Just wondered if anyone had any advice.
I've always been open with my fwb and she's always been curious. She always said she loved the idea but lacked the confidence. She has been talking about it more recently and wants to see if it's for her. I've suggested going to a club, just socially or getting to know one couple socially and possibly move on to same room fun.
I'd be interested to hear any advice or experiences on introducing partners/fab to swinging |
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"Just wondered if anyone had any advice.
I've always been open with my fwb and she's always been curious. She always said she loved the idea but lacked the confidence. She has been talking about it more recently and wants to see if it's for her. I've suggested going to a club, just socially or getting to know one couple socially and possibly move on to same room fun.
I'd be interested to hear any advice or experiences on introducing partners/fab to swinging "
A few months before lockdown I met a girl. She’s totally vanilla. I told her from the start that I’m a swinger. She found it difficult to comprehend and asked me to refrain from swinging whilst she tried to understand.
I told her all about the clubs, and what to expect, etc but I did it all at her pace. I only spoke about it when she brought it up. Eventually, after a few months, she asked could she visit a club with me.
She wouldn’t play with anyone, and asked me not to. I told her she’s 100% in control. What she says/does is totally down to her. I think that eases her a little bit.
That night she ended up in the voyeurs room with me and admitted she was turned on even more knowing people where watching.
We ended up going to a few events together but she kept it exclusive. Always went at her pace and her rules.
Hope this helps. |
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What exactly about it does she find intriguing? threesome, 2 guys, moresomes etc... In the past ive found that introducing more vanilla partners to this world has come easier when i have made suggestions of specific scenarios and seeing how she responds to that. Does she want to have drinks with you and another guy, and then you just watch her go down on him? Make suggestions and see how she responds |
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Watching porn together and talking about it helps and helped me and my partners in the past..
Also, before smartphones and apps..,
Going on chatlines together and sex clubs and cinemas was great |
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"Just wondered if anyone had any advice.
I've always been open with my fwb and she's always been curious. She always said she loved the idea but lacked the confidence. She has been talking about it more recently and wants to see if it's for her. I've suggested going to a club, just socially or getting to know one couple socially and possibly move on to same room fun.
I'd be interested to hear any advice or experiences on introducing partners/fab to swinging
A few months before lockdown I met a girl. She’s totally vanilla. I told her from the start that I’m a swinger. She found it difficult to comprehend and asked me to refrain from swinging whilst she tried to understand.
I told her all about the clubs, and what to expect, etc but I did it all at her pace. I only spoke about it when she brought it up. Eventually, after a few months, she asked could she visit a club with me.
She wouldn’t play with anyone, and asked me not to. I told her she’s 100% in control. What she says/does is totally down to her. I think that eases her a little bit.
That night she ended up in the voyeurs room with me and admitted she was turned on even more knowing people where watching.
We ended up going to a few events together but she kept it exclusive. Always went at her pace and her rules.
Hope this helps. "
It does thanks, as it's exactly the approach I suggested when she asked to dip her toes |
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"Just wondered if anyone had any advice.
I've always been open with my fwb and she's always been curious. She always said she loved the idea but lacked the confidence. She has been talking about it more recently and wants to see if it's for her. I've suggested going to a club, just socially or getting to know one couple socially and possibly move on to same room fun.
I'd be interested to hear any advice or experiences on introducing partners/fab to swinging
A few months before lockdown I met a girl. She’s totally vanilla. I told her from the start that I’m a swinger. She found it difficult to comprehend and asked me to refrain from swinging whilst she tried to understand.
I told her all about the clubs, and what to expect, etc but I did it all at her pace. I only spoke about it when she brought it up. Eventually, after a few months, she asked could she visit a club with me.
She wouldn’t play with anyone, and asked me not to. I told her she’s 100% in control. What she says/does is totally down to her. I think that eases her a little bit.
That night she ended up in the voyeurs room with me and admitted she was turned on even more knowing people where watching.
We ended up going to a few events together but she kept it exclusive. Always went at her pace and her rules.
Hope this helps.
It does thanks, as it's exactly the approach I suggested when she asked to dip her toes"
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