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meet for drink or stright in action??
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I like to chat on here quite a bit first but when it comes to a meet I want to get straight into the action lol. I would happily have a social meet first but wouldn’t want to mix that meet up with some action. For me it’s odd to chat to someone all nice who 5 mins later will be calling me names and spanking me hard whilst tied up lol.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX"
True, we usually host for social at ours, in public place too much noise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, it's difficult question.
How others couple like to do first date .
1: like to meet for drinks (social)
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2: stright to action???"
I like a social, it adds to the sexual tension as well as making me feel more comfortable around people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX"
This... It will always start as a no obligation social. If we click great, we can do something about it... if not we can just go our own way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX
True, we usually host for social at ours, in public place too much noise"
We have a lovely circle of fab
and vanilla friends, I've got fb for socials, this is a sex site, that's what I'm looking for, pre drinks to make sure they are who they say they are, then away we go 
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We like to socialise first. Having a drink somewhere gives you time to flirt which gets the mood going. We can plan to carry on the flirting and more intimate socialising in the bedroom though. We couldn’t meet at a location for the first time and jump straight in. |
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We almost always meet for a social only first.
We then look to organise a meet for another evening if we all get along.
We’ll only change this if the guy already has a hotel room booked nearby. Then we might consider meeting him in the bar for a drink and to see how things go. If there’s a connection we’ll go upstairs.
This way there’s no expectation to play, and no pressure to do anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social part is very important for us. We rather skip or reduce online chat to meet people to know who we're dealing with."
When and where I’m on my way lol |
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We always do a social first with both couples and men. It would be rare for us to play on the same date, it's usually arranged for another time. The only issue we have with couples is that it can be difficult to arrange times when we are all free so we are coming around more to the idea of socials and play on the same day if it all goes well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would always be social interaction first for us both, play comes after when everyone is comfortable.
Can be after or on a separate day and as we love going to parties and clubs as it kind of rolls everything into one night.
To be honest we prefer meet and to talk to people face to face. We have found online chat can be a bit hard work.
Also unfortunately you have to be so careful with so meny people hiding behind a profile that doesn't represent who they actually are!  though this is a separate conversation that can go all day 
We need to see a picture of who we are meeting and have met them before jumping into bed  |
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Prefer a no expectations social first, no pressure. Although if I'm meeting someone who I share an amazing chemistry with then taking it slow may not last too long.. its all about what feels natural on the meet  |
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We love having a chat and a flirt, but we're not here to date people, we don't need to know about their Auntie Norma's sciatica.
If we do a social its just a social, its not a prelude to anything else. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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We’ve nearly always had a social first, and that’s definitely our preferred way to meet someone.
On one occasion though a woman we were meeting was delayed so asked if she could come straight to ours, and that was a fantastic night too so it can work out anyway. |
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We like to have a chat here then arrange to meet in person for a social just to make sure everyone gets along. Tbh though if everyone’s gets along and things are getting hot then we would be happy to play  |
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Social for sure. It ensures you can make sure the people or person you are meeting matches up with how they chat on text and if there also is a physical and personality attraction. Drinks then bed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..
Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X
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"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX
True, we usually host for social at ours, in public place too much noise
We have a lovely circle of fab
and vanilla friends, I've got fb for socials, this is a sex site, that's what I'm looking for, pre drinks to make sure they are who they say they are, then away we go
Claire "
I agree Claire
Ps you look lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social first or at least have been chatting for a little while before hand. "
Exactly this ! Chat on hear and then social if feel comfortable with each other probably a coffee social first meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely couple of drinks maybe bit of chat then jump right in ha! We usually have been chatting for few dats/weeks prior... Im not big on the social side. |
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"Hi, it's difficult question.
How others couple like to do first date .
1: like to meet for drinks (social)
Or
2: stright to action???"
We never play on first meeting and may have a couple more 'socials' before anything else happens. We like things to develop organically and it takes time to get a feel for someone as opposed to just fancying them and jumping into bed for a one off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a chat then sex xx"
This!
We're not fans of masses of social interaction before play. We'd rather chat to see if we're on the same page and then play. If we all get on then we're happy to socialise a bit before we start playing again!
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Usually before I meet anyone, we have exchanged many messages, then arranged a social. If that goes ok then arrange a play meet.
Occasionally if time is limited then I have met for a social, with a view to playing the same evening, but this was discussed beforehand. Even more occasionally have I just met to play without a social first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..
Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X
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Do the due diligence before meeting up and make sure they're who they say they are when they turn up. Last thing we want is to all be talking about work, kids, cars etc.
We're definitely here to be naughty! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to chat on here quite a bit first but when it comes to a meet I want to get straight into the action lol. I would happily have a social meet first but wouldn’t want to mix that meet up with some action. For me it’s odd to chat to someone all nice who 5 mins later will be calling me names and spanking me hard whilst tied up lol.
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"Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..
Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X
Do the due diligence before meeting up and make sure they're who they say they are when they turn up. Last thing we want is to all be talking about work, kids, cars etc.
We're definitely here to be naughty! "
Yes I will have talked at length with them before hand got to know them and possibly video called. I don’t go to meets unless I’m 100% sure we are on the same page. Hadn’t failed me recently and it’s straight into the fun |
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Social first, like to exchange a lot of msgs before even agreeing to that. Cant think of anything worse then going to meet someone and not been attracted or finding out they are a bit of a dick (not the good kind) in person.
Happened to us before so now we just go about it our way, here for sex but never have enjoyed the wham bam see you later type of sex.
Brat x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Straight to action. Stranger sex is fucking hot, the less said the better lol. However I do like the social meets especially in clubs.
But the messages “you free now fancy some fun” get me instantly hard. |
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In 25+ years of 'playing', I can only recall four instances of meeting for a drink first - only one of which didn't then adjourn to their place...
....the vast majority of my meets have either been a brief chat and quickly onto the action, or getting straight to the action! |
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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago
gillingham |
Varied on this depends on all involved so I go with what makes all most comfy and respect that been around long enuf to get straight to it if that is what desired but respect and enjoy the social side to and getting to chat see how all get on and where it leads without the pressure or expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..
Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X
Do the due diligence before meeting up and make sure they're who they say they are when they turn up. Last thing we want is to all be talking about work, kids, cars etc.
We're definitely here to be naughty! "
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Normally it's a matter of a few drinks, a few laughs and hopefully the chemistry leads to the bedroom. But experience has taught us it doesn't always happen like that. Sometimes the chemistry, vibe and situation is just right and it just happens. Sometimes with complete strangers. If it works, it works and in this game always expect the unexpected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Normally it's a matter of a few drinks, a few laughs and hopefully the chemistry leads to the bedroom. But experience has taught us it doesn't always happen like that. Sometimes the chemistry, vibe and situation is just right and it just happens. Sometimes with complete strangers. If it works, it works and in this game always expect the unexpected."
That's a nice way of putting it. Sometimes the situation leads you in a direction and you go with it. Not always the same answer for the swinging question! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer a social if it's not in a club environment. That way there's no pressure or expectations. If it feels right and all parties are happy we can then play. I've turned down people before if there's no chemistry on a social. Despite all my veris I don't just shag anyone .. Lol |
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If I’m getting a boat off the island and having alcohol then I need to stay overnight anyway mor often than not so I prefer to chat lots on here first and then meet few drinks and action. I don’t mind getting a hotel if I can’t stay at yours but it can be expensive for boats and hotel just for a drink or two. If it’s just a social I’m better with a daytime coffee meet so that I can come home after and then arrange an overnight play session for another time. Parties are great as there’s always someone fun about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have yet to have a meet from here, however in the past I have had some amazing meets with people after a social or an organised large social 
And when someone wants to meet me from here then it will be a social first  |
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First a couple drinks and than down to action 
