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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham

What's the lowest level of activity that people feel legitimately justifies the bi curious label?

Mrs lady half feels a bit uneasy about having that on her profile, yet enjoys kissing women and having fun with boobs. I think that's totally appropriate to class as big curious given the lack of anything better to choose.

I don't think there'd be an equivalent feeling if the man in a couple liked kissing other men. They'd be branded a stinking liar if they said they were straight, right?

So what's the smallest levels of same sex interaction for both genders that people feels tips the balance to bi?

When there's an "if in doubt" situation, which side would you think is the best option to go for?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Not bi unless it's more than just the tip.

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By *Ci LutherMan  over a year ago

Cumalot

Interesting question you have posed... I’ve been in a bi dilemma, absolutely no problem interacting with men as part of couple, mutual masterbating and happy to me sucked, but have no intention of meeting men 1-1

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By *rKinksMan  over a year ago

Alton

I think bi curious is the most appropriate term. It encompasses a wide range and just says. "Hey I'm open to something with the same sex but this will be more limited

Of course the are still limits to people who are bi but when first talking id bring up people's bi limits earlier with a bi curios person than a bi person.

Either way it's all about communication with potential partners

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Bi curious. If I see that in a profile, with no further descriptiin, I'd ask about boundsries

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Depends if you make eye contact.

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By *uliaChrisCouple  over a year ago

westerham


"What's the lowest level of activity that people feel legitimately justifies the bi curious label?

Mrs lady half feels a bit uneasy about having that on her profile, yet enjoys kissing women and having fun with boobs. I think that's totally appropriate to class as big curious given the lack of anything better to choose.

I don't think there'd be an equivalent feeling if the man in a couple liked kissing other men. They'd be branded a stinking liar if they said they were straight, right?

So what's the smallest levels of same sex interaction for both genders that people feels tips the balance to bi?

When there's an "if in doubt" situation, which side would you think is the best option to go for? "

That's just boob curious. Not bi.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"What's the lowest level of activity that people feel legitimately justifies the bi curious label?

Mrs lady half feels a bit uneasy about having that on her profile, yet enjoys kissing women and having fun with boobs. I think that's totally appropriate to class as big curious given the lack of anything better to choose.

I don't think there'd be an equivalent feeling if the man in a couple liked kissing other men. They'd be branded a stinking liar if they said they were straight, right?

So what's the smallest levels of same sex interaction for both genders that people feels tips the balance to bi?

When there's an "if in doubt" situation, which side would you think is the best option to go for?

That's just boob curious. Not bi. "

Agree

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"That's just boob curious. Not bi.

Agree "

You can agree as much as you want, but it still isn't an option in the list...

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"Bi curious. If I see that in a profile, with no further descriptiin, I'd ask about boundsries"

If those boundaries are kissing and boobs though, would feel like that didn't even count?

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By *AYENCouple  over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"That's just boob curious. Not bi.

Agree

You can agree as much as you want, but it still isn't an option in the list... "

If your lady half is uneasy about using bi-curious, don't use it. You can mention her liking for kissing and boob play somewhere else within your profile.

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By *aomilatteCouple  over a year ago

Midlands

Some Women have been Bi-curious for 10 years! We tend to think it means kissing and booby fun, but not oral. We've read of some Women who are Bi-selfish, receive but not give, but Bi-selfish isn't on the list. So many labels!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bi curious. If I see that in a profile, with no further descriptiin, I'd ask about boundsries

If those boundaries are kissing and boobs though, would feel like that didn't even count? "

It depends what I was in the mood for to be honest!

Some people put bi curious because they want to go further. Some people want to just play with the soft side. I'd want to know the expected dynamic from all parties, though. I am, after all, here for my pleasure. My preference is for all parties to be involved.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Watching with interest here hihi..

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By *osweet69Couple  over a year ago

portsmouth

Bi Playful, Bi curious, Bi. Op think your lady could say she was Bi playful if you were looking for a label.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


" Bi Playful, Bi curious, Bi. Op think your lady could say she was Bi playful if you were looking for a label. "
sounds like a good label, but can't pick it on a fab profile though

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By *tephTV67TV/TS  over a year ago

Cheshire


"What's the lowest level of activity that people feel legitimately justifies the bi curious label?

Mrs lady half feels a bit uneasy about having that on her profile, yet enjoys kissing women and having fun with boobs. I think that's totally appropriate to class as big curious given the lack of anything better to choose.

I don't think there'd be an equivalent feeling if the man in a couple liked kissing other men. They'd be branded a stinking liar if they said they were straight, right?

So what's the smallest levels of same sex interaction for both genders that people feels tips the balance to bi?

When there's an "if in doubt" situation, which side would you think is the best option to go for? "

That’s just touching, even with the lips on lips or caressing another woman’s breasts. In the porn world, that would be regarded as soft core porn (soft core bi play maybe).

Girls going out for a drink on a Saturday night to tease the lads wouldn’t see themselves as bi or even curious for partaking in the same scenario. Just a little fun to get the lads going, no more than that.

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By *osweet69Couple  over a year ago

portsmouth


" Bi Playful, Bi curious, Bi. Op think your lady could say she was Bi playful if you were looking for a label. sounds like a good label, but can't pick it on a fab profile though "
True, but you can include it in your profile text.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"That’s just touching, even with the lips on lips or caressing another woman’s breasts. In the porn world, that would be regarded as soft core porn (soft core bi play maybe).

Girls going out for a drink on a Saturday night to tease the lads wouldn’t see themselves as bi or even curious for partaking in the same scenario. Just a little fun to get the lads going, no more than that. "

I think that is an interesting observation, however isn't there a meaningfully different motivation there? It's for shock and humour, not sexual appeal. Just like Erm... gynaecology etc... Context is massively important for these sorts of things, right?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS  over a year ago

Cheshire


"That’s just touching, even with the lips on lips or caressing another woman’s breasts. In the porn world, that would be regarded as soft core porn (soft core bi play maybe).

Girls going out for a drink on a Saturday night to tease the lads wouldn’t see themselves as bi or even curious for partaking in the same scenario. Just a little fun to get the lads going, no more than that.

I think that is an interesting observation, however isn't there a meaningfully different motivation there? It's for shock and humour, not sexual appeal. Just like Erm... gynaecology etc... Context is massively important for these sorts of things, right? "

Agree it’s done for fun and to be a bit daring on a night out. But often girls will be more willing to soft play and not make a big deal over it. Having a snog and a little fumble is all it is, not pure bisexual feelings just exploring other sexual fantasies.

As if I know as I’m not a real girl, so just from talking to women I’ve known who’ve played occasionally when they were younger

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By *Ci LutherMan  over a year ago

Cumalot


"Interesting question you have posed... I’ve been in a bi dilemma, absolutely no problem interacting with men as part of couple, mutual masterbating and happy to me sucked, but have no intention of meeting men 1-1"

Any other guys in my boat?

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman  over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

I would class myself as fully bi, I have no issue with kissing, caressing or going down on another woman and obviously having the same done to me.

I do think some women say they are bi to make their blokes happy, so a little kiss and a boob fondle is fine and they have no issue with me going down on them but the thought of them going down on me is a big no no.

I think some 'bi' blokes on here are fine with another guy sucking them off if it's a way to get into the other guys wife. God forbid you ask them to suck cock themselves though!

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By *itzimadCouple  over a year ago

harwich

she is bi, im bi curious as i don't partically like anal either way so cant claim to be fully bi

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"I would class myself as fully bi, I have no issue with kissing, caressing or going down on another woman and obviously having the same done to me.

I do think some women say they are bi to make their blokes happy, so a little kiss and a boob fondle is fine and they have no issue with me going down on them but the thought of them going down on me is a big no no."

I think that's certainly the case although it's surely important to realise that the very same scenario can be absolutely what everyone involved wants, so you can't take a set of criteria and guarantee the reasons for it.


"I think some 'bi' blokes on here are fine with another guy sucking them off if it's a way to get into the other guys wife. God forbid you ask them to suck cock themselves though!"

We've certainly been there at the message stage. Guys "kindly" offering to let me play with them as part of the "deal" ... Erm. No ta.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"she is bi, im bi curious as i don't partically like anal either way so cant claim to be fully bi"

Do you not think you can? It's certainly curious to me that the limits of female bi play is significantly less than the male equivalent. I believe it shit unreasonable for gay relationships to have no penetration from their preference on the physical side, but they wouldn't be judged as therefore not gay...

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By *amantha TSWoman  over a year ago

Swindon

Unfortunately not everyone is as polite as to ask what boundaries bi-curious means. Despite clearly stating these in my profile I'm still approached by couples who want M/TV fun "while she watches".

Thinking of putting myself straight again. After all over half of Fab men are only "Fab straight"

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"Interesting question you have posed... I’ve been in a bi dilemma, absolutely no problem interacting with men as part of couple, mutual masterbating and happy to me sucked, but have no intention of meeting men 1-1

Any other guys in my boat?"

Outside of the lack of you saying you reciprocate the sucking. Not that that *needs* to be present to justify bi curious in my book.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"Unfortunately not everyone is as polite as to ask what boundaries bi-curious means. Despite clearly stating these in my profile I'm still approached by couples who want M/TV fun "while she watches".

Thinking of putting myself straight again. After all over half of Fab men are only "Fab straight""

I'm thinking of doing a little experiment and asking 20 or so local straight guys if they play bi. I think the results would appal various Erm.. "non bi" couples around these parts!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I would class myself as fully bi, I have no issue with kissing, caressing or going down on another woman and obviously having the same done to me.

I do think some women say they are bi to make their blokes happy, so a little kiss and a boob fondle is fine and they have no issue with me going down on them but the thought of them going down on me is a big no no.

I think some 'bi' blokes on here are fine with another guy sucking them off if it's a way to get into the other guys wife. God forbid you ask them to suck cock themselves though!"

Definitely agree about the pillow princesses. I wouldn't call that bi curious. More the husband/ boyfriend wants them to do bi stuff while he watches. *shudder*

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Unfortunately not everyone is as polite as to ask what boundaries bi-curious means. Despite clearly stating these in my profile I'm still approached by couples who want M/TV fun "while she watches".

Thinking of putting myself straight again. After all over half of Fab men are only "Fab straight"

I'm thinking of doing a little experiment and asking 20 or so local straight guys if they play bi. I think the results would appal various Erm.. "non bi" couples around these parts! "

Do it! I love experiments.

Say you'll suck their cock after they fuck your missus.

I reckon 18 out of 20 will say yes.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


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I'm thinking of doing a little experiment and asking 20 or so local straight guys if they play bi. I think the results would appal various Erm.. "non bi" couples around these parts!

Do it! I love experiments.

Say you'll suck their cock after they fuck your missus.

I reckon 18 out of 20 will say yes. "

TBH I'm cautious it might be against some rules..?!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Thought this myself, I call myself bi but more orally bi as I'm only into blowjobs with guys

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"Thought this myself, I call myself bi but more orally bi as I'm only into blowjobs with guys "

Given that's more than enough to be damned to hell by various delightful couples here, you'd not be able to call yourself straight, that's for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Thought this myself, I call myself bi but more orally bi as I'm only into blowjobs with guys

Given that's more than enough to be damned to hell by various delightful couples here, you'd not be able to call yourself straight, that's for sure."

Guessing some people aren't fans? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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I'm thinking of doing a little experiment and asking 20 or so local straight guys if they play bi. I think the results would appal various Erm.. "non bi" couples around these parts!

Do it! I love experiments.

Say you'll suck their cock after they fuck your missus.

I reckon 18 out of 20 will say yes.

TBH I'm cautious it might be against some rules..?! "

Just say it's for after covid lockdown, not now.

There's no rule that says you have to meet if you ask.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple  over a year ago

Bexley


"What's the lowest level of activity that people feel legitimately justifies the bi curious label?

Mrs lady half feels a bit uneasy about having that on her profile, yet enjoys kissing women and having fun with boobs. I think that's totally appropriate to class as big curious given the lack of anything better to choose.

I don't think there'd be an equivalent feeling if the man in a couple liked kissing other men. They'd be branded a stinking liar if they said they were straight, right?

So what's the smallest levels of same sex interaction for both genders that people feels tips the balance to bi?

When there's an "if in doubt" situation, which side would you think is the best option to go for? "

For us 'bi-curious' means actively wanting to try a bi scenario - simples.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"For us 'bi-curious' means actively wanting to try a bi scenario - simples."

I always find "curious" having to mean "haven't done anything yet" extremely strange given the limited choices available. You don't get to choose what other people feel it means when looking at them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yeah I stopped calling myself curious after meeting a few guys and knowing I liked it, definitely not curious haha

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Thought this myself, I call myself bi but more orally bi as I'm only into blowjobs with guys "

If we were to look for a bi guy he would have to be fully bi and not just orally bi. Orally bi is akin to being able to sit in a ferrari but not allowed to drive it . Lots of guys will suck cock or get sucked if they know they can fuck some pussy as an end result!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Fully bi guys are harder to find on Here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Great thread so far.. Hihi..if we had a pound for every time we get the bi curious come asking if they can suck my dick so that it leads to fucking my better half as the main conquest in reality..little knowing that she wields the strapon and wants to see me fuck or be fucked by the guy..most run away after 2 messages..anyway each to their own and onwards..

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By *uliaChrisCouple  over a year ago

westerham


"That's just boob curious. Not bi.

Agree

You can agree as much as you want, but it still isn't an option in the list... "

No point being in the list, because all right thinking people are boob curious.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple  over a year ago

Birmingham


"That's just boob curious. Not bi.

Agree

You can agree as much as you want, but it still isn't an option in the list...

No point being in the list, because all right thinking people are boob curious. "

Quite possibly. I imagine plenty of gay guys would still happily do that!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

For me bi curious is ive tried some aspects and enjoyed it. When I've done a few more things I'll know if I'm fully bi

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"That's just boob curious. Not bi.

Agree

You can agree as much as you want, but it still isn't an option in the list...

No point being in the list, because all right thinking people are boob curious. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

For me bi-curious is unknown, curiosity, am I bi? Am I not? Basically that I'd like to find out for myself, although I'm attracted to women, women have beautiful bodies so is it just that? I haven't been fully with a women so I can't know if that's something I enjoy.

That's just how I think of curious

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