling her your on fab, but not that u meet other women for sex, can u see hiw contrary n Contradictory you've been | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Do you have sex behind her back without her consent or knowledge? Yes But she doesn’t ask so I don’t lie So you are being dishonest with her. Do you think it is a respectful way to treat her? How can it be dishonest if she doesn’t ask ? We’re sat together now She has my full respect " You can’t be serious. Concealing you’re fucking other people is ok as long as she doesn’t ask?! She definitely does not have your full respect, whether you realise that or not. | |||
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"I imagine there are hundreds of members on Fab who are on here without there partners knowledge Is it an easier platform to cheat from compared to the more commercial dating sites? Are you cheating because your in an unhappy relationship?" I don't use other site since I joined this 1. The other sites weren't dating sites either. No I'm not unhappy in my relationship. I would sat 70% of the messages sent to me say that they get excited that I'm married and he doesn't know im on here ( I will add that isn't something I share) | |||
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"Not sure we follow. What's that got to do with cheating? You asked how I’d feel if I was on the end of a cheating Still don't follow. So we're you being cheated on? Yes my ex wife was in therapy with a specialist I was paying him £60 an hr to help her Their now married I met my partner on swingers 365 after splitting with my wife We played together for several years The menopause has taken away her sex drive completely I still enjoy sex in all its forms I don’t want to Hurt her in any way I care for her provide for her Just we’ve got different needs So you are dishonest to her? I’m not dishonest What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her We still enjoy each other’s company evenings together Live together Sleep together Go to hospital together Just don’t partake in sexual activity together Why do you think you're not being dishonest? Isn't it lying by omission? Another way of asking is, what would happen if she found out? Would she be blasé about it or would it hurt her totally? Would your life stay the same or change forever? To be honest I don’t know I take it I’m a piriiha I’ve just asked her how to spell that Lol Are you actually getting a buzz outta chatting on here...while in the company of your partner...knowing that she knows nothing of your secret life & that you're a member of fab...??? It's seems that way...when you say you're ``sat with her now``... If she doesn't know... Soz to say it...but it's cheating Wat makes you think she doesn’t know I’m on fab or know the code to acces account??? Because you have given no inclination that she does know lol... Scroll back & read your other comments...You're defo giving the impression that SHE DOESN'T KNOW & you've intentionally done so
She doesn’t
But know ones rung
Sat here now told her someone might ring
Did u really expect anybody to ring, im sure ppl.have better things to.do with there time
All talk telling me how I should live my life yet when it comes to it no one can speak up just key pad warrior
If you gave us the real number we PROMISE we will call her.
Let's see who the warrior is now.
So ring it
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick?" Can't say I have lol | |||
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick? Can't say I have lol " You see didn’t have the balls to ring Keyboard warrior | |||
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick? Can't say I have lol You see didn’t have the balls to ring Keyboard warrior " Come on bro seriously stop now, nit doing yourself any favours, im sure ppl.dont really give a fuck that.much to chase it up. | |||
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick? Can't say I have lol You see didn’t have the balls to ring Keyboard warrior " Maybe not a keyboard warrior, maybe just not wanting to be the person to out your extra curricular fucking to your Mrs after you’ve just put her phone number on a site for anyone to contact her. Who on earth would want to ring her? | |||
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick? Can't say I have lol You see didn’t have the balls to ring Keyboard warrior " I think most would say you haven't got the balls to be honest to your partner..... | |||
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick? Can't say I have lol You see didn’t have the balls to ring Keyboard warrior Maybe not a keyboard warrior, maybe just not wanting to be the person to out your extra curricular fucking to your Mrs after you’ve just put her phone number on a site for anyone to contact her. Who on earth would want to ring her? " It isn't her number. | |||
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"Anyone else have the privilege of a private message from a certain dick? Can't say I have lol You see didn’t have the balls to ring Keyboard warrior " Are you Andy by any chance? | |||
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