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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously  "
Nope for us it’s all about the personality!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"tbh overconfidence is more of an issue as is a sense of self-entitlement. modesty is actually quite refreshing."
I do hope I can connect with one as I do feel for some reason it’s a issue. |
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It depends how deep the lack of confidence goes. We're happy meeting men who have little or no experience but lack of confidence beyond what I'd consider normal for anybody in a new situation is difficult to deal with. Without being unkind, I don't want to spend my time reassuring someone that they're doing ok once things get underway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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So glad I put this thread on, I do feel more at ease knowing it’s not much of issue and I will find a nice couple, my confidence and nerves will soon pass it’s just because it’s a new situation for me, however I’m hoping I have the opportunity to build a connection and friendship with whoever I meet first so I’ll already be feeling comfortable with them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It depends how deep the lack of confidence goes. We're happy meeting men who have little or no experience but lack of confidence beyond what I'd consider normal for anybody in a new situation is difficult to deal with. Without being unkind, I don't want to spend my time reassuring someone that they're doing ok once things get underway"
I completely understand and I’d feel the same |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously
Nope for us it’s all about the personality!!!
T"
 love that outlook and how it should be in my opinion x |
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously "
Not at all. We're looking for a friend and regular playmate not a 'superstud' with 100's of notches on his bedpost. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously
Not at all. We're looking for a friend and regular playmate not a 'superstud' with 100's of notches on his bedpost."
So nice reading things like this  thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously "
Depends on the level and approach. We're not looking to have to explain and walk someone through every step as that wouldn't be hot to us. Being new and trying new things is fine with the right attitude  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously
Depends on the level and approach. We're not looking to have to explain and walk someone through every step as that wouldn't be hot to us. Being new and trying new things is fine with the right attitude "
I’d certainly be just taking things as they come and the situation naturally happening with chemistry and connection, I want the situation to work for all involved not for anyone to have to reassure me or talk me though it  it won’t work for me either my mind would not be engaged by that at all  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The thing is ok we were all new at this once.
I was so nervous the first time we met a single man I nearly backed out. "
We all start somewhere and having understanding of where others are is important or I feel it is, again for me it’s understanding the situation is about all involved and the connection is right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a guy/woman/couple with confidence has nothing to do with entitlement ..i like people who are confident and lets not get the word confident mixed up with bullshit or bigheads.
i only meet guys so for me a confident guy is what im looking for ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously "
Its incredibly stressful actually meeting a couple and I speak from experience of when I was single. If you aren't confident to talk and chat you will struggle on any meet. But as others have said excessive cockiness is not attractive. Be polite and respectful and have a sense of humour. Speak to the couple as if it is both of them. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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We have no trouble with being a guys first couple, and would prefer nerves over cockiness any day. However if someone was very nervous it's worry us that they may well not turn up. We only ever booked one thing per week as Char needs a day before and a day after a meet to rest due to health issues. So planning for a meet and having them no show and them ghost us meant our one "chance" for the week was wasted.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously
Its incredibly stressful actually meeting a couple and I speak from experience of when I was single. If you aren't confident to talk and chat you will struggle on any meet. But as others have said excessive cockiness is not attractive. Be polite and respectful and have a sense of humour. Speak to the couple as if it is both of them."
I’m always polite and respectful as that’s just my nature and I’m easy going and get on with people from all walks of life, I’m fine meeting new people as I do on a daily basis through my business, I want to be able to have a conversation with the male half and getting on with him is just as important to me, I think my friendship with him could really add to the fun.
I completely understand the privilege of been part of couples fun and fully respect that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Honestly I’m amazed at the positive comments, thank you all so much, you have no idea how much this has help me already and given me more confidence in finding a couple to build a connection with |
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"a guy/woman/couple with confidence has nothing to do with entitlement ..i like people who are confident and lets not get the word confident mixed up with bullshit or bigheads.
i only meet guys so for me a confident guy is what im looking for ..."
Agreed. There's no such thing as too confident in my opinion. There's misplaced confidence for sure but even that isn't the same as arrogance and entitled behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When meeting single men, we prefer those who are new and inexperienced. "
I’m genuinely amazed and reassured by all the comments it’s put a smile on my face, I was concerned I’d only receive negative comments |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Happy to meet inexperienced people, but they come with the increased risk of disappearing and being too scared to actually turn up."
It’s why the conversation and building up is important so you already have some type of friendship as I feel that reduces the risk, personally I couldn’t meet with that. |
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"Happy to meet inexperienced people, but they come with the increased risk of disappearing and being too scared to actually turn up.
It’s why the conversation and building up is important so you already have some type of friendship as I feel that reduces the risk, personally I couldn’t meet with that. "
Well you'd be surprised how little that has mattered in the past. Loads of chat then POOF! Gone when you suggest a day. |
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"Do you find a lack of experience/confidence a issue when chatting with potential meets ? Asking for a friend obviously "
No. It's about being on the same wavelength. We totally understand everybody has to start somewhere. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"So glad I put this thread on, I do feel more at ease knowing it’s not much of issue and I will find a nice couple, my confidence and nerves will soon pass it’s just because it’s a new situation for me, however I’m hoping I have the opportunity to build a connection and friendship with whoever I meet first so I’ll already be feeling comfortable with them. "
We all have nerves that are normal when meeting anyone for the first time OP. Connection for us is at the top of our list when chatting with people and that would hopefully lead to a social. Friendship with people has developed in this lifestyle with couples and singles. We have had a great journey so far.   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So glad I put this thread on, I do feel more at ease knowing it’s not much of issue and I will find a nice couple, my confidence and nerves will soon pass it’s just because it’s a new situation for me, however I’m hoping I have the opportunity to build a connection and friendship with whoever I meet first so I’ll already be feeling comfortable with them.
We all have nerves that are normal when meeting anyone for the first time OP. Connection for us is at the top of our list when chatting with people and that would hopefully lead to a social. Friendship with people has developed in this lifestyle with couples and singles. We have had a great journey so far. "
I hope in the future I’m writing something similar |
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