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As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot  |
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By *ecydogMan
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
Personally ive got a big soft spot for curvy ladies, and you’ve got nothing too be embarrassed about x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fellow BBW here. I used to be like that then I realised we all like different things. I’ve grown to love my curves and wobbly bits  helps that mr likes something to hold on to 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
I’ve no idea but I do exactly the same thing, silly isn’t it  |
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Same here. I’m a fat 50 something but I still do well with gorgeous guys, many of them younger than me. Not just on fab. I think I feel that I don’t deserve them. That doesn’t stop me taking advantage of them of course. I’m not an idiot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guys i can cope with. Its couples the lady is a slim toned lass and they express an interest in me i do wonder! |
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It is. I definitely worry that they will just laugh at me  |
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Oh you are not fat xx you are gorgeous
I can't get over a guy with muscles saying I'm hot. I wish I could take advantage hehe |
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Oh god! I don't understand that either xx |
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All absolutely beautiful ladies on this post!!  |
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I'm an idiot and didn't click reply with quote lol  |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
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Fulsome buxom boobs and wrap around thick thighs. Mmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s exactly how I feel but took the plunge and met a fit hot guy and 2 years on we still meet up |
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I am exactly the same. I don't feel as though someone like that would find me attractive. The silly thing is I can see other curvy ladies as attractive and sexy but can't see the same in myself.
The main reason why we rarely message people first.
Kx
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I did used the think the same, like are they interested in me to make fun or something. But it’s not the case, we all like different things and have preferences don’t we  |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks |
Dont overthink it ladies! Go with it, enjoy it, and if the worse should ever happen, revel in the fact that they werent good enough despite their physical attributes...then piss them off by doing it with someone much hotter and younger  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every single woman on this thread is absolutely gorgeous! Stunning and any man should be honoured to spend a night or more with you  xx |
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"Guys i can cope with. Its couples the lady is a slim toned lass and they express an interest in me i do wonder!"
This totally!!!! X x x |
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
All men just love curves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am finding men messaging us telling me how sexy I am and how much they love my big ass and size of my tits
It turns hubby on when men message and tell us how sexy am I |
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"I am finding men messaging us telling me how sexy I am and how much they love my big ass and size of my tits
It turns hubby on when men message and tell us how sexy am I "
Well you are very sexy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the ladies here are so sexy and as bbw myself I love cock but also nice sexy women x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Curvy ladies are the best and size 20 is the perfect size |
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Any lady less than size 20 is anorexic. (Well thats my opinion and I have her full permission to say so)
Aitch |
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I am the same , but as they have returned on many occasions a guess am a hot mamma
I think it’s definitely a stigma that is hard too break!
I love my curves now but took a long time!! |
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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I’m the same. I always think I won’t be good enough in real life when they see me! We had a message of a guy the other day who has been on the hotlist for ages, he’s younger fit and toned and he says he’s interested etc but I’ve not yet messaged him back cos of this |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
I didn’t either, but a young chap put me right on that viewpoint a long time ago. Basically he told me off and told me not to assume or judge a book by it’s cover. People like what they like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All look absolutely stunning,.. love a good curvy woman with a boss SOH, Amazing ladies xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
I don't feel that way about men, but I do about women. It's strange. |
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Do not fret girls you have an army of admirers
Hot hot hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same here |
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Men like what they like. Who am i to question that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love my curves and big ass and tummy
Love men telling as well xx |
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Another man here who loves curves, big ass and tummy....... |
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I can't deny it, i love women with lots of curves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being sexy is the way you carry yourself. I like curvy/bbw ladies. |
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Wow this thread is making me feel better lol
And of course I don't mean to judge a book, I suppose it's a little ingrained |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow this thread is making me feel better lol
And of course I don't mean to judge a book, I suppose it's a little ingrained"
Me too, it’s good to know that people appreciate our figures but I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to fully stop that nagging little voice and f self doubt at the back of my silly brain  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your stunning hun x |
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By *ormladMan
over a year ago
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Lover of curves here. Everyone is different and sexy in their own way. Beauty is in the eyes of the be holder |
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I struggle with this too. I tend to discount messages solely on that basis, that they can’t be attracted to me and maybe it’s just a case of hole=goal which I was told once by a not very delightful chap when I politely declined his offer. I’m sure I’ve missed out of some incredible meets because of this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle with this too. I tend to discount messages solely on that basis, that they can’t be attracted to me and maybe it’s just a case of hole=goal which I was told once by a not very delightful chap when I politely declined his offer. I’m sure I’ve missed out of some incredible meets because of this."
That’s such a shame, you always get some horrid ones like that to spoil it and make or worst fears come true but I can genuinely say that your pictures are amazing and that any chap would be lucky to spend time with you.
Now if I could only be as kind to myself as I am to others, that’d be amazing  |
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I have all of these feelings and insecurities. I really wish I didn’t because it does hold me back sometimes.
I think if I put up a really brutally honest photo, that shows all of my wobbles and dimply bits and rolls, and the guys still want to get to know me/potentially meet me then I might be able to take the chance. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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Other side of the bridge here. I have a 29" waist and you could play xylophone on my ribs. My wife (sz 22) apparently finds me delicious and I still can't understand it cos I think I look dreadful, whereas she drives me crazy.
It's difficult sometimes to see what others see in us, but I guess we just have to trust that they do, go with it, and enjoy ourselves.
Mr. cc04 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
I'm a size 18 and I'm exactly the same! You aren't alone... xx |
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"I struggle with this too. I tend to discount messages solely on that basis, that they can’t be attracted to me and maybe it’s just a case of hole=goal which I was told once by a not very delightful chap when I politely declined his offer. I’m sure I’ve missed out of some incredible meets because of this."
There are some really lovely guys on here who are totally able to see woman as a full package. Just let them show you who they really are.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle with this too. I tend to discount messages solely on that basis, that they can’t be attracted to me and maybe it’s just a case of hole=goal which I was told once by a not very delightful chap when I politely declined his offer. I’m sure I’ve missed out of some incredible meets because of this.
There are some really lovely guys on here who are totally able to see woman as a full package. Just let them show you who they really are.
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I've met my fwb on here and he is lovely. It's the happiest that I've been in years! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On fab it’s a little different to real life everyone is more open and a little more erm….adventurous and willing to explore. Everyone has preferences some guys/guys like plus size girls genuinely and everyone is different, some guys might like bigger girls on here and in swinging clubs but them same guys may not on dating sites and in vanilla world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This post makes me feel so much better that im not the only one feeling like this. Anytime anyone expresses their interest in me I automatically thing there’s something wrong xx |
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Yep I know exactly what you mean! I always feel like I need to mention im a bbw just so they know, hubby always says I don't have to tell people if they've read our profile they should know, and as he loves my curves he doesn't get why I have such an issue with it he says I'm just a very sexy lady not a bbw who's sexy! Much prefer club meets for this reason! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have no reason to be insecure. Lu is curvy, sexy as. And literally never struggled for gym fit attention. Whether they turn out to be douches is always in question. But that is clearly just a man thing.
J |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be like that.. I've met my regular few years ago, he has a body of a model.. He talked some sense into my head and now it doesn't bother me.
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"I struggle with this too. I tend to discount messages solely on that basis, that they can’t be attracted to me and maybe it’s just a case of hole=goal which I was told once by a not very delightful chap when I politely declined his offer. I’m sure I’ve missed out of some incredible meets because of this."
I do this with almost every message I get.
Plus being tall and BBW I can’t understand why a guy would find me attractive
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
You're not alone in that thought,quite often I think are you sure you meant to message  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m exactly the same, always think I’m not slim and toned enough. Always make a point of saying pictures only show what I want them too, I’m very self conscious, and make it clear I have a big bum and cellulite and a mum tum. Guys say they like that but I question that maybe there just saying that! |
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I have some pretty blunt pics to show I'm lardy, never thought fit guys would be interested at first, but had some fun meets BC with some gorgeous younger men. Can't wait to get back to it now, owning the pleasure my body is capable of giving and receiving |
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"I’m exactly the same, always think I’m not slim and toned enough. Always make a point of saying pictures only show what I want them too, I’m very self conscious, and make it clear I have a big bum and cellulite and a mum tum. Guys say they like that but I question that maybe there
just saying that! "
Yep thats my favourite line when people saying they like our pics, that they are from a flattering angle and dont show my wobbly bits! X |
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
I can understand why you feel that way, but it's a misunderstanding. People aren't necessarily attracted to an equivalent of them. People can like something different to how thay are themselves. They might also find you very hot and think you wouldn't be interested in them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I like someone's face and personality then all of them is attractive to me... Guys with good abs also feel this way too, as hard as that can be to accept, when you are who they fancy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just assume they havent read my profile and dont realise im large... too self conscious to put up full body pics |
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"I just assume they havent read my profile and dont realise im large... too self conscious to put up full body pics"
Youre a beautiful lady! But yep understand completely hence why none on our profile either x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feel exactly the same, i struggle to get my head around it. I think it holds me back when meeting too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just assume they havent read my profile and dont realise im large... too self conscious to put up full body pics"
Don't be stupid x you look fantastic in all your pics x get your confidence up and don't even think that way x |
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By *aylonMan
over a year ago
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Love curvy women, maybe it's a culture thing but find someone who makes you feel confident and sexy that's our job as the man and there's plenty of us out there. Appreciation is key. Stay sexy ?? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love curvy it’s the feel of a real woman. I can understand from their point of view tho as society always favours a slim attractive woman to a curvy one. In my eyes a size 20 plus is just perfect. In undies there is no better sight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can’t measure sexiness!! And there is nothing sexier than seeing a woman feeling sexy so get your sexy outfits on and show your meets your sexiness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ardent curve lover here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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U all look amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fat DOES NOT equal less than
Repeat until believed. |
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Feeling fat old and frumpy is my biggest problem, especially with all the young and fit people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just assume they havent read my profile and dont realise im large... too self conscious to put up full body pics"
I’m exactly the same! Seemingly from this thread though we’re wrong but wish it was a case of flicking a switch to believe they are legitimately interested |
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"I just assume they havent read my profile and dont realise im large... too self conscious to put up full body pics
I’m exactly the same! Seemingly from this thread though we’re wrong but wish it was a case of flicking a switch to believe they are legitimately interested "
Would be much easier if there was a switch xx
What's even worse is when I get the courage to meet someone hotter, have some fun and then immediately think they only did it to make fun out of me |
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"I just assume they havent read my profile and dont realise im large... too self conscious to put up full body pics"
You look absolutely stunning xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Luke) used to be in what would commonly be called "good shape" - that is, lean and a bit muscly. I'm not any more but I'm putting in a lot of effort to get back to it. I'm doing it because I want to be healthy, but also I want to be attractive to women.
I have always been attracted to women who are not fit and toned. My favourite size for a woman is a 16, although I like a bit either side. I have never been attracted to slim women. I am always more likely to be attracted to a size 20 woman than a size 10 one.
As my body has got better and worse and hopefully getting better again, what I'm attracted to has not changed. My partner Hannah is a size 18 and I think she is sexy as fuck. If I get lean and muscly again, my attraction to her isn't going to change, and my attraction to any of you lovely ladies isn't going to change either.
It realise it may sound like a bit of a double standard to say I change my body to be more attractive to women but encourage women not to change theirs. If I reached my target of having a good body (by conventional standards), I would be sad if a woman ever thought I was out of her league so wouldn't be interested in her. If she joined us I would want her to enjoy my body without worrying about about whether I enjoy hers. If we got that far then that would be a given. She should then just enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Embrace your curves and own them ladies if a fit guy approaches you just go for it and enjoy the ride |
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Op....i just looked at your pics...you have an amazing body...anyone...would be so luvky to enjoy you. |
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Mmmmm ........ ....._ my curves
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I've always struggled with this. If someone really attractive and fit shows interest I always question why me?
I met a wonderful couple a while back. And both was absolutely gorgeous. Very fit and toned. I never thought in a million years they would be interested in me. But they was very much so.
That have me a massive confidence boost. So I try to embrace the fact that even though I don't understand why they like me.. they just do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m becoming more accepting of the fact that attractive men can find me attractive too. My FWB is beautiful, he’s very popular on the scene but he likes me. I’ve played with some very hot men too, and thy always approach me first. There will always be losers who target us fast girls because they think we’ll be an easy shag because we’re desperate (those are the ones that get nasty when you turn them down) but there are definitely hot guys who really go for bigger ladies. |
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I think men and women often don't get that a view of yourself can be different from somebody else's. I often find women consider themselves less attractive than they are, as shown by negative comments. I think men often inflate their attractiveness, as shown by thinking that cock photos or a FAF message are ways to arouse lust in a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I still struggle to be honest... I guess having a narcissistic ex husband who blamed me and in his words “well, look at you” for his numerous affairs has really done a number on my confidence with the sexual and attraction side of myself.
It’s been 7 years since we separated but it still effects me.
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Fellow fat and 50yr here - sometimes I love my body and its curvy, wobbly bits and other times I most definitely dont. Frequently compare myself and feel inadequate against slimmer ladies. Wish I could get out of this mindset!!
Saying that FAB has given me more confidence in how I look for sure and that I cant be all that bad. Thankfully my OH loves me the way I am and he's gorgeous. Mixed up from Devon lol. |
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"I still struggle to be honest... I guess having a narcissistic ex husband who blamed me and in his words “well, look at you” for his numerous affairs has really done a number on my confidence with the sexual and attraction side of myself.
It’s been 7 years since we separated but it still effects me.
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You are gorgeous - he must still be kicking himself. |
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I love a curvier lady o find they're less inhibited and more confident in them selves so op I'd say own your curves and don't worry about anyone else be the best u u can be and enjoy yourself to the max  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm exactly the same, any time anyone tells me they think I have a nice body I think there talking out there arse lol and if a really attractive physically fit person (not gender spacific) expressed an interest in me I'd always question why and have it in the back of my mind it was some kind of social experiment finding out what it's like to be with a fat person haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although I believe that everyone likes different things - you only have to look at hot pics to know what the majority like.
It's fake flattery
I don't believe for a minute that a ripped 30yr old fancies me - they just want to get their dick wet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shellebelle
"I still struggle to be honest... I guess having a narcissistic ex husband who blamed me and in his words “well, look at you” for his numerous affairs has really done a number on my confidence with the sexual and attraction side of myself.
It’s been 7 years since we separated but it still effects me.
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Wow!!! I’ve just looked at your pics and you are absolutely sexy as fuck babes Your body is beautiful xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d take thick thighs and big boobs and bum over a skinny body any day, curves are just so much more womanly and sexy |
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Well I for one find BBW woman very attractive, I can’t explain why but I suppose it’s just something I go for.
There some lovely women just in this thread.
Keep smiling everyone as there no set type a person likes in the world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm about the same size. I also find it odd when hot guys approach me and almost suspicious. But their choice I guess xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d take thick thighs and big boobs and bum over a skinny body any day, curves are just so much more womanly and sexy"
Not all of us have that tho... I am just fat in the middle |
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Same... I get so worried that if they actually see me naked then they’d bork |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I believe that everyone likes different things - you only have to look at hot pics to know what the majority like.
It's fake flattery
I don't believe for a minute that a ripped 30yr old fancies me - they just want to get their dick wet.
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I tend to flit between thinking this and not... But I have met alot of very fit, young men that made it obvious they fancied me and only 1 or 2 where it was glaringly obvious they just needed a fuck... Luckily I just needed the same and didn't care at the time... Only 1 was weird lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d take thick thighs and big boobs and bum over a skinny body any day, curves are just so much more womanly and sexy
Not all of us have that tho... I am just fat in the middle "
Same. I hate seeing these comments about how gorgeous BBW’s are for their big bums and boobs. I’m all belly, skinny legs and tits that would be nice if they filled out a bit. Not all larger women look the same unfortunately. It makes me very self conscious. Like I don’t fit in any category. |
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We generally look for couples with other bbw for this reason we have passed on opportunities to meet slimmer couples for this reason |
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over a year ago
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"Although I believe that everyone likes different things - you only have to look at hot pics to know what the majority like.
It's fake flattery
I don't believe for a minute that a ripped 30yr old fancies me - they just want to get their dick wet.
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I wonder if these same guys would date bbw if not then it's deffiently just to get the dick wet. Personally I only meet people I would date and I don't stray from that. |
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"I wonder if these same guys would date bbw if not then it's deffiently just to get the dick wet. Personally I only meet people I would date and I don't stray from that."
Yes it does make you wonder. Same for me, I only meet people I’d be happy to date. |
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Yes. I’m not an hour glass shape.. I find it frustrating that our body shape is so under represented. I have slim muscular legs, slim hips, flat arse, a mum tum, and big boobs. I feel like I was made upside down 
I’ve not been here long, and am yet to meet anyone, but I seem to be getting more attention than I do on other dating apps. I do wonder if these people would be happy to date or just want a fuck a fatty *shrug*
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I'm an average size 12 and I still feel like that when some gym fit, 6 pack, toned fella shows an interest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ms thinks the same way, dont know why though.. She knows i love curves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a dude who gets called slim a lot I personally find bbws a lot more attractive, I like curves and the way I see it is there’s more to explore and play with on a sensual level
"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I believe that everyone likes different things - you only have to look at hot pics to know what the majority like.
It's fake flattery
I don't believe for a minute that a ripped 30yr old fancies me - they just want to get their dick wet.
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Im 27, athletic and liked your pics x pleaseee ladies stop thinking like this |
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This... in everyday life I don't give a shit about what people think but when it comes to sexy-times I start to second-guess things. Best to just take people at face value really. If they say you're gorgeous, believe them. If they're lying then they're tediously shallow and not worth bothering with but chances are they're telling the truth |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel like this alot of the time, but done days I feel really sexy with all the attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't understand because I don't like what I see so don't expect anyone else to.
I guess that's why I used to be descriptive in my bio, so they understood. Sometimes I would wonder if they had actually read it!!
My confidence was shot to pieces with my ex so I don't feel worthy most of the time. Not when there are so many other beautiful slim ladies. I mean, why?? |
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By *inranWoman
over a year ago
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It's due to lots of media stuff. The love interest always fits fits 'type'
I found
But you need to start believing that evidence.
It would be arrogant to think that you are right (this phrasing helps me) when so many others and all the evidence says you are wrong.
If I was looking to research anything else I wouldn't stubbornly ignore all evidence to the contrary.
Honestly I know how much my taste varies and deviates from what other people like so why should they all be looking for the same thing |
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By *inranWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. I’m not an hour glass shape.. I find it frustrating that our body shape is so under represented. I have slim muscular legs, slim hips, flat arse, a mum tum, and big boobs. I feel like I was made upside down
I’ve not been here long, and am yet to meet anyone, but I seem to be getting more attention than I do on other dating apps. I do wonder if these people would be happy to date or just want a fuck a fatty *shrug*
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I'd date you but I appreciate I am not the type of person in question lol |
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Stand tall and be confident & don't question why guys are attracted to you just enjoy it for what it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stand tall and be confident & don't question why guys are attracted to you just enjoy it for what it is "
Sometimes hard when you've been told it's not attractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't understand because I don't like what I see so don't expect anyone else to.
I guess that's why I used to be descriptive in my bio, so they understood. Sometimes I would wonder if they had actually read it!!
My confidence was shot to pieces with my ex so I don't feel worthy most of the time. Not when there are so many other beautiful slim ladies. I mean, why?? "
Why !!!! Because all lady’s are beautiful it’s not about body size it’s about if you click if both have personalities not all men are after size zero lady’s just my opinion my wife was size 24 she was my life my love as they say there is always somebody out there for someone |
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over a year ago
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"I can't understand because I don't like what I see so don't expect anyone else to.
I guess that's why I used to be descriptive in my bio, so they understood. Sometimes I would wonder if they had actually read it!!
My confidence was shot to pieces with my ex so I don't feel worthy most of the time. Not when there are so many other beautiful slim ladies. I mean, why??
Why !!!! Because all lady’s are beautiful it’s not about body size it’s about if you click if both have personalities not all men are after size zero lady’s just my opinion my wife was size 24 she was my life my love as they say there is always somebody out there for someone "
I just need to find someone who feels that way then |
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By *inranWoman
over a year ago
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"Stand tall and be confident & don't question why guys are attracted to you just enjoy it for what it is
Sometimes hard when you've been told it's not attractive "
But if you going to take other people's opinions on board at least treat them all equally if that one person told you that then that is their opinion (maybe, probably more likely said to hurt) but you have to believe the people who say otherwise thing that too. With equal passion x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As the saying goes, the bad things are easier to believe.
Honestly, it is tough to let that go |
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over a year ago
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"I can't understand because I don't like what I see so don't expect anyone else to.
I guess that's why I used to be descriptive in my bio, so they understood. Sometimes I would wonder if they had actually read it!!
My confidence was shot to pieces with my ex so I don't feel worthy most of the time. Not when there are so many other beautiful slim ladies. I mean, why??
Why !!!! Because all lady’s are beautiful it’s not about body size it’s about if you click if both have personalities not all men are after size zero lady’s just my opinion my wife was size 24 she was my life my love as they say there is always somebody out there for someone
I just need to find someone who feels that way then "
A lot of men do it’s just a question of finding the right one and let me assure you one will come along one day sweep you off you’re feet and you will be both happy I know it’s hard forgetting the past I’m Bernardo child went in to home at four didn’t come out till sixteen I married my wife in town hall in Cheshire after three months never regretted it loved her with all my heart and soul it killed me inside a little bit I think when she passed in 2010 but as saying goes onwwards and upwards best wishes to you kiss a few frogs you might find prince x |
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"As the saying goes, the bad things are easier to believe.
Honestly, it is tough to let that go "
I think that's more a confident thing on your part then.
Why choose to believe the negative over the positive? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would welcome the attention of any man who likes a large mature bbw xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm exactly the same, I think they're taking the piss. So I either ignore or fizzle out the conversation as I know I wouldn't meet up. Sounds like a lot of us are in the same boat haha! X |
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Yup, I feel exactly the same! It’s tough to change the mindset x |
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I'm a completely changed woman lol
For the first time I let someone rub my stomach. Hands all over me. Felt so good having someone enjoy and devour every inch of me |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"I'm a completely changed woman lol
For the first time I let someone rub my stomach. Hands all over me. Felt so good having someone enjoy and devour every inch of me"
And I bet they loved it just as much! Nicely done! |
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"I'm a completely changed woman lol
For the first time I let someone rub my stomach. Hands all over me. Felt so good having someone enjoy and devour every inch of me
And I bet they loved it just as much! Nicely done! "
Thank you was amazing! |
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I am exactly the same. I'm a size 20-22 and remember the first time a fit attractive type messaged. Spent the evening going through my pics wondering if careful angling was showing me to be slimmer than I am! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I still struggle to be honest... I guess having a narcissistic ex husband who blamed me and in his words “well, look at you” for his numerous affairs has really done a number on my confidence with the sexual and attraction side of myself.
It’s been 7 years since we separated but it still effects me.
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Shelle you have lots of friends that adore you because of the person you are. And that should be enough to tell you that the problem was never you. |
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I used to feel the same but not anymore thanks in part to some amazing fab meets..
Let your guard down and go for it |
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over a year ago
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"I still struggle to be honest... I guess having a narcissistic ex husband who blamed me and in his words “well, look at you” for his numerous affairs has really done a number on my confidence with the sexual and attraction side of myself.
It’s been 7 years since we separated but it still effects me.
Shelle you have lots of friends that adore you because of the person you are. And that should be enough to tell you that the problem was never you."
Yes shelle belle! We love you! B xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has something they are looking for, and they have their reasons. I could list a few but they would be mine, other peoples may be different.
Don’t read too much into it. Maybe someone’s dress size isn’t the only thing they look at. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm a completely changed woman lol
For the first time I let someone rub my stomach. Hands all over me. Felt so good having someone enjoy and devour every inch of me"
I bet it did - good for you
I wish I could let my guard down
I just hate myself far too much - it's a very sad waste of life |
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"Guys i can cope with. Its couples the lady is a slim toned lass and they express an interest in me i do wonder!"
I’m exactly the same, I don’t get it, always feel like it must be for a joke or something... |
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"I'm a completely changed woman lol
For the first time I let someone rub my stomach. Hands all over me. Felt so good having someone enjoy and devour every inch of me
I bet it did - good for you
I wish I could let my guard down
I just hate myself far too much - it's a very sad waste of life "
Oh babe xx you should never hate yourself.
I know it's tough. It's taken me a long time. I think it helped that I had a few drinks. And he was so slow and understanding. |
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"Guys i can cope with. Its couples the lady is a slim toned lass and they express an interest in me i do wonder!
I’m exactly the same, I don’t get it, always feel like it must be for a joke or something... "
I've unfortunately been told a few times that the woman of the couple no longer wants to meet because she has seen pics of me  |
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over a year ago
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I am currently chatting with a 22 year old...not yet seen his face, but the body is smoking....
Have to stop myself thinking it's too good to be true or that he surely can't fancy me |
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By *ormladMan
over a year ago
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It's all about the person , I have to say. Everyone is different. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly the same here too. I keep warning people I'm big, and expect them to realise I'm not attractive, and don't know what to say or do when I get complimented!
Weirdly though, I'll strut around morrisons like I own the place!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s like I said if we all fancied the same thing the world be a strange place I’ve always been attracted to bbw lady’s the clues in title big beautiful lady’s and that’s what all of you lady’s are love to all lady’s |
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I think we are living in a era where Bigger girls are appreciated more than ever! Who'd of ever thought 20 years ago that butt implants would be a thing! |
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Just to throw a different slant on an interesting topic,it's not just the ladies that are self conscious of their body. As the male half of our couple I look at profiles and generally disregard a lot of single ladies and couples down to how I feel about my body with the thought of "I'm not what they will be looking for so whats the point" and if we get a message out the blue from someone I'd regard as not in our league because of me then the doubt creeps in. Cant win sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to throw a different slant on an interesting topic,it's not just the ladies that are self conscious of their body. As the male half of our couple I look at profiles and generally disregard a lot of single ladies and couples down to how I feel about my body with the thought of "I'm not what they will be looking for so whats the point" and if we get a message out the blue from someone I'd regard as not in our league because of me then the doubt creeps in. Cant win sometimes."
I agree 100% with what you are saying here mate and often it puts me off messaging anyone single ladies or couples |
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over a year ago
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"Just to throw a different slant on an interesting topic,it's not just the ladies that are self conscious of their body. As the male half of our couple I look at profiles and generally disregard a lot of single ladies and couples down to how I feel about my body with the thought of "I'm not what they will be looking for so whats the point" and if we get a message out the blue from someone I'd regard as not in our league because of me then the doubt creeps in. Cant win sometimes.
I agree 100% with what you are saying here mate and often it puts me off messaging anyone single ladies or couples "
Couldn’t agree more, I came to the conclusion I’m definitely not for everyone but it leaves me messaging less because I start thinking what’s the point |
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"If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
Thought that when I was first on here but believe them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I have seen so far all of the women who have posted on here are absolutely stunning some very lucky men out there please treat these women with respect xxxx |
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over a year ago
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For all you BBW its those things that you consider imperfect that are perfect for me they make you who are they are a part of you and if can make you feel amazing about yourself then in my world you are perfect for just as I hope I would be perfect for you |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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It's a fact that we never see ourselves as others do (and yeah, it's easy to say "thank fuck for that etc.) but I reckon there's not one person in this thread that hasn't been looked at by someone and they've thought 'I wouldn't have a chance with them'.
Simplistic to say something like "love the skin you're in" and other nonsense quotes, but.... |
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Women,
when the clubs re-open, please do yourself a favour, and get yourself to one of the BBW nights! (bring a friend if you need courage - I'll take anyone with me if you need a hand to hold I go to Jaydees, Kestrels, and Midnight Affairs)
You don't have to play; but just talk and relax; and you will be chatted up.
there are men who adore us; prefer us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the same but I think it’s a confidence thing. Everyone has different tastes and I need to accept that fact that while I might not be for everyone I don’t have to avoid typical gym type guys because I assume they won’t like me, when the problem is usually in my head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You look amazing, doesn’t matter what size you are. Everyone finds beauty in different people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think someone wanting to put their cock in me is a compliment.
Men that pretend to be 'straight ' that fuck TV / TS when they're horny are just any hole is a goal.
It's not flattering.
Disclaimer- not that there's anything wrong with TV / TS
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
We all find different people and different sizes hot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Exactly the same here too. I keep warning people I'm big, and expect them to realise I'm not attractive, and don't know what to say or do when I get complimented!
Weirdly though, I'll strut around morrisons like I own the place!
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Your gorgeous though curious x |
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over a year ago
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"I am currently chatting with a 22 year old...not yet seen his face, but the body is smoking....
Have to stop myself thinking it's too good to be true or that he surely can't fancy me "
Would love if we could chat Cosmo xx |
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over a year ago
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It's a confidence thing..i have a few extra pounds and hubby is the opposite.. He lost a LOAD of weight after diagnosis of cancer.. He is a shadow of his former self. When we occasionally get contacted we can't see what they get out of it.. There's a lot of people on here that physically we consider "out of our league" |
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over a year ago
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Size like age is just numbers, some people like myself enjoy bigger women (size 18 and beyond haha) and I've lost count of the amount of times I've asked a larger woman to sit on my face and the response is "I'd crush you" or "I'd suffocate you" and its disheartening to think that would happen, some people enjoy asphyxiation |
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over a year ago
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"Size like age is just numbers, some people like myself enjoy bigger women (size 18 and beyond haha) and I've lost count of the amount of times I've asked a larger woman to sit on my face and the response is "I'd crush you" or "I'd suffocate you" and its disheartening to think that would happen, some people enjoy asphyxiation "
honestly ladies I love the eroticism and trust in such an act, its sad to think women of a larger size deter from doing or enjoying such things worrying that what they say would happen |
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
I remember chatting to a gym fit guy who was insistent that he fancied me. I questioned him about it, asking why he found me attractive when he obviously loved fitness and taking great care of his own physique. He said he enjoyed sculpting his body and feeling fit but loved feeling the softness, curves and voluptuousness of a larger lady.
Who was I to argue? He liked what he liked.
Katie. |
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Unfortunately media has made being large unacceptable in society ..
It’s programmed to make girls think they are only beautiful being stick thin ..
Now it makes girls want pumped up ridiculous lips ..
The fashion media has a lot to answer for ..
And the porn industry with its fakeness too .. |
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men tell me they fancy me and want to fuck me because they love my curves.
Gives me a boost but am I bbw |
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over a year ago
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Copied from an online thread.
one of the main reasons men like curvy women is actually biological and subconscious. Men associate wide hips and large breasts with fertility, they always have. A woman with curves was said to be good for child bearing and men associate curves with that notion. Even if they aren’t ready to have children, the fact that you look fertile makes them want to mate with you.
Curvy women for the win everytime for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot
I remember chatting to a gym fit guy who was insistent that he fancied me. I questioned him about it, asking why he found me attractive when he obviously loved fitness and taking great care of his own physique. He said he enjoyed sculpting his body and feeling fit but loved feeling the softness, curves and voluptuousness of a larger lady.
Who was I to argue? He liked what he liked.
Katie."
I agree with him, we like what we like xx |
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over a year ago
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
You have a great body, as many BBW do.
I never think anyone i fancy could ever fancy me |
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over a year ago
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Slot of stunning curvy ladies on this post |
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"As a proud curvy size 20, why is it I get embarrassed when someone who is in much better shape than me finds me attractive?
If a guy is slim and/or got muscles I never believe they would find me hot "
Yep, I hear you and totally feel this too |
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All sounds like media brain washing to me
Theirs always someone for someone if people think like some of you guys in here, America and Mexico would have a very slow birth rate lol
they have the largest amount of bbw in the world and the bbws get a lot of attention
Some north African countries would send young female adults to places to put weight on because thats what's consider as attractive which is BBWs
All this talk of... I don't know what a man sees in me is all in your head..
You ladies need to attended bbw night at chams loads of confident ladies in sexy outfits/underwear getting the attention from what u guys so call good fit looking guys so maybe the the bbw confidence will rub off on you
I'm an athletes man and I love BBWs since the age of 18 and many like me around the world
Cheer up mate! |
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over a year ago
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Bbw ladies are so sexy I prefer size 20+ |
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