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"We won't meet Bi men..."

By *bat OP Man over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I just read a M/F couple's comment that they would never meet Bi men.

I completely accept that each person has total control over what they will and will not do, but I was wondering why their mindset would be that they feel this way?

Is it that they think Bi men are less clean/healthy?

Or do they think bi men will suddenly pounce on their man as they loose all self control?

Or do they fear they can catch "the gey"

Or is there some rational reason that I'm missing?

Again, I do understand that each person must make their own choices, but I'm keen to try and understand people's views here.

Ta, Gbat (Bi male)

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm sure this has been asked and answered before

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By *moretwoCouple over a year ago

Feltham

Would be a multitude of different reasons for different people.

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan over a year ago

buckinghamshire

I would like to think that it is for the most part, just a personal comfort level preference. I would personally feel weird partaking with a bi inclined chap.

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By *bat OP Man over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

" I would personally feel weird partaking with a bi inclined chap. "

Thanks for taking the time to answer. But are you happy to explain why you'd feel weird?

Genuine question. Ta.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

We won't meet bi women because on the occasions we have they have been aggressive towards me (f) and think that I am only saying I'm straight. We do know that not all bi women are like this.

We have met bi men though and had no such issues.

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By *bat OP Man over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"We won't meet bi women because on the occasions we have they have been aggressive towards me (f) "

Sorry to hear that....

"We have met bi men though and had no such issues. "

Glad to hear that!!!

Thanks, Gbat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why pick it apart ?? they dont want to meet bi guys its a simple as that ... but what i will say is they most certainly will meet bi guys or already have due to the amount of guys who lie so they can have it all...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It really doesn't matter.

In short, sexual thrills are predominantly in the mind.

If it does it for you (or them), it does it, if not, it doesn't.

We all have choices to make, day in, day out.

Their choice isn't harming anyone.

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By *bat OP Man over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"why pick it apart ?? "

Because I'm a naturally curious person and I'm keen to understand other people's viewpoint, even when I think it quite different to mine.

"they dont want to meet bi guys its a simple as that .."

I understand that entirely, and actually it acts as a bit of a filter for me. I imagine I wouldn't gel with them too well.

Ta.

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By *oliday slutCouple over a year ago

tenerife

"It really doesn't matter..........[ ...]

Their choice isn't harming anyone.

Of course! It's the forum though, so I thought I'd chat about it.

Ta, Gbat"
we would never meet a bi man ..its just a preference..no different than a gay man not wanting to meet a woman ..get over it move on

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

Or do they think bi men will suddenly pounce on their man as they loose all self control?

This has happened on a number of occasions so we do now avoid as it stops play immediately.

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By *bat OP Man over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Or do they think bi men will suddenly pounce on their man as they loose all self control?

This has happened on a number of occasions so we do now avoid as it stops play immediately. "

That would be a reason!!!!

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By *bat OP Man over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"we would never meet a bi man ..its just a preference.."

Of course that's your choice. I'm trying to understand WHY it's your choice.

"no different than a gay man not wanting to meet a woman "

Completely different to that. Gay men don't want sex with females. The female bit of your couple does like men.

"get over it move on"

I don't need to get over it, I was never "on it" I'm just curious.

Thanks for answering though.

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

I would imagine it’s a combination of the higher prevalence of certain STD’s amongst men who participate in anal sex with other men and potentially the guy feeling uncomfortable in the scenario.

It may not be that he thinks he’s going to be touched without consent, just that it’s a turn off for them.

Mrs Twinkle

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By *lansmanMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"I would imagine it’s a combination of the higher prevalence of certain STD’s amongst men who participate in anal sex with other men and potentially the guy feeling uncomfortable in the scenario.

It may not be that he thinks he’s going to be touched without consent, just that it’s a turn off for them.

Mrs Twinkle "

Bi men are at slightly higher risk than none swinging straight guys, but exactly the same risk as straight swingers , according to figures i read some time back .

The real joke is the number of " straight" bi guys that are on the site ...

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

"I would imagine it’s a combination of the higher prevalence of certain STD’s amongst men who participate in anal sex with other men and potentially the guy feeling uncomfortable in the scenario.

It may not be that he thinks he’s going to be touched without consent, just that it’s a turn off for them.

Mrs Twinkle

Bi men are at slightly higher risk than none swinging straight guys, but exactly the same risk as straight swingers , according to figures i read some time back .

The real joke is the number of " straight" bi guys that are on the site ..."

I’ve never seen any credible sources quoting the statistics compared to a straight male who participates in swinging so I couldn’t comment on that.

I’m not saying I agree with it, just speculating on various reasons I’ve seen discussed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing to do with risk.

We met a single fem once with her FB. He said he was straight until in the bedroom he pestered me non stop to suck my cock. Such a turn off.

Finished off by shoving his cock up Mrs Sexploit's arse uninvited.

Mr. Not all bi men are the same....

Our choice...

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"It really doesn't matter..........[ ...]

Their choice isn't harming anyone.

Of course! It's the forum though, so I thought I'd chat about it.

Ta, Gbat"

Yes, I never understand that sort of response. We're here to discuss stuff, it's not meant to "matter"

BTW. The answer is usually homophobia, but I'm sure we both knew that already.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Or do they think bi men will suddenly pounce on their man as they loose all self control?

This has happened on a number of occasions so we do now avoid as it stops play immediately. "

I'd be inclined to suggest this isn't because you met bi guys, but you met morons. There's an overlap, but there's no replacement for actually judging someone's character before fucking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"why pick it apart ?? they dont want to meet bi guys its a simple as that ... but what i will say is they most certainly will meet bi guys or already have due to the amount of guys who lie so they can have it all..."

I know, its so annoying. They could at least leave a little for the rest of us....

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By *ots of fun 123Woman over a year ago

Leicester

Op, I was going to reply and explain our reasons, but your passive/aggressive response to other posts suggests that you don't really want to understand the reasons, but to change peoples minds.

This post sums it all up.

"It really doesn't matter.

In short, sexual thrills are predominantly in the mind.

If it does it for you (or them), it does it, if not, it doesn't.

We all have choices to make, day in, day out.

Their choice isn't harming anyone."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It really doesn't matter..........[ ...]

Their choice isn't harming anyone.

Of course! It's the forum though, so I thought I'd chat about it.

Ta, Gbat

Yes, I never understand that sort of response. We're here to discuss stuff, it's not meant to "matter"

BTW. The answer is usually homophobia, but I'm sure we both knew that already. "

Yup, and I expressed an opinion via the forum, so adding to the discussion.

Where's the shrug emoji?

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

The idea that Bi men are more likely to have certain STIs is not correct. A guy who is a swinger has the same likelihood as a Bi guy..

I think it's because bi/gay guys can't give blood etc, TOTAL double standards seeing as Bi women who have anal sex can.

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By *ornyhappyCouple over a year ago

perth

Ultimately OP, it's just their choice, they will likely all have their own individual reasons, and they don't have to explain or justify those reasons to anyone.

I'd say rather than wasting your energy trying to understand why some people don't want to meet you, instead focus your efforts on finding the ones who do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself. "

No such thing as "simply a preference".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

No such thing as "simply a preference". "

That’s your opinion.

I tend to disagree.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"Ultimately OP, it's just their choice, they will likely all have their own individual reasons, and they don't have to explain or justify those reasons to anyone.

I'd say rather than wasting your energy trying to understand why some people don't want to meet you, instead focus your efforts on finding the ones who do.

If you don't think he should waste his time, why are you wasting you time being the nth person to say so in this thread?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

No such thing as "simply a preference".

That’s your opinion.

I tend to disagree. "

Thing is, you're objectively wrong though. Preference is always born out of some input or something, subconscious or otherwise, everything has reasons in some form.

Funny how so many people are happy to discuss preferences for biscuits, cars, tc shows, clothes... But as soon as they become possibly controversial there's suddenly no reason at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

No such thing as "simply a preference".

That’s your opinion.

I tend to disagree.

Thing is, you're objectively wrong though. Preference is always born out of some input or something, subconscious or otherwise, everything has reasons in some form.

Funny how so many people are happy to discuss preferences for biscuits, cars, tc shows, clothes... But as soon as they become possibly controversial there's suddenly no reason at all. "

An opinion isn’t wrong.

I have a preference for tall men, men older than me, men with dark hair. I can’t explain away any of them because there isn’t actually a valid reason, it’s just what I like so that is “simply a preference”.

I’m sure some people use that line as an excuse, in order to not offend some on here, and I’m sure some use it honestly.

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By *ustCantGetEnough1000Man over a year ago

stevenage

Well said

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

No such thing as "simply a preference".

That’s your opinion.

I tend to disagree.

Thing is, you're objectively wrong though. Preference is always born out of some input or something, subconscious or otherwise, everything has reasons in some form.

Funny how so many people are happy to discuss preferences for biscuits, cars, tc shows, clothes... But as soon as they become possibly controversial there's suddenly no reason at all.

An opinion isn’t wrong.

I’m sure some people use that line as an excuse, in order to not offend some on here, and I’m sure some use it honestly. "

Plenty of opinions can be extremely wrong. It's people's opinion that the earth is flat and vaccines cause autism.

You said yourself "valid reason". They don't have to be "valid", whatever that means. They don't have to be definable, but there are still always reasons.

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By *ustCantGetEnough1000Man over a year ago

stevenage

Preach

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By *ustCantGetEnough1000Man over a year ago

stevenage

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

To be a preference for tall, dark, older mean screams of valid reasons. To feel protected, to feel dominated... All sorts. They might not be correct, but especially based in the societal norms you've grown up with, your preference is extremely reasonable and understandable. Because of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

No such thing as "simply a preference".

That’s your opinion.

I tend to disagree.

Thing is, you're objectively wrong though. Preference is always born out of some input or something, subconscious or otherwise, everything has reasons in some form.

Funny how so many people are happy to discuss preferences for biscuits, cars, tc shows, clothes... But as soon as they become possibly controversial there's suddenly no reason at all.

An opinion isn’t wrong.

I’m sure some people use that line as an excuse, in order to not offend some on here, and I’m sure some use it honestly.

Plenty of opinions can be extremely wrong. It's people's opinion that the earth is flat and vaccines cause autism.

You said yourself "valid reason". They don't have to be "valid", whatever that means. They don't have to be definable, but there are still always reasons. "

I don’t believe there is always a reason. As I said, I like men with dark hair, I couldn’t give you a reason because I don’t have one, I simply prefer it over light hair. Hence “simply a preference”.

This sort of topic always seems to cause an issue and I’m not sure why. Is having no interest in bi men that different from say an age filter or dress size?

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By *ornyhappyCouple over a year ago

perth

"Ultimately OP, it's just their choice, they will likely all have their own individual reasons, and they don't have to explain or justify those reasons to anyone.

I'd say rather than wasting your energy trying to understand why some people don't want to meet you, instead focus your efforts on finding the ones who do.

If you don't think he should waste his time, why are you wasting you time being the nth person to say so in this thread? "

I'm not wasting my time, I'm joining in with the discussion & offering my point of view on the subject.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be a preference for tall, dark, older mean screams of valid reasons. To feel protected, to feel dominated... All sorts. They might not be correct, but especially based in the societal norms you've grown up with, your preference is extremely reasonable and understandable. Because of reasons. "

Your assumption is wrong as I have no desire to feel “protected”. As I said, it’s a preference which doesn’t mean I exclusively seek older men (I don’t).

How about preferring a “dad bod” to say an overly athletic body? Or having a preference for green eyes? Or finding more white men attractive than black men even though I’m a black woman? I’m all ears...

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By *ucktopMan over a year ago

London/abroad

Not everyone can explain their preferences and that’s fine and understandable.

But that’s different from telling people to ‘move on’ and making blanket statements that it’s not worth discussing preferences.

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

I’m not sure why it could be considered homophobic to say “I don’t want to have sex with this person(s!)”. As long as that preference is expressed in a polite and non offensive manor then I fail to see why there is an issue?

Would you consider couples who don’t want to meet other couples with a bisexual female equally homophobic?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It could be anything. Simply a preference or any of the other things you’ve mentioned.

They’re exercising their right to choice.

I am only interested in straight men myself.

No such thing as "simply a preference".

That’s your opinion.

I tend to disagree.

Thing is, you're objectively wrong though. Preference is always born out of some input or something, subconscious or otherwise, everything has reasons in some form.

Funny how so many people are happy to discuss preferences for biscuits, cars, tc shows, clothes... But as soon as they become possibly controversial there's suddenly no reason at all.

An opinion isn’t wrong.

I’m sure some people use that line as an excuse, in order to not offend some on here, and I’m sure some use it honestly.

Plenty of opinions can be extremely wrong. It's people's opinion that the earth is flat and vaccines cause autism.

You said yourself "valid reason". They don't have to be "valid", whatever that means. They don't have to be definable, but there are still always reasons. "

I can't explain to anyone, even myself, why I find somethings sexually attractive and somethings a turn off. Like why do some people find guys with blonde hair more sexually attractive than guys with brunette hair? I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Your assumption is wrong as I have no desire to feel “protected”. As I said, it’s a preference which doesn’t mean I exclusively seek older men (I don’t).

I didnt assume anything, I just the most obvious potential reasons out of the air.

You really seem to be fighting acknowledging what you're proving yourself... There are reasons. They can be almost anything, but they always exist, and are (imho) fun and interesting to explore.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"I can't explain to anyone, even myself, why I find somethings sexually attractive and somethings a turn off. Like why do some people find guys with blonde hair more sexually attractive than guys with brunette hair? I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own? "

It doesn't have to be explained at all. I never said that for a second. Just acknowledge there is stuff that got those feelings there. Even if you were born feeling that way in your DNA, that's a reason.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"Not everyone can explain their preferences and that’s fine and understandable.

But that’s different from telling people to ‘move on’ and making blanket statements that it’s not worth discussing preferences. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So it's ok for there to be no reason?

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By *ucktopMan over a year ago

London/abroad

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own? "

Fair enough but that’s not the sort of question that originated the thread. It wasn’t about sexual attraction to one physical trait or another. It was about not wanting to meet bi men, which could be for many different sorts of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

But what if they find bisexual sex sexually unattractive?

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

So the fact it’s in your DNA, would be the reason people have no specific reason or explanation for the feelings or specific attractions...

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

But what if they find bisexual sex sexually unattractive? "

It’s a very valid point. There’s been a lot of presumption that it’s the male half of the couple leading the decision.

It could be that gay sex between 2 men is not a turn on to the woman and therefore doesn’t feel that connection with the guy that is necessary to proceed with the meet

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

But what if they find bisexual sex sexually unattractive? "

Then that's obviously the start of an interesting exploration. These statements are just not self evident, right?

Like... Why does it matter if you find it sexually unattractive or not if your experience with that person has nothing to do with it in any way?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

It could be that gay sex between 2 men is not a turn on to the woman and therefore doesn’t feel that connection with the guy that is necessary to proceed with the meet "

Dude, you seem to be missing the point at every single turn possible.

What if you don't find accountancy to be a turn on? Should you therefore rule out accountants? A man *not* doing financial mathematics in my bed could be seen to be pretty equivalent to a man *not* having gay sex with me. Is that a good comparison? If not, why not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your assumption is wrong as I have no desire to feel “protected”. As I said, it’s a preference which doesn’t mean I exclusively seek older men (I don’t).

I didnt assume anything, I just the most obvious potential reasons out of the air.

You really seem to be fighting acknowledging what you're proving yourself... There are reasons. They can be almost anything, but they always exist, and are (imho) fun and interesting to explore. "

I’m not fighting anything, you seem to be making a lot of assumptions.

I don’t agree everyone has reasons, I don’t for many things and I doubt I’m the only one.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"It doesn't have to be explained at all. I never said that for a second. Just acknowledge there is stuff that got those feelings there. Even if you were born feeling that way in your DNA, that's a reason.

So it's ok for there to be no reason? "

Where did I say there was no reason??

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By *ucktopMan over a year ago

London/abroad

" But what if they find bisexual sex sexually unattractive? "

Strange wording but yeah perhaps the bloke doesn’t want to feel sexual tension with the other man which is obviously fine - but even just articulating it that way goes one step further than the original statement, or the way you phrased it. It would be one possible answer to the question.

Or maybe they’ve had bad experiences with bisexual , or something else still. You don’t know, I don’t know, that’s the point of the question.

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

But what if they find bisexual sex sexually unattractive?

Then that's obviously the start of an interesting exploration. These statements are just not self evident, right?

Like... Why does it matter if you find it sexually unattractive or not if your experience with that person has nothing to do with it in any way? "

Why would it not matter?

The intricacies of attraction are complex and even when someone might tick all the boxes on paper so to speak it can often be the case the necessary spark just isn’t there. As I’m sure you know, most women even more than men, need to be mentally stimulated not just physically stimulated.

Particularly when in the lifestyle single guys are 2 penny, I can see why it would be an easy way to filter out the potential “applicants”!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

Exactly for many different sorts of reasons, or no reason at all.

The OP really needs to ask those who have this on their profile as he won’t get *one* answer here.

I don’t meet bi men because I am not turned on by the idea of two men being sexual together whether that be in-front of me or not. Some may not meet them because of risk etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I've never understood why sexual attraction has to explained, especially as I've never met anyone that is able to explain their own?

But what if they find bisexual sex sexually unattractive?

Then that's obviously the start of an interesting exploration. These statements are just not self evident, right?

Like... Why does it matter if you find it sexually unattractive or not if your experience with that person has nothing to do with it in any way? "

But surely isn't that why people have preferences and should be able to say them on their profile? Isn't it a better idea to get it out there so to saving time messaging?

Sexual preferences/attractions are very real ... I really wouldn't want sex with anyone that I wasn't sexually attracted to and do actually have one thing definitely that is a no attraction for me ...

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

It could be that gay sex between 2 men is not a turn on to the woman and therefore doesn’t feel that connection with the guy that is necessary to proceed with the meet

Dude, you seem to be missing the point at every single turn possible.

First off, I’m not a dude.

Secondly - why are you only quoting part of my comment?

And finally, I’m not missing the point in the slightest. Your reply is arrogant and dismissive and shows you have no interest in engaging with anyone else’s opinion that doesn’t match up with your own.

And quite frankly yes, if someone doesn’t want to have sex with accountants I wouldn’t have an issue with a person having that sexual preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It could be as simple as personal choice xx the same as saying no thin or large people xx or no black or white people xx beards or no beards xx people dont have to be specific xx its their choice xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The forums are a funny place.......

Whenever the questions of why someone doesn’t like something or won’t meet someone...

The answer is always “ PERSONAL CHOICE “

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

Because a don’t want the willy to smell off poo...

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

It could be that gay sex between 2 men is not a turn on to the woman and therefore doesn’t feel that connection with the guy that is necessary to proceed with the meet

Dude, you seem to be missing the point at every single turn possible.

First off, I’m not a dude.

Secondly - why are you only quoting part of my comment?

And quite frankly yes, if someone doesn’t want to have sex with accountants I wouldn’t have an issue with a person having that sexual preference. "

Everyone is a dude to me. Only quoting part to keep it short. Don't think I missed anything.

Maybe I'm missing something, but to me it's a simple, and simply bizarre, situation of people thinking that *anything* can *ever* be the way it is without a reason. Maybe you can give an example of something in a different subject that has no reason for being what it is...?

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

It could be that gay sex between 2 men is not a turn on to the woman and therefore doesn’t feel that connection with the guy that is necessary to proceed with the meet

Dude, you seem to be missing the point at every single turn possible.

First off, I’m not a dude.

Secondly - why are you only quoting part of my comment?

And quite frankly yes, if someone doesn’t want to have sex with accountants I wouldn’t have an issue with a person having that sexual preference.

Everyone is a dude to me. Only quoting part to keep it short. Don't think I missed anything.

Why are gay men only attracted to men? Why are lesbians only attracted to women?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The forums are a funny place.......

Whenever the questions of why someone doesn’t like something or won’t meet someone...

The answer is always “ PERSONAL CHOICE “

What should the answer be?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Why are gay men only attracted to men? Why are lesbians only attracted to women?"

Erm... You do know there are thousands of books exploring these subjects in obscene, nerdy detail?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The forums are a funny place.......

Whenever the questions of why someone doesn’t like something or won’t meet someone...

The answer is always “ PERSONAL CHOICE “

What should the answer be?"

I wouldn’t have a clue..... if someone doesn’t like black men... I pass them by and try to find someone that does like black men....

I’m here for sex , not to psychoanalyze people....

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By *atty CoramWoman over a year ago

Wimbledon

Does an explanation make a preference more valid?

To whom do we owe this explanation to and why do people feel entitled to one?

I would feel the same way about biscuits to be honest: I hate oreos - I don't feel like I need to explain why - I just hate them.

That's the way the cookie crumbles. For me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why discussing the choices and views of other people on the forum is a bad idea

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

Why are gay men only attracted to men? Why are lesbians only attracted to women?

Erm... You do know there are thousands of books exploring these subjects in obscene, nerdy detail?"

Are you trying to suggest sexuality is a choice that people are in control of?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

Why are gay men only attracted to men? Why are lesbians only attracted to women?

Erm... You do know there are thousands of books exploring these subjects in obscene, nerdy detail?

Are you trying to suggest sexuality is a choice that people are in control of?"

Wow, you're just being a straight up troll now. Peace out etc.

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By *winkleFairyCouple over a year ago

Why are gay men only attracted to men? Why are lesbians only attracted to women?

Erm... You do know there are thousands of books exploring these subjects in obscene, nerdy detail?

Are you trying to suggest sexuality is a choice that people are in control of?

Wow, you're just being a straight up troll now. Peace out etc. "

Ah the very definition of gas lighting... I’m definitely not the one being a troll.

My point being there is no specific reason why same sex attraction occurs.

If you hadn’t chosen to cut out the rest of our conversation it would be clear my response was in reply to you asking for examples of other behaviours to which there are no reason.

I don’t subscribe to the opinions in books as they are heavily biased towards the opinions of a single person, the author.

The large scale study published in 2019 in Science concluded there is no defined reason for sexual attraction, specifically same sex attraction, and that many genes appear to overlap and interact with sociocultural influences.

You asked for a behaviour for which there is no clear defined reason. I gave you an example.

I won’t be replying further as this isn’t a discussion anymore